Military Families

How can I involve my partner while he is away?

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gagirl80 - 1069 days ago.
Oh wow I just noticed this! I am a military wife hubby is in the Army! We are stationed at Fort Benning Ga and I am 10w4d thanks to IVF:)

dazieoo - 1070 days ago.
Yeah it is kinda hard... my husband and I have been together 4 years... and the only time we got to spend our anniversary together was when we got married. We are both in the army, so it gets really difficult sometimes. He's been gone since january for school... he'll be back in april... then we have to move.. and he'll be off to deployment. I just got back from overseas last june... Im sure I would be slotted to deploy after the baby's born... or once my husband gets back.... I'm seriuosly thinking about getting out..... It seems like either we will have to have someone watch our baby every other year.... or we never get to see each other because one year he will be gone... then the following year I'm gone.... What sucks is I thought we had some time.. i just got to a new unit that was non deployable .. normally you'll be in a unit for 2 years at LEAST before they move you... SOOO i thought I was good for having a baby... BUT a month after I found out I was pregnant I came down on orders to move =( I'm not complaining... because I do have a choice... I do love what I do (or used to anyway)... but it just seems more practical for at least one of us to be a little more stable now that were starting a family.... Maybe I'm just thinking too much....

luvmybunnybelly - 1070 days ago.
HELLO!! hi military women and spouses ^.^ i was going threw the comments and it is hard..im a military spouse waiting for my husband to come back from iraq. im 7 mos and he will be back a week shy of my due date in late may. so im in Japan. wating for both my husband and our first child-daughter to get here. sometiems the days go by fast and other times they drag. the things we do for our military husbands. and for the military women on the sight. thanks for whut u do ^.^ well ladies have a nice day/night and hang in there.

Amy208 - 1074 days ago.
Hi- My husband is currently deployed to Kuwait, he is in the Navy. He has been gone since Oct 2008 and is not due home till Aug. 2009. I am 37weeks pregnant with his first child ( I have 2 from previous) and he will not be home for the birth. I have been on this site for months now and never new this forum was here LOL. Anyway I am due in a couple of weeks and just looking for others out there that might be doing this alone aswell. ( my parents have both passed away so yes Im alone!) Anyway just wanted to say HI and hope to chat with some new friends soon.

KaeliandEricasMom - 1078 days ago.
well now I dont go to get a u/s done the 10th they canceled it stupid doctors....but I am going for a 3d one on the 28th so at least my husband will know before he gets deployed

KaeliandEricasMom - 1078 days ago.
Yea it sucks but Im lucky enough to be able to stay with my mom in VA because my doctor is in VA even though we live in NC so it kinda worked out for me...its just going to suck because this is his first baby and I dont know if I want anymore

babyofdeployment08 - 1078 days ago.
I'm sorry to hear that your hubby won't be there for the birth. I hate that so many fathers miss that due to deployments. We were blessed that my hubby made it back a few months before the birth. We are stationed in Italy so we had no family around or planning to come visit. I would have been a wreck by myself.

KaeliandEricasMom - 1079 days ago.
Well my hubby is leaving me next month for at least 7 months...He is in the marines just joined last year..so he wont be here for his first child being born

babyofdeployment08 - 1079 days ago.
Hooray my hubby is coming home tonight after being gone for training for the past 3 weeks. Although he will leave for 5 weeks of training in a month then another deployment comes at the end of the year. Oh Army life is something.

ermsmom - 1079 days ago.
Hey lili-d, welcome! It's just something that you deal with as it comes. I don't think many of us ever really wanted to marry a guy who left us for months/years at a time but that's what happened! It really helps if you have a good network of friends and family who you can rely on. You get to meet some really interesting people too.

lili-d - 1079 days ago.
my husband just joined the Air Force on Monday. Im a bit sad that i probably wont get to see my husband everyday but i know that he is doing this to support our daughter and me. How do you ladies do it?

4thonitsway - 1080 days ago.
ok if your in Jacksonvil, FL area and are pregnant we got this email, yes it says register by the first but due a system failure they are still taking registrations but im not sure for how long, heres the email I recieved-I wanted to take this opportunity to make you aware of a major initiative that Mayor Peyton has asked our Division to undertake. Project Little Feet-a Tribute to Expectant Military Mothers will be held March 22, 2009 at Metropolitan Park from 1 - 4 p.m. This event is a baby shower for expectant active duty Military and expectant spouses of active duty Military stationed in the Jacksonville area. Project Little Feet will provide free food, entertainment, numerous prizes, services and fun for expectant mothers. Parking is available at Metropolitan Park (directions to Metropolitan Park listed below). Expectant mothers need to register by March 1st at www.coj.net (search Project Little Feet). An invitation to this event is attached, please circulate to all appropriate parties. Lt. Sharon Wildberger has worked dilligently on this project and has marketing information available that she will be providing to you over the next few days. Please contact us if you have any questions regarding this event. Thank you for your constant service in protecting our freedom. Harrison Conyers Management Officer Millitary Affairs, Veterans and Disabled Services Division City of Jacksonville 904-630-3621

babyofdeployment08 - 1081 days ago.
Josh's wife ~ I hope they are able to get him home! Dealing with the army can be so stressful. I hope you don't have to go into the hospital. Good luck

