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Strongwilled!!!
Added: 883 days ago.
Added by: LoveChild
Section: General.
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Any advice on a VERY strong willed child? My 1st daughter is almost 7 years old and she already act`s like she`s a teenager. I`m terrified of how she`s going to act when she is one. I feel like I have no control over how she act`s most of the time. People can tell she`s strong willed the first day they know her. It`s very obvious. I love her to death, but she make`s motherhood unpleasureable sometimes and that make`s me feel horrible. Any advice for me?

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nutnut - 881 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) you have to show her youre in control, and you have to set limitations. even if she throws a fit, you need to set rules, and punishment or consequences if those rules are broken. you have to be strong and follow through. my daughter is 7 and she is starting to push my buttons here and there and see what she can get away with. once they know they can get away with something, they will keep pushing further and further. you basically just need to put your foot down and keep it down. im not saying yell and scream at her or hit her or any of those things, but definatly set up rules. even if you need to write a few of them down on a poster board and use a star system when she is good or reward system, that is fine too. you need to be consistant as well. if bedtime is 830 then its 830 not 930. i recently took away the nintendo ds. it nearly broke my daughter's heart, but im sorry, im the mommy and if she isnt doing what she is supposed to, she isnt getting any privelages and her video games are whats most important to her, so i took them away for a weekend. you need to be strong and stand your ground. ive been told im a mean mommy, and the first time it broke my heart. she will get over it. i always tell my daughter i love her anyway, even when she doesnt do what she is supposed to. she just needs to learn i mean what i say. same with you. once you have control it wont be as bad.

Debra - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) some other ideas- if you ever watch the 'nanny' type shows, those who are on there with children with behavior issues, respond very well with adjustments to: 1. diet (should be at routine times, and nutritious = little to no high fat/ salty/ high sugar snacks/ juice/ pop etc. Children who eat poor diets loaded with quick sugars and high fat are not able to function well with life- they are more likely to be tired, critical thinking skills decrease and thus function poorly in school. 2. Bedtime- should be at a set time and routine. A typical seven year old should be going to bed no later than 8 pm as they require 12 hours of sleep. (when children reach 10-12 years old, sleep requirements goes down to 10 hours and it is not until they are closer to adulthood that the sleep requirements is only 8 hours per night). 3. Discipline: consequence = action on your part. Ie. mouthing off to you = time out in her bedroom. Time outs should be minutes per age. 7 years= 7 minutes. They should be in spot that is the same every time and should not be in an area that is fun. 4. Physical activities (take her swimming, biking, to the playground) or involved in extra curricular physical exercise- yoga class, ballet, fitness helps to burn off extra energy and teaches discipline. 5. Lots of time spent being a kid. It's okay for her to spend time reading books, drawing, playing, using her immagination. Limit TV/ computer time to no more than 1-2 hours per day. This encourages her to use her brain actively, rather than passively. Most out of control teenagers is a result from little to no discipline from their parents (or too much). Too much discipline occurs if you expect perfection at all times. Then children rebel against the hard hand as they were not shown compassion at the same time. Be open to your child, while being firm and modeling the behavior that you would like her to exhibit. If you are quick to anger or yell at other people, she will watch you and do the same. It is a finding a balance that will be the most difficult. I hope you can find something helpful here.

gigantor - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Be stronger! I have a daughter like that and I learned that crying won't kill her. Start out with one thing at a time and be insistant. If you win a battle you'll feel better to go for the next one. Do it with love in mind and you'll see it'll get better.

Debra - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Discipline, routine. You need to be a strong influence and ensure she is taught right/ wrong and what is appropriate for a 7 year old. If you are scared of her behaviour now, she could be out of control later. Most children are looking to their parents to be firm with them and respond well to routine and firmness, as long as its appropriate and provided with LOTS of love and cuddles. :)

LoveChild - 883 days ago Oh yes, I know that she'll be a very strong woman and that make's me very proud! She doesn't do anything she doesn't want to do so hopefully that will stick with her and she won't be a follower. She won't ever let a man boss her around or treat her wrong...I hope! It would just be nice if she would listen to me more while she's young....

Kassi23 - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well i cant give any advice but yes you are not alone. My 5yr old stepdaughter acts like a 13 year old. I love her so much but I am in aww sometimes by the way she acts. Hoping it is a stage and will go away soon lol.

juels101 - 883 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know what you mean, only my dear Adailyah just turned 3 and already she is like that. I am sooo thankful that my girl is going to be a strong woman, rather than a pushover, but I am pretty worried about the teen years. No advice, obveously, as you are ahead of me, but your not alone <3. Love her to death, but it's like talking to a brick wall sometimes lol.