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miscarriage advice
Added: 951 days ago.
Added by: tEENMOMMY2b
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


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BrookeAmber - 950 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Everything happens for a reason-- just keep your head up and be happy that you still have your family and loved ones to help you get through this. You may have been ready to be a mommy, but the baby wasn't ready to be a baby. So keep smiling and your time will come when the time is right :-)

jastinel - 951 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hi, i am so sorry for your loss,i know what it feels like to loose a baby becaue i lost 3, 2 of them were due to the fact i was pregnant in my tubes and had my tube removed in 2008, my 3rd loss of was this jan 09 when i miscarriaged at home,i saw the baby at 7 weeks with a heartbeat and right before my 10week checkup i lost it,i know its painful,heartbreaking to you and your family,but you must try and stay strong,there was a reason why the baby could not survive,believe its not your fault or anything your did,it was just gods way of saying its not time for you to have one now,maybe its because you are still in school and know how hard it would so he has plans for you to have one later,i know that is not what you waned to hear but that is how it worked for me ,i am pregnant right now since the m/c in jan i am about 6 weeks,if you would like to talk more on this i would love to help you get throught it,let me know hang in there

3flowers - 951 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I've been there, I've had 4 miscarriages and one I didn't know I lost until my 14 week ultrasound. Same as you they said the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. I KNOW how hard this is, however you need to understand this is not your fault! It is plain BAD luck. I also know that people telling you it's not your fault is not going to make you feel better. It never worked for me. Nothing did. You just have to have a good cry, grieve, and make peace with it. You are going to get through this I promise. You may not believe me now but it will get better. Good Luck

SazaUK - 951 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with Alhogner and RainbowRach. It is not your fault you have to take it easy on yourself. Take time to heal. My sister has gone through 3 miscarriages and is now 12 weeks pregnant on her fourth pregnancy and so far everything is ok, she is 17 now. When you and your family have healed you will some day have a healthy baby.

RainbowRach - 951 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am so sorry for your loss. I know how much it hurts, I have lost three babies. All I can say it take it easy on yourself, allow yourself to grieve because its not just your baby you have lost, its your future together you have to let go of. Its sounds like a cliche but time is really a healer. Take it easy on yourself, there is no right or wrong way to deal with this. Rach x

Alhogner777 - 951 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It always hurts even when you don't expect it. I was married at 16, and pregnant at 17. I wondered if I was ready to be a mom, I was married but I wanted to go to college and I had plans for my future. I was about 13-14 weeks when I started bleeding. My baby stopped developing at about 7 weeks. It was hardest for me that I had to have a D&C bc the MC never happened. My mother went w/ me for the D&C (not my husband & he never acted like it even bothered him in the slightest). I never saw him cry or even look sad. I did talk to him years later and he expressed some emotions about it. At that time though, I felt like the only ones there for me were my mom and my cat. I ended up blaming myself because I did question whether I was ready or not. It is good to have people around who will support you no matter what and just try your best to ignore those who don't. People told me that I was too young and that was Gods way of letting me know I was not ready. To hell with that! I love God and have always been a believer. If I have doubt that's one thing, but nobody was going to tell me I wasn't ready to be a mom. From my understanding, a MC usually happens because there is something wrong w/ the baby. Even in this pregnancy when I thought I may be MC again the Dr.'s told me that it is God's way of weeding out abnormalities. It's not because you weren't ready and not because you did anything wrong. So, just try not to blame your self for it. You may be young but you can try again. It may not be something you want to do right away. After my loss all I could think about was having another baby. They told me to wait and I did (not near as long as they said). Just a couple months later I was pregnant again. I did end up putting college off for a couple years but I eventually went. I now have a 13 year old daughter. It's been 14 years since that happened and I still think about that baby. I wonder if it would have been a boy or a girl and every once in a while I even shed a tear. Time will help to heal the pain but the baby will be in your heart forever.