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violent toddler
Added: 822 days ago.
Added by: AliciaTTCBaby2
Section: General.
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Has anyone got any tips on how we can get our 22 1/2 month old to stop being so violent, she hits, throws stuff, punches and head butts. If I smack her she gets worse. She just head butted me in the temple cause she was having a trantrum so I put her to bed and closed her door. Iv had enough I can`t even have her around other kids, she was hitting her 3 1/2 year old cousin with a bike helmet the other day and punched her 9 year old aunty in the face. I just don`t know what to do.

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mrsjmickens1 - 819 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) awww she lost her puppies....maybe shes dealing with death in her own 2yr old way :(

Its-Chelle - 821 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i have issues with my 3 yr old son. his tantrums are horrible and he hits and screams. he too does that too his older sisters for no reason. i know i need super nanny in this house, she makes things look easy. but i dont want to be on tv..lol

AliciaTTCBaby2 - 821 days ago We don't have supernanny here haha . Its not that we don't understand what she wants we can communicate perfectly , she does it when she's not allowed to have something or do something, or if another kid has something she wants or if they are in her space and annoying her. Iv started puting her in her room and closing the door. She just lost her 2nd dog in 6 weeks about 2 weeks ago and she's just been worse since, she's always been very agressive but now she's more sooker etc. I duno she also gets worse when she's bored and tired but that would be normal with any kid getting abit restless. Thanks for all your comments

RobinG - 821 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Another trick we did with our son (many kids with autism band heads so this is what we did since stopping it was impossible) was to teach him that that if he needed to head bang he had to go to a pillow or the couch and do it there where it would hurt anyone or himself. kids learn from modeling so go over and head bang the couch yourself so she visually sees it to know that is what to do. Hunter requires visual cues to learn. He rarely ever learns by verbal so make sure you model and show her what to do versus just saying it.

hunnybunnysmama - 821 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) maybe when she's not upset you could work on teaching her how to express her emotions. Teaching her sign language for these emotions can really help her understand what she is feeling. Don't just focus on mad also teach her happy and sad, etc. When she gets mad it helps if you tell her "You are mad! That makes you mad!" without mocking. After a couple goes at this she just might look at you like "BINGO Mommy! You get it!" Help her understand it's okay to be mad but not okay to hit or throw. Try and get her to stomp her feet when she's mad. You can stomp your feet while you are saying "you are mad!" Kids can learn new behaviors remarkably quick. It might take one bad example from a friend or cousin to teach her bad habits but the same goes for Mommy teaching her to act appropriately. I think Suppernanny actually has some really good tips, not giving up and being cosistant are crucial!

RobinG - 821 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Smacking her is teaching her that when you are mad it is ok ot hit so that totally defeats the purpose. She is learning what is being taught to her. My son is autistic and what I have learned is that kids lashout when they arent able to understnad, communicate or deal/adapt with things. It is very possible she is lashing out because something is wrong and she isnt able to communicate what exactly it is or she is having trouble adapting to somrething. I would begin with time outs and stop the smacking and consult your doc and perhaps have an eval to make sure there isnt an underlying issue. Get her hearing and eyes tested too to rule that out. Often that contributes to behavior issues. ((hugs)).

KFinTX - 821 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Maybe she's doing some of the headbutting (on the floor) for attention. Have you tried putting her in her room and shutting the door? It seems like if she's banging her head, she wants a reaction. If she's alone, she won't get that reaction.

mrsjmickens1 - 822 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) lol...i would watch suppernanny

AliciaTTCBaby2 - 822 days ago My df throws like her toys or something when there laying on the floor so she copys he's like a child himself most the time so she copys a lot from him. We smack her so she smacks us back but im trying not to smack her now coz its just making her worse, she tells us to go away and to shut up. She only hits or pushes other kids when there close to her and she's told them to go away and they won't so shell push them away or if they have something she wants. My 3 1/2 year old neice torments her and makes her angry and shit stirs her. Iv read stuff on how to handle them when they have tantrums but they don't seem to help. She's head butted every since I can remember, before she could even walk if she didn't get her way shed head butt the floor. Thanks for your comment, I only took her to day care for the first time last week as im worried she's ganna hurt someone.

AmberRamirez - 822 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am sorry about the anger your daughter is showing. I know that every child is different, and they just don't know how to express there anger. It's just like some people don't know how to express love. Kid's are so vulnerable, and what they see is what they do. I never hit my daughter or spank her because she thinks its ok to do to others. I am not saying she wont pick it up somewhere else. I work at a daycare and I see kids express there anger in ways that is normal. Biting (when kids are getting in their space), hitting (when there toddler rule is not being followed), and screaming, pinching, and kicking. It is all in helping them release their anger. All that we can do at that point is just redirect them to another toy, or cuddle them. The kids that get hurt are also cuddled. My daughter throws her self, bites us, hits us, and throws things at us. She is almost 13 months. It's sad to see her express her anger like that. I just give her a new toy she hasnt seen in a while telling her to stop hitting me. Because the more you use Stop rather then no is going to help you. I will tell you why. Stop tells the child that what they are doing is not ok, it also helps them understand to tell other people to stop that are bugging them. No, is miminmal it stops them from expressing what they really feel. Plus if you think about it. Would you rather your daughter/son say Stop to you rather then tell you no for everything? That's what I teach my daughter. She understands stop. I also sign it to her in sign language because she can show me before she speaks. Talk to your daughters ped doc and see if there is something positive that you can do to help her. Some kids are just really angry until they figure out how to express it. But I know that you are doing probably everything you can. Just remember that you are a great mom, because your child just needs help relieving her anger thats all. Talk to you soon. Good luck!