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Did you smoke while you were pregnant? Or did you quit? Views?
Added: 932 days ago.
Added by: Wiandi
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I`m really interested to hear what you ladies have to say about this question. And please, do not slant or be rude to mommies who have. What do you gain from that? I`m really just curious... I red a blog on that just now, and I wondered what you guys thought?



spanishminx - 929 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was smoking one to one and half packs a day until I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks. I got the test results on a friday and carried on smoking until the exact moment I was able to tell my boyfriend on sunday, who's a marine deployed abroad, after which I had a last one to relax from the tremendous amount of stress I'd been under for that entire weekend. I quit completely the next day and haven't had a cig since. I'll admit that having my boyfriend abroad for the whole pregnancy as well as a very stressful job has made me positively long for one at times, but I've held strong, knowing it's better for the baby's health. I will be 38 weeks tomorrow. Does it make me a terrible person that I am already looking forward to having just that one glass of chilled white wine and a cigarette while sitting on the porch outside once the baby's there? I know lots of mothers who kept right on smoking during their pregnancy, though less, and had perfectly healthy babies. In fact, even my doctor told me she'd rather i just cut back on smoking instead of quitting, as the withdrawal symptoms can cause your baby even more stress than the actual smoking does. I think every woman copes with it in her own way, and none of us have the right to judge. Is it better to quit? Definitely. But it's the mom's own choice, just like breast-feeding or not is too.

mobuy - 931 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Congratulations to those mommies who stopped or dramatically cut back when they found out they were pregnant! I think being aware of the potential dangers is the first step, and reducing or eliminating smoking is a great thing to do.

I do want to remind everyone, too, that children's lungs are not designed for smoke, and not picking it up again and/or reducing your young child's exposure to smoke is just as important as not smoking while pregnant. So, keep it up and do your best!


denise1987*pink* - 931 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) oh and i am currently not smoking!

denise1987*pink* - 931 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) im a smoker with my first i quit when i was 13 weeks when i went to the doc my blood pressure was high and everything was going wrong for me he put me in a medicial trail mothers smoking versus mothers that quit and mothers that never smoked there were 30 of us taking part the ones that carried on smoking had less blood pressure problems etc than those that quit though the ones that smoked right through had low birth weight and the ones that quit went in to earlier labour of course the mothers that were smoke free completely generally were ok but if you were a smoker when pregnant you face two options and two problems either quit and deal with stress and problems of quiting or carry on and hope for the best i think its each to there own i wont lie with this pregnancy ive a few cigs but usually on the occ were im stressed to the max ie was told i was misscarrying was told the baby wasnt growing right etc etc im now 28 weeks pregnant my baby is measuring right on track and already heavier than my son was at this stage my son every person is different its ok to have an opinion but i dont think its ok to judge ppl by there decisions this was asked as a discussion not to start trouble im sure all mummys agree

mummy2lucas - 931 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my1stpeanut- i think im not alone in saying we couldn't give to cruds about your "opinion" oh and im not angered by your comment i just find your complete pigheadedness and ignorance astounding!we all came on here admitted that we smoked only for you to say that if we knowingly smoke for even ONE day we shouldn't have children?! let me ask have you EVER had to go cold turkey at anything?huh probably not your ignorance can tell me that and before you go with the whole-im ignorant think,YES we all know what we were doing by smoking we don't need you to come along and tell us "your speaking for our babies" or that we basically "don't deserve our children"??!! dont speak for my baby-believe me you and your arrogance,ignorance horrible nature can stay well away from speaking "for" him.he is very healthy in the year he has been here NEVER been ill ONCE! lets say i said to you you didnt deserve children cos u were overweight,or had ever had depression of any kind, how would that make you feel?!! anyways you haven't ruined my day you just made it better-made me so grateful (again) for all the truly wonderful,understanding and kind people in this world and in my life! this is just my opinion of course :) have yourself a nice day now

bcalove82 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The truth of the matter is most moms who smoke already hate themselves for it. Most addicts do a need help to stop. Real help. I feel like the people who offer advice about how to stop or offer a means to get help are more effective at saving babies that a million ranters.Ranters can actually make moms too afraid to get help out of shame.