Joshs wife - 1082 days ago.
hey everyone.I am an army wife and we got preggo on r&r.I just found out friday I have a placental abruption.The dr suggested i send a red cross message to get him home because the dr said it was nessasary plus we have a 14 month old as well.Im on complete bedrest and if it doesnt get better i will be put in the hospital.I sure hope his chain of command says yes.UHH the army

lisa-82 - 1082 days ago.
Well... my 20yr old baby bro came home saturday from iraq and met his newphew (my son) for the first time and gets to be here when he turns 1 friday!!!!!! i'm so excited!!!

navmife - 1083 days ago.
pinkexecutioner.. I think you might have been missing the point i was trying to make. First thank you for putting your wants in life aside and just doing the job at hand. I have mad respect for you for doing your deployment and being able to come home and deal with the stress that awaited you. I can't begin to imagine what you went through but my point was that my sis got preg in oct of '06 and missed her deployment in march of '07. supposed to go on deployment in march of '08 but did not go due to the fact her hubby was not capable of taking care of her child. OK...whatever, not my prob. and now she got preg in Dec of '08 and is going to get out of deployment in march of '09. 3 consecutive missed deployments just is not respectable to me, and yes I am jealous my hubby still has to go. in fact he left yesterday and this is our first deployment as a family so it's a little hard for me. anyways... I hope your hubby has a great trip home and congrats on finally getting him back in your arms! YAY! Thank him for his service for me and thank you again as well.. it people like you and your family as well as all the others on this forum that give us all the freedom to sleep safe at night... my sister still sucks though....

pinkexecutioner - 1084 days ago.
I know what it feels like to have to leave your baby and it's horrible! I left my son when he was just 2 to go to Iraq for a year. When I got him back, he was not the same boy that I left. We went through almost a year of therapy because he had emotional issues and was so angry. It's not worth it. You can get another job anywhere and still be home at night with your family. I am still in the Army because I have over 10 years and I'm almost done, but if I only have 3-5, I would so leave it behind!

ARMYMOM - 1084 days ago.
So true hollybolly. Oh and just FYI.. if you are planning on getting out with a Chp 8 (pregnancy) know that you still are required to be called up once a year for 2 week training anytime, anywhere and you can be stop-lossed until that 8 year mark. Sometimes it's better to get out on unatainable Family Care Plan because you can't be called back. My commander was nice enough to say I didn't owe the Army any additional time on my DD214 so I was excused for other reasons of becoming stop-lossed. This is all per Army regs.. I know all branches have the min of 8 years but not sure how their pregnancy discharges work.. Just be careful when signing that paperwork and ask those important questions or possible stop loss and such.

christy1024 - 1085 days ago.
Thanks for the support! it really helps to hear that im not making a bad decision. if i stayed in i would have to leave my baby at only 7 months old, and i know i cant do that.

ermsmom - 1085 days ago.
I totally agree that having a strong sense of your own identity and your own career truly helps military spouses. I didn't marry in as young as you militarywife but I kind of know where you're coming from. I had to give up my career when we PCS'd and it left me reeling. I'm now trying to adjust and transition to a career field that is more suitable to military life. Right now I don't know what I'd do if my husband deployed. Being in a new city, with few friends and no family support is tough.

ermsmom - 1085 days ago.
Christy, I support your decision to get out. A friend of ours in a single mother enlisted with the Air Force. She left for training when her son was only 6 weeks old and deployed a few months after that. She was gone for a year. She came back, was home only a few months and was recently told she was going back. By the time she's back she'll basically have missed out on 2 years of her 3 year old's life. I can't imagine having to go through that. It sounds like you're doing what is best for your family.

militarywife12 - 1085 days ago.
Hello all, I’ve been an Air Force military wife for going on 12 years now. I started my family early at the age of 18 and now expecting my third child. It seem like the military life is all I really know. I have also been through deployments myself one was last half of pregnancy, hubby was fortunately able to come home just 3 weeks before our last sons birth right when the war started in 2003. Anyway, one way I feel that I helped me deal with military life is to become someone myself, to find my own identity. I went to school to be a dental assistant and then a nurse. Having your own career really helps keep your mind balanced I think.

ARMYMOM - 1085 days ago.
christy that's exactly why I got out.. we knew my husband would deploy at least every other year with him being infantry and the possiblity of me being deployed at the same time throughout my career was high. I think it's wrong that they would deploy both parents and there was no way I was going to leave my son in someone elses care.. even being my in laws or my parents.. I couldn't stand the thought. I do miss wearing the uniform and I truely enjoyed being enlisted but my son comes first and I don't think I would be able to leave him for any length of time.

christy1024 - 1085 days ago.
Yeah that's what we thought too, but nope...since were in different careers they don't care. We have to set up a family care plan that shows who our child is to go to when we deploy. It doesnt help that were on the same monthly/yearly cycle...and we wouldnt be deploying to the same location. It sucks, for the time ive been in the military it has made me into a new person and ive learned alot, but now that im having a baby and that's what i have to focus on.

4thonitsway - 1086 days ago.
last I checked since youll now have a child and your both military they wont deploy you at same time, most likely one of you will be put in a different duty station so that one of you doesnt leave. In the navy one is put on shore duty to prevent such things