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chrissy-511 - 901 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Ok. I don't know how to delete this question, but obviously some people didn't understand what i'm trying to do. This person is my sister & we are very close. I told her how i feel, but i also told her i would support any decision she made bc i know it's her decision. The only reason i want advice is bc i know for a fact she is the kind of person that would regret it in the end & i don't want her to have to live with that. She is just wanting support & help knowing that she can have this baby. The only reason she is wanting an abortion is bc she is scared. The father or any other situation she is in really has nothing to do with her decision at all. I know there are lots of people who get abortions & for some people maybe it was the right decision for them. I don't judge people for the choices they make in their lives. I don't have to agree with the things they do, but i'm not going to think any less of someone for their life decisions...so anyways...i'm trying to help her bc i love my sister & i know how she is & i know in this case it would be something she would regret & i am trying to protect her from that. Since i don't know how to delete this i would like no more answers please...

last.one.for.me - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Why would you try to talk someone out of making their own decisions? I'm sorry but I, like Dorolyn, have also had one termination at 7 weeks also, and though it wasn't a nice experience, I have NO regrets.. At the end of the day, SHE'S the one going to bring up the baby, not you, so it's not your decision to make and it's rather selfish of you to try to force your beliefs onto her...

dorolyn - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I had one abortion( please dont judge me)... I was 7 weeks pregnant. I wasnt ready for another baby at the time plus the situation with the father was crazy and I didnt feel it was fare to bring a baby into a messsed up situation. I didnt regret it when I did it, and I still dont regret it now. I was awake the whole time, and I dont think I will be able to go through another one. But it was a lesson learned and I think I made the right decision. I had alot of people in my ear telling me not to do it and saying how it wasnt right. But in the end I would have been the one to deal with everything. The one thing I did want while going through this was someone by my side. My best friend didnt agree with abortions what so ever but she supported my decision and was there with me the whole time. Just please support her because she needs it! Im sure so many diff thoughts are going through her head right now! I wish her luck in what ever decision she makes!

happyforest - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) oh and also most people who have babies arent in the ideal place. that is bc 50% of pregnancies are unplanned, and even if you do plan the pregnancy, it is completely normal to be nervous or not feel ready. i dont know if there ever is an ideal time to have a baby. people can always think of something else they need to do first or something more they need to have. i was def not ready for my baby, he was a suprise! me and my bf were both in college, he had a part time job and i had no job, but we made it through and of course now we wouldnt change a thing! yea we rely on gov resources to help us, buthe just graduated and once he finds a job we will be just fine on our own!

happyforest - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) get information on community resources for her. such as food stamps, medicaid, wic, moms groups, and anywhere else that she could get support from. maybe even suggest seeing a counselor, since she will most likely have to after an abortion anyway bc of the guilt and confusion and regret she will deal with. she needs to think of herself and the baby, not the father. he is married, he made a mistake, that is HIS problem, not hers. she has a lot more to worry about right now than whats going to happen to that asshole. She has a new life inside her, that only she can save or destroy. no woman should feel like she should give up her baby or kill it because of a man. see if you can get her to wait til after her first doctor appt, bc after she hears the heartbeat it will make it harder for her to just kill her child, hearing the heartbeat makes the pregnancy more realisitc, makes you realize there is actually a little person in there and not just some cells. good luck, i know that would be a very hard situation to be in.

my.family - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hmm-i don't think she would have told you, if she didn't want help. you know what i mean. i hope you can convince her to keep the baby.

RobinG - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am sending the link to your page...

RobinG - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) There is a video online somewhere, cant recall exactly ~ show it to her. It is a hard watch but once seen it will help her to decide not to have one. I def effected me. It is the sonogram taken of a baby while being aborted and showing the baby in distress. If she absolutely cant keep it put it up for adoption or give the rights to the father and let the father raise the baby and relinquish her rights.

sheework - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think if she really isn't in a good place to have a baby then she's probably better off not having one. You don't know she will regret it, being a mother you probably think about how happy you are and that feeling will just come once she accepts it. But I know people who have had them and are fine with the choice. Some are now mothers and are happy that they waiting until they were ready to keep a baby. I always think of the quality of life that baby will have, can she support it in every way shape and form? You need to put aside YOUR wants for her and let her make this choice on her own, she is the one who will have to live with it not you.

courtenay - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) dont talk her into anything, its her choice. btw, how do you "know" she will regret it. many people do not regret their decision to have an abortion...

chrissy-511 - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) if she had the baby she would definitely keep it & raise it herself...adoption is not an option. She would be a great mother, she just thinks she isn't in a good place in her life to be having a baby.

jastinel - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) is she willing to give it up for adoption that way someone who cant have a baby would be able to and maybe she can have contact with that child later down the road if she feels that she wants or needs to

chrissy-511 - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) if she had the baby she would raise it herself, but she is just scared i think. She wouldn't be able to let someone else raise her baby. they guy was just a one time sex thing & she doesn't want to be with him or break up his marriage. she's starting school in Spring. she could do it if she chooses to have the baby.

nutnut - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) oops consenting not consulting lol my bad

nutnut - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) well the married boss, thats a whole issue right there. she will get support from him one way or the other he has to pay her if she seeks it. (which she definatly should) her boss may loose his job as she might as well. adoption is a good option. does she have family that will raise the child for her? that way she can still be in the child's life, while trying to better herself? i couldnt have an abortion, and i couldnt give up a child either. thats why i say if she has a mother or father or aunt or older sibling willing to help her and take the baby, that might be the best option for her. she will get medical assistance and wic, and welfare for the baby most likely if she ends up loosing her job. i have known people who have had abortions and dont think about it afterward, they just get on with their lives. it doesnt make them horrible people. they did what they felt was best at the time. who am i to judge. there are many alternatives to abortion. this married man should be the least of her concerns, as he was a consulting adult in all of this, he needs to assume responsibility even if it destroys his marriage. he shouldve thought of that before he slept with his employee. if he loved her, he would take care of her and the baby and leave his wife. there is defiantly help out there for her. the president jsut passed bills giving single mom's more money for education! this might be a way for her to get an education, and be financially stable. nothing worth having is easy. children are never easy, but they are definatly worth it. all you can do is be there for her one way or the other. you could take her to a family planning center and have her talk to someone so she can become aware of all of her options.

chrissy-511 - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm very close to this person & i know she would regret it. She's just scared about the whole situation. I told her to really think about this & will support her in whatever decision she makes. I know it's her choice, but the only reason i want to try to talk her out of it is bc i really think she will regret it.

abbyquiet - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i agree with what blondie9504, i have a friend whos had 2 abortions in the past 3 years and while i dont agree with the decision, and could never make one like that for my own self. it's not my place to judge her. support her, love her. in my opinion that's all you can do really.

mama2be12.31.09 - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) not sure but if you look online at stuff like pregnancy after abortion, a lot of girls have such deep regret after(even if it didnt cross their mind before the ab) that they actually try to go out and have another baby asap. its like a post traumatic stress symptom. i have a close friend who went through this and actually ended up going to grief counseling, she was only 5 weeks when the abortion happened and still felt this strong afterward. im not sure how u can convey this to someone since no matter how it comes out they will feel like its their life their body and hearing this makes them want to get the ab more. but if u need private message me and i can try to get her in touch with my friend so she can talk to someone who has recently (dec 26th) gone through this experience, maybe that will help her, or if she does go through with it, be able to help ease her mind, good luck, but not too much u can do

blondie9504 - 902 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know you don't want to hear this and I don't agree with abortion but...I would just support any decision she makes and try not to push her one way or another. Thats a hard situation to be in as is, you need someone to support you.