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Breastfeeding
Added: 242 days ago.
Added by: MrsHilde75
Section: General.
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OK, so I really hope I don`t offend anyone with this question, it is certainly not my intention! But here goes...While I have quite sometime to decide this, I am trying to decide if I should breastfeed or not. My dilema, I know it`s best for baby but the thought if it actually creeps me out. I just can`t imagine having a child (little as they will be) latched onto my breast. It just seems weird to me and I wish it didn`t. So many women say how beautiful and bonding it is. Why can`t I feel that way? Some say I`ll feel different once I give birth & baby is here. But even the thought of doing it makes me uncomfortable and creeped out. I don`t think it`s creepy of other`s to do it but for me, I just can`t see it. Has anyone else experienced these feelings & overcome them. God I hope it`s not just me!

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SoOn2bMoMmY09 - 241 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i thought i would feel wierd breastfeeeding but once i did it, it really wasnt wierd... the only reason i wanted to breastfeed is b/c its way better for the baby than formula, now i am currently nursing and pumping....consider pumping if you feel wierd, as a first time mom i feel its best for baby and free!!! good luck!!

wwatters18 - 241 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) nope, i couldn't wait to experience breastfeeding. unfortunately my daughter wouldn't nurse after 3 days and only wanted a bottle. i regret ever introducing a bottle to her. i exclusively pumped for 9 months, just got done actually. you could always pump if you really cant breastfeed but hopefully if you just try it once she is here you will love it!

chiquiz8 - 241 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No no of course is not just you, I am a mother of 4 beautiful children, who I breastfeed, yes all of them. Well I was in the same situation as you, even worst, I was not sure of how I was going to react once I had my first born. I was having mixed up feelings about being a mother, and the breastfeeding situation, I was unsure if I was going to be a loving mother and if i was actually going to love or have any feelings for my own baby. Once I saw my baby and was put on my arms felt immediately in love with this lil person, the breastfeeding came naturally as the baby started to look for it right away when they put him on my chest, it was the most wonderful experience ever and it is true is a special bond between baby and mother, truly amazing. Good luck, don't think about it now, it will all come naturally once you have your bundle of joy in your arms.......

chiquiz8 - 241 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No no of course is not just you, I am a mother of 4 beautiful children, who I breastfeed, yes all of them. Well I was in the same situation as you, even worst, I was not sure of how I was going to react once I had my first born. I was having mixed up feelings about being a mother, and the breastfeeding situation, I was unsure if I was going to be a loving mother and if i was actually going to love or have any feelings for my own baby. Once I saw my baby and was put on my arms felt immediately in love with this lil person, the breastfeeding came naturally as the baby started to look for it right away when they put him on my chest, it was the most wonderful experience ever and it is true is a special bond between baby and mother, truly amazing. Good luck, don't think about it now, it will all come naturally once you have your bundle of joy in your arms.......

mother649808 - 241 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I've had 4 babies. I breastfed my first for about 6 months and hated every part of it! My 2nd wouldn't latch on! So by the time I got pregnant with my twins I decided absolutely not going to BF! However, they came 9 weeks early and were very, very small and needed that from me! They were to small to actually go to breast so while they stayed in the NICU I pumped! I pumped at home and the hospital when I was there visiting. Pumping for some reason didn't seem to bother me as badly. I think that this is an idividual choice and you have to do what you are comfortable with. We all know breastmilk is best so maybe if by the time your LO is born u still aren't comfortable with actual BF, give pumping a try. Your doc can give you all the info on storing your milk. If you choose to formula feed no one will judge you. I decided after my twins got big enough to stop pumping and they are now on formula and do just fine! Good luck!

krystiannoah - 241 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I felt the same way, so i formula feed my son, and he does fine...don't listen to people if they say you better breast feed...i had that in my ear the whole time i was pregnant and got so sick of it...I also think i would have had a problem eating properly...because i LOVE soda...and was told i wasnt allowed to have it...either way, your baby is getting something good for him/her....they make formula so close to breastmilk these days.

