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close in age....
Added: 724 days ago.
Added by: mommysprice
Section: General.
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okay ladies i need your help i was told by a good friend of mine tonight that i should not have had my kids so close in age that i was not givng them the attention they need because my DD is 4 my DS is 2 and my youngest is now 4 months..... and that is is not fair to them for me to have had them so clse together.. i am really uset have i done my kids wrong? I want your honest opinions

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secondandexcited - 721 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No, it's not wrong to have kids close in age! My DD's are 14 months apart and I love it! They will always have someone to play with, and they'll be best friends when they are older. IMO I think it's better that they can play with the same toys instead of an older child having to play with baby toys or vice versa just so they can interact!

hannahe - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) thats not even that close in age, whatever ignore them because they dont know how much attention you give them. my kids like having each other to play with. lots of people have kids close together...each of mine are 19 months apart. there are benefits to having them far apart but there are also benefits to having them close together, since you cant change anything now (and probably dont want to) just focus on the good things and ignore people who are negative.

homebirthmama - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i completely agree with CroninS and Heidismummy and the rest...It may be a tad difficult in the beginning, but the benefits of having kids close in age lasts a lifetime for them. I am sure you give them enough attention. In fact, when they have one another to occupy them, it's much easier on you and them! I plan on doing the very same thing. best of luck to you!

jastinel - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) hi i think if you are able to have kids taht close i think its a good idea they will always have someone to play with they will be good friends,and its easier on you coz then they always have each other to occupy when you need to cook clean things like that,

xidja - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) agree with what everyone else is saying. and if u have more than one child regardless of how close in age u will have to split your attention among them. mine will b about 20 months apart and i think its great cuz they will grow up close in age and probably have a lot of the same interests and be able to keep each other occupied too. some people just dont know when to keep their mouth shut!

*happiestmommy* - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) She doesn't even have kids? Well then she doesn't get an opinion. Point blank, period.

vickiessecret - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Well my daughter will be only 19 months old when I have my 2nd..if I go to my due date. When their close in age, they can actually be playmates and be friends. There's no rule saying how far apart your children should be...We would have like to have them alittle further apart..but what can we do lol... They'll grow up closer and actually be able to play with one another :)

mommysprice - 723 days ago oh ladies thank you so much for making me feel better i wouldnt change having them 2 years apart for the world i just wanted some unbiased input :) oh i should also add that my friend does not even have kids !!!!!

klee88 - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i think she was wrong to say that my son is going to b 13 months old when i have this baby i think its good to have them close together they can grow up 2 gether there is 14 months between me and my brother and we are so close x

T3POandR2D2 - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) And, by saying this, what did she expect to accomplish?? It's not like you can time travel!

mylittleman - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) NO! I don't even know your friend but I feel insulted, as YOU should too. while it might not be right for her, it is obviously right for YOU and many other women. My 2 are 17 months apart. I LOVE IT! So do they. They play together and my son "helps" with the baby and we are already learning about sharing and being a "big boy" and "big brother". Also like someone else mentioned, it's great for family outings. The kids are into the same things!

juels101 - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Goodness no! I have three close in age, and make sure I given them their individual attention, but we do so much together as a family and all love it. Not to mention they already play together and love it (the older two, new one is only 1mo). I got pregnant 4mo pp so my younger two are barely a year apart, and so far it is great! That is her opinion, it's not right for her to say something like that to you, because it's not true! You know your family, you know what you can handle, and maybe for some it's too much but that is your decision, and one she can hold judgement on.

Proudmomma3x - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) That would be the end of the friendship if it were me. I am not a fan of to close but that is ME, not others. And she has no right to judge you on your choice of something she feels differently about. I would tell her that she isnt a friend anymore and be done with her.

canadababy - 723 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) That's ridiculous, don't listen to her! Our 2 are going to be 18months apart and I've been told by so many people that it's great to have them so close together. Regardless of what you or she thinks, what are you going to do about it now, lol?? It's not like you can say, you're right and go back in time and decide not to have them so close together....completely rude for her to say that. All you can do is parent them the best you can :)

heidismummy - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) what a rude friend. who does she think she is forcing her opinion on you as if her opinion is the 'right' way of thinking! i have 3 siblings, all close in age around 2 years or less apart and i LOVED that growing up. i think its so nice to have that bond because you are close in age and are therefore into the same things and have those best friends by your side. i have a sister-in-law who is like this, she says its mean and she wouldnt even consider another until her first is 4 years old and in school. i can see how it is easier when one is in school and you have that restbite to care for the other one, but i honestly think women who are so strong on it that its somehow 'wrong' are just purely jealous. perhaps your friend would like more but her partner is adamant he doesnt, or maybe she has been trying and had difficulty. either way i do think it sounds like your friend is jealous, what could possibly be wrong with siblings being close in age and enjoying the same things whilst growing up!! im afraid some women have the green eyed monster and your friend is one of them!

missymoo777 - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my boys are 12 and 7. Neither boys were planned. I always thought though having them far apart was better. but seriously, get the poo, nappies, teething and all the other nasties away all at the same time. it will be hard work but when you have them far apart its so much harder. Youll have heaps of other issues when they are far apart. You cant go do the same activites with them because they are such different stages of their lives it limits you in what you can do with them and keep themboth happy...

CroninS - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh and now I have a 10 year old step daughter too!

CroninS - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My daughters are 13, 11 and 10. We are expecting now. The best thing I did for my girls is have them close. They are close enough in age they can go places together, hangout, share friends and have somebody to play with. I agree with Holly that was rude of your friend to push her opinion on you. My best friends kids are exactly 13 months apart and that works for them. It is whatever works for your family!

Holly28 - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow that was really rude of your friend to push her OPINION onto you so strongly. That is just what it is an opinion. It's not a fact hun. My OPINION is that two years between siblings is a good age. It's what we are aiming for. Each to their own. If having your kids 2 years apart works for your family then there is no problem.

geobaby - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) no they are almost all 2 years apart that seems fine/average to me. I know someone who's kids are 11 months apart now that is too close in my mind

T3POandR2D2 - 724 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No! This is what is best for your family! Some people can't handle giving attention to children close in age, sounds like your friend is one of them. But, that doesn't mean YOU are doing wrong because you can handle it!