bcalove82 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Are you really defending them by making vulnerable insecure people worse? I think it is achieving the opposite....like putting the gun in the hands of a suicidal person. In the end, you have to choose the actions that get the best results, or else you are achieving the opposite of what your intentions are. Think about what you truly want to achieve and then act in a way that will truly help. Being contrary achieves very, very little.

my1stpeanut! - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) The only woman that are angry by my comment are obviously mothers who smoked while pregnant, of course you have all rights to defend your actions. Just like I have all rights to defend babies in bellies that cant speak for themselves. Its my opinion - thats all folks :) and like I said dont let it ruin your day!

bcalove82 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I do think if I were smoking and read that someone thought I was a horrible mother I would smoke more instead of less. Feeling down, insecure, and horrible made my cravings worse because cigarettes were my pacifier. That's what it is..a physical addiction mashed with a coping mechanism. Pregnant women need encouragement to quit, the possitive kind. You smoking moms out there, you ARE strong enough to quit. Moms are the mist kick- ass, strongest people on earth. I was( am?) The biggest weenie in the world. If I can do it you can. One slip up does not put you back at square one, either( sometimes a slip up made me smoke more ti nurse my failure,lol. I would have been fine. Just proceed on schedule one hour at a time .) One thing I did was give them up from earliest to latest. I could easily wait it out " until later." Eventually I knocked it out to one at night. Then I took benadryl and went to bed before the time for the night cig. It worked for me.....worth a shot, right?

englishmama(rubes) - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I will add, with my first I never craved a single cigarette after quitting -- until a whole lotta sh!t hit the fan like a year after I quit. Then I resumed smoking. When I quit during my 2nd pregnancy -- well, like a year later, I'm stilll dtruggling with cravings. It's willpower alone to be smoke-free keeps me going. If I wasnt breastfeeding, I'm sure Id have caved long ago!!!

englishmama(rubes) - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It was only up to about 20 years ago that smoking in pregnancy was linked to high blood pressure and pregnancy complications. My mother cut down when pregnant with me, as her dr said the stress would cause complications (she already had complications, so the doctors didnt want to risk further problems). Anyways, women have smoked and had perfectly fine and dandy pregnancies and labours and babies throughout history. I smoked with both babies, but quit with both too, and so far so good.

kandiegirl86 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I think it's very harsh to go as far as to say "if you smoke after you find out your pregnant, you shouldn't have children. That would be the same as me saying, since you have an attitude like you do, maybe YOU shouldn't have children. ANYWAYS... I was a smoker the first time I got pregnant. I cut back drastically and was done smoking by 8 weeks, with my second I quit when I found out, and now my third I had already quit a year before getting pregnant. I do not judge anyone who does, because they are well aware that it would be better for them and for baby to quit..BUT they have to do it on their own time, not because some stranger tells them to. It's enough with the stresses of pregnancy, and knowing what should/needs to be done that im sure they do not need someone elses ignorance putting them down.

ceandrusis (BLUE) - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have never been a smoker so it was never an issue for me. I do know that when my grandmother was pregnant with my mother (it was her 3rd pregnancy), her doctor told her to smoke so she wouldn't gain as much weight as she did with her first 2. Obviously, a different time then and dr's didn't know the risks. I don't know how much she smoked but my mom was the only one she smoked with out of 5 pregnancies and my mother was always sickly. She had lots of illnesses growing up, kidneys, etc, was diagnosed with cancer at age 36, and passed away at 53. None of her siblings were as sickly and we have no other family history of cancer. So it's hard for me not to attribute it at least partially to the smoking. Now she was also the only one of five that wasn't breastfed so that may have had an impact too. She was very small and had problems latching; probably from the smoking. They say immune systems are developed most from the womb-5 years of age and that period will affect the health for the rest of your child's life. Obviously no one is perfect and it's not a perfect world and cutting back is a big accomplishment but large amounts of nicotine do affect developing babies.

