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ahh the drama... sigh
Added: 891 days ago.
Added by: christina-ann
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


So i just got off the phone with -LoserFace- .. (my ex).. and he`s now taken the insult and belittle me route. Unfortuately its got me thinking... bastard knows exactly how to get under my skin. He`s telling me that if i dont go back before this thursday, he will have moved out of our place and in with his bachelor brother downtown. He`s also let me know that thursday night is ladies night, and he will make a point of it to end things with me for good, by bringing a girl home. okay.. this shouldnt get to me... but fuck.. it KILLS me to think of it. And honestly, if he wants to pick up, he will. sigh!!! But thats not the part that has me thinking.. (it just hurts) He`s wished me very good luck on trying to find someone who would ever want to be with a 23 year old mother... someone who would accept my baby as their own, and accept me... Is this true?? Am i going to be alone... I mean im not looking NOW. god no.. but in a year or so...Do men generally have a problem with someone my age, with a baby?? i mean... i couldnt care less.. if a guy didnt want me because of my angel, then fuck em, you know?? but.. im just wondering.. am i going to live with my mom forever while im not with my ex.. will a happy family be written out from now on, if i dont go back to him??? .... i sound like a pathetic fool right now, im sure of it... but i can always count on you ladies to be honest with me. :)

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christina-ann - 890 days ago I'm always thinking that maybe i've been wrong, and i should go back.. mostly because i miss waking up with him.. and watching movies with him..i'm lonely already... but i know thats not enough.. i know he's a really controlling guy, who's offering me and my baby nothing but stress and drama.. he just says these things that make me question myself... its SOOO hard... But everytime i come online and check the new messages from you guys, you remind me why im not with him in the first place... its so hard.. but thank you guys so much for making it that much easier... :)

nutnut - 890 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) no, not all men have issues dating single mothers. my brother dated a girl with two kids from a previous marriage and he was very very attached to those kids. Your x is looking to control you and the situation. dont give into his games. you will not be alone. men are not going to flea in horror at the sight of stretch marks from a previous pregnancy, or force you to give away your child in order to be with them, and if they did, those are definatly NOT men you need in your life. While raising a child on your own will not be easy, its not something that has never been done. YOu seem to have your family to support you emotionally, and thats a good start. You dont need any man remember that, especially ones who want to control you, and cause you emotional pain, or try to manipulate you. Youre young, and attractive, and seem to be very smart. Im sure you have alot to offer the world, just dont be willing to give it away to any old asshole =P youll be fine. there is power in a woman with a child, and the good men will see this and want to be around it.

emma32uk - 890 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) honestly you will have no problems in attracting men in the future, not all men are pricks (i keep telling myself!) some men have no problems with bringing up a child that isnt theres, its actually easier when the child is younger anyway. dont go back there, he is black mailing you and the fact he is even considering taking another woman back there, he is a complete scum bag, he doesnt care about you.....its all about CONTROL by the sounds of it, stay with your mum, you will be just fine, you will meet some one, and my best advice is not to look. someone will just come into your life when you least expect it xxxx

EllaG - 890 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This man is poison, stay away from him. He sounds like a nasty piece of work. Don't you worry about finding a man in the future, yes, it may be a bit more difficult, but a true man will see past the baby on your hip and want to be there for you both. The man who raised me, was not my biological father, he came into our lives when I was about 2, I guess, and even though he and my mom split when I was 12, I still see him as my father, he walked me down the aisle, he's been there. If you go back to this idiot, you will look like a pathetic fool, whereas if you stay strong and provide a nice, loving, stable home for your LO, you and your baby are the winners. I can guarantee you that if you go back to him, you will be miserable in the long run, and wouldnt you rather be a single mom with a happy baby than have a mom/dad/child family situation but everyone is constantly fighting and belittling eachother? I know what I would choose, even if it does seem harder initially.

coolnessa8 - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I understand it is difficult to walk away from a relationship with the Father of your child & someone you love, but by staying with him you are basically telling him that it is ok to treat you this way. He certianly won't change while what he is doing is working for him. Please keep in mind that you will also be sending the message that this behavior is ok to your child. As parents we are also role models. Would you be comfortable with your son treating a woman this way? Or yor daughter being treated like that by a man? We can all tell you to leave, but you won't until you are ready. For your own happiness & that of your baby, I hope you find yourself ready sooner rather than later. Good luck to you!

