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tubes tied
Added: 558 days ago.
Added by: beyond3blessed
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


this is my 3rd child and everyone is asking is this your last or are you getting your tubes tied .I feel kind of offended by the question because i have all my kids ,im not on any kind of drugs,and i dont ask anyone to keep them. Is anyone feeling the same about that question ?? I dont wanna have alot of kids but i dont want anyone to force me into getting my tubes tied either.

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julz - 557 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I get asked this question ALL THE TIME..it's so annoying!! I am 30 and have 6 children, so believe me people always ask me if I know what causes that or if I got my tubes tied yet (like it's any of their business) or if I'm trying to catch up to my mom & dad (they have 7 kids); Me and my hubby are high school sweet hearts, we've been together for 14 years, we both have good jobs, we don't get any assistance and our children are taken care of by us, so who are they to say when I should be done having kids. Life is too unpredictable for me so I am not ready to take that final plunge to make it permanent...I will think more about it in about 5 years, then if I know for a fact I am done having kids, I will tie my tubes...but I will be the one to make the decision.

farramh - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hi, I'm 39 and having my 8th child 11 pregnancy. i didn't imagine we would have 8 children however I never felt I was finished having children and wouldn't want it any other way. When it comes to feeling pressured about sterilisation or contraceptives we get the odd jokes from people we know however not really others. When it comes down to the crucnch, it is knowbodies business and if they can't be happy for you don't bother with them. Obviously if family is supporting financially, your family that's different but if your self sufficient and can finacially support yoiur choice I would say they could go jump and tell them not to be so rude. We just had our 20th anniversary and are all of our own children.

beyond3blessed - 558 days ago Thanks ladies for the answers, I'm 29 and this is my 3rd .my oldest is 9 and my lil one is 4, so now everyone think that i'll be having one every 5 years but with this one I really wanted to have another one before i turned 30. I take care of my own all of them if i choose to have anymore .I dont think im going to have my tubes tied because maybe 5 years from now i jus might wanna have another on lol ...thanks again ladies now i dont feel so alone with being asked that question

kellyg1 - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I am 27 years old and just had my 3rd baby in August. i am always told that pretty soon i'll have a whole football team and if I know that birth control exists. I try ignore all the rude things people say but it just pisses me off. My husband is a registered nurse, I am not on any type of assistance and I take care of all my kids myself. I think it's your choice and no one should force you into doing something you don't want.

faybebaby - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) ttc6th- thats brilliant answer! i've not had comments quite so direct but people have made remarks to us too. im 24 and this will be our 3rd. we are happily married and both work and support and look after our family unaided. my bro was like "2 wasnt enough then" and my in laws were shocked when i said this is PROBABLY our last, they were like probably?? we said we'd love more but financially this is our last but if we find ourself in a better position in 5 years time we would still consider another! i dont think anyone has the right to judge or assume and i totally understand why you'd feel offended. ignore them hun!

ttc6thbaby - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i have 5 birth children and 3 step kids so i get asked this alot and all i say is "yes i know what causes babies and im getting quite good at it actually, thanks for asking!" If i can raise my own as well as 3 from another women, i have the right to decide when enough is enough!

mummy-tonya (PINK) - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) lol people have given up asking me (im on my 9th pregnancy, 6th baby) its pees me off bigtime when stangers say it, so i know how you feel, but least family are bored of asking lol

sandoval2009 (pink) - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I been getting this question alot!!! or more than asking some people assume other things..They tell me "oh now you can get your tubes tied" or "You better get your tubes tied" or some other retarded remark. This is my third and they have been back to back and its hard, I wont lie but irregardless I take care of my kids, I work, and they have absolutely everything they need plus more. They are all from the same dad and I dont ask anyone to do anything for me and im not on any fiancial assistance so I dont understand why people care.. I am 24 and young still. I think I am done and we think SO is getting a vasectomy but really in the end we are going to make the final decision. dont let anyone push you any which way and I completely disagree with people not having more than 3 kids..We have 4 total with SO 7 year old daughter. My family has either 2-10 kids.. There are only a handful with 2 kids but the rest have 3 or more. Kids are a blessing and when you get asked that just say "IDK we havent decided yet since there are sooo many years ahead of us, I am not sure If I want to make that decision just yet"

December2011 - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) As long as you can afford them and take good care of them, they shouldnt get in your business. And you sholdnt worry about it. just ignore their stupid question. The dr the other visit asked me if i wanted my tubes tied and to let him know. I was like, reallY? this is my 2nd child and im only 23 yrs old. Geeeez. =O. **Now, i know this lady who is on disability , her and her husband both are, shes 28 yrs old and has 4 kids and CANNOT take care of them without her husband watching them. She and her husband struggle to find a home and cant take care of those kids right. She and him are totally dependant and just got pregnant AGAIN. Now that, she totally needs her tubes tied. OMg. I feel like asking her everytime i see her. lol

plantlvr07 - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I can see where it would be annoying, but I don't think that (Most) people mean it quite that way. It's just that many families nowadays don't have more than 3 kids (where the norm used to be 6 or 8 or more!), so that's just the kind of thing that they expect. Don't get me wrong, I know there are busybodies out there that think it's their place to judge you, and those kind should butt out. But most people don't mean it to be offensive.

Proudmommie2 - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know what you mean Im pregnant now with my second baby due decmeber 7th and everyone including my own mother keeps asking if im getting my tubes tied. I just dont answer them, I find it none of their bussiness and rude!!!If god blesses you with more kids great that is for you and you partner to decide not others!! Im sorry you are going through this as well.

barunka05 - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know how u feel . I had my third 7 months ago and i had to say no to that question maybe million times. Not only from "regular " people but even from nurses and doctors. I had third c- section so i'am not really planning on having more but didn't want to make the "final cut". I was actually quite annoyed how people were surprise at my NO answer.

krystasappleseed - 558 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) beyond3blessed, i get quite annoyed when others make comments to me about how if i want 4 kids or 6 that this is to many kids. well this certainly is there opinion. i am on my third and i dont appreciate their comments either. i too dont ask for anything from anyone so there for its none of there business. if i was presented with ur qiestion by someone i would frankly answer that all your children are a blessing and well whether you and your husband decide to be done or not thats between the two of you. this is one subject i get quite annoyed with. sorry but other people think it is there business. if this doesnt seem like something you could say you could always answer with: why are you looking to adopt or im sorry we wont be giving any children away :) you would have to judge the situation