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a coincidence or not?! I`m upset- my bf is insulted!
Added: 326 days ago.
Added by: leopard print
Section: General.
Status: This question is Closed. (Questions will be closed after 10 days.)


For those who read and posted answers on my question about my friend and know about my miscarriage. You know that I told her yesterday that I`m the last person she should be talking to about the or her options about what she`s going to do about her pregnancy. Well she knows about my miscarriage. Anyway today called me. I called her back 10-15mins later because when she called I was on the phone, she didn`t answer. She text me saying `I`m in the hospital` I text her back asking her what`s wrong? She went on to say that she`s losing the bay and that she`s `gushing` blood. I text her several times and she didn`t text me back right away. I understand she was at the hospital but I personally know from experience that if it is that big of an emergency they WILL let you talk on the phone. I didn`t like the fact that she was getting me all worked up and worried about her but then she didn`t answer the phone. I told my bf about what was going on and he said he wasn`t buying her story. He said it was just too much of a coincidence. I`m NOT saying that it isn`t possible but just the other day she was perfectly fine she had an ultrasound and now she`s `gushing` blood. About an hr later she text me and said that she`s still pregnant and that she`s fine. It was a threaten miscarriage. That doesn`t add up. You can`t GUSH blood and it only be a threaten miscarriage. I do love her! However let me just give you background info about her. She tries to one up ALL the time (she did in the past until I had to step back from our friendship and she hasn`t tried doing it until now). In the past she would always try to one up me it was so freaking annoying!! I would say one thing and she would go to extremes to try to one up me!! I hated it. I feel like she didn`t like what I told her yesterday, she isn`t happy about being pregnant (because she doesn`t want to be with this guy), she doesn`t want the baby, she`s mad (maybe mad is wrong word) that the attention is no longer on her (not that I want attention because of my loss but just because I`ve stepped away from our friendship because of my loss and because I`m busy with other things) so she needed to find a way to direct it back to her! That`s what I think she`s doing. My bf said the same thing and he barely knows her, he said this before I even said anything to him. I honestly feel like this is what she`s doing. I say that because I know her and I know her behaviors and because when I had the miscarriage I told her about it and the way I describe it was I had a huge gush of blood and fluid. I personally don`t know of a lot of people to use to the `gush` it just didnt sit well with me that out of ALL the words in the English vocab she chose the same exact word that I did! Also another thing, she said she hasn`t had a period since may but when she got her u/s she said she was 6 weeks. That doesn`t add up either. I don`t think she`s being honest about something and it is really bothering me! Examples of her trying to on up me I would say something like money is tight this month (this was over a year ago when this happened) so I can`t get a hair cut. She would say money is so tight for me I can`t afford sour cream....mind you her bf at the time was buying 12packs of beer daily and she was buying 30$ makeup 3x a month but money was `tight` for them. Petty stuff like that. She complains about not having family help but her family lives 5mins away and her parents bought her a house and pays all her bills. My mom lives 15mins away and I go months without seeing my mother. So stuff like that. What do you ladies think? I know it is hard to give an opinion because you only know what I tell you. but trust me I`m telling the truth. I was so upset earlier and obviously it is still bothering me!! My bf is very insulted and upset! I would hate to doubt someone and say she`s lying but come on it doesn`t seem right. All of a sudden she`s having a miscarriage or could have a miscarriage too. I don`t believe it. I`m sorry if that sound heartless or cold but I don`t believe her. she is very attention hungry why I don`t know. She said she would talk to me about it later but I haven`t heard from her and honestly I don`t want to talk to her tonight or anytime soon. Deep down I feel like she`s making it up. Sometimes I feel like she tries to hard to have us in the same boat. Sometimes we are in the same boat but not all the time and in this situation I think she wants so badly to NOT be pregnant that she`s making it up or maybe she was spotting and made a big deal out of it. Please no harsh words. I`m going to school for Nursing and she is too. Her parents are nurses. You can`t GUSH blood or use the term GUSHING blood and then say I`m still pregnant! That`s not possible! Plus is not nice to worry your friend (who just loss their baby) like that. I feel like it is competition to her or something. I wish she understood that there is more to life than having babies. I love her to death but sometimes I wonder about her.

