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preg. teenager
Added: 882 days ago.
Added by: amanda00
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


i just need some help seriously... i have no one to go to, my parents mean the world to me and would be devistated if i told them my daddys my best friend in the whole world he would be litterly heartbroken and my ma would be calling me names i dont wish to hear... my best friend has a big mouth and my boyfriend who would be the father is completely how do i say it. oblivious..? he doesnt understand how serious this is. it really hasnt hit us HARD enough yet.. only us and his brother no. i cant tell anyone ive learned from the past that people talk. i just turned 17 days ago so i cant get an abortion nor afford one if i could i would. i also live in MI where you need a parent consent. I beleive I am 7 weeks. My last period ended August 4th. I was supposed to started September 4th, a week and a half later I took a pregnancy test 3 actually 2 were clearblue and yep a plus sign on both. Then I bought a store brand digital.. both said clearly Pregnant. My face has been extremly gross where I have to wash it every morning my sense of smell is extremly better then normal everything is so strong i get little cramps off and on. I need HELP. I cannot shame my parents or go through school as `that girl`. I made a mistake I need help. please anyone just answer back. ill be waiting deffinitaly. also how many weeks would I be? I ended last AUgust 4th. please answer me as soon as possible. thank u god bless everyone..

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dorolyn - 879 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I understand where u are coming from. I was in the same situation. I was 18 and about to graduate from high school. I was scared to tell my parents about my pregnancy... I planned on gettin an abortion ( I was wroking, so I could afford it) but I told my older sister (thought I could trust her, but she ran and told my mother instead) but when my mom found out she told me that it was MY decision and she would support me either way. She did stress how an abortion seemed like an easy way out... but I would regret it. Now my son is almost 3 yrs old and I wouldn't trade him for the world! BUT I do wish that I would have waited, I didn't get to enjoy my teen years like I should have. Just tell ur parents... of course they will be dissapointed... but they will get over it! Good luck in what ever decision u choose!

secondandexcited - 879 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) This must be a very hard situation for you. I have never been in your place, so I wouldn't understand. I think that if I were you I would have the baby at least, then if you decide that it's just too hard to do on your own (or with the father), than place the baby up for adoption. Could you imagine what your parents would say if years down the road they found out you had an abortion and never told them?! I'm sure they would be heartbroken and angry. Who knows, if you tell them they may be really happy like in Voncoco's case! In the very least, I'd tell them and try to make a decision together. I just don't want you to do something you'll regret later, one way or the other. But remember, a baby is a blessing!

amanda00 - 880 days ago okay i found out i am 5 weeks today. im not sure what i want to do yet i found out i can get the court to bipass the parental consent for an abortion! my boyfriends brother is totally freaking out about the decision to not having it saying its murder but he doesnt understand what kind of shoes im standing in.. im not sure yet what i want to do... =\

mamabear13 - 880 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Tell your parents! Your parents ARE your best friends, trust me! It may be hard for them, and they may be stern (but that is a parent's job) I complement you on wanting to finish school, I went to HS with a girl who missed a week of school to have the baby and came back, since the baby came about a month before graduation, they let her bring her baby to school so she could graduate. She also had a two year old in day care. She was so determined to do right by her baby, she graduated with high honors :) As for your parents...it's a beautiful thing, my mom was sooooooo mad when she found out, but she held me and we cried together...she remained mad at the hospital while I was in labor and then turned into a puddle of goo when my son was born. Something about becoming a grandparent :) My dad was the same way, he didn't come to see me til the day after my son was born :( but then he was caught by my little man hook line and sinker too :) While they both wished it had happened later, they cannot get enough of him. And while being stern, they were my strength through the whole pregnancy. FYI, when I was raped at 12 and got preggo (I had a miscarriage at 5 months) My mom was disappointed, but offered to help me if I wanted to keep him. She was willing to support me and help raise the baby because I was against abortion. Mom's have a beautiful sense of understanding with their daughters...trust me, the longer you wait, the more it will hurt her and it will likely devastate her if you have an abortion and don't at least talk to her first. <3 Be strong, I will keep you in my prayers

