Adoption

Adoption is a selfless gift of life, family and hope for everyone involved.

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sherri134@live.com - 305 days ago.
Hello;). We(meaning me and my husband) adopted a little girl from Russia about 5 years ago... She's amazing and we love her but now I'm pregnant with twins and I think she'll get jealous and (she knows she's adopted) blame it on the fact that we r not her real parents... Do u think that will happen? She's done it before when we didn't let her go to France with her best friend... I'm just really nervous.:/

madison37 - 432 days ago.
My husband and I have been looking to adopt a child..we first thought about using a surrogate, then I decided it would be too hard for me..we actually knew someone who was going to let us adopt her baby when it was born, but she backed out and let her mother adopt the baby...I am beginning to think that a new baby is not what I am destined to have..I am getting very anxious to bring a new baby home and agencies are very expensive..any suggestions

aubbalways - 494 days ago.
I'm 16 && pregnant && unsure about keeping my son. I'm glad i read this section on i-am-pregnant because it made me realize i should start looking into adoption agencies. I know if i did opt for adoption then i would want the most open adoption i could find && a family within the state. I'm getting really attached to my son but i know it'll be a terrible struggle to try && raise him with my boyfriend && help from others. It would be the best for us && our son if we gave him up so he can have a good life && we can have a chance at living too, but i don't know if i'm willing to let him go so easily... Hopefully looking into agencies will help make up my mind, whether it be keeping him for certain or giving him up indefinitely. If anybody has any advice for our situation, please feel free to contact me. :) Thanks.

ericawalker - 564 days ago.
My husband and I would like to adopt a baby. I have 2 daughters from a previous relationship and my husband is sterile. We have started looking into the adoptions process but we are getting so confused! I know you aren't supposed to 'advertise yourself' here, and that is not what I am trying to do. Just looking for more information that we can get started. I wish it were a little easier.

baby-beiler - 609 days ago.
alright ladies... this is not at all a solicitation but I want to adopt and I wanted some stories if you want to share about what you went through. Any info about the financial aspects too would be good... also for anyone in america is out of state easier or harder? thanks to anyone who shares a story with me on my page :)

clairek - 769 days ago.
hi all i was wondering if any1 cud help i am tryig to find 2 ppl that where adopted in the uk but then moved to oz does any1 know any websites i cud use to trace them?

titangoddess - 784 days ago.
Five years ago my dh and I did IVF in Europe. We concieved a son and had four embies left on ice. We did not want to have another child after him and we could not imagine leaving the embies in Europe to be destroyed so we decided to give them to another american couple. We could not donate them to anyone that was not American so we choose a couple who were also going through IVF with no luck at all. Out of the four that were donated one made it and is now 5 months younger than my son. I am very happy that we did what we did and our lttle embie has a mom and dad. We had some problems with the adoptive parents doing what they agreed to do as far as letting us know what when and where, we had this in the contract so we are not asking for anything we did not agree to before hand. But we got in touch with an attorney and got the information we requested so things turned out fine for us. The only thing I am worried about is what if those parents were not good parents at all and in a few years we get a knock at the door with a young man we created asking us why. But that is something I doubt will happen. Adoptive parents usually are the most loving of all and I believe in my heart that this child will have the best life possible. We are very proud of what we did for this baby and for these parents. I urge parents to consider adoption. It is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of love.

lourds - 814 days ago.
Deep in my heart, I would love to adopt a child, I'm praying that my husband shares that same dream...(Thinking out loud, hehe)

pantone - 815 days ago.
Adoption is one of the most amazingly selfless acts one can make. We have two adopted sons and It brings me to tears everytime I think of their birth mom- how thankful I am to her that she chose to give them life. They are amazing boys who I am so proud of and who I loved even before I knew who they were. If you are considering adoption, seek out families who are well educated in adoption and its issues and active in the adoptive community. This will provide lots of support for the children. These types of networks are essential and will provide a rich upbringing and sense of belonging to your child. Every day my prayers are with all of you moms who are debating what to do about the life within in you. We have a bio. baby and another bio baby on the way, but we are also in the process to adopt two more children. I can tell you truly from the bottom of my heart that I do not love my bio children any more than I do my adopted children and the entrance of all of our children into our lives are all equally miraculous and I can't imagine my life if I didn't have each and every one of my kids- even the ones we have yet to adopt. We chose to adopt first so that our children would know they were chosen, not a last resort, but prayed for since I was a little girl. There is so much love out there for children who need to be adopted and so many beautiful reasons that people choose to adopt. Be a part of that! It is an incredible journey!! XOXOXOXO

Honeybees - 861 days ago.
i too think it is just a mirical of you all to have such beautiful open hearts, weather you can have, have already or arent able to have your own, to all the women out there who are taking children in every day, thank you from all the baby s and children who cant say it to you yet.