ceandrusis (BLUE) - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I have never been a smoker so it was never an issue for me. I do know that when my grandmother was pregnant with my mother (it was her 3rd pregnancy), her doctor told her to smoke so she wouldn't gain as much weight as she did with her first 2. Obviously, a different time then and dr's didn't know the risks. I don't know how much she smoked but my mom was the only one she smoked with out of 5 pregnancies and my mother was always sickly. She had lots of illnesses growing up, kidneys, etc, was diagnosed with cancer at age 36, and passed away at 53. None of her siblings were as sickly and we have no other family history of cancer. So it's hard for me not to attribute it at least partially to the smoking. Now she was also the only one of five that wasn't breastfed so that may have had an impact too. She was very small and had problems latching; probably from the smoking. They say immune systems are developed most from the womb-5 years of age and that period will affect the health for the rest of your child's life. Obviously no one is perfect and it's not a perfect world and cutting back is a big accomplishment but large amounts of nicotine do affect developing babies.

bcalove82 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) To be honest I smoked a whole pack the day I found out I was pregnant with my first. It was a very stressful day. I had one when my then boyfriend now husband and I had a really big fight. My baby was fine but I had problems. I smokef for ten years and it took a toll. I took it ip again after I had the baby but quit afterwards. It has been about two years since my last cigarette. I hardly miss it.

clare34 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Wiandi-I am nearly 7 weeks pregnant. I gave up smoking about 5 days after I found out. It is hard, very hard! However I am using an electronic cigarette, that has a small rechargable battery, which has a very small amount of nicotine in it. It even allows you to "blow out smoke" which is only water vapour. Without this I am not sure I could not have done it. They are called Skycig-have a look online. Good luck :)

sarahlj - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I smoked up until I found out I was pregnant with my son in May 2008. I quit cold turkey just two days before I found out I was pregnant. For me, being pregnant helped me to stay off the cigerettes. I fell pregnant after TTC 18 months with my son and I smoked when TTC. Now I don't smoke and have been TTC for 3 years. I thought not smoking would help and I would conceive quicker but no luck. I refuse to smoke for the sake of any future pregnancies I may have though. I know people who smoked all through there pregnancies though.

ladykilla421 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I quit cold turkey when I was pregnant with my eldest daughter, I resumed smoking while I was in labor. With my 2nd child I quit without continued success and resumed smoking at 28 weeks, at which point I smoked 1-2 cigarettes a day, some days I only had a puff or two. I struggled alot with my nicotine addiction and felt tremendously guilty everytime I would light up. I discussed it with my physician and he told me that the risks associated with me smoking were relatively low given I barely smoked. It was a bit reassuring but I still felt guilty. I feel bad about doing it, but I cannot change the past. Thankfully my daughter was born happy and healthy and not preterm.

cowgirlmama10 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hello, I JUST found out about three days ago that im 8 weeks pregnant! I was a pertty heavy smoker (1-1.5 packs a day) but now everytime i even pick up a smoke i get sick to my stomach. I just cant bare the thought that im KNOWINGLY hurting my child. Ive waited so long for this blessing, i wont mess this up. So ive completely quit. Now i have heard that smoking isnt THAT bad for your baby but if its bad for you..its bad for the baby... Again it is your choice but i shared with you my POV. ..Good luck!

cloe_hardway2001@yahoo.com - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) wow you guys are pretty mean i smoke less then 10 a day like im doc told me to and im 39 weeks and she is perfect.. so why be so mean to someone askin a ?

cowgirlmama10 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hello, I JUST found out about three days ago that im 8 weeks pregnant! I was a pertty heavy smoker (1-1.5 packs a day) but now everytime i even pick up a smoke i get sick to my stomach. I just cant bare the thought that im KNOWINGLY hurting my child. Ive waited so long for this blessing, i wont mess this up. So ive completely quit. Now i have heard that smoking isnt THAT bad for your baby but if its bad for you..its bad for the baby... Again it is your choice but i shared with you my POV. ..Good luck!

mahihkan - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I personally dont smoke, I have a friend that for both her pregnancies she smoked. And she said that to quit cold turkey is too stressful and so she cut back to 3 a day (or less on a good day). She tried quitting before falling pregnant this time and failed miserably because her bf smokes and wasnt supportive. So she didnt even try to quit when she found out she was pregnant. She does do her best to smoke as little as possible though and I find when she spends the day with me she smokes 1 all day. So as much as I dont think it is the smartest thing to do I cant judge because for some people it is not even close to being a reality when the people around you dont support you and do their best to help you. My husband smokes and ever since my first pregnancy he has smoked outside and doesnt smoke near me when we are out together... I am hoping to get him to quit lol so my children dont have to grow up with that but unfortunatly his whole family smokes and they dont care if my kids are around or even me they smoke in the house around my kids and me. We dont visit much but having said all that I honestly think there are worse things you could do to your unborn baby than smoke 3 cigarettes a day (on a bad day).

