Pregnancy After Loss

How can I enjoy this pregnancy after I suffered a loss?

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redheadmama - 77 days ago.
ROOSA- I won't have internet again until tomorrow, but I will come back then to check on you, okay? Praying today. What a long afternoon it will be for you. (((hugs))) BUTTER- my mom and I can not get you off our minds. You are constantly in our prayers. My mom is just absolutely crying for you. Much love. ALLISON- did you ever do anything about that insensitive doc? I've been praying for your heart. BEILER- the etiquette blog is still up on my page. And yep, it's free for the sharing around if anyone finds it helpful. I received a few negative responses to it, but mostly people appreciated knowing honestly what is/isn't helpful. Of course, everyone is different, so what is helpful in my experience/opinion may not line up with others' experiences/opinions. So it's not universal, but it may be a good start, eh? :) OKY- love it! Two more boys! Are they named yet? I'll try to email you today or tomorrow, even if it's short. :) KRISSIEH- congratulations! That is something truly sweet to be in shock about. :) CHARLOTTE- congratulations on getting so far, and may your heart find comfort and peace as you wait for your next big scan. Each day of the PGAL journey is fraught with such conflicting emotions! So thankful you found these wonderful ladies here to walk this long road with you. (((hugs)))

krissieh - 77 days ago.
just got a call from my doc office..... hcg result= 70,000 so that puts me at 5-7 weeks. i have to wait for scan date over the next few days to see the specifics of the preg! omg i am in shock! i lost my LO only 7 weeks ago

okynot - 77 days ago.
red- Yup TWO more Boys! lol Looking forward to talking to you more, when you get a second! haha. roosa- praying for a miracle, it IS possible! charlotte- I sent that miscarriage ettiquite to a bunch of people after my 4th loss. I just couldn't handle the insensitive and ignorant comments anymore. Unfortunately some people took offense to it and just avoided me. REAL helpful when I just needed support and love.. At least it shows who your true friends are. krisseah- What is going on exactly? I think I missed something. Allison- Thank you.

Allison Marie - 77 days ago.
KRISSIEH-Good luck with your results.Hope you hear something good. ROOSA-I will be waiting to hear how your us went. Prayers and fingers are crossed for you.hugs

roosa - 77 days ago.
today is going to be a very LONG day - U/S at 5 pm

Allison Marie - 77 days ago.
AH I lost the other part of my post somehow.BEILER,ROOSA,CHAROLETTE-yes,red does have that on her page.You should take a look at it.It really explaines to others what we are going through and what we need from them.

krissieh - 77 days ago.
butterfly i am so sorry :( please god you will hav esome sort of good news around the corner xxx roosa thank you! charlotte good luck :) love to everyone here in this room xxxxxx so the doc thinks that cos of the weird dates that i am either 5-6 weeks preg and the 'period' was in fact a threatened loss (not what i wanted to hear) or it's very early on with twins! so i did some blood work and should have results this pm or mon morn. so sit and wait :0/ i am so nervous! it could always just be a sneaky egg that slipped out unoticed that gor fertilized really quick and implanted early? ugh my mind is doing a mile a minute!

Allison Marie - 77 days ago.
BUTTER-As I said yesterday, I wish I could just hug your right now.Its not fair that you have been through so ,much. I know it's hard to have any hope at the moment, but I'm going to hold onto a little hope for you. Love and hugs to you. BEILER- Great news at your apt!! Fingers crossed that everything stays looking good. OKY-thats awesome about your little twin.I pray that he continues to move and grow properly and they both stay healthy as well as you.Hugs.BEILER,ROOSA

baby-beiler - 77 days ago.
hey anyone who was in the ttcal with me doesnt red have a blog on her page about miscarriage / loss etiquette. i think i remember she said that she would forward it to people and encouraged us to do something similar... ROOSA my mom said that she thought she was pregnant right after i found out i had my third loss. I just came home from a D&C to get the kids and she dropped that bomb on me... i wanted to punch her really! but its just a reallt hard thing for people to know how to talk about you know?

roosa - 78 days ago.
CHARLOTTE, I think we will always have to deal with that (insensitive people). The truth is, no can comprehend or understand unless they too have lost a child. But people can still try to educate themselves on how to be sensitive towards a bereaved parent and sadly they often don't or are not willing. It makes you feel very alone when your friends and family don't understand, but know that you are never alone. But everything changes after the death of a child. You change, your relationships change.. everything. The thing is though - I do truly believe that we change for the better and that although it seems unbelievable in the beginning (or for a long time) good things will come from something that was the worst thing possible. Be good to yourself!