juels101 - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You don't have to feel bad for feeling that way. I would say to prepare for both, have formula and bottles ready, but also give it a try, because once it's your little baby on your breast you might feel worlds different. The colostrum is amazing for the baby to get anyways, even that will be giving them a wonderful gift of health. If the creepyness of it won't go away, it's okay you are prepared to bottle feed instead.

uhoh-impreggo - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I find it very creepy as well. I'm in month 7 and still trying to adjust to the idea. When I was younger I sort of dismissed it as what had to be done, then one day I saw a baby latch on and was like 'OMG WTF BBQsauce!!!' It has been weird to me since I saw THAT woman and child. Before that I was fine. Now I also think how it will likely have negative affects on my sex life! My boyfriend is so squeamish :/ *sigh* and will I even WANT any when there's already someone on my breasts all day? I'm going to try two weeks, then if I can do two weeks ill do two more, then four more. I'd like to make it to 6-9 months. Here's hoping!

mommy-at-home - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know exactly what you're saying! I have 3 kiddos and I dealt with those feelings all 3 times...With all 3 I decided that I would breastfeed when baby is born and then decide because I could always switch to formula later. I ended up breastfeeding all 3 of my children because the creepiness of it just goes away once you have that precious little baby at your breast.

luvbeingamom - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I really wanted to bf from before i was pregnant. Though while pregnant i had similar feelings to you. You are not alone in it. But i promise, it is so natural. the idea is weird but it does end up feeling very natural in the end. Good luck!

LizetteCheree - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No hun its not just you at all.Although i did bf for 2 weeks(pumped coz she couldt latch on) and stopped coz of her vomiting it still was feeling weird.Id say wait till lo is here and see if u want to then,if u dont then dont let any1 force u into doing it.Maybe u could pump out if u feel its too akward and give breastmilk till 6 months or so.Its all up to you hun.:-).

pooka - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think a lot of having children is strange and weird until we do it. For me the idea of having a girl and having to wipe her coochie is really creepy but I am sure if i had one i would get over it. As parents we just have to suck it up and do what is needed for our children sometimes. Its been my experience that once we do its not half as bad as we thought it would be it just seems natural. Coming from someone who has breast fed three babies and not particularly loved it, its not easy, its not always comfortable or convenient (like at the mall) but at the end of the day there is a sense of pride in knowing its the healthiest way to feed your baby, something only you can give your child, something you 100% control and know exactly what your child is eating. There are very few times in our lives we have this ability. So try to focus more on the positives and worry about how it might feel later. You might honestly be surprised and happy you gave it a go.

courtenay - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think, you should atleast give it a try, because while it may seem weird to you now things change really fast when the baby is here. if i was you and i felt this way i think i would atleast give it a solid try and in the end if its not for you then atleast you know you really did try. personally, i think breastfeeding IS a beautiful thing and a bonding experience, but equally important are the health benefits. and i am NOT knocking formula because i believe it has its place, but do some research on what is in it etc. and i think if you are capable of breastfeeding why wouldnt you want too... thats just my opinion. whatever you decide in the end will be the right thing for you im sure, because a happy mommy is better equipped to raise a happy baby. :) good luck.

happyforest - 242 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i felt this way too, and i think a big reason is bc i had never known any woman or even seen any women breastfeed, so even though it is the most natural thing, for me it wasnt. so before i had my baby i had my mind made up that i didnt want to bf. so i didnt take any classes or let the nurses show me at the hospital and i had them give him bottles. well after i got home, and got my milk in, i had the most OVERWHELMING, natural, motherly instinct to breastfeed. (and my boobs hurt soooo bad that helped change my mind too). by this time forest was a week old, i had no idea what to do, didn't know anyone who breastfed, so i had no one to ask. luckily we figured it out on our own within 2 days, and he latched just fine and i was so amazed. so my advice to you would be to keep an open mind. don't decide for sure either way until you have you baby, bc you may change your mind and wish you had at least listened to the help and had them show you just in case. once i decided to breastfeed, i only could for 2 months, bc we didnt start out that way, and i was already supplementing with formula, even with pumping and taking supplements, my supply lowered until i couldn't bf anymore.