General::Rules

Are there any rules to follow here?

In order to keep the site friendly and welcoming for all members, we expect members to follow a few simple guidelines.

++ Do not post any message that may be disturbing or offensive to other members.

++Do not post rude messages or comments.

++Do not post advertisements or spam messages

++ Do not post "for sale" ads on the site or links to online selling communities. Do not solicit donations, loans or any other types of funds for personal, business or other use.

++Do not use foul language

++No opinions that can be controversial may be posted on any part of the website. This includes topics such as abortion, circumcision, politics, religion, vaccinations, etc. The only time these messages are approved is if there is a genuine question regarding information on the topic and you should post in the appropriate forum within the site.

++Do not post any racist comments or messages.

++Do not post photos of deceased babies.

++Do not post nude photos or photos that reveal areas of your body that should remain private, which does include the breast and nipples. This is in effect to protect our members and site from individuals with malicious intentions.

++Please be respectful of fellow members by posting photos to the photo section of the website or your personal VIP page. Members are allowed ONE photo per day in the weekly, monthly or informational forums. Not one per forum, but one per member.

++We reserve the right to monitor all public and private parts of the website. In addition, we reserve the right to delete any account that is in violation of our policies, at anytime, with or without warning. Rules can and will be modified at anytime.

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shanelle - 310 days ago.
i have to comment on the deceased baby pictures i find this a hipicritical rule. let me make sure i have it right you cannot post a deceased baby due to the fact it may upset a pregnant woman and scare her that her baby may pass ok what about the ones trying to conceive dont pics of the pregnant woman on here upset them that they cannot or have not yet been able to have a baby ? so does that mean you should not post pregnant pics? in fear of upseting the ones ttc thats hows it should work to me its the same concept right? so if that was the case there wouldnt be much of a website would there! i think the world has come to such a down fall people suing people, calling cops for no reason complaining about things that are important to other people for ther own satisfaction whats next? no colored ? no gays? no fat woman? come one we are all adults and mostly parents and we teach our children not to cry over spilled milk right? so why are our actions acceptable when we compain and whine and make big deals out of things that should be considered most important ? as a mom of soon to be 2 ' Dont Act Like Babies' really sit back take a breath (like i tell my daughter) and ask yourself is this really a big deal or am i overreacting ? what kind of life am i living if i am angry all the time about medeocar things? and last but not least .. 'what if i was in there shoes?' hope this doesnt offend anyone i am on no sides i have had no m/c's no sleeping babies, no problems conceiving and i dont breastfeed and i did get my daughter vaccinated, those are my choices and experiences and i in everyway respect and sympathize with everyone elses individual choices and experiences and beleive that these issues should not be concidered issues ...........

angelag3girls - 310 days ago.
Well the picture of the lady breastfeeding on the top of the breastfeeding forum is gone. This is nuts. I think some things are being taken way out of proportion and its causing us to lose even that much more.

happyforest - 310 days ago.
kristal i agree with u and i do see it in the same way. i had a good friend leave this site bc of it. she had lost a baby and needed support but instead this site just knocked her down. its sad really. if someone is going to be too sensitive to know about something like that then they shouldnt come here, but there are people who would like to be able to share and discuss things and they should be able to come here and do it. it IS a pregnancy and baby website, so i think anything related to that topic would be something you could expect to find on here.

kristalsfirst - 310 days ago.
i just feel its almost like telling people are expecting not to post pix of there belly because there are people on this site who lost a child and they dont want to be remided.... thats just how i feel. Were upset for the expecting mom, but discriminating agaisnt the mom who lost a child...

kristalsfirst - 310 days ago.
I'm not trying to start a fight with anyone, but i want to write my input; People are upset because someone posted pictures of a deceased baby. Now we are all upset for the mother who is expecting because that could be a possibility for her that she doens't want to see.. Well what about the mother who was expecting, it was a possibility and IT DID HAPPEN TO HER. People that are expecting, or have babies you think would be the most supportive and helpful because they can relate to you what a loss that would be and try and help you get over it and help you grieve. We are all upset for the expecting mother but not upset for the mother who lost her poor child.... Nothing in the world can feel worse then your child dieing. If i was expecting I would be happy and greatful im expecting and wouldn't be offended by someone else's pix of their deceased baby. I would let them vent and and morne knowing that if it happened to me i would want support too. If they were a member of this site they were here with everyone throughout pregnancy, now everyone has their babies and they have NOTHING but a sad memory... We are all human girls, death happens, we all know that ! Let the poor mother grieve and lets help her!!!! A child is the greatest gift in the world can you imagine that being taken while everyone is posting there pix and you are being descriminated agaisnt because of an expecting mother having HER feelings hurt?? Common ! Am i the only one who sees it this way? Im not trying to start a fight of offend anyone so sorry if i did.