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leopard print - 317 days ago why comment if you have nothing to say? to prove a point. I said it is possible! It's not possible in her case....she was lying. End of story!

blu_roc@hotmail.com - 318 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I've had alot of bleeding off and on throughout my pregnancy and some of it was pretty heavy. I've had a miscarriage before so I thought for sure I was losing this baby. I am now 23 weeks. It's possible. I don't know what to tell you about the rest of your problem though...

leopard print - 325 days ago Thanks Allynne and Kristy

allynne7 (jaime) - 325 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Oh, hunny, you need to drop this girl. She sounds like she sucks the life out of people. Maybe she really is losing the baby/maybe not. It really doesn't matter. What matters is what she does to you and it doesn't sound very pleasant.

Kristy Rose - 325 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) anyway at the end of the day, I would try not to let it all get to you. Its really not worth it darl. You just worry about your life and let her worry about her life. In the end, IF she is lying, it will come out sooner or later .. best of luck with everything leopard print xox

Kristy Rose - 325 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) leopard print ::: Darl I never said YOU were lying .. i said HER lying.

leopard print - 325 days ago Kristy- I wasn't implying that you think I'm lying. I was just saying that I'm not lying. I know I'm kind of going in circles but that is because I'm tired and my migraine medicine is making me drowsy.

leopard print - 325 days ago I was referring to the miscarriage. I would hate to doubt that someone would lie about possibly having a miscarriage. I don't know about her and her boyfriend. She's talking to other guys and her other kids father. I personally feel like she's stringing him along and she's said it herself. I honestly feel like she made this whole thing up because she saw that I had to step away from our friendship because of my miscarriage. She did not like the fact that I didn't want to spend HOURS on the phone talking to her about her options and giving her the pitty that she wants and looking up information for her or texting her at her beck and call so she wanted to redirect the attention to her!! I know that is what she's doing and because I DIDNT show any sympathy for her when she text me that stuff saying she was losing the baby I havent heard from her since and I probably wlll hear from her for awhile which I dont care. The fact the matter is shes always tried to one up me I just never thought she would take it this far! Ever! I can't talk about it anymore because it upset me. She was suppose to be my friend and that is the part that bothers me the most. I can handle the one upping about makeup or petty stuff but not this and everyone is entitled to their opinion that's fine but I know the truth and I know her and I know that's what she's doing and I have absolutely no reason to lie about anything!! So to answer your question she wants to gain attention and I don't know what is wrong with her. she's been trying to get pregnant since we were teenagers. She comes from a really good family but for some reason she doesnt realizes that there is more to life than having kids. Its like a game to her. Also she mention she think she can get her bf to change even though he's not a good guy and he's not that well established and he doesn't take the pregnancy or anything seriously. she think its funny. Please I cant talk about this anymore.

Kristy Rose - 325 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Ummm well you said this ::: I would hate to doubt someone and say she`s lying but come on it doesn`t seem right ::: Isn't that saying she's lying ??? I just wanted to ask what she had to gain by Lying (if she is) ? Is she trying to keep her boyfriend or something ???

leopard print - 325 days ago I just needed to vent. As I stated in the question it is hard for ladies to give any advice or any opinions because you only know one side of the story. Everything I have said is the truth. I do not have anything to gain from telling lies on the internet. I've been through so much and I'm so hurt I just wanted to vent. It was upsetting my bf so much I didn't want to talk to him about it anymore. My friend and my bf and you ladies on the site are the only people that know about my miscarriage. I'm a private person and I don't like telling everyone my business. I know how she is, I've been friends with this girl for YEARS! She does have a family history of mental illness and sometimes I do wonder about her and this was the last straw. I am not wrap up in her life she lives 40 mins away. I don't see her all the time. She came to me about her pregnancy. However when you insult me and come to me about abortion after I lose my baby I will get upset about it because it is rude and insulting. I will not talk to her and I will not be answering/replying to anymore answers on here. Thanks for all the answers. I'm not trying to start a fight with anyone or anything. I need to take a step back from everything. I know what really happened with my life! Like someone mention on here I don't need to deal with someone elses drama. I have other things going on. I need to focus on healing, school, my son, etc. Thanks again.

leopard print - 325 days ago I never said she's lying about being pregnant. I'm talking about her all of a sudden having a miscarriage or threaten miscarriage.

