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`money tree` Baby shower
Added: 909 days ago.
Added by: mellowyellow
Section: General.
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An girl from my playgroup has invited me to her baby shower. This is her second baby 2 1/2 years apart from her first born. On the invitation it said that they didn`t want presents but there would be a money tree there if we wished to contribute. What do you think? Is is reasonable? I just feel weird about the money tree....

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xanthe - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) thats wierd. i would not give her money. if it was someone i liked and i had money to spare i might give a gift card.

2cute4u - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i cant see how people think its weirs or tacky or anything. is she having something different then the last baby, like say if the last one was a boy is this one a girl? if so thats a good reason to have another baby shower, nd i really dont think a money is weird either i just instead of her recieving gifts she wants to have fun and go shopping and get what she wants to get for her baby... you know what i mean. i know for sure that if i had a boy the first time and this im having a girl i would definately want a baby shower.

2cute4u - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i cant see how people think its weirs or tacky or anything. is she having something different then the last baby, like say if the last one was a boy is this one a girl? if so thats a good reason to have another baby shower, nd i really dont think a money is weird either i just instead of her recieving gifts she wants to have fun and go shopping and get what she wants to get for her baby... you know what i mean. i know for sure that if i had a boy the first time and this im having a girl i would definately want a baby shower.

amygirl22 - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am all for second baby showers! I see a baby shower as celebrating a new life, not getting gifts. When I have my second baby I am def having another shower but I will let ppl know ahead of time what I need and dont need. I dont like the money tree thing as much. I say get a gift card to like babys-r-us or something.

Its-Chelle - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) well, maybe they already have most everything or are the type of people that would rather do the shopping themselves for baby items. i guess some traditions change. but hey, it just says there will be a money tree if you WISH to contribute, so if you feel weird dont give much..lol who knows what the reasoning is for the tree , you never know

pinkminxykitty - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) They ar eprobarly doing this so they don't have the issue with diffrent people getting them things they dont need or ect. if you do feel uncomfortabel you could alway do vochers that way you know they are spending the money ont the baby and not on themselfs and they can also get what they want insted!

nutnut - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i dont like giving money either. its impersonal, i would have much rather crochetted her something for the baby like a hat booty set or an afgan (which depending on the yarn used and the size or what you make is not necessarily a "cheap" gift.) i dont see a problem with having two baby showers, every baby is a new begininng and showers arent supposed to be about gifts, its about family and friends celebrating the upcoming addition to the family, and getting mom started. i dont see the problem with two showers. i thought someone else throws the shower, not the mom, at least thats how my family has done it. the mom doesnt even know its usually a surprise. like for mine, my mother made a "wishing well" for small gifts, like rattles, binkies, bottles, etc. its a tradition for our family its been done with all the women who have had babies. but an actual gift wasnt expected. (although family is family and they did bring gifts anyway). its a little weird to have a money tree. now if one of her relatives was making a money tree and asked family if they wanted to contribute to it instead of a gift or something like that, then maybe thats a little better idea. but its a bit insulting to say "no gifts please, only money" LOL. its tacky to say the least. i understand they may have alot from the first baby, but the way stores are now i dont see the problem with doing returns if they get doubles. there's going to be 7 1/2 years between my first and this baby coming, i hope my family gives me a shower, and i dont care if they bring gifts or not. i just havent seen them since my brother's funeral and it would be nice to see them all again in a happier time. plus i really dont have much left from my daughter. i gave away so much, or got rid of things bc i didnt think i would ever have anymore. so anything would be appreciated but not asked for. i guess i would still go to the shower if the girl was a good friend of mine, if not then i would just decline and say i have plans aready that day with family and i cant get out of it. then send a small gift when the baby is born like one of my priceless crochetted blankets =P much better than money imo lol!

amber325 - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) wow some people are GREEDY! 1. YOU do not have a second shower anyway! 2....who asks for money! WTF at least "diaper parties" are not as bad!

happyforest - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) wow i think its really rude to flat out ask for money like that! she could have said gifts accepted but not required. or said there was a certain store she would like gift cards to. i understand that not everyone like presents picked for them, i prefer to buy the a giftcard anyway. but not money thats tacky, its not even like a gift and it doesnt seem like something for the baby. i would get a gift card and put on the money tree.

xela - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) sounds tacky, she first should not be having a second baby shower, and also should not be requesting money- the option should be open to bring a gift. I would just give a small amount of money I guess. Agift is always nice and more personal, money isn't. I guess it is to each his/her own:)

mathew102508 - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i like it better. i am a fan of giving money/ giftcards. i am not good at picking out gifts plus its just easier. this being her second child, i am sure she has most of what she needs and doesnt want to have to deal with doubles ect. Money givers her the freedom to buy what she needs for the baby whether he be formula or diapers. If you dont like the idea of giving money, you could always just give a gift card to walmart, which is almost the same deal or buy diapers.

robing - 909 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I hate money parties personally. If it were me I'd buy a gift and put a few dollars on the tree. I'm a gift giver and hate beign ask for money only. I tend to give less when it is money versus buying a gift that costs a bit more then I wanted to spend but a gift I know she needed and loves.