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ttc after miscarriage
Added: 888 days ago.
Added by: jenna020185
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


hi all, i need of some advice and support from other ladies in simillar situations to me i had a mc on the 2nd of may i was 12wks we went for the scan and my litle bean had stopped growing at 8wks 4days it was so painful seeing the scan it just seemed so unfair, then i had a normal period on june 1st and felt as though my body was geting back on track, then i was due my nxt period the 1st july but nothing came so i did a test and it was positive, i was over the moon but then the following day i started to bleed and had a really heavy period i would have been about 5wks (mc number 2), i went to the doctor and they said that if i had another mc they would refer my to a specialist, i was then due on again on the 5th sept but nothing came until yesterday and now im on really lite and the blood is brownish + no pain which is very strange for me, i did a preg test but it was negative, it is so depressing trying to get pregnant again i just feel like its never going to happen and if it does is something going to go wrong again, it seems like everyone is pregnant except me im trying to be happy for people but inside i just feel really bitter and jealous and i hate feeling this way, its even more difficult as my partners brother and his girlfriend are having a baby and she is due 2wks before i was due for my 1st loss, which is depressing me even more as its a constant reminder of what ive lost sorry if ive gone on so much but just really need to let it out hope someone can advise me love + baby dust jenna x x

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jenna020185 - 888 days ago love and baby dust x x

jenna020185 - 888 days ago thanks for your advice, so nice to know that im not the only one thats had the feelings of jealousy ect deep down i know im not a bad person but when i feel this bitterness it makes me feel bad :( im just going to try and stay positive :) hopefully i will be able to share good stories with people soon thanks again x x

sarahann - 888 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am so sorry you are going through this. I had to have a D&C at 11 weeks (last December) because we found out our baby had died around 7 weeks. I was told to wait a cycle and then we could try again. It took a further 5 months of ttc to get pregnant again which felt like forever, but I'm now nearly 20 weeks. Shortly after I lost my baby, my cousin and another friend both anounced they were pregnant and due only 3 months after mine was due, so it was difficult to deal with. I was happy for them, but upset and a bit jealous. I can't say anything which will make you feel better, but just know that there are others out there who have been through similar situations. I wish you all the very best for the future and I'm sure things will work out for you soon. Take care.

jastinel - 888 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hi sorry for your losses,i too know what its like,i had two miscarriages this year and two etopics the year before,i had a natural miscarriage jan 14,09 and that was so hard for me to loose the baby,then i fell pregannt in june and went to the doctor in july and told me i was 10 weeks but the baby died at 6 weeks,had a dnc done ,i always ask myself why me,i never get any answer so i dont know what to tell you becasue you are very young,i am 37 but i already have 1 child who is 2 and after him its been very difficult for me to get pregant,i still have hope ,i feel when it is meant to me it will be,try to stay positive i know its difficult,on aug 13 2009 if i did not miscarry i would of gave birth the first time,that was so hard for me ,but i still keep trying dont give up be positive and good luck

lisab123 - 888 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know exactly how you are feeling. I have my son that is 4 and when he was 2 we started TTC again. I fell pregnant after 5 months of trying and ended up with a BO miscarriage. It was devastating. So then I had a D&C and we tried after 3 months. I got pregnant again after trying for some time I had yet another mc at 5 weeks. Levels just werent going up. I then waited a while because we were going to vegas and had alot of plans last summer. We then wanted to try again and she put me on clomid. I got pregnant right away and we went in for a scan at 8 weeks and no HB. I could not believe it was happening once again. I wanted to die. It hurt so bad. Why could I not hold a pregnancy. She wanted to send me to a specialist but my insurance would not cover it, it was 2 hours away and they wanted 400.00 cash just to walk through the door. My dr then put me back on clomid and I got pregnant right away and had a scan at 6 weeks and we saw a healthy HB. I am now almost 18 weeks pregnant. I know the feeling of being jealous and irritated. As much as it hurts, keep trying. I am sure you are bound to wind up pregnant and deliver a healthy little one. I was obsessed with temping and all that other stuff I finally stopped and took a breath and thought it is going to happen when the time is right. I wish you all the best of luck and pray for your sticky baby dust. See if your dr will do some blood tests to rule out anything before you would go to a specialist. Good luck:)

blondie9504 - 888 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Okay, what I have to say you probably don't want to hear but keep in mind it worked for me. I miscarried several times. This last time I miscarried I was due Dec. 31, 2008 and I was almost 11 weeks preggo. It wa so horrible, the pain and the bleeding was the worst I'd ever seen and lasted for 6 weeks. My Dr didn't want to do a D&C because it could do more damage than it was worth, so she just monitored my HCG levels to make sure they were dropping properly. Once everything was back to normal she ok'd me to have sex again but strongly recommended that I take birth control pills for a while before trying again. I thought "How rude!" But I did take them for 3 months and got my period to the point where it was regular and it gave time for my uterus and stuff to heal so when the doc called and asked how I was doing she said "Ok, you can stop taking the pills and try again" I was almost afraid to because of the past and the last was the worst but I stopped the pills and was seriously taking the test the next month and it was POSITIVE. Now if you do this don't quit taking the pills in the middle of a package and make sure you take the correctly or it might not help. So I got a positive and tried not to get too excited but I did tell me SO and noone else. So we waited till our ultrasound and everything was GREAT. Well we were actually having our Christmas party later that evening at my Grandma's house. Of course everyone was drinking but me so my Dad knew something was up because we always open gifts and play poker and drink during this party. So I finally broke down and gave everyone their Christmas cards (which I had stopped and made before we went to the party) So everyone opened theres at the same time and the whole room was filled with tears because they all knew what I had gone through. Actually, my little girl is 6 weeks old today and a spoiled little bundle of joy. I guess the point to me typing all of this is that I know you don't want to wait to get pregnant, I didn't either, but it really helped me. Don't worry, you'll have a little bundle of joy and then you'll be on here asking "why is my kid crying?" and "how much should my child be eating at 3 weeks old?" Let me know how things work out. Good luck! *baby dust*