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Ughh HELP!!!
Added: 884 days ago.
Added by: twinmama2be
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


So this is kinda a long story but ill try to keep it as short as possible and still have it make sense hopefully! I need some advice on how to meet someone that I REALLY DON`T LIKE! Like what to say during the `greeting`. I`m sure as hell not going to do the general `hi, nice to meet you bit`. Because, well frankly, I don`t want to meet him at all, and well, its not going to be `nice` to meet him. Let me explain a little more so it makes sense. My hubby has a friend that he`s known for almost 20 yrs. This friend of his is a real piece of work. Drinking, stealing, a horrible father, cheated on his wife, tried to break me and hubby up several times, and uses my hubby for money ALL the time. We he did I should say, I put a stop to that. Anyways, I`ve refused to be around this guy, hence why we have not met. My baby shower is this weekend and it will be my hubbys first kids (twins) and he asked if he could invite this jackass friend of his to the shower. I felt bad about if I told him no, as these ARE his kids as well and he should be able to invite who he wants too, so I said ok. He was shocked I said yes, he knows how much I don`t like this waste of a man. I told him I would be polite, but not to expect me to be all smiles and friendly sunshiney happy with him,lol. I also told him I`m certianly not going to cause drama at my own baby shower! Now I don`t mind this friend coming, whatever. I don`t have to sit and socialize with him or anything. I`m only doing this for my husband. I`m not concerned about while he is there, I can ignore easily,lol. But how the hell do I handle the introduction? What would you say? Just a handshake and a hi then go my own way or what? Help!

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Debra - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) if your husband knows how much you dislike him and this friend is such a terrible person, I have to ask, why the heck does your husband still want to be friends with him? he sounds toxic, will be a point of contention between you and your husband and will cause a lot of problems between you. My husband had a toxic friend and we both agreed that it was better if we let that friend go. They haven't talked for several years, my husband is happier (when they were together, the toxic friend encouraged my husband to drink to the point where it was unsafe). Unless this 'friend' is seriously making changes in his life and won't be toxic, I fail to understand why your husband would even want this person in his life, let alone come to a what is supposed to be a joyous occasion OR cause you to stress about it in the first place. I obviously don't know you and my opinion doesn't matter, but it sounds like a WHOLE LOT OF DRAMA i doubt you need.

christina-ann - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Just give a smug " hi, thanks for coming" and move right along like you have no time for him. because you dont! its your baby shower! Dont stay for chit chat, say hi and get outta there, cuz unless youre willing to try out for an acting award, i suggest you move along. if youre anything like me, he'll see right through your fake chit chat and it'll become reeeeal awkward.

juels101 - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would stand out on the lawn with freezing cold water and dump it on him and tell him thanks for coming to you could do that. That is crazy that your hubby would WANT a friend like that, let alone ask for him to come you your baby shower. That is the only introduction I'd give the loser!!!

happyforest - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) how about just a simple "hi" and then ignore him the rest of the time. my bf has a friend that i cannot stand, he isnt allowed at our place, so i only have to see him a few times a year when we are out with a group of friends or something, and i just say hi and thats all. sometimes i dont even acknowledge him. i dont care, i could care less if he thinks im rude. he is such a loser his opinion does not matter to me or anyone else really

Mandy-n-Eoins-Peanut - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well if you feign being busy when he arrives, you'll be able to by-pass the introductions and just offer a little wave or something. For the rest of the day, I'm sure he'll stick with your hubby and you can stick with your friends and family. When he's leaving, nip up to the bathroom or something so you don't have to say goodbye...can't think of anything else, sorry.

EllaG - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'd opt for the passive aggressive approach. "Oh, so YOUR John, I've heard alot about you". After the initial introduction, you can try "Oh, Susy, how ARE you" and rush off, or pretend you need to get something from elsewhere and just avoid this guy as much as possible for the rest of the day. Be courteous, but you don't have to fall over yourself being nice to him.

jumpingbean - 884 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If you really don't want to meet him and feel that badly about him, I would just say hi and do the handshake. I wouldn't say anything positive about him being a friend to your hubby's or anything. I had a situation kind of like that only it's my fiance's mother and I already knew her but she brought alcohol to my baby shower and hid it in her purse, so now I am debating if I do a first birthday and don't invite her or do a family party and then a bigger party with my side and friends but then that isn't fair to my fiance