happyforest - 881 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) school was everying to me. i graduated high school with a 4.0 and on scholarships. i came to a big 10 university for 2 years, .... and theni got pregnant! i had been with my boyfriend for ayear but we both had 2 years of school left. i stayed home while pregnant and he finished school. i am now a stay at home mommy with my awesome 10 month old baby boy! he has changed my life in the best way ever!!! i have realized i can go back to school at ANY point in my life, but my sonwill only be a baby once and i want to enjoy that time now. i am so suprised at how my whole outlook on life has changed sincei had him. it was worth everything !! you can do anything if you truly want to...if you want to be a mother to this child, then you can and will! dont let fears of what anyone else will think bother you. YOU are the ONLY one that will have to live with or without this child, your opinion is the ONLY one that counts here.

christina-ann - 881 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Yeah, im going to have to agree.. I Got pregnant when i was 16 once.. It was the hardest thing i ever had to tell my mom.. but i did.. she was disappointed, but you know, she really came through. I personally got an abortion, i was in no way shape of form capable of having a child. It just depends on your own belifs.. but i suggest you talk to your parents about it, because they are truly the only people who you can depend on for help. If you DONT tell them, because youre afraid, they'll find out sooner or later. pregnancy isnt exactly easy to hide. You may as well man up and own your actions. Be assertive, and just tell em. I think they would freak out a lot more if you didnt tell them and you got far along in your pregnancy. If you want an abortion, and you dont get one, soley based on the fact that you need parental consent, then i suggest you speak up to your parents cuz theyre gunna find out one way or another. you should tell them while you still have choices to make... whats waiting gunna do, but postpone the inevidable. if you wait too long, you wont have a decision to make.

collegemom - 881 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I had an abortion before and I regret it til this day. I know that you can do it. I child will not ruin your life it will just put it on hold. What if your parents would've had an abortion with you????? Don't make a decision based on what you think others will think of you.

lily3488 - 881 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Ok, I agree with everyone that posted. TELL YOUR PARENTS! They may be upset in the beginnin but they can help you make the right decision. My parents were upset when I first told them and they pushed for abortion. But I decided to have my baby boy. And after they saw him, they have turned around. They love him to death (he is their first grandchild). I'm not big into abortion, but if you think it is best for you, then go ahead but either way you have to tell your parents. You have until you are 12 weeks to get an abortion. After 12 weeks, getting one will be difficult. Many people that perform the abortion will deny you after 12 weeks. But if I was you, I would tell my parents w/ the father of the baby and decide together what is best for you. Who cares of what others would think of you. People in high school would forget who you were once you all leave. But family will always be there. Everyone makes mistakes. So no worries. Good Luck.

tahliasmummyandttc - 881 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was 16 when I got pregnant. My nan was with me at the doctors so I had no choice but to tell me parents, they were so upset with me and told me to get an abortion but I didn't want one and after awhile they got over it. My daughters nearly 2 and she's the best thing that's ever happend to me. And my family love her to death.. If you really don't want the baby then that's your choice, but it won't ruin ur life and u can always finish school. And just remember, who cares what people at school say about u and what uv done in ur life u won't be in school forever and when use all leave school you will be forgotten by most of them. Do what u feel is best in ur heart. But please tell ur parents u need them more then ever right now they will help you make the right decision.

voncoco - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i should add that i have education and have had 3 careers. I am in a management position now. I also have another child now she is six months old and my 14yr old daughter is the greatest help ever!! She is my best friend... And I would want her to come to me if she were pregnant so i could help her to see that it is not such a bad thing after all... just a step on the path of life...

