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partnerity test or not
Added: 874 days ago.
Added by: onemoremakes3
Section: General.
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i have a friend who has a child that is 8 yrs old and now all of a sudden mom wants to take him to court for child support even tho he has been paying her directly for those 8 yrs he loves his child but the child doesnt not favor him or the mom and his family thinks he should take a test before he signs the paper i told him it depends on what he feels LADIES do you think it would be right for him to ask for a test after all those years ??????

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Soon2beMom - 872 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i believe if she takes him to court that do a test any way.. not 100% sure though. but i think so

sheenat3 - 873 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) in addition to what everyone else has said I know in GA there has been a case where a man was proven to not be the father but still had to pay child support since he had been claiming the child beforehand. good luck!

rhiannarussell - 873 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hey there. I just saw a question you had listed about your friend and his issue with child support and paternity test. My hubby has a child with a previous relationship. for five years they did everything without the courts. Which bit us in the Ass. :( Because my hubby wasnt paying child support through the court and didnt have his visitation through court, when his child got abused, we couldnt get him. I dont know where you live but in the state of WA, we have whats called a parenting plan. Which has her visitation described and his, and child support and any other details like who makes the major decisions. He should look into that. If he wants to have a relationship with the child and ends up not being the father...Im sure it will be very hard for him to get any rights with the child, unless i think she agrees to this. Like i said my hubby couldnt get custody of his child WHEN abuse happened, and CPS was involved because in the court system he was the Alleged father. He had no rights, until we took this process called petition for Establishment of Parentage. PLEASE tell him to look into this. Like his family i think said...just in case..she says no for him seeing the child. Its just better for the kid and father. If he has a birth certificate with the father on it, that should work fine...but if not. He most likely will have to take a dna test. My hubby regrets not doing those 5 yrs in court, because it REALLy screwed us. We have been with a lawyer for almosy a yr now, and JUSt now got rights...but it will be a lot different with your friends situation because our involved abuse, and other complications. We always paid child support...well, she TRYED sueing us for 5 yrs of back child support. But because we kept reciepts she lost that one. :) Im not a professional just have experienced some things! TELL him good luck...

onemoremakes3 - 873 days ago thabk you all ladies your comments have help him out alot and he thanks ya as well.

sheework - 873 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think it depends on a few things. Will the relationship he has with the child change if he isn't the father? And is he prepared for the answer? If he still plans on being the father figure then why get the test? I mean he hasn't had an issue paying all these years why is it when he might be required to he changes him mind and that isn't his kid. I think it's unfair to the child. I also think he needs to talk to the mom and figure out why she is now requesting support through the courts.

xanthe - 873 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) yes, why not? its good to know for sure, especially if the baby was made in a relationship where there could have been unfaithfulness. it doesn't mean he doesn't love the child. but, you know the mom could be a b*tch and tell the child, daddy askes for a paternity test because he doesn't want you. but i would hope that wouldn't happen!

mother649808 - 874 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) That is a tough situation to be in. My DH doesn't believe that his 1st son (from a previous marriage) is his. His ex said he's not but since the child is 13 we decided to just pay the child support. It wasn't worth it to us to damage his self esteem to do that to him. Besides him and his dad are pretty close. We figure we will tell him when he's much older. That's just our experience!

oskygirl31 - 874 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Me personally...if a father thinks there may be a doubt then I would have no problem for him asking..my daughters dad believed his family that I cheated on him..so he ended up getting a dna test done..it proved she was his...lol. But I had no problem..but if a mother objects to it..then to me there is something going on..back child support is support owed if there is a court order or FIP..which is like welfare checks. My daughters dad owes me back child support not the state but to me..he was court ordered to pay me almost $500 a month and stopped in December..so he owes me almost a year in back. and yes if there is a dna test done and he takes her to court for visitation then he can see the child. the court and the system is all messed up now days...good luck.

onemoremakes3 - 874 days ago and its not really that he is uncertain its just his family adviced him to because of legal reason but he feels that even if it came back neg that he want to still be there for her because he also takes care of her older brother even tho hes not his ... so mainly the mother doesnt let him see the kids so his family said that once the test is proven in court it may help him be able to get visition at a later time ...

onemoremakes3 - 874 days ago thanks all for ur comments ill let him know Chloe----- what is back child support????

Chloe:Laiden - 874 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I don't think he should ask for a test. BUT some states might make him take a test in order to go throug h the courts for child support. I would get him to ask a laywer and make sure she doesn't take him to court for back child support.

kikimama10 - 874 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) well aparently there was never a doubt about the child being his so a paternity test wouldnt make the situation better but at the same time if you are going to have to pay child support and have doubts that would be the perfect oppurtunity.

Julianna - 874 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I don't know. That is a tough call. If he is uncertain, he should do the test. If it doesn't matter to him then don't do it. Dan's brother was gong to have to pay child support for his 8 year old daughter, but mom never put his nameon the birth certificate...so they HAD to hav a test...come to find out he was NOT her father. He still sees her and dan's dad & step mom still consider her their granddaughter