General::Rules

Are there any rules to follow here?

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Laura Ward - 1122 days ago.
The private page option has been suggested and is in the technical team's hands. They will need to approve it first.

pooka - 1122 days ago.
I think the biggest problem is that these rules are up to interpretation and give people the power to be malicious and abuse other members. If I want to get in a conversation with someone it is not hard to say they were being offensive if I do not agree with what they are saying. It can be something as simple as a child's bedtime or what I feed my baby. When I give cereal, how many times I change a diaper. Anything can be made offensive if you look hard enough for it. All its doing is giving members a 'mommy' to tattle to when they are having a bad day or feel they have been slighted. Instead of a 'user beware' forum where people are just asked to act like adults the rules are encouraging people to act like children in need of policing. Seriously if a conversation offends you stop having it. Turn your computer off, ignore the person. I have seen time and time again people banned because someone convinced the staff what was being said was a personal attack and controversial. As for the no breast feeding pictures I think this is disrespectful to women and I do not buy for a second its to protect us. Cause I can tell you right now there are a lot of men who get off hugely on just the sight of a pregnant woman. So I bet there are tons of men wanking (hope I can say wanking) to the pregos on here. Most men cringe at the sight of a breast feeding baby. In my country it is against a woman's human rights to ask her not to breast feed in public. So why can this site do that? The baby one bothers me as well. I am sure it is even harder for a woman who has come here for 9 months, made friends, supported others to have a baby pass away then be told not to show pictures or talk about her child. I am sure its more upsetting for her to see the images of alive babies but do we say no alive baby images? No we would tell the woman sorry you don't belong here move on now you have no baby, your not pregnant, so get over it or see you. Pretty cold imo.

feellikeabear - 1122 days ago.
sorry, I think I pasted a previous comment here again.

feellikeabear - 1122 days ago.
lol star, I was one of those who didn't agree with some of the rules. But truly, it wasn't meant as an attack, just a debate and I was quite shocked about how rude some people here. Laura, am visiting your page just to say that - well, star has already said it all. (We are in the same week, though we do cheat a little) Thanks for this site. It is a great support system and we enjoy it hugely. I appreciate the kind of work that must go into maintaining this.

puppiesandbabies - 1124 days ago.
Ohh wow! This reminds me of the Nipplegate in Facebook :) I understand that it is to protect users, but Iam pretty sure that we all know that whatever you upload to the internet can travel all over the world with or without your consent. I dont upload or share my photos at all but I respect women who share their special moments. As for the controversial topics, I wish we could all be grown ups and take comments for what they are 'just comments'. Again, I understand this is to protect people who might not handle different opinions very well. So, I keep on posting on this site knowing that if I have a 'hot' topic to talk about I will take it to the one person who asked and with all do respect. Dont go all Facebook on us, breasts and nipples are so not offensive on a pregnancy site.

RobinG - 1124 days ago.
Exactly :)

beckybear - 1124 days ago.
The admins are not running around to everyone's pages every day looking for any small infraction of the rules. As long as you behave like a reasonable human being, you will be fine. But they set rules so that if someone is going overboard and people complain, they have established guidelines and can enforce them.

Laura Ward - 1124 days ago.
The majority of these rules have been in effect, some have just been modified to fit the changing needs of the site. As long as you are not being rude, harassing or judgemental you should be fine.

~Kristy~ - 1124 days ago.
I think there is far too much censorship in this world and this website is going overboard. We should be allowed to discuss whatever we want as long as it is done in a respectful way, and other peoples opinions are accepted. We are all adults. As for posting pictures I think if a women needs to post a picture of her dead baby on her own profile (which is an awful event in her life and I am sorry to anyone who has experienced this) maybe she could just post a warning before the picture so only those who want to see it can. Maybe it can help people learn and heal and grow together. As for nude pics (nipples and breasts) that is also a big part of pregnancy and babies, and if someone wants to post it they know anyone can see it including people with not so good intentions, but to be honest there are far better websites to get 'your rocks off' then a pregnancy website. I think the rules should state please discuss things in a respectful manner, and understand that people have different opinions on topics. Maybe you can create two halves to the website. I am pregnant censored and I am pregnant uncensored. I am willing to bet you will have 10% or less of people on the censored side.

