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A little bit young.. a little bit pregnant
Added: 877 days ago.
Added by: tilly8
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I am 18 years old and have just found out that I am just over 5 weeks pregnant. I never expected to find myself in this situation and I am feeling pretty overwhelmed. This pregnancy was a surprise but funnily enough I am struggling to dig up the expected feelings of regret, dread and panic that are typically associated with pregnancy in girls my age! I have always known that I would want children but I would never have considered it until I was older and married. I know my parents would be extremely angry and disappointed to find out I had gotten myself into this situation, especially since they are a little snobby and pretentious and would be very embarrassed! I know they would expect me to `deal with it` immediately, but I don`t think that I could ever, ever do that. But having this baby seems impossible for me also. I am just finishing my final year of high school and was planning to go to law school next year, obviously not possible if I`m pregnant and keeping the baby! Does anyone have any advice for me at all? I feel in over my head and I would love some help. Tilly.

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marzharnae - 876 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hey Tilly! I had my first baby at 16! I am now 28 and currently workn on my masters degree!! U can do all things through Christ who Strengthens U!!! If u ever need to Talk send me a message I will b more than happy to talk to U!

mfbrown - 876 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hey we're all here for you! Feel free to add me/us and we can help with whatever we can! :0)

tilly8 - 876 days ago Wow i wrote heaps.. sorry!

tilly8 - 876 days ago Thanks to everyone for their help. The more I think about it (which is only every second of every day) the more I realize there is no way I can have an abortion, you guys are right I think I would live to deeply regret it. Thanks also for everyone’s advice about "college" ha-ha, I loved listening to everyone call it that because I actually live in Australia which I forgot to mention, so we call it University (uni) here, to study Law here it is typical that you start immediately after you finish high school and the course takes 4 years, 5 if you want honors (which I think is the same as masters) its so encouraging that you all still want me to go, but our Uni's here start in March and the baby will be due in May, I don’t think I can start the first few months of Uni when I will be obviously pregnant (around 7 months I think) and then somehow have a baby and keep going to Uni. Maybe I should take a year off? I've had a part time job for a few years now and my parents are wealthy and have always been generous on Christmas and Birthdays so I had money put away for a car, about $12,000 dollars (aus) in savings. I think I can afford to wait a year before going to Uni if my parents still pay for my course, which they were planning to do. But who knows after this! MeganandGrace: I smiled when you said that your parents were eventually excited for you because it made me think of my older sister who is a student nurse/midwife and crazy about babies and pregnancy, she always has been. She will be genuinely overjoyed about this, if not a little jealous. But I can’t see my parents ever coming around. By the way, Grace is my all time favorite girls name. Jmncds05: I was excited that you commented because its nice to hear from another preggo my age ha-ha. How is it going? Do you show at 20 weeks? How is it going to school still? I tried to stop myself but I looked up 5 weeks pregnant in the “week by week” section to see what my baby looks like right now, I was amazed to see that it already looks like.. well.. something, I don’t know what I was expecting but to me it looks like a little alien prawn thing, no offence baby, a very cute little alien prawn thing. Still waiting for the panic and regret to set it but to be honest I'm just feeling pretty excited, my birthday is in March so I will be 19 before the baby is born, he/she is due May 22. God give me strength to tell my parents! (oh and sorry God about the pre-marital sex and all.. oops) Thanks again everyone! How is everyone else’s pregnancy/babies going? I hope to keep up with the site right the way through my pregnancy I have already found it immensely helpful, I’m learning so much, probably too much.. some things are a little scary!! (what the hell is a perineum?!?!) Tilly.

jmncds05 - 876 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Im 18 years old too and 20 weeks pregnant..When i found out i was pregnant i was scare to tell my family i didnt know how my mom was going to react,it turn out that she was happy that she was oging to be a grandmother..Im still going to skool and planning to graduate this year from high school aint nuthin stoppin me from going to school and being pregnant, i mean yeah i do miss school alot because dr. appointments but i havent gave up im still plannin to graduate and go to college after my babygirl is born..I say go for it have your baby,yeah your going to stuggle but i think is worth it..