rubydarcey - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) ladies, in an ideal world women would not smoke or drink or do anything to put their babies at risk. Unfortunately life just isnt like that, and dont forget every woman is different. Quitting can be harder for some than others, everyone has different stuff going on in their lives. Lets not forget that going back many years, the dangers of smoking simply were not known so plenty of mothers smoked while carrying babies. The point is, you must just do your best. Its an addictive thing and if you can cut back from 20 a day to 3 a day then that is a massive improvement. Obviously, what the ladies on here are saying is a fact, smoking does pose a massive risk to babies in the womb and i thank God i never smoked in my life. I see everyday what it does to my mum though, she torments herself continuously because she has no will power to quit.

mrsfreeman - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I quit as soon as I found out I was pregnant with my first. Didn't think pushing horrible toxins on them was a great way to start my children's lives, but hey, to each their own! I just feel bad for the babies of moms that do.

my1stpeanut! - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Harsh is what smokers do to their babies lungs. Its selfish period! Im sorry you are offended. It wasn't directed towards YOU at all. Just an opinion, please dont let it ruin your day :)

mummy2lucas - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) my1stpeanut-WOW thats a tad harsh!you shouldnt have children if u smoke for even one day knowing that you are preg?who are YOU to judge that?!!so much for the lady who posted this asking for no rudeness or slating!huh...anyways. i smoked with my first baby,i cut right back to 2 or 3 a day but still felt so bad and have every day since!it doesn't mean anyone else loves their babies more than i love mine! BUT i did try (with limited success off and on)to quit with the help of an nhs funded quit smoking in pregnancy scheme.anyway my baby was born at 36+4 weighing 7lbs4oz i dunno if the prem birth was down to smoking or the fact that NONE of the woman on my mums side seem to carry full term?! anyway he was jaundice but other than that perfectly healthy and everyone said he was a very good weight for being so prem!also though like beckyloo said my placenta wasn't the healthiest looking one they showed it too me after and asked if i was a smoker? i was beyond mortified and felt(and still do!)terrible! i am now 8 weeks preg and quit cold turkey the day after i found out!mainly helped by the fact this time i have severe morning sickness and even the thought of smoking revoltes me!saying all this after i had my son it was stil no smoking in house no1 to touch my baby for at least 30 mins after smoking,mint,antibac handwash etc.

Davinataylor - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I quit as soon as I got a positive OPK... which was a very wise decision since I fell pregnant that same month! I really hate to see pregnant women smoking, or pushing prams and breathing smoke all over their child. It makes me sad for the child and angry at the mother. My DH's parents both smoke and laugh it off when we ask them not to smoke around me as his mom smoked through two out of three pregnancies. It drives me crazy! We have had to tell them that they will not get to see their grandson unless they come to us where we can keep an eye on them. Very sad.

mrsjmickens1 - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i quit everytime im pregnant but usually start back up monthes after i deliver but at a much smaller amount. no one including myself can smoke in my house or hold the baby aafter they just smoked. i quit smoking and my daughter was born at 36 weeks and 5lbs but no health problems now....my sister smoked thru her whole pregnancy all 3 of her kids were born healthy weight and on time but now have asthma and some ADHD, which i have read is pretty common acording to studies.

my1stpeanut! - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Its VERY selfish smoke while pregnant not to mention dangerous! It can cause problems with growth and lung development. My mother smoked with me and I have terrible asthma since childhood. Unfortunatley that didnt stop me because I picked up the habit in high school. I quit for both pregnancies and I intend to never return to the habit. Its soooo disgusting, expensive, and deadly! Trust me it was hard to quit but I had no choice because of my child! Anyone that continues to smoke even for 1 day after finding out they are pregnant shouldn't have children. I mean would you drink while pregnant? Its all the same bc it can cause lasting effects on your tiny baby! I feel 100% times better without them and now I feel sorry for the people that still smoke. I am not clear of cancer because I smoked a long time but withs Gods help I will NEVER pick one up again! :)

keegansmommie - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was a smoker for 8 years and tried to quit so many times with no luck. but the day i took a hpt and got a BFN on February 17,2011 was the day i threw my cigaretts away and never looked back. been smoke free for over a year now.