TaraP - 861 days ago.
Adoption is the most generous, selfless and charitable thing anyone can do in their lifetime. My cousin just adopted a baby girl and she has changed all our lives. Putting the needs of your baby and what is best for it ahead of your own shows that all adoptive mothers are the most wonderful mothers in the world as they make the ultimate sacrifice in the best interest of their child.

mollyjs - 888 days ago.
To teenage mothers considering adoption- I just want to say that any mother that is considering adoption is the most selfless person there could ever be. A teenager that has the guts to stand up for the benefit of their child and do what they know is best is remarkable. Knowing your own limits is so incredibly mature. I know at 16 or 17 I never could have made such a decision. I couldn't even do it now at 29. You ladies are the women I aspire to be. Don't let anyone tell you you're selfish for giving your child up. That is those people's own fear coming out on you. You are doing a wonderful thing for another couple and especially for the child you created!

joeyandzacksmommy2007 - 958 days ago.
i was adopted when i was 7 years old..i was put up for adoption when i was 3 and 1/2..there were three if us with 20 months between me and my oldest brother and one in between. we were put through hell from the age 1-3 when the state stepped in and took us away. i do not remember all but my two brothers do. all because my parents were selfish thinking we were gonna keep them together. my dad had a girl on the side and my mom was into herself..we suffered. i see how some people are like well why did they get pregnant it could have been prevented but the truth of the matter be that it happened and wheteher or not protection was used. there is a baby and i see nothing wrong with someone given thier baby up to a family who can care for them. i know it has got to be the hardest thing to do but also is the most unselfish thing too. if you know u can not do it then adoptin is always an option. there is also open adoption too where you can still be involved with your child but you are not raising them. instead of putting people down who got pregnat and trying to make a decision that is right we should praise these women for making a decision that is right or they could end up like me and my brothers

sokistar - 1004 days ago.
I was placed for adoption when I was 8 years old. Now, I am single, heartbroken, and pregnant. My burden is deciding whether to be a mom or give this baby up for adoption. I genuinely want what's best for the baby. My instinct and desire is to raise this precious baby on my own, but I believe I can't provide all he or she needs. And my family will not support me financially. So, I am searching my options and praying that I make the right decision. I don't know if anyone here is in my shoes, but it's one of the toughest things I've ever been through.

blancalozy - 1019 days ago.
she is a princess-I always asked me that question 2 ....

blancalozy - 1019 days ago.
bri-- ur right I just wished we had a better world but those are just dreams ,,,,,I have a girl she is 1 yr old and everytime i see her my heart gets full og love for her she is my everything... So I just feel sorry for those babies newborns children who don't have a home and a family.

lilmiracle2009 - 1021 days ago.
blancalozy ~ I can see your point of view about getting pregnant if you are not willing to raise a child. I believe that if two consenting people have sex, then they should always know that pregnancy can happen and be prepared if it does. On the other hand, sex is not always consensual. As I mentioned before, I was date-raped and became pregnant as a result. I was a virgin when it happened and I was definitely not wanting or expecting it to happen. Yes, I was naive and too trusting, but still I didn't not ask for it to happen. I could have had an abortion, but I don't believe in that. Instead, I made the hard decision to go through with the pregnancy. Because I did, a couple was able to adopt a child when they could not have children. I believe that God allows things to happen for a reason. Just as years later, He put a little girl in my life who I have adopted. I believe that even before she was conceived, God knew I would be her mother. I believe she was conceived for me. Just think, if every woman who had a child kept that child (whether she was a fit parent or not), what would the women who cannot have children do? They would go without children since adoption would not be an option.

sheisaprincess - 1021 days ago.
I have never adopted a child nor really ahd the thought to but I do feel that people thatt adopt are waay better than parents that have their biological children. To love someone elses child and go through all that it takes to raise a child financially and emotionally is great (to say the least). I have 4 kids of my own, I love them but I often wonder could I love another child that is not mine the same way.

