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Please help.. I need everyones advice on a coworker, and my job. PLEASE HELP!
Added: 817 days ago.
Added by: AmberRamirez
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


My Life... Has been rudely interrupted by a horrible B*TCH that is trying to take the most important things in my life. It all started two days ago. I work as a sub at a daycare, First Gear Academy. I get paid decent and I love what I do. I am around children that inspire me everyday. Well, I was in a classroom with this teacher and we were talking about biters. Because the classroom we are in are kids that are one year olds, they bite because they can`t express their anger so they bite. Well I was letting this teacher know that when I was at my other center there was this little boy that bit regularly and that one time he went to bite a child and I put my hand on his head to redirect him. Well another teacher in the classroom thought I did what I was supposed to do in the case of some child biting. So I felt good about this so I was letting her know I had experience with biters. I was also a biter myself. I was also letting her know that when I was younger that my old babysitter used to bite me back when I bit other kids to show that it hurts. She would never leave a mark but still she did it to make it shock me into not biting again. Well it worked. So I told her that my daughter is now starting to bite, she is 1 now. So I was letting her know that I didn`t believe in the whole biting the child. So I told her I made gestures to the whole biting scenero to my daughter. I would hold her arm, open my mouth and show her my teeth. Then I would lightly pat my mouth like a kiss to her arm to show her that this is biting and it hurts. I usually say oooOwwwweee. So it`s at a better understanding to her about biting. She doesn`t know what biting means you know and I was telling this teacher what helped my daughter not bite. So this teacher said she felt really uncomfortable with the conversation, yeah right. She ended up telling management that I hit that child at the other daycare, and she is concerned that my daughter and these kids are in danger. So I was let go on a temporary leave of absences. After talking to management my self they told me that this teacher called child protective services(cps) on me, and they should be contacting me shortly. It`s bull shit, because management told me that she said that I bite my child (leaving mark), and hit that child and I didnt report it. WOW! So she really fucked me. It`s her word against mine, and I feel that management is believing her. It`s not fair that I am in this boat. I am one of the best mothers around, and my daughter means more to me then anything else in the world. My life revolves around my daughter. That is why I was working to make her future better. My future looks like it is coming to an end now. I am going to school for children, and trying to become a second grade teacher, and if they believe her lies. My future with kids ENDS NOW. CPS is going to interview me and see if I am a threat to my daughter and when they see my house that is all baby proofed, and toys everywhere and she has no marks on her body at all she is the happiest baby ever. Then because I know that she did this intentional and I know that she doesnt like me. I am going to sue her for deformation of character, slander, intentionally interefering with my job, and pain and suffering. I have a feeling that I am going to lose my job, because she is lying. Now. I don`t know what to do. Has anyone ever dealt with this kind of thing and if so can you give me some advice to how I should go about this?

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AmberRamirez - 808 days ago THANK YOU ALL!!!! I WILL WRITE AN UPDATE TO ALL OF YOUR RESPONSES! THANKS AGAIN!

momof2boyz - 816 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow, what an awful person that coworker is, she really desirves a BIG BITE!!!! and I thought my previous coworker was the worst of all. The girls are right, you better contact the other daycare before they contact them. who would believe that an innocent chit-chat would turn to something like this... I HATE COWORKERS, thats why I left my job and am working from home, makes me feel much better knowing that no one arounds me. Best of luck and I hope all of this will turn to your favor.

mariettap - 817 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Your future with kids doesn't end now. That's silliness. You'll have your interview, where you will clear the air and the at-home mess will go away. The at-work part is going to be tougher, and you'll have to be extremely calm and composed to overcome it. Yes, document everything. You might even be able to get some advice and support from the CPS case worker during your interview about how to handle the situation at work. Your employer had to take the allegations very seriously, of course, because he/she has to answer to the parents of children. They had to demonstrate that they would investigate and shut you down if need be, or else *they* could be called upon to be investigated and shut down if they failed to catch a threat to the children. So, your successful CPS interview will carry some weight, and your consistently calm problem-solving efforts will help you get back in there. You can invite them to team you with someone who you and management both see as a positive influence and consent to observation, since you have nothing at all to hide. It will take finesse, but you can get thru this one.

amandita - 817 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Diane is right get on top of it all asap good luck ... Try to get one or more steeps ahead. Hope everything gets better for u keep us updated.

Diane-taketwo - 817 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow, sounds like someone where you work is really trying to make your life miserable. Jealousy stemming from something it seems. You need to contact a lawyer ASAP and you need to contact the other daycare to get character references for yourself. Work fast before the place you work for now undermines you again, especially if they believe her story over yours. I am sorry you are experiencing this, and I hope it gets resolved quickly.