General::Rules

These rules r the reason I created a group on another website. We have been going strong for 5 months on that site and we share whatever pictures we want...best yet, its a private group so we dont worry about crazy people being offended!

RobinG - 1128 days ago.
I didnt just notice it, I knew it was there ~ sadly I was here long ago when one mom lost her baby and posted a photo of her holding her baby who had died and she had to remove all her photos ~ some were very upset she posted them and I think it was horrible she had to remove them ~ I think it is horrible of ANY mom to prevent another mom from sharing and grieving anyway she knows how. If a mom cant handle seeing it she shouldnt come here ~ or look at the page, I see no reason they cant be on her page only.

luvbeingamom - 1128 days ago.
I have to agree with Robin. I think there are better ways to approach the argumentative posts rather than banning everyone from posting on the subject. I have found out a lot of interesting info on both circ and vacc from other moms are here. I don't always agree, but certainly enjoy hearing other thoughts/studies etc on the subjects. I have also seen very little arguing about any of these subjects in a long while ( i have been on here for 2 years). Though i understand wanting to make this a friendly sight for all, i also feel that taking away our ability to have adult conversations about topics we all face as mothers is defeating the purpose of the site, JMHO. As for the pics, maybe instead of banning pics of deceased babies and breastfeeding, maybe we can make them private only to your invited friends? Just an idea. Thank you for this site but please reconsider some of these rules.

cheatingho - 1128 days ago.
I think the deceased baby rule needs to be changed as well. They look like they are sleeping and that mother wants to show her beautiful baby one last time whats wrong with that. They were here through their pregnancy and we become friends and we want to support each other and if one of us needs the support because we lost our little one then we should be able to do that.

imaginary0422 - 1128 days ago.
I think the 'no pictures of deceased babies' rule was already there months ago -- are people only noticing it, now? I'm more concerned we're going to have another Facebook-style war over pictures of breastfeeding because of the 'no pictures of breasts or nipples' rule.

RobinG - 1128 days ago.
I too an upset by some of the new rules ~ While I do agree with some I think the vacs as they have been are FINE! Why fix what isnt broken?? There have been some really helpful and good conversations regarding vaccinations and being here as long as I have been I've DEF seen my share of posts that have issues or need to be deleted. And VACS is NOT one of them!!! There have been questionable posts but like others it can just be removed. There are enoughmods on here who can and HAVE done so when needed. I REALLLLLLLLY hope you reconsider!! As far as the BF photos ~ I DO agree that that nipples/areola dont need to be seen but the breast is absolutely fine IMO. You see the breast in a bathsuiting photo so whats the difference?? The nipple you dont and that part I do agree with. JMHO ~ I really hope you DO take our thoughts into consideration ~ You are a mom too and I know if you had a concern you'd want US to take your thoughts/feelings into consideration, so please take ours too ~ TX!!

Christine G - 1128 days ago.
Has anyone really read the rules? Makes sense to me! There is nothing written about breast feeding. For the information on circumcision and vaccinations they said it would be fine it's the opinions on it. Like the whole don't do it or do do it. The only one I would say that should change is posting pics of deceased babies. I mean normally the child just looks like he/she is sleeping.

Lia20 - 1128 days ago.
You all make this site as a support site for mothers and it seems like you are taking that away from us.

feellikeabear - 1128 days ago.
Especially the rule of not putting up pictures of deceased babies, that really sounds insensitive to me. These moms are still moms, and they are already having a tough time dealing with their loss, the least we can give them is our love, support and prayers.

feellikeabear - 1128 days ago.
With all respect, I don't approve of these rules. It is absurd to say we shouldn't talk about vaccinations, circumcisions etc. They are to do with pregnancy and babies. In fact, there is a woman ion my week who is a nurse and a very sweet person and I was thinking this morning I'd like to discuss vaccinations with her. This is too much like censorship. Besides, even if we disagree on things, we can discuss them. We are all adults here. As for the pictures of deceased babies, well, this site is for support, and as a first time pregnant mom, all I'll feel if I see or hear of a deceased baby here is compassion and love ,and a prayer will spring to my lips. I can understand it might be disturbing for some but they can always not look. As for limiting discussions on certain topics to forums, well, I have been talking to the women in my week for the last few months and there is a certain bonding there. What if I need to share things with them. They can always tell me if they are not comfortable discussing something and then I wouldn't at all mind shutting up. I hope you understand the point I am trying to make. I am not trying to attack you, I am sure you have your reasons but I just don't feel I agree with these rules.

mama-mimi - 1128 days ago.
You're still a mother...even if your child has passed...always.

Lia20 - 1128 days ago.
This site has and is helping me a lot with my lil girl and other things you are taken away a place for moms the talk and vent. And abortion, circumcision, politics, religion, vaccinations. Politics and regilion ok but you have a forum about abortions and if i have a boy i want to get all the first hand views on circumcisions and on vaccinations i need to know wat my child need.

amber325 - 1128 days ago.
I find these rules to be ridiculous! If I lost a baby I would want to show my angel and help other mom's not lose there's! I know one of the most touching/emotional things I saw on here was the photo of the beautiful angel who passed away..it was her funeral photo. Also no breast photos, wtf...next it will be no bottle NIPPLES! Come on people need to grow up, that is why breast feeding is sooo low in the united states people act like it is embarrassing/ distasteful! It is beautiful and natural! also no talk of vaccinations..circumcision...breast feeding! All of these are things new moms face we should be able to talk about them!

thebigtomato - 1128 days ago.
It is unfair that people who are hateful and attack others and whiners that think everything is offensive are ruining this site for everyone else. Those of us that are adult and mature and can talk about issues in an adult way without attacking others or without finding a simple stated opinion offensive are getting ripped off. Many of the issues listed are pregnancy and/or child related issues, but we can't state opinions about them? I would tell you my opinion about that, but I would hate to offend anyone...

lisamarie8503 - 1128 days ago.
I would like to say that every single opinion that a person has can be controversial, so basically you are telling us not to talk. I would just tell the people who find things offensive to leave this site because they are pathetic!

Do not post photos of deceased babies?!?!?!? OMG I would be so pissed if I was a mom of a child that passed away...you have got to be kidding me! Where did you come up with these rules laura?! So just because that mom lost her child she shouldnt be able to put up pictures of it? Just because it may bother one person doesnt mean it should be allowed. If it bugs you it is simple, click the mouse button and direct yourself away from the picture and dont go back to it.

I have been on this site for over a 1 1/2 and these rules just keep getting worse.

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