Kristy Rose - 325 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Can I ask, what does your friend have to gain by lying about her pregnancy?

chrissylovespatrick - 325 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) actually I am a retired LPN (nurse) who worked in an ER and OB office.What your friend has said happened is seen many times.I,myself,bled profusely at week 9,I actually lost a twin and went on to have a very healthy girl...In 3 of my pregnancies,I actually bled very badly and went on to have the children.. My advice to you is to give yourself TIME to heal from your own miscarriage.The feelings you are having are very common and I know what you feel..Besides the baby I talked about above(Sophia's twin) I lost another pregnancy. My best advice is this...Besides time,take a bit of space..I t sounds like you two are in differnt 'spaces' now.. You may need someone who can more focus on just listening to you..You shouldn't have to deal with other peoples drama.. Good Luck

leopard print - 326 days ago I did say it is possible!

hannahe - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) i gushed blood at 14 weeks. so much blood that the doctors and nurses were already offering condolences. they did an ultrasound and discovered i had a sub chorionic hematoma and placenta previa. i now have a very healthy 6 year old son

leopard print - 326 days ago I know from experience that not everything happens from "textbook". I did say that it is possible. I just don't believe her. I've made up my mind about what I'm going to do. Of course if it is true I would be there for my friend. Thanks for all the suggestions.

bcalove82 - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) If she has a huge history of lying she might need to be let go. I have had to do it and it felt like a break up...but my life is better now.

bcalove82 - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) My friend gushed blood and is still pregnant. Yes, it is possible she is lying, but you really can, too. My close friend went through that this pregnancy. She was given medication ( progesterone pills) and told just to hope for the best. Prepare for the worst. Blah blah. It happened a second time and she had to get a cerclage and is on bedrest....she is 20 weeks and it happened at 16 weeks. We are all still hoping and praying that she makes it to 26 weeks , the point when she gets steriod shots. It can happen. Being in nursing school is great, but even people in the medical field for years and years get surprised by things everyday. If she is not usually a liar I would be there for her. Knowing how terrible an ordeal my friend is going through I know that, if this is happening, she needs you.

leopard print - 326 days ago I do not care way too much. This is stuff we talked about via text or short phone conversations. I know it might come off that way but I don't. I have so much other stuff going on that after she text me saying she was fine I just started ignoring her messages. I guess when I posted this I needed to vent. Sorry. Im done with all negative people and she's one of them. I know the type of person she is therefore I know without any doubt that this is what she's doing (trying to one up me) and because she lives 40mins away and because school starts in a couple weeks and because she knows I'm Busy with other things and I won't see her soon i guess she believes she can live this lie. Thank for all your answer ladies. Sorry for venting.

jamie86 - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) It is possible to gush blood and still be pregnant. Most of the time it means a miscarriage but every now and then the pregnancy will continue. I lost a baby after 2 days of heavy bleeding. It would stop and start again. Had I just had bleed on the one day I believe my pregnancy would have been fine. Now in regards to your friend I have no idea if she is lying or not but it can be possible.

AndreaV - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Sorry, I dont want to be insulting either, but it sounds like you care WAY too much. Why bother getting mad? Just dont be friends with her cause it seems like shes been pissing you off for quite a while.

weber3 - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) I know people like this. She is not a real friend. I don't know what she's trying to pull but if she needs real help I would help her but keep your distance. I would definitely stay away from her and her Pregnancy situation because it's tearing you apart inside because of your own loss. Maybe she's just playing with you with this whole pregnancy thing.So sorry you have to deal with all this right now on top of your loss.

Kristy Rose - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) leopard print ... i dont mean to sound rude or offend you but if she's lying, you WILL find out. Afterall, her belly will have to start to show soon enough

leopard print - 326 days ago Kristy- At this point I'm not! I know with all the stuff I post on here it may seem like I'm soooo into her life but I'm not. This is just stuff we've talked about via text or 30min phone conversations. I washed my hands of it today. I just needed to vent. It really bothered me! What she did was very insulting. I didn't want to keep going on and on about it to my bf because he's already upset and he's really really sick.

Kristy Rose - 326 days ago Rating: 0 (0 votes) Hun, stop being so into her life/bullshit stories and just get on with your life. Sooner or later the truth will come out, whether that be she was really preggers or she was lying. Dont stress about it x

leopard print - 326 days ago I'm upset and insulted, instead of being there for me. I feel like she's turned this entire thing around and now it is about her. I have my bf support and we are so busy with other things but just as a friend I wasn't expecting this from her. I can handle the other one upping (which she hasn't done in over a year) but if she's really trying to one up me on this, then this is the last straw!