jessberr31 - 310 days ago.
I think your doing a great job Laura! If some people do not agree with the rules then they should just go to a different site to discuss things they can not here. I don't understand what the big deal is, no one is forcing anyone to be here. Obviously there have been problems where its caused the rules to be adjusted, and its your right to do that since its your site. So kudos to you for wanting to avoid conflicts and confrontations as much as possible. And for also trying to keep everyone safe from perverts lurking on here. Its a shame that we live in a world where there are people like that, but lets face it, there out there. Keep up the good work!

jacquelyn - 310 days ago.
jpcm- You said it. :-)

taniamommyX2 - 310 days ago.
Thanks Baby1 & your welcome Laura...you know, I don't see these rules as anything out of the ordinary. Any facility or organization you go to are going to have rules and they aren't asking that we don't talk about these subjects, only that we don't argue and act like children when we do talk about things and try not to say anything rude....like 'you are stupid for do/saying/believing (fill in the blank). Speaking from experience...you will only get deleted if you say something that you really know you shouldn't and you will have plenty of warning! lol And if there is this great forum where everyone can say what ever they please, then GREAT! We all win because people who have a problem with this site can go there and the rest of us who are perfectly content with these 'rules' can stay here!

jpcm - 310 days ago.
Honestly, pregnancy is SCARY, it's an emotional roller coaster, of unknowns..it's physically challenged, at at the end of it...you are not guaranteed a good outcome...it' sterribly sad, but it's true!! Being a mom whose been through 2 mc's...and has a 2 yr old with a congenial birth defect, and now a 9 month old....you learn to accept that pregnany is not all sunshine and roses!! Congrats to anyone if it is, but for some moms, who go through the loss of a baby..at term..is horrendous to find these images...anything remotely scary!!! For someone to say....I can't hear or see of 'sleeping babies' is someone whho may have never been in that position...or someone who thinks pregnancy always has a great outcome....rules are rules...i understand that....at same time....to have rules saying no discussion of vaccines, circumsizion..whose to say what is rude to one may not be rude to someone else....even breastfeeding has rude comments, same with formula feeding....so should we not be allowed to say things such as 'breastfeeding is healthier, cuz, i formula feed, and my girls are healthy, so I find that rude!' Is there a topic forum for politics?! If not, can there be?!?! I am seriusly into politics, as it affects the outcome of my children's future lives!! If someone finds something i say rude, will i be allowed to defend myself?! There is no way to please everyone, but...I must admit, some of rules are extremely controvercial themselves..LOL...so should i not speak of rules?! LOL Going crazy!! Most of girls from the previous chat here on this site..have all moved to a new chat site..... we can discuss all topics, and can do so freely, and we work things out...it's amazing!! Who, knew, grown mothers, could work out such things as vaccines, circumsizion, abortion, politics, formula vs. bfing!!!! LOL

Baby1 - 310 days ago.
Tationamommy08.....you've got it spot on!

crystalwinds88 - 310 days ago.
and i apologize for my typos.. typing fast.. i seem to miss keys.. lmao

crystalwinds88 - 310 days ago.
Im sorry .. i have read all the comments and STILL disagree... i should be allowed to post a bfeeding picture int he bfeeding section.. an tho there may be perverts out there.. THAT IS THE RISK I TAKE.... just like the risk I take at posting anything onto my profile... welcome to the internet... anyways.. i wish moms would open up a bit and not take too many things to heart... breasts are breast.. we all have them... circ.. you choose to or not to...vaccines.. your choice too. heck everything you say may be completely against someone elses opinion.. you cant please everyone.. and on one more note... im not one of them.. but until your a grieving mom for the loss of your babe.. you will NEVER understand what kind of closure it is like when they can be treated as if they are no different... i was pregnant and knew a girl who lost her baby on here... and i looked at the pic everyday and every day.. commented to how beautiful he was... and every day i cherished the moments i had with my baby in and out of the womb... and ya know what? i knew that death is a possibility.. just like genetic mutations... and i learned to live and understand it... i just wish others in this open forum could do the same... now im going back to my very open chat room... where we can say and do anything and we live in harmony just fine ;)

Laura Ward - 310 days ago.
Thank you, Tatianamommy 08, for your explanation. You are absolutly correct and I have tried to explain that to many today.

taniamommyX2 - 310 days ago.
I think the reason the team has asked us not to post pictures of breastfeeding is not because they don't agree with breastfeeding but because there are weridos out there who may be looking at your naked breast and not be thinking about what a wondering thing you are doing for your baby...Same goes for bare children. It's sad that there are people out there who might enjoy our pictures in a 'diffrent' way but it is true and something we shoudl be wearry about. There is nothing I love more than seeing my son's cute litle bare bottom but I won't be posting any pictures of him like that online...nor would I post a picture breastfeeding for the same reasons.

