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paternity tests while baby in womb!?!? Safe or no!?
Added: 1139 days ago.
Added by: nightowl22
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I heard that paternity tests can be dangerous while the baby is still in the womb... but ive also heard that there are 5000 things that can be dangerous/unhealthy and as long as you are as healthy as u can be... i KNOW for a fact that my man is the father... he`s the only one ive been with since we started our relationship! but he has crazy trust issues and didnt think he could even have kids so when i turned up pregnant his insecurities are through the roof! shouldnt `I` be the one freaking out? i am very defensive when he brings this up. its completely ridiculous to me... that he wants to risk mine and the babies health to put himself at ease.... what do you guys think?? im only 7wks along but he wants to get a paternity test asap...



JadieLadie - 1136 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I knew nothing about even being able to get a Paternity Test from the Womb. From what I've read, it does sound risky, and I personally wouldn't risk any hard to my baby, especially when *I* KNOW who the Father is. It must hurt that he doesn't believe you, but it's something you'll have to get through until the Baby comes out. It's a damn shame your Boyfriend feels this way, cuz that's a huge stress on you! Good luck with it all :)

3s-a-crowd - 1137 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) 1. you are beautiful 2.DO NOT let a guy insult you like that! You should tell him to hit the road! you may care now how he feels, but the moment you look in that sweet baby's eyes, its not going to matter to you if he thinks hes the dad or not. you know thats all that matters ;) keep your head up!

nightowl22 - 1138 days ago i really appreciate all of your feedback... thank u so much for the advice and support. i am truly heartbroken that he is fighting his part in this pregnancy so hard. i love him and am and was faithful to him. hes expressed that he is terrified of all this and i understand. patience comes and goes tho, i do my best to keep it together... i just want a family. the baby is coming whether he likes it or not and im gunna be the best mom i can with or without him. i am strong and have faith and am not alone. love u ladies!

nightowl22 - 1138 days ago i really appreciate all of your feedback... thank u so much for the advice and support. i am truly heartbroken that he is fighting his part in this pregnancy so hard. i love him and am and was faithful to him. hes expressed that he is terrified of all this and i understand. patience comes and goes tho, i do my best to keep it together... i just want a family. the baby is coming whether he likes it or not and im gunna be the best mom i can with or without him. i am strong and have faith and am not alone. love u ladies!

kdclark - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) No one in my area does DNA testing while in the womb. I was going to have to go somewhere in South Carolina, I live in Virginia!!! I would not have done the chronic villias (sp?) dna test or the amnio because they both have high risks and it just wasn't important enough to me, I know I will love the child no matter who the father is. The fetal cell test was what I wanted but it was too expensive and like I said no one around here offered it. I asked my OB office about all 3 and they got me the contact info for the place in SC but I never called them because it was too far away.

emma32uk - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) a friend of mine had the same situation........ she got with a guy who had been married for years (then divorced) and he never fathered a child, the reason for the divorce min the first place, anyway as i said he got with my friend, told her he couldnt have children, he had even had tests in the past......well to cut a long story short, she got pregnant, and he didnt believe the baby was his, caused alot of problems. then the baby was born and it was his, so it happens, even men with fertility problems have the odd good little swimmer.please dont get an amnio, you know the answer anyway, so its just tooooo risky. good luck and keep us posted xxx

Jessica ! - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow, that would kill me if my boyfriend didn't beleive me but it probably also because all this is happening so fast and he can't beleive he is going to be a dad. He might just be scared. But i guess they have a right I mean that would suck if he found out the baby wasnt his when the baby is an adult, that would be sad you wouldn't beleive how many woman lie about it being the right mans baby and some men neverfind out the baby is not theirs. Maybe just do it when the baby is born! DO NOT do it right now! VERY DANGEROUS, kick him tothe curb if ypou tell him the risks and he still wants to go through with it. GL :)

leighsamarie - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I wouldn't do it either and as kirbys2nd said below you have more patience then me..I would be super pissed that my boyfriend is thinking that I sleep around and don't even know the father of my child..Personally I would not even waste my time on a guy who does not have trust in me and would want to risk his childs life because of his own insecurities..Do what you want you are this childs mother..If you don't want to risk you and your childs life then DON'T do it..

