General::Rules

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Baby1 - 1125 days ago.
Tationamommy08.....you've got it spot on!

crystalwinds88 - 1125 days ago.
and i apologize for my typos.. typing fast.. i seem to miss keys.. lmao

crystalwinds88 - 1125 days ago.
Im sorry .. i have read all the comments and STILL disagree... i should be allowed to post a bfeeding picture int he bfeeding section.. an tho there may be perverts out there.. THAT IS THE RISK I TAKE.... just like the risk I take at posting anything onto my profile... welcome to the internet... anyways.. i wish moms would open up a bit and not take too many things to heart... breasts are breast.. we all have them... circ.. you choose to or not to...vaccines.. your choice too. heck everything you say may be completely against someone elses opinion.. you cant please everyone.. and on one more note... im not one of them.. but until your a grieving mom for the loss of your babe.. you will NEVER understand what kind of closure it is like when they can be treated as if they are no different... i was pregnant and knew a girl who lost her baby on here... and i looked at the pic everyday and every day.. commented to how beautiful he was... and every day i cherished the moments i had with my baby in and out of the womb... and ya know what? i knew that death is a possibility.. just like genetic mutations... and i learned to live and understand it... i just wish others in this open forum could do the same... now im going back to my very open chat room... where we can say and do anything and we live in harmony just fine ;)

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
Thank you, Tatianamommy 08, for your explanation. You are absolutly correct and I have tried to explain that to many today.

TaniamommyX3 - 1125 days ago.
I think the reason the team has asked us not to post pictures of breastfeeding is not because they don't agree with breastfeeding but because there are weridos out there who may be looking at your naked breast and not be thinking about what a wondering thing you are doing for your baby...Same goes for bare children. It's sad that there are people out there who might enjoy our pictures in a 'diffrent' way but it is true and something we shoudl be wearry about. There is nothing I love more than seeing my son's cute litle bare bottom but I won't be posting any pictures of him like that online...nor would I post a picture breastfeeding for the same reasons.

Bri - 1125 days ago.
After reading all these comments and being quiet all day I just wanted to add one thing....The breastfeeding page has a more revealing picture of a mom breastfeeding then any I've ever seen posted here or on facebook. I agree, there are rules that need to be abided no matter what your belief is on the subject but I just think it's funny that we aren't allowed to share pictures of ourselves breastfeeding but then there is a picture right there with a women with her shirt completely unbuttoned. HAHA! I know when I feed I lift my shirt just enough for my baby to latch on. You may side little midriff and that's it. Just my opinion and insight on the subject.

EloiseAndHarrys-Mummy! - 1125 days ago.
i agreee with alot of these women. I do not have a problem with most of these rules, like swearing, racism etc. I agree that, if something is on somes own personal page, if its a picture of deceased baby or someone breastfeeding, you should be awear that you will see these things. This website is intended to help and support people and the rules are getting a bit too restrictive. Fair enough not posting it up on the forums but on your own page. If i want to read about someones sleeping baby, i will if not , if i think it will upset me i wont. like i said, some of the rules are there for good reasons. But i believe people should beable to choose weather or not they will read someones page so that person can open up, the grieving mothers. Even if they put a warning that there page contains things you might not like. x

notsmithers - 1125 days ago.
this site is so fab and if people have a problem with the rules then so be it. their negative attitude doesnt belong on a postive site like this! ive had so much great advice here that i wouldnt get from a doctor. i will be forever greatful. rules are there for a reason, the site would be caotic otherwise, well done laura ward!!

stargazer530 - 1125 days ago.
I for one, agree with the rules. I cannot count how many times I have read people's comments (and agreed) about how grateful they are for this website and how it's so different from others and they always enjoying getting on. These rules are the reasons why we all enjoy the site so much. If you don't like the rules, email people privately or find another site that isn't monitored and you can post whatever you like. Sure, there are some things we would all like to discuss from time to time that would be controversial, but that would lead to fights and people no longer enjoying this site as they do. I have experienced a m/c and being currently pregnant and scared every second of something going wrong, I am not comfortable seeing a picture of a dead child. I wasn't before I even became pregnant the first time. So, thanks Laura and all your team for making and maintaining a great site.

TaniamommyX3 - 1125 days ago.
Goldenmama37 - I think you bring up a good point....there should be a section for grieving parents and maybe in that section, a parent can share their pictures. If someone goes to that section and gets offended, then that is their fault!

TaniamommyX3 - 1125 days ago.
I think I can agree with not posting pics of deceased 'anything'. Take the 'baby' out of it for a minute and ask yourself if you would want to see a picture of my 'deceased dog' or 'deceased grandmother'. I can't empathize with someone who has lost their little one so I can't make a non-biased opinion but if you try to take yourself out of it for a minute, can't you see why seeing a pic of a deceased child would be hard for an expecting mother? I can hardly even bring myself to write the words....

staceyh - 1125 days ago.
I remember when I was pregnant not too long ago...an active member of this sight had a 'sleeping baby' and posted pics and I was devasted!!! and stayed that way for a couple of days....I do feel for her but when you are pregnant the last thing you want to see is a baby that passed away....

