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Sex, sorry if tmi
Added: 898 days ago.
Added by: Faithful4ever
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I realise I`m a rare breed, but I`m one of those women that throuoly enjoy sex. My problem is, my hubby has hardly any sex drive. I`m wondering if there is ANYONE elts with this problem. I`m no model, but I`m not overweight, we cuddle, kiss etc plenty, he just doesent take it anywhere elts very often, like once every two weeks is the norm. I don`t know if all the info I hear is wrong, or if he really does have some sort of sex drive problem. I have no problem arrousing him, me and his package get along just fine, he`s just not in the mood. Anywho, any comments or suggestions would be awesome. Sorry if this is TMI for some lol. I`m no sex addict either, but a couple times a week would be nice!

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sheenat3 - 895 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am in the same boat! what makes me mad is that my fiancé is only 22 there is no reason for him to be selfish with the "love". when it bothers me i have to have a 2 year old temper tantrum in order to get some. and that is so sad!

jamiespaulding - 896 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm in the same boat! My husband and I have been only married alittle over a year! He has also has no issues getting arroused its strange cause most men talk about the wife never wanting it but I totally think its the other way!!!! Good Luck!

alreadygot1 - 896 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think It is normal. My Husband is the way. I also think it is because we let things get "routine". We go through times when we do it alot, and then we go through spells where it could be a month or so. Try to make it less routine for him and more like spontanious. *try to make it like going out on a date with someone new and sex is a suprise at the end.

rickettsrules - 897 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) nicnmicsmom, you're really not helping with your judgemental comments 'he's getting it somewhere else' and 'it's just not natural'. Faithful4ever, I hope you don't take these comments to heart because they are NOT true. I have a much higher sex drive than my partner, and I also have the peaks & valleys, where things will be fine for a while, and then for a while my partner just wants to snuggle and doesn't feel in the mood. We haven't had a nookie since we conceived early May. It's not unusual for us to go for a few months without, and then have a spell where it's really regular. I don't believe for one minute there is anything wrong with me, he is not cheating. I think some people can also have inhibitions which make them think that what turns them on is wrong or something which can make you shy about your sexuality. Once every two weeks is PERFECTLY normal, trust me. our1st.girl is right about trying different things, and talking about it as if it's no big deal because preassure can make things worse. Telling him there's something wrong with him will make it a whole HEAP worse. I don't have any suggestions on how you can make your partner have sex with you more often, because I'm in the same boat as you. Although this is the longest we've gone without having sex in the 12 years we've been together.

nicnmicsmom - 897 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) geeez...I have the opposite problem. Mine wants it every day. We had to make a deal where I got one night off a week from sex. Watermelon is supposed to have some sort of chemical in it to enhance male sex drive. Honestly, if a man has no sex drive...there's something wrong with him hormonally or he's getting it elsewhere. It's just not natural.

cantwaitnow - 897 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) o m g i had that problem to latley its ok but its very frustrating wen u want it and they dnt and u cant understand why but just like 1 lady said stay presistant and keep trying ur certainty not alone!!!

KateBick - 898 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I go through this too sometimes with my DH. My sex drive is pretty regular - I'm always horny, lol. But his has peaks and valleys so to speak. Such is life...(())

BunnyMama - 898 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i know exactly how u feel. my bf and i have only had sex twice in the past 3 months. sigh..... it really messes with my head at times. i know he has his reasons because he doesn;t wanna hurt the baby in any way but a girl has needs dammit lol.

our1st.girl - 898 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh honey you are not alone I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we still fight about it as a matter of fact it was so rare that we would have sex that I quit taking birth control and BAM one time I got preg. now 27 weeks along he he! My husband problem is he dips and the tabaco makes him have little to no sex drive...I have asked him if he was gay, having an affair, or if he was sexually abused as a child I have NEVER met a man like this and it really did something to my ego. The other day we were getting it on and he had ED that was the first time for that and it really messed with my mind but I have had to come to grips that as long as he continues to dip and stress about money he will have this problem so until he figures out the problem I just ask all the time in hopes that one of those times he will say YES! I have started texting him dirty text to see his reply and it has been good I also have started a date night with no kids alowed this has helped also I have learned that my man has a wild side and prefers spur of the moment surprise sex...so it has allowed me to become creative. I understand how you feel and it is hard but there is hope. I have bought sex toys he didn't care for them or dirty movies...he seems to like role play which is fun. In fact I did not see his MAN GUN for the first 5 years we were married ppl say that there is no way...BUT I asure you there is. You just have to stay persistant and talk about it like it's no big deal ask him questions and let him know how much you desire him sexually...feel free to message me any time about anything.

Cindie - 898 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I enjoy sex too! For a while I delt with him not having much sex drive. it sucked. Im not sure what suggestions to give