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Homebirth with midwife?
Added: 327 days ago.
Added by: FarisMama
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


I am looking into doin a home birth with a midwife. This is our 4th child but I have never done this before. Our situation is different from our previous pregnancies so it seems like a great option for us..have any of you ladies gone through one? Pros/cons? Or even just the midwife experience. Pros/cons? Thanx!

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FarisMama - 327 days ago Thanx everyone. This lady I found had been doin this for many yrs and there wud be 2 midwives present at birth. I am half hr from a hospital so I'd b able to make it there if I needed. The OB here is weird. I'll see whoever is available for my visits and whoever is working the day of my labor delivers the baby regardless if I have seen him/her before or not! This feels very impersonal to me and I don't like it. All my children and me and my sisters were all delivered by the same doc and were continued to b seen by her for all medical reasons..this is not the case for this one since we moved :( I'll definitely do my research and this midwife I found had a free first visit so it can't hurt to check it out! Thanks again!

landgirl - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I can only speak about the care in England, UK but homebirth here is a good option and just as safe as going into hospital. I was scheduled a home birth with my first and had two midwifes in attendance that didn't interfer and let me get on with it, unfortunately he was a big boy so when he got in an awkward position head wise, I decided to go into hospital...he was born naturally there without assistance but I disliked the interference and handling...I am scheduled a home birth for my second and have no doubts i will feel more relaxed, in tune with my labour and confident that my midwifes will monitor as needed. An experienced midwife friend told me recently that labour is very instinctive and primal, to enable our bodies to do what's needed including producing all those important hormones and endorphins, we need privacy...just like a cat, dog or wild animal.. as soon as we are disturbed or interfered with, our body halts the process and so labour is delayed, mothers get tired and so the doctors give out anti labouring drugs...mothers doped, babies doped, oh what do you know, they take you for a c-section or forceps. Now I know this isn't the case always and sometimes assistance and intervention is required, however I thought what she said based on her career was interesting. Of course, do your research, you should consider how far from hospital you are and if your healthy and have no underlying issues...as for the husband not wanting the mess? Isn't this also further reinforcement that labour is somehow a clinical process? What next, 'how to look your best for your man during labour' articles?.... Sorry I waffle on..go for it, since its your 4th it should be like shelling peas... ;)

frenchie23 - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would love a homebirth!! My fiancé's cousin is a midwife and she loves doing it, our other cousin did it at home with her and said it was great!! But I'm going for VBAC so homebirth isn't really an option since complications may arise, I need to be closely monitored :(

2babiesforme - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Homebirths are more dangerous from watching my best friend have 2. If you have a skilled midwife Im sure all could be fine and hopefully you are close enough to a hospital in the event something does go wrong. She was 2 hrs from a hospital :( and had no insurance thats why she opted for that. Just be careful. For me I feel safer with tons of doctors around me in the event baby/I need help. Goo dluck either way :)

Eloiseandharrys-mummy! - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I hope to be in the same position as you next time we have a baby. Ive done the complicated labour, then the Homebirth style labour in hospital and really would love to do the homebirth (even though atm the husband doesnt agree, for grossing out reasons) but i agree with the other ladies, you would need to have support. You can always hire a birthing pool, im pretty certain our midwifes bring some gas and air. Dont forget if you make the decision to homebirth you can always change your mind even when your in labour to go to the hospital.

lilyxox19 - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I'm friends with a lady on facebook and she has had 3 homebirths. She had the support of her whole family as well as a trained midwife that has done homebirths before. The midwife had a oxygen tank just in case and they were close to a hospital should any emergencies happen. She loved the experience. While it is not something I personally would choose, I saw some of her pictures right after labor holding onto her daughter, and she had such a sweaty glow about her. It was so precious! Her pictures almost makes me want to try.

kalma2010 - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) www.birthwithoutfearblog.com This blog has a bunch of information and wonderful birth stories on it. Do your research on it but a homebirth is a wonderful way to ensure a natural and relaxed birth.

mommy2anl - 327 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I would highly reccomend doing all your research and joining a forum specifically for this type of thing because it is a decision that you will want/need a lot of support behind you. My neighbor has tried this route twice now... no one was behind her either time, and that made it all the more devastating to her when her hopes and dreams of a home birth were ruined by pregnancy complications. The first time her daughter was born at 36 weeks and spent 6 days in the NICU for breathing issues and jaundice, and this time (she's approx. 31-32 weeks now) she ended up with complete placenta previa and had to go back to our regular doctor (she and I have the same doctor) for more supervised care and has to have a c-section. Personally, it's not a choice I would ever consider, but if you're healthy and so is baby, more power to ya lady! I just know what an emotional roller coaster it is to make a decision that causes controversy with family/friends because I've seen my neighbor go through it twice now...and I don't want you to go into it without an informed support system behind you. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best!