Laura Ward - 1124 days ago.
We are open to hearing your concerns, however, the rules will not be changed at this time. Members will only be deleted if they refuse to comply with the rules of the site or create fake accounts to voice their opinions.

LKLmama - 1124 days ago.
no not ALL of us are still here after stating our opinions... I know of a few that have been removed!

TaniamommyX3 - 1124 days ago.
This is exactly why this site is so great....we have ALL stated our opinion and we are STILL here! lol Just keep doing what you are doing and if it's somethign you shouldn't be doing, you will be told to stop. It's not really a big deal!

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
Members can continue to post pictures of their growing bellies.

-x-charlee-x- - 1125 days ago.
So if a mother who has lost her baby posts it on her page and pregnant women see it and get upset, does this mean then we cant post pictures of our pregnant bellies because it may offend and upset women that are TTC? Its ridiculous.

lisatek82 - 1125 days ago.
I have been on this site for almost 3 yrs and wanted to share something. The Admin is not trying to be mean. I remember when I was pregnant and having complications there was a woman who posted pics of her 'sleeping beby' and I was horrified. This was not a baby at 30 weeks or anything. It was more like 20 and didn't even look like a baby. I was horrified and cried for weeks not knowing if my own baby was going to make it. If I would have seen this pic at any other time I probably would have been okay. I don't think the admin is doing anything wrong. They are allowing these mothers to have a link to their babies memory page or whatever thay have created. It is not that they are heartless, they just need to think about all the mommies on here. My heart goes out to everyone that has lost a baby. It isn't hard to create a memory page and put that on instead of a pic and then people that DO want to see it can. As far as the circ and vaccine topics go... You all can still post there... just don't starta a fight about it and get nasty. We are all adults here and in the past people have not acted that way.All they are asking is that you be open minded to the topics. I am sorry that some of you are leaving, but this is my personal opinion and I wish you all would stay and follow the rules.

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
We are not saying that you can not discuss those types of things. By reading the rule, it states that it is approved IF you post in the appropriate forum and have a general concern. What we do not want is members posting judgemental and rude comments to others that don't share the same opinions. Because of heated debates that became a bash fest in the past, we were forced to disable comments on the abortion page. If you want to discuss vaccinations, do so on the vaccinations page and with upmost respect to the other members, even if they do not share your opinion on the matter.

shanelle - 1125 days ago.
i have to comment on the deceased baby pictures i find this a hipicritical rule. let me make sure i have it right you cannot post a deceased baby due to the fact it may upset a pregnant woman and scare her that her baby may pass ok what about the ones trying to conceive dont pics of the pregnant woman on here upset them that they cannot or have not yet been able to have a baby ? so does that mean you should not post pregnant pics? in fear of upseting the ones ttc thats hows it should work to me its the same concept right? so if that was the case there wouldnt be much of a website would there! i think the world has come to such a down fall people suing people, calling cops for no reason complaining about things that are important to other people for ther own satisfaction whats next? no colored ? no gays? no fat woman? come one we are all adults and mostly parents and we teach our children not to cry over spilled milk right? so why are our actions acceptable when we compain and whine and make big deals out of things that should be considered most important ? as a mom of soon to be 2 ' Dont Act Like Babies' really sit back take a breath (like i tell my daughter) and ask yourself is this really a big deal or am i overreacting ? what kind of life am i living if i am angry all the time about medeocar things? and last but not least .. 'what if i was in there shoes?' hope this doesnt offend anyone i am on no sides i have had no m/c's no sleeping babies, no problems conceiving and i dont breastfeed and i did get my daughter vaccinated, those are my choices and experiences and i in everyway respect and sympathize with everyone elses individual choices and experiences and beleive that these issues should not be concidered issues ...........

angelag3girls - 1125 days ago.
Well the picture of the lady breastfeeding on the top of the breastfeeding forum is gone. This is nuts. I think some things are being taken way out of proportion and its causing us to lose even that much more.

happyforest - 1125 days ago.
kristal i agree with u and i do see it in the same way. i had a good friend leave this site bc of it. she had lost a baby and needed support but instead this site just knocked her down. its sad really. if someone is going to be too sensitive to know about something like that then they shouldnt come here, but there are people who would like to be able to share and discuss things and they should be able to come here and do it. it IS a pregnancy and baby website, so i think anything related to that topic would be something you could expect to find on here.