DixieMay - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know its very hard to quit.. I watched my mom struggle with it for the last few years and thank god i never smoked!! But she smoked when she was pregnant with me and my brother and we both were around 6 lbs when we where born.. Now i am 23 and my brother is 22 and we both have breathing troubles and bad allergies!! I cant blame her but it makes me wonder!!

savedbygrace - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i smoked cigarettes with my first 2 boys, even though they were both at a good birth weight, i reget every day doing it. My oldest son who is almost 7, has bad allergies and just a touch of ashma which could be from me smoking while pregnant.I quit smoking in july 2009 when I gave my life to the Lord. so thankfully to HIM Im having another boy in May, and I am smoke free. My mom smoked with both me and my sister, and my sister is 35 and never smoked, i ended up smokin as a teenager. So quitting to anyone is my advice not just because of pregnancy but for health in general. For me it was because of my testimony to the Lord, and for the sake of my kids

julz - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I quit cold turkey once I found out I was pregnant and stayed away until I was done bf'ing. Sadly I have been unable to quit forever..so once I was done bf'ing I'd start again :( For me it is alot easier to quit when you know you have someone depending on you to take care of them in the womb and you have a good reason to quit because you are growing a little miracle in you. I am still working on quitting for good, but it's a work in progress.

dollymomma - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I get frustrated when I hear stories like 'well my mom smoked with all 3 of us and we're fine'. It is still a risk. When we make the decision as women to bring a life into this world I believe its an agreement to take as good of care of that life as you can. So why would we drink/smoke knowing there are significant risks to our children as well as ourselves? When life and pregnancy is full of so many risks why smoke when its one of the few things you can actually control? BECKYLOO-the fact that you were actually able to see the effects is amazing. Thank you for sharing :) And by the way I used to smoke for many years so i'm not speaking from ignorance...I know its hard to quit.

shaunamarie - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Btw, my mother smoked and drank with all 6 of her children. Aside from all having addictive natures, all but 2 are smokers and have some type of lung trouble. 3 of us were born underweight, and I wasn't breathing when I was born. While it is possible to be totally healthy, my heart breaks for every child whose mother risked their lives or health over something as selfish as a drug (yes, nicotine is a drug) addiction.

shaunamarie - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I actually quit the month before I got pregnant (thankfully). It wasn't all that hard honestly, and I was thankful that my lil girl wasn't exposed to those horrible toxins. It's been well over a year since I quit, and I will never go back. It's important that my child/ren never be exposed to cigarette smoke. The only family near us is my husband's family and there is only one person who smokes. My family lives in NY, and most of them smoke. I am honestly happy that we live far enough away that she and my future children will not grow up around a family of smokers. I'm not judging.I understand it is hard for some/most people

beckyLoo - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I smoked my first pregnancy and my baby came out healthy, no health issues whatsoever but they showed my my placenta, Yuk!!! It was very aged and looked disgusting cuz of smoking... Next pregnancy I quit in the beginning if my 2nd trimester cuz I was worried that stress in first trimester would make me miscarry... At 13weeks I quit cold turkey :o)

mommyharts - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I smoked before each of my pregnancies & I hope to not go back to it after this baby. I found it was alot easier to quit when I got pregnant, because you have a good reason to quit...your baby :)

mummy rae day - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I was a smoker, but was lucky enough to be able to quit a long time before I got married let alone fell pregnant. It's pretty hard to quit, I couldn't imagine how hard it would be to stop if you wernt planning to. But to be honest, I do ask that people don't smoke around me but considering the only people I know that smoke are my dad and sister they are pretty happy to comply. My mum smoked with my sister and not with me, and I was the one who had asthma.

rubydarcey - 932 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I dont smoke and never have so its easy for me to say its wrong to smoke while pregnant. However, my mum smoked all through her pregnancies with my brother and I, and i know so many ladies who have done the same. I believe its such an addictive thing and people are far too quick to judge others. It must be so hard to quit anyway but during pregnancy while everything is so stressful and emotional?? well it must seem almost impossible. I think the pressure to give up can cause so much stress on a pregnant lady that it can be a very negative thing so maybe cutting right back could be a compromise. its a tricky subject.