General::Rules

Are there any rules to follow here?

In order to keep the site friendly and welcoming for all members, we expect members to follow a few simple guidelines.

++ Do not post any message that may be disturbing or offensive to other members.

++Do not post rude messages or comments.

++Do not post advertisements or spam messages

++ Do not post "for sale" ads on the site or links to online selling communities. Do not solicit donations, loans or any other types of funds for personal, business or other use.

++Do not use foul language

++No opinions that can be controversial may be posted on any part of the website. This includes topics such as abortion, circumcision, politics, religion, vaccinations, etc. The only time these messages are approved is if there is a genuine question regarding information on the topic and you should post in the appropriate forum within the site.

++Do not post any racist comments or messages.

++Do not post photos of deceased babies.

++Do not post nude photos or photos that reveal areas of your body that should remain private, which does include the breast and nipples. This is in effect to protect our members and site from individuals with malicious intentions.

++Please be respectful of fellow members by posting photos to the photo section of the website or your personal VIP page. Members are allowed ONE photo per day in the weekly, monthly or informational forums. Not one per forum, but one per member.

++We reserve the right to monitor all public and private parts of the website. In addition, we reserve the right to delete any account that is in violation of our policies, at anytime, with or without warning. Rules can and will be modified at anytime.

Comments: General::Rules

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melissabkr - 152 days ago.
hi all

happyforest - 164 days ago.
so what CAN we talk about on here. how do we know if someone might find something offensive or rude? if the rules CAN AND WILL be modified at anytime, then how are we supposed to know what the rules are?? these rules are sooo broad. ANYTHING can be found rude or offensive, it just depends on the person who is reading it, and we can't please everyone, we dont all think alike, so everything i post gets deleted bc SOMEONE finds it offensive even though most dont....

mum2onex - 164 days ago.
Rachel - ill keep my fingers crossed for you when did you last test

rachel alexandra - 164 days ago.
I'm not sure cos i don't use ovulation tests.I hope so cos I will be gutted if after this week of hoping I am not.xx

mum2onex - 164 days ago.
rachel alexandra - i was 6 days late for af and tested alot all negative got my af this morning though :( hope you are luckier than i. Could you ahev ovulated late maybe ?

rachel alexandra - 164 days ago.
Hiya all.I'm now a week late for AF and have had 2 negetive preg tests on 2 and 4 days late.I've had a couple of pregnancy symtoms but I'm not sure.Have any of you had this happen before?Thanks.

Laura Ward - 308 days ago.
The private page option has been suggested and is in the technical team's hands. They will need to approve it first.

Caits Mom - 308 days ago.
Would there be a way to make our pages private anyways? I mean I like to post pictures of my munchkin.........but now anyone can see? Make it so only people in my friends network can see or whatnot. Just a thought!!!!

pooka - 308 days ago.
I think the biggest problem is that these rules are up to interpretation and give people the power to be malicious and abuse other members. If I want to get in a conversation with someone it is not hard to say they were being offensive if I do not agree with what they are saying. It can be something as simple as a child's bedtime or what I feed my baby. When I give cereal, how many times I change a diaper. Anything can be made offensive if you look hard enough for it. All its doing is giving members a 'mommy' to tattle to when they are having a bad day or feel they have been slighted. Instead of a 'user beware' forum where people are just asked to act like adults the rules are encouraging people to act like children in need of policing. Seriously if a conversation offends you stop having it. Turn your computer off, ignore the person. I have seen time and time again people banned because someone convinced the staff what was being said was a personal attack and controversial. As for the no breast feeding pictures I think this is disrespectful to women and I do not buy for a second its to protect us. Cause I can tell you right now there are a lot of men who get off hugely on just the sight of a pregnant woman. So I bet there are tons of men wanking (hope I can say wanking) to the pregos on here. Most men cringe at the sight of a breast feeding baby. In my country it is against a woman's human rights to ask her not to breast feed in public. So why can this site do that? The baby one bothers me as well. I am sure it is even harder for a woman who has come here for 9 months, made friends, supported others to have a baby pass away then be told not to show pictures or talk about her child. I am sure its more upsetting for her to see the images of alive babies but do we say no alive baby images? No we would tell the woman sorry you don't belong here move on now you have no baby, your not pregnant, so get over it or see you. Pretty cold imo.

feellikeabear - 309 days ago.
sorry, I think I pasted a previous comment here again.

feellikeabear - 309 days ago.
lol star, I was one of those who didn't agree with some of the rules. But truly, it wasn't meant as an attack, just a debate and I was quite shocked about how rude some people here. Laura, am visiting your page just to say that - well, star has already said it all. (We are in the same week, though we do cheat a little) Thanks for this site. It is a great support system and we enjoy it hugely. I appreciate the kind of work that must go into maintaining this.

puppiesandbabies - 310 days ago.
Ohh wow! This reminds me of the Nipplegate in Facebook :) I understand that it is to protect users, but Iam pretty sure that we all know that whatever you upload to the internet can travel all over the world with or without your consent. I dont upload or share my photos at all but I respect women who share their special moments. As for the controversial topics, I wish we could all be grown ups and take comments for what they are 'just comments'. Again, I understand this is to protect people who might not handle different opinions very well. So, I keep on posting on this site knowing that if I have a 'hot' topic to talk about I will take it to the one person who asked and with all do respect. Dont go all Facebook on us, breasts and nipples are so not offensive on a pregnancy site.

