General::Toddlers

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shanelle - 308 days ago.
AM I A BAD MOM? this is a very serious blog for me im hopeing some moms can give me some good advice and tips and support. this is about my 5 year old daughter. she has hit a bad point since starting school last august and im losing my mind trying to help her be happy. which i know that all kids whine and had bad days and throw fits sometimes and dont always want to eat but she is constant everyday im struggling with her. i miss my happy explorative goofy daughter . a day for me is we get up at 7 she whines and dont get out of bed till 7 15 then i make her something to eat and let her enjoy a cartoon and when she is done eating it is supposed to be time to get dressed well 'im cold' 'my cartoon' 'i dont wanna go to school' and so on so it takes 10 more min to get her dressed and by that time we have 5 min to get her hair done and coat and shoes on all while shes crying and whine constantly i end up having to shut off the cartoon and she gets louder and cries more. so finally shes ready for school after i have had to yell 4 or 5 times (i hate yelling at my daughter it makes me cry all the time) shes ready to go so off to school and we have to remind her to have a good day because she gets in trouble in school about the smallest things like she crys if she is not picked as helper for EVERYTHING she crys and stomps her feet at school if play time isnt long enough and so on. so then at 11 she gets home wants something to eat and turns down everything i offer so finally i make her something and she wont eat it. then its on to playing and when she is doing someting wrong and i ask her to stop she ignores me 4-5 times before i have to walk up to her and physically take things away this happenes all day long then she crys and whines and when i say whine i mean she sits there an eeeeehhhh eeeeehhhhh eeehhhh constantly i think she does it to up set me so i tell her she will got o her room if she does not stop crying and she say 'ill cry louder!' or if i put her in the corner i tell her 5 mins but if she asks to get out (which she does the whole time) tht ill add a min so when she does i say 6 min and she screams. if i put her in her room she yells loud enough for the neighbors to hear. now im not usually this type to spank or anything i hate it and it makes me feel bad but this last month i have tried EVERYTHING spanking (she cries louder) tapping her mouth when she talks back (once again she does it more or gets louder) my mom used to stick soap in my mouth i wouldnt do it the way she does but i even tried to wet my finger dab it on a saop bar and stick it on her tounge horrible right? i have put her in her room for hours while she cries. now dont get me wrong i try everything else BEFORE punishment i try talking to her i try helping her asking her whats wrong and so on... the nice path does it work ? no . then dinner oh good ole dinner well it usually consists of me trying to encourage her to eat for 1/2 hour to one hour which in time i usually get frustrated half way through cuz its good things she just dont want to eat like cheesy potatoes of fries or mac n cheese its not like broccoli and stuff so by the end i have had her in her room 3-4 times and each time shes says im gonna eat i let her out and she sits down and....'i dont want that!' after she just told me she was gonna eat so once again back to her room eventually by 7 or 8 at night she calms down and the its time for bed there soon after and.., you guessed it 'i didnt get to play' and cries and whines again well if she would have just listened her whole night wouldnt have been spent in her room. and this gets progressivly worse day by day. and thats just a normal day that dont have anything to do with when we go places she always wants something shes greedy and nothing is good enough i know she understands she is soooooo smart but its like she got into this habit and now i cant break it. i have tried it all talking, helping, punishing, taking toys away, sending her to bed, i have looked at parenting sites and nothing is working i usually end up crying by the end of the night because im so sad that shes sad cuz i know what kinda girl she can be i have asked if there is anything wrong or if anyone has hurt her and so on and she says no i know this is long but i could keep going for days i just want my daughter back please help. oh and i know some think thta the baby could be causing her to feel left out but thats the ONLY thing she is so happy about she talks to my tummy everyday she even holds the glow worm up there and ets her to move tell me she loves baby everyday and kisses my tummy and looks at the baby books for hours on end sometimes so i KNOW thats not the reason but i was hoping she would be acting better before baby got here so that we could enjoy everyday together as a family. any advice good bad critisism anything will be greatly appriciated i just want her to be happy.

amanda72385 - 324 days ago.
hey everyone i need some ideas...my MIL is coming over tomorrow to take my 3 yr old out for her birthday since she didnt get her a gift so i need ideas for things to keep my 4 yr olds mind disstracted and not saddened that she isnt getting to go. My girls have never been seperated like this and its always been obvious on the favoritism towards my youngest two since my oldest isnt blood to her and it was shown on my 4 year old birthday how bad it is when my MIL got my oldest a training seat for the toilet after shes already been potty trained for a while now. so if anyone has any ideas let me know please cause i feel really bad for my daughter who doesnt get to go.