Eoins*Mammy11 - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) well i think its obvious you dont want to put yourself or the baby in any danger. You have to make this clear to your man! i mean my lad boyfriend didnt believe he could get me pregnant or have babies so didnt believe for some time that he was the dad but we had a 3D scan and our little boy has the same chin lips ears cheeks and eyes as my boyfriend!!! i mean they are the image of each other! he only has my nose as far as the scan can tell!! that put my boyfriend right and thugh it took a while, his insecurities are gone about it and with less than 2 weeks left he cant wait to hold his little boy! so what im saying is he either wants this baby or he doesnt and tell him that you wouldnt lie about something like this! you cant get a paternity test until the baby is 5 months in your womb anyway and the procedure is not risk free. The baby could be killed as a direct result of this procedure. Approximately one in every two hundred pregnancies in which this test is performed is lost as a result. Its also really expensive and tell him its not worth it because hes the dad anyway!! sorry for going on but hope all goes well and he eventually believes you!!!=]

leagia - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Plus the fact that he just 'thinks he can't have kids' is kinda rediculous! I used to think this too, about myself! Boy was I WRONG. He can more easily/safely get tested for fertility than the other option.

leagia - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm pretty sure its an amniosentisis(sp) they do to get an acurate paternity result. I think u have 1/300 chances of having a miscarriage from this. They stick a huge needle in your belly to withdraw amniotic fluid. It can really stress the baby out too! I bet your BF is just freaked out about becoming a father and all the responsiblity. I personally would not go through with the test. Good luck :) and congrats!!

kirbys2nd - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wow you are a much more patient woman than I would be. That is unacceptable if you ask me! MEN!!!

anotheryummymummy - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Fetal cell tests are expensive....also not yet that widely available, not all doctors will offer them especially for non medical reasons......amnio and chorionic villus sampling have about 1% chance of miscarriage. Doesn't seem worth it when you already know the answer!! These are your partner's insecurities.....you shouldn't have to possibly risk your baby's health and/or pay lots of money. If he's really that worried test after baby is born. If you give in and have the test it may temporarily solve the current insecurity issue but he will still have underlying insecurities and find something else to be paranoid somewhere down the line. Maybe he could go to his doctor and ask for them to check his sperm and confirm whether he is fertile or not......

Ana [plus] 3 - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would not recommend an amniocentesis; however there is a safe alternative, a fetal cell test... I had this done with my son at 14 weeks [13 is the earliest it can be done] and it doesn't harm the baby at all. Talk to your doctor about it, or if you have any more questions, feel free to ask me. For basic info; http://www.dnaplus.com/fetal_cell_prenatal_paternity_test.htm

kelboo - 1139 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) NOOOO! Do NOT do it! In order for them to do a paternity test they will give you an amniocentesis. This is where they numb your tummy and stick a needle through your belly into the womb and into the sac. There are multiple things wrong with this. 1. It can cause severe damage to the baby. If the baby moves suddenly for any reason it can puncture vital organs that are undeveloped which can cause death and miscarriage to your baby. 2. They can puncture the babies spinal cord and cause paralysis, or possibly cause down syndrome or other diseases or learning disabilities in the future. 3. It can cause severe infection to you, and cause again, death or miscarriage to your baby or Y-O-U. Most doctors will not even do amneo's unless you are testing for down syndrome over the 13th week of your pregnancy. These can also cost up to $5000!!! Its NOT worth it baby safe wise, YOUR safe wise, or your wallet wise.... Just wait. There is a place called "Any Lab Test Now." They do paternity tests for $200 in babies 2 days old and UP. Results are back within 3-5 business days and are available online and through the mail.