kristina89 - 876 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i just barely turned 19 when i found out i was pregnant now i am 20 and have a beautiful little boy that i 4 months on the 25 of this month .. you can still go to college i think i am going to go to be a police officer when my baby turns 6 months cuz then i think it will be easier , my parents were very disappointed in me and it was upsetting because my parents and the father wanted me to have an abortion but me i dont beleve in abortion i dont think its right adoption is ok if you can handle giving your baby away as for me i couldnt do that either but everything is really up to you but if you need anyone to talk to please dont hesatate to ask any quetions or just come to my page n talk to me oh and my parents and boyfriend came around and now love my little king

xolblondieox - 876 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) You can still go to college! I'm in graduate school right NOW with 2 eight month olds! Law school is tough. But, I'm not sure if anyone's explained this to you - you can't even apply to law school before completing 4 years of undergraduate coursework. You have to have a bachelor's degree in something first. Undergraduate work is not that hard. It's very managable and preps you for law school. You can absolutely get your bachelor's with a baby. I saw many people do it. Then, by the time you're eligible for law shool (which is an additional 3 years of schooling, 7 years in all), your baby will be roughly 5 years old and in school his/herself :o)

emma32uk - 876 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i had my daughter at 17, i was in my first year at college when i got pregnant ( in the uk). needless to say my mum wasnt too impressed but i told her in a situation where she couldnt shout at me! ( we were just pulling into her friends driveway) she said "im not sure im going to let you keep it" in the end i had my little girl, and yes i struggled but i managed. im now 33 and my daughter is nearly 16, we get on very well. of course my family were not impressed to start with but things soon changed and in fact 2 of my 3 sisters have had babys at 19. i dont argree with adoption, sorry its a british thing, its not done over here as much. and in my opionion an abortion you will regret. if you want to message me please feel free to, good luck and congratulations xxxx

Debra - 877 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) As a friend to several parents who love and cherish the gift of their adoptive children... adoption is the greatest gift you can give parents who are struggling with infertility.

Cindie - 877 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) There's always adoption, and other posters are right, you CAN still go to college. Having a baby won't stop you from doing that, it'll just make it tougher is all.

prayin4pink - 877 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) you can still go to college..this doesnt have to stop you or ruin anything for you, in fact, your child can be your biggest motivation TO succeed..you will know what life is all about after you hold your little baby in your ams

nutnut - 877 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) you can still graduate, you can still go on to college. it will be harder, but in the end worth more than you know.

reila - 877 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) To add what to what the person had said below. Can you imagine yourself getting an abortion. I think if you did get one you would regret it from listening to your message. I was 18 going on 19 when I got pregnant with my son Aidan. I cannot imagine life without him. I'm in college right now. Don't let anything or anyone make you feel you would have to get rid of a baby. This is your life and your body. And this is the only chance this baby will get to live. Do you think you can live with the fact you took that baby's only chance away for that child to live? If you can then do it. Its your body. If you can't then its as simple as that. Don't get rid of the little one. I hope you find the answer you need. But try to imagine your life in five years and what do you see.

megandgrace - 877 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Of course its possible for you to go to law school, it will be extremely hard work but if you put your mind to it anything is possible. I am a single mother to my daughter Grace. I was 20 when i had her and in my junior year of college. I went back to classes 2 weeks after i had her because i had to. School was important to our future together. I graduated college when she was 16 months old. Now i am working and plan to go onto graduate school in 2 years to get my master's degree. When i first found out i was pregnant i did not have the support of my family because they wanted me to take the easy way out because i was going to be a single mother. I made the choice without their support at the time that i was keeping my baby. They gradually came around and actually were excited about the idea of me having a baby. For my mom, one of the conditions that i can stay and live with her was that i finished college and make something of myself. You may be surprised by your parents support, yes it will be hard on them at first but they are your parents and they love you. It is not going to be easy as a young mother but being a mother at anytime in your life is not going to be easy. You have the strength in you to make the right decision for you. Trust yourself with what you feel is the right thing to do for you.