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trying agen?
Added: 949 days ago.
Added by: tEENMOMMY2b
Section: General.
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As youu kno I miscarriaged and had a d&c just 2get evrything out..well since I`m just 15 I was wondering if you guys think I shud try agen? I wudn try right away prolly after my soccer season was over or after my track season.. Ill b 16 by then andd I kno I wud b a great mom.. I was so excited And I feel so empty and incomplete.. I don`t want a baby just 2keep me and my bf 2gethrr.. Or for it 2help me get over this loss.. Once I found out I was pregnant I was so happy.. I had love for my baby alredy More love then I ever thot possible I want to feel that love agen and I want 2have a family with my bf We were both so redy reading books and trying 2learn as much as we can.. So my question is do you think I shud try agen after my soccer season.. It will b over in about April of next year.. I kno I`m young but this is something I truelly want.. Cuz I alredy kno how it felt And it was the best feeling in the world to kno I was going 2b a mom.

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♥ ħhlЄy ▫ ßєär ®♥ - 945 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Sorry hun but your should grow up an get an education (and a drivers license at that) before you procreate. A child is a big responsibility and it's not a game. Get yourself on some birth control please.

EmmaReed84 - 945 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am so sorry for you loss. I can understand WHY you would want to think about having another baby next year, but honestly loving a baby, feeling complete and wonderful as mother nature intended is the easy part. Trust me please. I was 21 when I fell pregnant me and DH had only been together 6 months it was such hard going. Sleeples nights, not really knowing what to do (even though I had all the books) we came very close to breaking up. If you really want a family and want to do you best by your family which I am sure you do as you sounds really lovely, I would suggest you get yourself through school, get a good job, in a few years move in with your boyfriend and see how you get on living together, get some money saved up and THEN try for baby you will have more stability to cope with a child. Please wait until you are truely ready, not just emotionally. When the time is right you will make a fantastic mother. I wish you all the luck in the world with whatever you decide

M2G - 948 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Being a mom isn't easy - at all. Loving a child and caring for it are two different things. My feelings are that you will probably be an excellent mom whether you are a mom now or in 5 yrs down the road. I would take care of yourself right now, focus on your sports and down the road when the timing is right TTC again. But right now I think your body and your mind need some time to heal.

mother649808 - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think that you are making the right choice by giving yourself some time before actually trying again. Who knows maybe by then you will change your mind. Until you are absolutely sure that you are ready for a baby make sure that you are using some type of birth control. Maybe for now you could take on some babysitting jobs or spend a lot of time with a friend or relative that has a child so that you can see first hand that its not as easy as it looks. I had my first child at 20 and he was planned. Although I love him with all my heart I do wish I would have waited. By 24 I was a divorced mother of 2 and let me tell you, that is hard. No child deserves that although it happens way to much in this world. You never know what may happen between you and your current bf. Raising a child is hard work. You will be giving up your ENTIRE life to raise this child! I wish every month that I could just go grocery shopping alone just to get some piece and quiet! And by no means am I trying to down grade you or be rude but by the spelling of your post it shows that you still have a long way to go before you can teach a child. Please take the time to be hands on with a baby for a long period of time (maybe when they are teething and crying nonstop) and see if this is really what you want to do. Like another mom has said you are already a mother and there's no doubt that you will love your next child just as much but please enjoy your childhood while you can!

jessberr31 - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I say no also. And heres why..... Enjoy being young. You have plenty of time to have a baby, why the rush? I was one of the only one of my close friends to not be a teen mom. I had my first at 23, which is still young, but at least I got to be free during my teen years and do what I wanted without having to be responsible for anyone but me. Have fun, gain more experience, and enjoy being a teenager. And I know how hard it is to have a m/c, I've had two, and you just need a little time to grieve and heal. Although you will think about your baby almost everyday for the rest of your life, the feelings you are having now cannot be cured by another baby. You will still have had a loss and nothing can replace that one. I know it seems like a good solution, but truthfully, its not as easy as you think. I know you want so bad to feel that love you felt for your baby again, and you will one day, it'll be something to look forward to! Get things in order first, save up some money, all the stuff it takes to be comfortable when the time is right. It sucks to live paycheck to paycheck for a young family. I hope you wait a few years and build a strong foundation to build a family on. If you do decide to go ahead and ttc again I wish you all the happiness! Good luck sweetie!

~Always and Forever~ - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am sorry for your loss. I have never had a miscarriage before but I say if you think your ready then go for it. It is your life.

3x-a-mama - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think if you want to ttc another you should do it asap since its easier to concieve right after a birth or mc when your body tries to replace the pregnancy.

mama2be12.31.09 - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hi i just changed my name on my profile but i was newyearsbb in case u need someone to talk to

newyearsbb - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i havent read what anyone else put but just to tell u im 24 and had an unplanned pregnancy and lost it and was devastated to the point of depression was on prozac and wanted my baby back so bad well 4 months later i got pregnant and its really weird how the tables have turned i never thought id feel this way but now i do not feel ready for a baby and have so much sadness about silly things i will miss out on as selfish as it is. and im 24 and have gotten to travel do and see a lot more than when i was 15, so what id say is go to therapy you can even go to group grief counseling for free at a hospice which helps a lot to get it out to people who understand and they explain the new want for a baby is trying to replace that first baby even if it was planned(abortion, which i know urs wasnt) but give yourself body and mind a year to heal from that first baby then reconsider , but id also suggest waiting about 7-8 months before grad so u at least get that. and im sure whenever you decide you will be a great mom, you seen to have a good head on your shoulders, best of luck, and if you need someone to talk to about the loss let me know, take care and enjoy soccer and the small things in life while you still can hun