Heather86 - 327 days ago.
Hello all, lets see if there is anyone out there like me. I am 22 years old have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and 1 1/2 year old son , now i am expecting our third and final child. my kids are my life right now they are out of control crazy and to top it all off we are now a military family and living on a base where i know no one!

Ange - 328 days ago.
Hi All I hope everyone is doing Great. I havent seen anone in a while because we moved and stuff was just going on. I miss talking to you all. :) I would love to catch up on how you and all your babies are doing.I Just found out I am pregnant again so Ayden will have a sibling closer to his age. :) we are so excited.

luvbeingamom - 329 days ago.
laura - Welcome! I have 2 boys. 3 and half and 14 months. I also work full time.

luvbeingamom - 329 days ago.
kays - Have you explored the possiblity of allergies? My older son was allergic to dairy when he was younger. He would randomly vomit both day and night. Otherwise he was perfectly normal. He would be playing one minute, vomit and then go straight back to playing. He was younger, 3 months the first time, and 12 months when we tried again, he reacted the same way. He grew out of it around 2 and half. From what our ped said, a child can grow into and out of allergies at any time. You might want to evaluate what your daughter is eating. B/c if she is allergic to something the more of the food she has the more the reactions she will have.

lauraj43 - 329 days ago.
Hello my name is Laura and I have a 4-year-old daughter named Emily. Every day I spend with her is simultaneously a joy and a challenge to my mothering abilities. I work full-time so I don’t get to see her as much as I would like and sometimes it just feels like I’m falling short of my duty to her. My friend introduced me to this online show called “Jen and Barb, Mom Life” and they said in one of the episodes that blogs can be a great place to meet other moms and share experiences so I thought I’d give it a try and see who’s out there!

KayandRysMoM - 329 days ago.
ok so my daughter isnt really a toddler...she will be 4 in march. Just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced this with thier kids. She has always been healthy...she has only had about 4 sick dr appts in her life. For the past month or so she has had issues throwing up. She doesnt do it constantly and there is really no pattern. Usually it will be at night while shes sleeping she will sit up and throw up...usually once a week or so. Tonight she did it again...she was watching TV and just started throwing up...she didnt eat much today bc she has a cold and wasnt very hungry and most of what she threw up was mucus stuff. I guess she could just have a sensitive stomach? She will throw up one night and then not again for days after that so im assuming its not a stomach bug...my mom said some kids just throw up...Its just really hard for me bc i get so upset when she throws up bc i feel like something is wrong with her...but shes by no means sickly she carries on her reg life after she gets it out....happy as can be saying she feels better. Any ideas on how to settle her stomach or expereinces like this would be great!

luvbeingamom - 330 days ago.
Can you have special mommy time. When you spend a couple hours with her, playing a game in bed, like hungry hippo or some puzzles. maybe have some reading time, cuddle time while watching her fav TV program, etc. Stuff that you can still do while on bedrest. Allowing her the mommy time she so desprately wants and controlling the time so that you can maintain being on bedrest. Good Luck. I know my kids would be basket cases if i couldn't be with them most of the time.

michir - 330 days ago.
HELP with my little one. I am currently on strict bedrest and I have a little one as well. My 2 year old just isn't happy with having 24/7 time with daddy and none with mommy. The hubby took off work to help me with her but if I'm here she just wants me to be with her. We've tried telling her that the baby needs rest so she can get big and strong and mommy needs to help baby. And that works for some part, but especially when she's tired it's like a major melt down. Anyone have ANY suggestions? We are out of ideas!!

kikiea - 334 days ago.
My 13 month old also barely talks.. but when we went to the doctor for his 12 month check up they weren't concerned about it... I mean he really doesn't say words at all.. he's constantly babbling.. but no real words yet... I think it's still fairly normal...

haydens-mom - 334 days ago.
I just have a question..My son is 13 months now and still doesn't talk. He repeats 'hot' and 'dog' but it doesn't sound exactly right but we know he's trying to say those words. He still doesn't even say 'mama.' I'm just getting a little worried. Is this okay for him to still not be speaking, or am I just being paranoid?