kristalsfirst - 1125 days ago.
i just feel its almost like telling people are expecting not to post pix of there belly because there are people on this site who lost a child and they dont want to be remided.... thats just how i feel. Were upset for the expecting mom, but discriminating agaisnt the mom who lost a child...

kristalsfirst - 1125 days ago.
I'm not trying to start a fight with anyone, but i want to write my input; People are upset because someone posted pictures of a deceased baby. Now we are all upset for the mother who is expecting because that could be a possibility for her that she doens't want to see.. Well what about the mother who was expecting, it was a possibility and IT DID HAPPEN TO HER. People that are expecting, or have babies you think would be the most supportive and helpful because they can relate to you what a loss that would be and try and help you get over it and help you grieve. We are all upset for the expecting mother but not upset for the mother who lost her poor child.... Nothing in the world can feel worse then your child dieing. If i was expecting I would be happy and greatful im expecting and wouldn't be offended by someone else's pix of their deceased baby. I would let them vent and and morne knowing that if it happened to me i would want support too. If they were a member of this site they were here with everyone throughout pregnancy, now everyone has their babies and they have NOTHING but a sad memory... We are all human girls, death happens, we all know that ! Let the poor mother grieve and lets help her!!!! A child is the greatest gift in the world can you imagine that being taken while everyone is posting there pix and you are being descriminated agaisnt because of an expecting mother having HER feelings hurt?? Common ! Am i the only one who sees it this way? Im not trying to start a fight of offend anyone so sorry if i did.

jessberr31 - 1125 days ago.
I think your doing a great job Laura! If some people do not agree with the rules then they should just go to a different site to discuss things they can not here. I don't understand what the big deal is, no one is forcing anyone to be here. Obviously there have been problems where its caused the rules to be adjusted, and its your right to do that since its your site. So kudos to you for wanting to avoid conflicts and confrontations as much as possible. And for also trying to keep everyone safe from perverts lurking on here. Its a shame that we live in a world where there are people like that, but lets face it, there out there. Keep up the good work!

jacquelyn - 1125 days ago.
jpcm- You said it. :-)

TaniamommyX3 - 1125 days ago.
Thanks Baby1 & your welcome Laura...you know, I don't see these rules as anything out of the ordinary. Any facility or organization you go to are going to have rules and they aren't asking that we don't talk about these subjects, only that we don't argue and act like children when we do talk about things and try not to say anything rude....like 'you are stupid for do/saying/believing (fill in the blank). Speaking from experience...you will only get deleted if you say something that you really know you shouldn't and you will have plenty of warning! lol And if there is this great forum where everyone can say what ever they please, then GREAT! We all win because people who have a problem with this site can go there and the rest of us who are perfectly content with these 'rules' can stay here!

jpcm - 1125 days ago.
Honestly, pregnancy is SCARY, it's an emotional roller coaster, of unknowns..it's physically challenged, at at the end of it...you are not guaranteed a good outcome...it' sterribly sad, but it's true!! Being a mom whose been through 2 mc's...and has a 2 yr old with a congenial birth defect, and now a 9 month old....you learn to accept that pregnany is not all sunshine and roses!! Congrats to anyone if it is, but for some moms, who go through the loss of a baby..at term..is horrendous to find these images...anything remotely scary!!! For someone to say....I can't hear or see of 'sleeping babies' is someone whho may have never been in that position...or someone who thinks pregnancy always has a great outcome....rules are rules...i understand that....at same time....to have rules saying no discussion of vaccines, circumsizion..whose to say what is rude to one may not be rude to someone else....even breastfeeding has rude comments, same with formula feeding....so should we not be allowed to say things such as 'breastfeeding is healthier, cuz, i formula feed, and my girls are healthy, so I find that rude!' Is there a topic forum for politics?! If not, can there be?!?! I am seriusly into politics, as it affects the outcome of my children's future lives!! If someone finds something i say rude, will i be allowed to defend myself?! There is no way to please everyone, but...I must admit, some of rules are extremely controvercial themselves..LOL...so should i not speak of rules?! LOL Going crazy!! Most of girls from the previous chat here on this site..have all moved to a new chat site..... we can discuss all topics, and can do so freely, and we work things out...it's amazing!! Who, knew, grown mothers, could work out such things as vaccines, circumsizion, abortion, politics, formula vs. bfing!!!! LOL