Bri - 310 days ago.
After reading all these comments and being quiet all day I just wanted to add one thing....The breastfeeding page has a more revealing picture of a mom breastfeeding then any I've ever seen posted here or on facebook. I agree, there are rules that need to be abided no matter what your belief is on the subject but I just think it's funny that we aren't allowed to share pictures of ourselves breastfeeding but then there is a picture right there with a women with her shirt completely unbuttoned. HAHA! I know when I feed I lift my shirt just enough for my baby to latch on. You may side little midriff and that's it. Just my opinion and insight on the subject.

Eloises-mummy! - 310 days ago.
i agreee with alot of these women. I do not have a problem with most of these rules, like swearing, racism etc. I agree that, if something is on somes own personal page, if its a picture of deceased baby or someone breastfeeding, you should be awear that you will see these things. This website is intended to help and support people and the rules are getting a bit too restrictive. Fair enough not posting it up on the forums but on your own page. If i want to read about someones sleeping baby, i will if not , if i think it will upset me i wont. like i said, some of the rules are there for good reasons. But i believe people should beable to choose weather or not they will read someones page so that person can open up, the grieving mothers. Even if they put a warning that there page contains things you might not like. x

notsmithers - 310 days ago.
this site is so fab and if people have a problem with the rules then so be it. their negative attitude doesnt belong on a postive site like this! ive had so much great advice here that i wouldnt get from a doctor. i will be forever greatful. rules are there for a reason, the site would be caotic otherwise, well done laura ward!!

stargazer530 - 310 days ago.
I for one, agree with the rules. I cannot count how many times I have read people's comments (and agreed) about how grateful they are for this website and how it's so different from others and they always enjoying getting on. These rules are the reasons why we all enjoy the site so much. If you don't like the rules, email people privately or find another site that isn't monitored and you can post whatever you like. Sure, there are some things we would all like to discuss from time to time that would be controversial, but that would lead to fights and people no longer enjoying this site as they do. I have experienced a m/c and being currently pregnant and scared every second of something going wrong, I am not comfortable seeing a picture of a dead child. I wasn't before I even became pregnant the first time. So, thanks Laura and all your team for making and maintaining a great site.

taniamommyX2 - 310 days ago.
Goldenmama37 - I think you bring up a good point....there should be a section for grieving parents and maybe in that section, a parent can share their pictures. If someone goes to that section and gets offended, then that is their fault!

taniamommyX2 - 310 days ago.
I think I can agree with not posting pics of deceased 'anything'. Take the 'baby' out of it for a minute and ask yourself if you would want to see a picture of my 'deceased dog' or 'deceased grandmother'. I can't empathize with someone who has lost their little one so I can't make a non-biased opinion but if you try to take yourself out of it for a minute, can't you see why seeing a pic of a deceased child would be hard for an expecting mother? I can hardly even bring myself to write the words....

staceyh - 310 days ago.
I remember when I was pregnant not too long ago...an active member of this sight had a 'sleeping baby' and posted pics and I was devasted!!! and stayed that way for a couple of days....I do feel for her but when you are pregnant the last thing you want to see is a baby that passed away....

Goldenmama37 - 310 days ago.
I know most days I don't /wouldn't want to see pictures of 'sleeping' babies...but after my miscarriage last year I got a darn good appreciation for the 25% + group who had the rugs pulled out from under them. Is there a support/grief section/forum on this site where members could direct their friends (if they wanted to only) to view pics or hear their stories?

Laura Ward - 311 days ago.
You can in private messages at your own risk. IF the other member is receptive to your conversation, it should be fine. However, we will not allow members to use the private message feature to send others unwanted messages about topics.

lilmissk - 311 days ago.
Are we not allowed to talk about controversial topics in private messages either?

dapie898 - 311 days ago.
i don't see why people can't post pics of their 'sleeping' baby but you have to remember that rules are there for a reason and if it would make someone uncomfortable then they shouldn't be there. it wouldn't bother me...but i am a labor and delivery nurse. there are plenty of other sites that you can make your profile private if you want to show your boobs or whatever...i don't know why anyone would want to put a picture of their naked boob up anyway. there is no way to make EVERYONE happy...if they let you put naked pic up (why you would want to i don't know) then someone else would be uncomfortable if they saw it. they have to have rules though