Vikki - 339 days ago.
Christmas is fun with the little ones isn't it!?A CHRISTMAS TIP. If your little ones try and pull the bottom of the tree, put the play pen around it. I also put the presents on the inside of the play pen and put tinsel on it to brighten it up. I also put the stockings on the playpen so it is still festive but not LOOKING forbidden

juliaandcurt - 350 days ago.
clarkie3- my daughter takes OTC chewable vitamins.- Check with your pediatrician. Hope this helps

Bri - 350 days ago.
Enfimil makes a wonderful vitamin. We use it because Kekoa is still breastfed. He also had an iron issue a few months back so we give it to him just to be on the safe side. A vitamin can't hurt.

RobinG - 351 days ago.
Nutrients are very important whether it be vits good diet or liquid suppliment. Hunter has oral sensory issues so he doesnt get the amount he needs at 13 months through just solids. We supplimented with generic version of pediasure. We spoke in depth with our doc on vits and the suppliment to see what option we thought we liked best since giving vits or the liquid were both fine options. We choose the generic pediasure. What I did was look at a # of sites to see what the common agreement was on % of each vits needed for children. If you are at the store and you read labels of various brands you will see what is in the bottle can vary slightly. Some have extra calcium some have extra vit C or D etc etc. My 13 year old takes Vits and Omega 3 and my 8 year old takes chewable vits. One site to my surpirse said under 6 a liquid suppliment like pediasure is what they felt was best versus a vit. I think either is fine as long a they are getting the RDA. I know recent news has expressed that kids arent getting the amount of Vit D they need so that is the one thing I kept in mind in deciding to have my older kids on them or not on them. Some 3 year olds are good at a chewable some would prefer the liquid pediasure ~ vits are cheaper. So I would read labels, I was just at the store last night comparing about 3 bottles to see which to get for my 8 year old. :) I needed a refill and I bought a differnt kind after realizing the one I wanted had a better mix :)

clarkie3 - 352 days ago.
I don't give my toddler vitamins, should I?? Any recommendations on brand, type etc???

jenakers - 355 days ago.
I have the yourbabycanread system. My mom got it off of Ebay-new. It has children talking, running, playing etc. It will put up the word waving then show a child waving and so on. My son is 18 months. We personally work with him a lot. I can't really tell you if it works or not. He didn't start it until he was a year. I know you can start it earlier. He doesn't 'read.'He knows 9 letters but, I think that was us working with letters. I'm not sure if I'd be willing to spend a lot of money on it. I think Sesame Street would yield similar results. It depends. If your comfortable with your $ situation, I say go for it. Education is NEVER a bad thing. If you're strapped for cash, I'd read a lot with your little one and watch Sesame St. Hope this helps. Call your local library and see if they have it. Maybe you could borrow it for a while.

katesmommy - 355 days ago.
Has anyone had any experience with the 'yourbabycanread' system? I saw an info-mercial and was wondering if real people use this and if it has real success.