blondiex2 - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) He's just very good at the mental abuse. I was with a guy like that, he usd words that were SO hurtful that I eventually started believing it. He's trying to break you down, and you can't let him. You are a beautiful woman with a beautiful baby on the way and have your whole life ahead of you. My sister had a baby at 17 and found a wonderful guy when my niece was 1 1/2 and my niece is much closer to him than her biological piece of shit dad who played the same exact games your ex is playing now. I know that when I was in the same situation, it was nice to hear others say that they promised it would get better even though it may not seem like it will ever hurt less, and it was nice to hear it but hard to believe that I wouldn't always be in so much pain. But I promise things really really do get better. You can and will be happy and eventually him and your life with him will seem so far away. If you EVER need to talk please don't hesitate to message me. I really mean that, please don't hesitate :) . You are beautiful btw, and congratulations on your baby!

sazauk - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My sister had a baby when she was 15 and her ex and her split around 2 years later. She found someone else after that who she is still with today 7 years later. You can find someone else when you are ready.

mother649808 - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree with the other ladies. I was 25 with 2 kids when I met my new husband and we just had twins together! Don't let that SOB convince you that you can't make it. You def can!!

beverleyfox - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hi christina i no i dont know you lovely but i read your post and wanted to say any man who treats you this way doesnt deserve you , the are loads of good guys out there that when your ready will be waiting in line to be with you and your gorgeous little baby x please dont go back to him just because you think you will be alone if you dont, you are worth so much more than that and your little one does to besides that little baby will fill your life with all the joy u need until your ready, good luck to you and the lil one x

MummyLJ - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You're not "a pathetic fool" AT ALL and you WILL find someone worth being with. But you're right- your LO doesn't deserve being in a family with 2 parents treating each other like garbage. Your ex is purposely trying to hurt you- what kind of man does that to someone? Especially the mother of his child? You deserve someone (and will find someone) who loves you so much they never want to see you hurt, let alone be the one to hurt you. Not someone who deliberately says nasty things only to cause you pain. Screw him. Stay strong and good luck!

Diane-taketwo - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hun, you are drop dead gorgeous and will have no trouble when you get back on the dating scene! You would be amazed by the number of great guys who will gladly start a relationship with a mom of a toddler. Just watch - I'm sure your question will get LOTS of positive responses about moms who went on to find their prince - and not the baby's bio dad ;)

TAkeyshaw - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Yes there are men out there that will love you and your child.. I was 26 years old, two kids, and divorced. I thought the same thing. I found a great guy who loves me and my kids and now we are expecting our first child together. Don't listen to that crap!

christina-ann - 891 days ago yeah.. youre totally right.. I mean, i dont want a relationship now, or for a looong while after my baby's more of.. a toddler.. :) She's the most important thing in the world to me, right now... I know he's trying to hurt me and play games with me... he just knows me so freaking well, he knows exactly which buttons to push. I mean, this situation isnt ideal... but it definately is far from ideal with him, aswell. I would rather my daughter grow up with one caring parent, than 2 parents who treat eachother like garbage. She shouldt have to see anything like that... ya.. okay.. confident! be confident!!!!!

RobinG - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh one more thing ~ if you go back to him you will NOT have a "happy family". That doesnt come wiht metal abuse. What you will have is a metal abusive relationship where HE is the only one who is happy. Your child doesnt deserve that ~ One doenst have to have a man to be happy anyhow. My stepdad was the best thing in the world!!! Put your childs needs and safety first and then the rest will follow suit.

RobinG - 891 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This is known as metal abuse and he is having a good time at it playing with your emotions. He is wrong ~ there ARE good guys out there :) You dont desesrve to be treated like he is doing. It is VERY hard but you must stay out of it and start a new wonderful life for you and your baby. I left a horrible mental abusive relationship and it was hard but looking back I am SO glad I did!!! You can do it, it is important you NOT let his words get to you ~ that is his intent. Whats important right now is happiness and mental safety for you and your baby, not what if you cant find a man right now being a mom. That is a mute point right now. He is mind controling you to get you to do what HE wants... turn around walk away and never look back (((hugs)))