jastinel - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hi, first of all i am sorry for your loss and know how hard it is loose a baby.i know everyone says no grow up first,my answer is many,first of all it is really up to you and your boyfriend how you feel about trying agian,it takes alot to be a teen mom.to go to school ,try to be a teen and take care of your child at the sametime,think about it first,also becasue you are so young did you get any advise from your parents and your boyfriends parents on how they feel about it because ultimitly your parents would most likely be taking care of them while you are in school unless the school allows you to take your baby with you ,or if your boyfriend is no longer in school,but then he needs to work to support you and baby,you see there are alot of ways you can choose but its really up to you ,i really hope you make the right choice here good luck if you need to talk i am here

megandgrace - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) no, grow up first!

juels101 - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would have to say no. I'm sure it must be agonizing to go through the loss of a misscarriage, but you have to think of another baby first. You should wait until you're done school and have a full time job, that way you can get a good parental leave. Pretty much every woman truly wants a baby, even from a young age, but it's not fair to the baby to try and bring it into the world when you arent ready. Make plans, certainly be excited about having one, one day but you are still a kid and need to finish maturing and growing up first. Finish your childhood, enjoy ever minute of it. Having a baby young is fine, but it's different than having a baby before your an adult. I had my first at 20, and that is younger than most people I know.

xolblondieox - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Absolutely not. You are feeling a loss right now and cannot mentally detach yet from what you once had - a pregnancy. You are 15 years old and there is no way that you should be intentionally trying to plan a family yet. It looks so fun and rewarding to have a baby, but babies require much more love then they are capable of returning. Finish high school...then finish college...then get a great job, house and car...then have a baby. Live your life dear! I'm not saying you have to wait until you're 30, but you need stability and resources to be a good mother and raise a child. All things happen for a reason. I really just don't think you're ready for this yet and you need to turn your attention someplace else. I really think that seeing a counselor to process through these feelings would be a great idea for you. They could help you see clearly and put things into perspective :o)

nikki80 - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i fell preg with my first when i was 16, having a baby when u r a baby urself is not as fun and easy as it looks. i had a really hard time ..... i had to grow up with my son and i missed out on so many teen things , im now nearly 30 and i love my kids but starting so young made me miss out on crucial parts of my childhood.... i wouldnt recommend trying again, enjoy being a kid because its over before u know it :)

luvbeingamom - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Personally i have to say no, you shouldn't try again for a LONG while. You are still in school and at best prob have a part time job. Though the idea of being a mom is wonderful, even pregnancy can be amazing. But that excitement and wonderfulness is often quickly overshadowed once the baby is born. Don't get me wrong i LOVE my children. i love being with them, but i am now a single mom of 2 young boys. I am financially stable with a very healthy salary, a nice home and i struggle every day. When i was your age, i wanted nothing more than to be a mom. I would dream of this, i would hope (secretly in my head) that i would get pregnant when i had sex all the way through my teens. Now looking back, thank God that never happened. I can't imagine the life that i would have had, can't imagine the life that child would have had. I had no money, i had no stability and i know now that i hadn't lived. I thought i had, but there was so much more out there to experience. Give yourself a chance to live and experience life. Have a baby when you are have graduated highschool, and have either gone or finished college and/or have a stable job, a home of your own and have lived. Babies are hard work. They demand a lot of attention, time, paitence. They are up all night, get sick, try your patience, you are alway exhuasted, you have little or no free time and it will put a LOT of stress on your relationship with your SO. I am sorry you had the loss of a child. No matter your age, that is a difficult and heart breaking experience. Even if you don't decide to not wait to get pregnant (ulitmately your choice), you should at least wait until your heart has healed from the loss of the miscarriage. Good Luck to you.

nutnut - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think you need to give yourself time to heal emotinally and physically, regardless of your age. In fact the doctor's do not suggest trying right away. You are obviously going through a difficult time right now, and you need to take care of yourself first before you even consider bringing a child into the world. This holds true for any woman going through a hard time. You have the rest of your life to be a mom. Things always happen for a reason, even if we dont understand what that reason is. You ever watch the tv series 16 and pregnant? if not i think its on mtv you should watch it. Without being overly judgemental, or preachy, you are so young, there is so much life for you to see and do. at the very least graduate highschool. dont you want your future children to be proud of you? dont you want to give them a better start than maybe you had? Im not saying wait forever, im just saying get yourself together, make sure you are emotionally stable enough, and physically able to get pregnant again. finish highschool at the very least. even though you lost the baby, you are still a mom,even death cannot break that connection.. soon enough you will be a mom again when the time is right.for now you just need to prepare yourself and get through this rough time. good luck in whatever you do.

krystiannoah - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Personally, i don't think you should, only because you're still in school.I wanted a baby really bad too, but i waited until i was out of school. I really think you should focus on whats important right now, so you can provide the best for your baby.But in the end, it's all up to you, and only you can decide.

SazaUK - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think that it is realy up to you and that only you can answer that question. I myself think that you perhaps shouldn't try again for a few years and concentrate on getting you life together so that you can support the baby properly. Good luck in whatever you decide.

kimmarie - 949 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) OH my gosh, no! Don't be in such a hurry to be an adult. You are still a child yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you. You should be concentrating on your education. I understand that you have a lot of love to give but maybe get a puppy or kitten. You should also consider speaking to young teen mothers and you will find that it is not as easy as it looks. It takes more than love to raise a child.