Domestic Abuse

Why are pregnant women more likely to be a victim of domestic abuse?

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crystal10102007 - 1109 days ago.
Shauna: there is no way that they would ever go to this man! Children almost always go with the mother, and there is help out there to get you back on your feet. There are shelters for abused women. I hope you find what you need in order to leave this man for the safety of your children. They are obviously scared. Please end the vicious cycle by teaching your children it is never right to hurt someone. If you stay they may grow up to think it is okay. I hope what I have said does not hurt your feelings I am only trying to help. I will listen if you need to vent and try to sort things through. No one deserves to be abused. No one ever has the right to hurt you or your children. He is just threatening you with all of this because he knows that he wouldn't get the children and you would and he is trying to scare you into staying.

ShaunaDear - 1109 days ago.
Hello ladies. Here's my thing. I went out for the first time in a long time the other night with a friend. I came home at 2 (he gave me a curfew of 12). So I come in, he beats my ass ( he hits me on various parts of my body instead of my face so he still looks like a nice man in front of others) and throws my phone and breaks it .. This wakes up my kids and my son comes out of his room crying. I am trying to comfort him and calm my baby girl dows as well. He is shouting at me the whole time. So anyway, he comes home tonight and says he will take me to court for full custody of the kids so I can't see them anymore and he will tell them what a horrible person I am so they won't want anything to do with me. Also I am a SAHM and have been for almost 4 years now, . So, then he says the courts will be in his favor because he pays the bills and has a car. and also because everytime he has hit me, I never reported him to the cops. my oops! For some reason he thinks I will only be able to support them through help from the government and that they would rather give the kids to him rather than dish out cash to help me pay for them. I can get a job, house, car, anything they need. There has got to be a way to not let these kids go to this angry and vengeful of a person. Any ideas? Sorry this is so long. Just need Help :(

akmom78 - 1129 days ago.
I just don't know what's wrong with me because even though it's a relief to be away from him, the fact that he could be seeing someone else drives me crazy!! I think it would hurt so bad to see him with someone else. What if he treated her better than he treated me? But then again, I don't think he'll ever get over his insecurities and have a normal relationship. It's so hard! I went by our house today to grab some more stuff to take to my storage unit and he wasn't there. I see that my son's stuff is getting moved into the garage. He has two other kids so I guess the older son is getting my kids' stuff out of the house. So I texted him and told him I'd like to take their toys to the storage unit and I never heard back from him. And then I saw him at the bar at 2:00 this afternoon. Made a comment to him about that...never heard back. And so while he's out and gone all day he leaves his 12 and 14 year old to fend for themselves. He doesn't make them meals and they just have no supervision whatsoever!! I ask him what the kids do all day while he's gone....once again, no response. I don't want to call. I just don't agree with his parenting. His other kids' mom is a loser and hasn't seen them in over 7 years (I raised them) and they hate me because of all the bad talking their dad did about me and now their dad is going out all the time drinking and leaving them to do whatever they want. His older son is probably going to turn out just like him and it scares the crap out of me!!

Its-Chelle - 1129 days ago.
akmom78..sorry you went through that and that youre stressing as to what to do..but you did a good thing by getting you and your kids out of that lifestyle..(((hugs))) physical abuse may be bad, but emotional and verbal is just as bad.. it can really bring you down,give you low self esteem and you feel worthless..you end up losing who you are..i was with my ex for 10 yrs, married for 8..he did drugs,,without getting into the story, all i can say is i listened to his verbal and emotional abuse for 8 yrs too long. i got tired of being accused of things i wasnt doing..he was doing the wrong..im guilty of fighting with him in front of our girls..i regret that. but one day i had enough, his mind was screwed up,he wouldnt work,we had no money no insurance, staying at my moms,i said we need to get welfare help for the meantime..but he refused..he wanted us to wait it out til he got work which wasnt happening,kids needed to see doctors due to colds etc..so i did it without him, got help,insurance, money,a job, took care of my kids and said goodbye to him! our girls were getting older and i knew this was no life for them,he was going down and taking us with him..divorcing him was the biggest relief ever..my girls and i have had a better life since then. he is no where to be found,no child support, drugs and jail are his life. im remarried, happy, have a son now and my girls have a great stepdad..... you just gotta go for what you need to do and it will happen..

akmom78 - 1129 days ago.
I was in my abusive relationship for 9 years. We have 2 boys and I'm expecting my 3rd. Our relationship was bad from the start. It did get better when I got pregnant. Even though he was only physically abusive before I got pregnant I never realized the verbal and mental abuse that he did to me. We separated in April of 2008. We ended up getting back together at the end of summer and I moved back home. I ended up getting pregnant again and he was still bad with his paranoia and insecurity issues. He hit me when I was about 8 weeks pregnant and then choked me to the ground a week later. I left at that time. He's going through counseling and I've been giving him the benefit of a doubt and went back just on the weekends with the boys. I finally had it because even though the physical abuse has stopped (for now) he is still emotionally, verbally, and mentally abusive. It's not healthy for my children, myself, and my unborn child. We are living with my parents and I'm trying to get an apartment before I get too far along. The problem is that I am a homeowner and the housing I want, I don't qualify because of that. They don't accept homeowners even though I've been displaced due to domestic violence. It's frusterating and when I take my 3 months maternity leave I'm stressing out how I'm going to make it financially. I don't know where to go or what to do. Even though I have to deal with the worry of that from day to day, I know that getting my children and I out of the situation was the best thing I could have done.