RobinG - 357 days ago.
My boys were like that as well ~ I think it is an age thing. My kids would walkaround the table and eat from my plate instead of their own so then I put them in a chair they couldnt get out of and it worked ~ I have a daycare girl who will not eat if she is at a regular seat but if I put her in a booster w/tray and give her her food she eats really good and I never have to ask her to eat more. She use to say she was done (shes 2.5) and if she hasnt eaten much at all I'd say no honey you need to eat a bit more if I feel she needs to and she did. Since she has learned that this is the same thing everyday she has accepted it and eats ~ if I gave in once I'm sure then she'd think she could always get down without eating. I found if she fills up on juice she is less hungry too so I watch fluid intake just before meals. She will ask every 15 mins for juice and I say no and give her water or milk if I know she should be thirsty. My 5 year old nephews were like that too, they drank alot of juice in the morning but once she cut back on it they ate better. Maybe cut back the snacks so she is more hungry ~ give her a snack after she has eaten her meal. Docs will tell you a child will not starve so it is ok if they miss a meal but on the opposite note snacks can be reduced some if it is effecting their meal. Some kids graze and it effects their mealtime. It is important they have a snack but if she is having to much it will effect her meal time too. If you feel that she isnt filling up on snacks then I'd try a booster she cant get out of until she eats a reasonable amount. My 2.5 year nephews have to do the same . I had a daycare mom who used to just not feed her daughter lunch and shed bring her with a cookie in hand because she got tired of tossing out the food and it really bothered me. She would ask her if she was hungry and the girl (2) would say no I thought, why are you asking a 2 year old? As a mom you should know how much she's eaten to know if she is hungry or not. Many kids will say no when infact they are hungry because they dont want to sit to eat. She may fight it initially to sit and not be able to get down and may not eat but that is how she will learn. We had to nip it because we found our kids would go to a restaurant and never sit, theyd want to stand and walk around and that just isnt an option. When they are younger like 1-2 I can see but once they are over 2.5 they really need to learn to sit at least for a little bit, but not all moms will agree with me and thats ok :) Maybe have a special treat (doesnt have to be candy, can be a fruit she loves) if she eats and gets down after she is done than she can have it. Kids learn alot from being rewarded for good behaviour. and rewards dont have to be food or money things, it can be her special book read to her, or two books instead of one or going outside etc etc. What will complete the learning is when she doesnt do it she doesnt get that reward ans she iwll learn from it. We went to a restaurant over th esummer and my sisters boys were acting up in the restaurant. We had planned all day to go putt putt golfing after dinner. After many warnings she told them they werent going and they didnt, we went without them they went back to hotel. They were devastated and next time we went they sat good and ate well :) ....Just food for thought :)

juliaandcurt - 357 days ago.
I have a three year old & she will not sit down to eat too. We just provide snacks & offer her meals. I have a son too & he was like @ her age. Then all of a sudden he started to eat more & regularly. My daughter is average for height and weight and Dr. just recommended to cont. her vitamins.

clarkie3 - 357 days ago.
I'm having a terrible time with my toddler EATING. I just can't get her to eat, I am trying everything. Putting out snacks during the day (trying to stick to healthy choices) seems to work, she will NOT sit down for a meal ever. She has started preschool 3 mornings a week and it stresses me out that I can't get her to eat anything before she goes to school! Please any suggestions??

AprilChristine - 375 days ago.
I need your help ladies. :), If your from the Tennesee area. I'm searching for my older half brother. We lost contact about 9 years ago. His name is Jeremy Keiper. I beleive his middled name is Carl. I should know this, but we didn't exactly grow up together. He's in his early thirties. I was lucky enough to find him last time. someone who worked at a court house had looked up his address for me. We stayed in touch for about half a year, and then unfortunately we both moved within days of eachother. Me back to Pa, and him, somewhere else in TN. We lost eachothers numbers because they changed. This was before the days of cell phones where your number went with you. I've put feelers out everywhere, I have tried googling his name, nothing. at least not my brother, there are a few other jeremy keipers out there. If any of you ladies know of him, or even know him, or have the contacts or ability to look, I would greatly appreciate any help you can give. Being a mom now, I really want him to know his neice, and I want to know how he's doing. I cant afford those people search things. they are a rip anyway. thanks everyone. :)

kwasnicababy - 376 days ago.
I have a baby girl she is 12months old. She is a very busy toddler and i am missing her cuddles sooo much! I would like to have another baby but i don't want to upset her by having to share my time and love with her and another baby. She has been such a great baby, i'm pretty sure shes the best they come. She has slept through the night since 3 months, she very rarely cries (she has to have a reason, she never just cries) She has been walking since 9 months and is such a smart little girl. I'm worried that the next baby might not be so easy and that i might regret it after.. I'm in between what should i do???? please leave comments on my page ~ thank you. ~

katiea - 387 days ago.
Angel, i understand. i have a 3year old daughter that has odd (oppositional defiance disorder) and i was so scared bringing baby home to her, especially being baby #3 i was worried i wouldnt have time to keep a close enough eye on her that she wouldnt hurt baby. what i did (which was very effective) is get her a special doll, and that can be her baby, i gave her some newborn nappies for her baby, a dummy, a bottle and we would do things together. when i fed baby she would feed baby, same as nappy change time and things like that. it is really difficult to spread your attention evenly between a toddler and a newborn, but just try to include her in everything...ask her if she wants to help change a nappy, or help at bath time. always ask but never pressure...and tell her what a great helper she is and tell her constantly how much baby loves big sissy! i hope some of this advice comes in handy