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
You can in private messages at your own risk. IF the other member is receptive to your conversation, it should be fine. However, we will not allow members to use the private message feature to send others unwanted messages about topics.

lilmissk - 1125 days ago.
Are we not allowed to talk about controversial topics in private messages either?

dapie898 - 1125 days ago.
i don't see why people can't post pics of their 'sleeping' baby but you have to remember that rules are there for a reason and if it would make someone uncomfortable then they shouldn't be there. it wouldn't bother me...but i am a labor and delivery nurse. there are plenty of other sites that you can make your profile private if you want to show your boobs or whatever...i don't know why anyone would want to put a picture of their naked boob up anyway. there is no way to make EVERYONE happy...if they let you put naked pic up (why you would want to i don't know) then someone else would be uncomfortable if they saw it. they have to have rules though

baby[bump]mama - 1125 days ago.
Thanks laura for the reminder about the rules...i know that they have been here forever-but its always good to be reminded about them!

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
We are welcome and appreciative to all feedback. I am here to listen, but I am also here to make sure the site is being used for its intended purpose and enjoyable for everyone.

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
We have no control over the advertisements as these are chosen automatically based on what the members are dscussing. I have seen ads that are not ideal, but again, they are based on the comments.

feellikeabear - 1125 days ago.
Laura, what did you expect from us? We are all insomniac, hormonal, achy, exhausted women here :-) :-) You should welcome the feedback. Let there be room on this site for all sort of disagreement, even on this.

GoonieMomma - 1125 days ago.
Finally, regarding the discussion of babies that were born asleep, the most beautiful term I've heard regarding infant death... A while ago I asked why I was being fronted advertisements regarding funeral arrangements for infants. I was told that the adverts were on a random generation, and discussion topics would bring these up. While I can choose to not go to someone's page who posts these pictures, I am unable avoid the 1/3 page ads generated. These bother me much more than the pics, especially when I was overdue, worrying about kick counts and the such... I felt they brought about some undue stress. Again, with my greatest respect, Goonie.

Laura Ward - 1125 days ago.
Ladies, many of you are overreacting. Most of these rules were already here. As far as the controverial issues are concerned, you may discussis if there is a genuine question regarding information on the topic and you should post in the appropriate forum within the site. We are not allowing the rude and judgemental comments concerning these topics. We have never allowed pictures of deceased babies to be posted. This is because for the majority of women who are pregnant or trying to conceive, seeing the traumatic image of what could potentially occur is often too much to handle. You are welcome to post a link to a memoria site, blog or other website from your page. At that point, the member may choose whether to proceed to the site or not. Thank you for your concerns. In an effort to keep the site friendly for all members, we do occasionally need to modify rules to keep the site friendly and used for its intended purpose. While we do not wish to see any of our members leave, if you feel that the rules are too much for you to handle and can't abide by them, you are welcome to contact me to have your account removed.

mama-mimi - 1125 days ago.
Being a member of this site...Can you imagine waiting for your little one to be born...son or daughter...and they are still born or die shortly after birth? Everyone is happily posting pic's of their babies and you're 'rejected'? After everything this Mother has just been through why shouldn't they be able to show their precious one off...it will be the only picture that they have. It's closure...it's natural...as I said before...they will always be a Mom...you never forget what that love feels like. Also, breast-feeding, circ's and vacc's are a part of life with children...I need to talk about it. If there is a member that is a repeat offender...always bashing others with heavy/ugly opinions then take them off of the sight. This is just an easier way to monitor everyone...lazy, controlling...America...isn't it great? I think I will be leaving this site.

GoonieMomma - 1125 days ago.
Along the lines with Imaginary: I agree that breastfeeding is a normal, beautiful part of everyday life. If I am allowed to do it in public, and I do, I fail to see why we can not post tasteful pictures of this intimate mother/child relationship on our personal sites. While I understand that a line must be drawn, I feel this one ('include the breast and nipples'... nipple is spelt incorrectly in the rules posting, btw) is a bit too conservative. I understand not all mamas are able to BF successfully and these images may upset them as such, but I fought long and hard to establish this relationship with Augustin and am so proud of it. Also, posting photos of these types may help one new mama find another and feel more comfortable asking questions (instead of in a forum, where it seems everyone has an opinion, no matter their 'skill' level). Respectfully yours, Goonie.

Angel-Baby - 1125 days ago.
I agree with Anne-Marie- I too lost my son and his pictures look no different than a sleeping baby. How absurd to tell a mother not to post her child's pictures.. I feel that is very unsensitive and hurtful. I thought this website was suppose to be a support group?? I could post pictures of Cody when he was living and one of after his death, and I am sure you wouldn't be able to tell the difference...

lisamarie8503 - 1126 days ago.
AMEN ROBIN G!!