RobinG - 311 days ago.
Exactly :)

beckybear - 311 days ago.
The admins are not running around to everyone's pages every day looking for any small infraction of the rules. As long as you behave like a reasonable human being, you will be fine. But they set rules so that if someone is going overboard and people complain, they have established guidelines and can enforce them.

Laura Ward - 311 days ago.
The majority of these rules have been in effect, some have just been modified to fit the changing needs of the site. As long as you are not being rude, harassing or judgemental you should be fine.

~Kristy~ - 311 days ago.
I think there is far too much censorship in this world and this website is going overboard. We should be allowed to discuss whatever we want as long as it is done in a respectful way, and other peoples opinions are accepted. We are all adults. As for posting pictures I think if a women needs to post a picture of her dead baby on her own profile (which is an awful event in her life and I am sorry to anyone who has experienced this) maybe she could just post a warning before the picture so only those who want to see it can. Maybe it can help people learn and heal and grow together. As for nude pics (nipples and breasts) that is also a big part of pregnancy and babies, and if someone wants to post it they know anyone can see it including people with not so good intentions, but to be honest there are far better websites to get 'your rocks off' then a pregnancy website. I think the rules should state please discuss things in a respectful manner, and understand that people have different opinions on topics. Maybe you can create two halves to the website. I am pregnant censored and I am pregnant uncensored. I am willing to bet you will have 10% or less of people on the censored side.

Laura Ward - 311 days ago.
We are open to hearing your concerns, however, the rules will not be changed at this time. Members will only be deleted if they refuse to comply with the rules of the site or create fake accounts to voice their opinions.

ChristinasWar - 311 days ago.
no not ALL of us are still here after stating our opinions... I know of a few that have been removed!

Goldenmama37 - 311 days ago.
Not that I would post a picture of my naked breast or child to a public site, but if I did and some weirdo looked at it - as long as they weren't coming to find me or knew me, I couldn't care less if 99 other people/women learned something from the image. I'm sure National Geographic has the same problem. True, I don't want to stumble upon pictures of breasts and deceased children if I'm not prepared or purposely seeking information, but these are facts of life...I'm ok with the rules and ok if they get bent if it means helping someone grieve or learn something. Overall I think this site does a pretty good job, but like all pregnancy sites, it does seem a little sugar coated, perhaps to attract new members and get people excited. I came in blind last year before my miscarriage and had to do my grieving/coping search in other places. Would have been nice to hang out here and hear from expectant moms who survived what I did. The other grieving websites and forums are pretty dark and depressing...

taniamommyX2 - 311 days ago.
This is exactly why this site is so great....we have ALL stated our opinion and we are STILL here! lol Just keep doing what you are doing and if it's somethign you shouldn't be doing, you will be told to stop. It's not really a big deal!

Laura Ward - 311 days ago.
Members can continue to post pictures of their growing bellies.

-x-charlee-x- - 311 days ago.
So if a mother who has lost her baby posts it on her page and pregnant women see it and get upset, does this mean then we cant post pictures of our pregnant bellies because it may offend and upset women that are TTC? Its ridiculous.

lisatek82 - 311 days ago.
I have been on this site for almost 3 yrs and wanted to share something. The Admin is not trying to be mean. I remember when I was pregnant and having complications there was a woman who posted pics of her 'sleeping beby' and I was horrified. This was not a baby at 30 weeks or anything. It was more like 20 and didn't even look like a baby. I was horrified and cried for weeks not knowing if my own baby was going to make it. If I would have seen this pic at any other time I probably would have been okay. I don't think the admin is doing anything wrong. They are allowing these mothers to have a link to their babies memory page or whatever thay have created. It is not that they are heartless, they just need to think about all the mommies on here. My heart goes out to everyone that has lost a baby. It isn't hard to create a memory page and put that on instead of a pic and then people that DO want to see it can. As far as the circ and vaccine topics go... You all can still post there... just don't starta a fight about it and get nasty. We are all adults here and in the past people have not acted that way.All they are asking is that you be open minded to the topics. I am sorry that some of you are leaving, but this is my personal opinion and I wish you all would stay and follow the rules.

Laura Ward - 311 days ago.
We are not saying that you can not discuss those types of things. By reading the rule, it states that it is approved IF you post in the appropriate forum and have a general concern. What we do not want is members posting judgemental and rude comments to others that don't share the same opinions. Because of heated debates that became a bash fest in the past, we were forced to disable comments on the abortion page. If you want to discuss vaccinations, do so on the vaccinations page and with upmost respect to the other members, even if they do not share your opinion on the matter.

tuesday - 311 days ago.
my self and im guessing other new mothers come to ths site to get opinions on things such as circumsision and vaccines from more experianced mothers.. i think that taking that away is defeating the main purpose of the site.