Bri - 1022 days ago.
blancalozy - I love your thought but it doesn't always happen that way. I was on the same birth control pill for 10 years when I got pregnant. My husband and I weren't even having sex as often as we had used to. But it happened. I took my pill every day and it still happened. It does so happen that we wanted to keep our child and make a better life for all of us. I love my child and am now pregnant with my second. But, that isn't always the case. BC doesn't always stop it. My doctor once said that sometimes if you have a strong sperm and a willing egg nothing will stop it. It's true. I know people pregnant with IUDs, condems, pills. Even people that have gotten themselves 'clipped' have created children.

blancalozy - 1022 days ago.
I really understand that sometimes women cant keep their babies bcz of a million reasons but what i dont understand why get pregnant if we are not going to be responsible for the baby they did not ask to be born ,,,don't we all think that the babies would much rather with whom gave them birth they lived insider of her 9 months but i kno sometimes u just can't keep them and it's sad but real . I just hope that all these babies that are up for adoption get a better family one that god shouldve gave to since the beginning. Lets hope they find the prefect family .... and no abortion please always consider adoption . But also please use BC if ur sexually active and can't take care of the newborn . God bless!!!

lilmiracle2009 - 1027 days ago.
Hi All. I am on both ends of the adoption spectrum. I am both a birth mother and an adoptive mother. When I was 16, I was date-raped and as a result, I became pregnant with a baby girl. I gave birth at 26 weeks. At first I wanted to keep my daughter, but then I came to my senses and realized that I had nothing to give her. I lived at home with my parents, had no job or money saved and was still in high school. My daughter was in the hospital for 3 months because of being premature, so I had time to really think. I decided about two months after she was born that the best thing I could do for her is give her up for adoption so that she can have a better life. It was one of the hardest decisions I ever made in my life, but it was the best. If I had to do it all over again, I would make the same decision. As for being an adoptive mother, my husband and I adopted a little girl five years ago. She is now 6.5 years old. I am 22 weeks pregnant now and after the birth of this child, we are hoping to adopt a baby boy. We believe that adoption is something that God has placed in our hearts. Even with the pending birth of our daughter, we are very excited to adopt again. There is nothing better than to be able to give a child a loving home and a chance at a better life. I know some of the situations that these children have come from and it’s heartbreaking. Children should not have to suffer at the hands of their parents. They did not ask to be born. Their lives are blessings and they should be with parents who truly understand this.

hannahe - 1058 days ago.
cindypoo336 i would recommend going thru your state's adoption program. they have a lot of resources that have helped our family, as well as the option to foster before-hand incase youre interested in that because as Jenn D said the older kids are tricky to fit to the family, and it might be good to do a test drive:) good luck to everyone

Jenn D - 1103 days ago.
I am an adopted mother of 3 children. Ages 17, 10, 5. I adopted our 17 yr old at age 11 and our 10 yr old at age 4yr. Our 5 yr old adopted when she was 2 months old. I don't mean to scare anyone but, from my experience only, adopting the older children has not been a good experience. My advise would be to think very hard about adopting any older children. My reasons are because of the lack of bonding, attachment issues, my sons have a hard time moving forward in life, different ethnic backgrounds as well as life styles etc.... I hope I am not the only one this is happening too. My 17 yr old has threatening violance etc.. I am sure that there are very good adoptions with older children, I would just like to say that it isn't always the case and please don't be in the dark about things like my husband and I were. Because it will tear your family apart and if I can save anybody the heartache I'll try.

cindypooh336 - 1109 days ago.
Hi. My DH and I are in the process of adoption. We are going to adopt through Foster care and we would also like to do maybe an open adoption. We feel like the child has a right to know his/her birth mom. I dont know where to start with the private adoption thing. I have looked at agencies and I have heard such horror stories about them. I have also looked into international adoption, but there are so many here in the US that need homes. Any advice would be great. I mean do we find a pregnant mom wanting to adopt and offer to adopt? Would this be rude of us? I just dont know. Has anyone else been through this?

dizzydayz - 1115 days ago.
so me and my husband finally decided that we are going to give our baby up for adoption we have a 7 and a half month old right now and going to have another in may the one we are having in may we are giving up for adoption we are now looking for the right ppl to give our son to