voncoco - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was a teenager when I had my first baby. 17 when I found out I was pregnant. My daddy and I were best buddy's too, and my mom and I were also very close. I told my mom fairly easily and had a hard time with my dad figuring he would freak out, and all he said was "this is the best day of my life... I had just hoped it would come later". Being a teenage mom has challenges but so does being a Mom later in life the challenges are just different. There is no reason that with the right support you won't make a great mom. IF that is what you choose to do. Either way you need to trust in your parents love for you, because you need them to support you in whichever course you decide to take. They might freak they might not... but in the end they will probably stand behind you and help you, and that is what you need. You need some to help you reach the first decision of whether or not to keep the baby and then you need support to walk which ever path you choose. Who better than your parents who know you better than anyone else... your Daddy is your best friend ... trust him. good luck!! and we are here for you too!

kristina89 - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) you can get an abortion at i think 12 weeks then they told me here in california its alot harder after that ... you should just tell only your mom and tell her how you feel

kristina89 - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) what do you need help with what questions do you have ... i was 19 when i got pregnant and my parents were so disappointed n they cept telling me to have an abortion but i didnt so i have a beautiful little boy if you have any question please dont hesatate to ask i think you would be about that 7 weeks

amanda00 - 882 days ago thank u so much for everything. i really started to cry so much thanks for not judging me i really really thank u sooooo much. i told my best friend today, i trust her.. we are going to call the nearest confidential clinic.. i have a few questions if someone can answer.. how come i feel like i can smell everything so funky. ive had this weird smell of like metal and blood for the longest time and like i can taste it? then my face always feels so ick. it also feels like i want to puke blood. the first day of my last period would probabally be July 28th. so i would be 7 weeks? whens the last time in a pregnancy u can get an abortion? i had to witness an abortion first hand when a girlfriend of mine had to get one.. i was alowed in the room, honestly it was the worst day of my life seeing that but in my case i dont want to ruin my life or a childs. i just want to finish school im a senior.

mariettap - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Only you can choose what's best to do next, but I wanted to send you some hugs and encouragement. No matter what you do now, you will need your courage with you. You can get through this. best..

MsModernBeauty - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have a daughter, and trust me, they love you so much more than you can imagine! my heart would break into a million peices if I knew my baby was going through something like this alone. tell them, it will be ok. also - i had an mc at 16 years old. i wish i had told my mom. instead, i went through it all alone and made lots of mistakes. looking back, she would have been sad, but she would have helped me soo much.

sheework - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It sounds like no matter what your choice is you will have to tell your parents. Yes they might be mad at first but this isn't something that is just going to go away so they will have to deal with it as will you. I am pro choice and I think if you really can't bare the thought of being a mother then don't have this baby. You really need give this some serious thought and maybe with your parents help you can figure out what the best option is.

vickiessecret - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I agree everyone makes mistakes, but I think you should tell your parents. They may not be happy right away, but I don't think their going to hate you and be ashamed of you. Then you and your parents can disuss it and see what you wanna do. I don't believe in abortion, and I would never do that to my child, if anything..I would give it up for adoption before abortion ever crossed my mind. But definetly talk to your parents, I'm sure everything will work out.. Good Luck

mamalvs4 - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) DEEP BREATH!!!!! i know it looks bleak right now, but this is not the end of the world. if abortion is really what you want it sounds like the only way to get it is confide in your parents, they maybe dissapointed but they could help you pay for it and consent before anyone else finds out. if not everything will be okay, you could give the baby up for adoption in you end up having to carry the baby but dont want to raise it........i know you dont want to dissapoint anyone, but you need the support and advise of an adult, they will still love you everyone makes mistakes

Julianna - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I haven't much advice for you, but I can help with how far along. You use the first day of your last period to figure it out. So, if you started, for instance, on August 1st then you would be 6 weeks 4 days

mama2be12.31.09 - 882 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) not an advocate of abortion but if its what you want go to social services , in california its called medi-cal but every state has something similar . they give money for pregnant women, including an abortion at planned parenthood etc. just go to your nearest clinic get a postiive pregnancy test result from them (they will give you a printout) and bring it to social services and they will help u with the rest. good luck with whatever you choose to do.