charlotte5511 - 78 days ago.
butter - I am so sorry that it is not good news about your baby. I have been thinking about you. I want to say something to make you feel better, but I don't know what to say. okynot - Having scans twice a week is full-on, but it's good to hear you are being monitored so well. roosa - thank you. Even though it is truely awful to think that other people are suffering the same feelings of loss and anxiety as I am, it really helps to talk to people who understand for a change. We have had to deal with some difficult situations over the past six or so months due to people (mostly family - which is disappointing) not understanding, or just being completely insensitive. Am feeling a bit better today. Trying to keep busy now til my 19week scan on mon. Praying that all goes well.

redheadmama - 78 days ago.
OKY- I will email you as soon as I can. If we get internet next week, it will make things easier. I am so glad your scan went well! This forum needed some good news today. (((hugs))) And hey, you keep saying 'he' ~ is that just habit or did you find out the twins are boys?? :) ROOSA- you know you're in my prayers tomorrow especially. BUTTER- my heart is broken for you. I was so sorry to sign in here and have to catch up on your devastating day. I can not tell you how sorry I am. I wish there were words. But there are only tears. SARAHBETH- are you serious?! Wow girl! That's some more awesome 'oldie' news. Congrats on returning! Sheesh, just when I left though. ;) lol.

roosa - 78 days ago.
OKYNOT, so glad to hear your scan this morning was positive!!! Glad to hear they are keeping such a good eye on you and the twins! xox

okynot - 78 days ago.
babyb- I am sorry I missed the news about your son! I will pray that his little heart is strong and that it will heal perfectly. It sounds like some better news today for you. I had an appt. this morning to check on the babies and it seems to be a little bit better today. The little twin was moving more today than I have seen him move before and it looked like he may have a bit more fluid to move in. Monday he was very still and straightened out because he couldn't move much so I am relieved. They are going to see me Monday morning to check again because this situation can go back and forth and change drastically quickly. So I thought once a week u/s were a lot. 2x's a week is crazy! But I will welcome the close monitoring and hopefully reassurances.

okynot - 78 days ago.
Bonnie! I had no idea what was going on! I am soo soo soo sorry! I just got on here and saw your posts! You are in my prayers, how devastating, how heartbreaking. : ( HUGS, HUGS, and more HUGS. Please know I am here for you. You have always been there for me. Sarah- Hi! it is nice to see you again. I hate the commonality we all share on this forum but it is a blessing as well to go through the pregnancy with others who truly know how it feels. roosa- still hoping and waiting. charlotte- I TOTALLY know what you are feeling. I don't have a grasp on how to keep from losing your mind though. I just take things one day at a time. It makes it soo slow. I just want to get them here safe. 1st baby- I am sorry for your loss. I hope you can have an uneventful healthy pregnancy this time. Krisseah- I hope things turn out different for you too. It is an exciting, confusing, and scary time to be still grieving for your baby and carrying another. I wish everyone well.

roosa - 78 days ago.
BUTTER, as I said on facebook, I will keep hoping and praying for you. My heart breaks for you that your pregnancy journeys have been this awful. Like my OB said, it is not fair. I am so sad for you. xox

baby-beiler - 78 days ago.
Joel did great at our weekly check up. No heart arrhythmia was noted today. Still on weekly appointments and I get to have an u/s at 32 weeks to make sure his heart isnt affecting his growth... I am so glad for an attentive doctor and another chance to see my little guy!

jdubb - 78 days ago.
Bonnie, I posted on facebook too but I am so very sorry. I know nothing anyone says or does will make this any easier for you if things do not work out as planned. I still hold hope that maybe just maybe things will be ok. I understand though how you must feel defeated by all of the misfortune you have had while TTC. What a rough day, I am so very sorry you did not get the news you were hoping for. Even if i don't post in here anymore, I am still looking after you ladies. I am living vicariouslt through you guys because I can't ttc right now and may not really ever be able to again depending on the circumstances.. but just know I am routing for all of you guys and hoping that we all can have as many babies as our hearts desire :)

butterfly-angel - 78 days ago.
Sorry girls for keeping you waiting...As I was expecting - I didn't get good news...Baby was measuring 2 weeks behind - so measuring 5 weeks when I should be 7...One week behind could have been very possible but definitly not 2 weeks...it just doesn't match up at all...so baby most likely stopped developing at 5 weeks...I am so very sad - feeling numb actually...This was our last chance - we will not be ttc anymore After all we've been through - 3 second trimester losses - a stillborn - placenta previa - subchorionic hematomas - true knot - bleeding - bedrest - Iinfertility treatments...I was hoping for one smooth pregnancy - but I guess I will be adding 1st trimester loss to my list...I know there all miracle stories out there and I would love to be able to hold on to hope - but the truth is, I am out of hope...Thanks for all the prayers and support...Its now aaiting game...will have another u/s in 2 weeks if I haven't m/c by then and then most likely a d+c...

Allison Marie - 78 days ago.
SARAH-welcome back!! JDUBB-helloooooo.ROSA-such wonderful faith :)

roosa - 78 days ago.
SARAH, so glad you are joining us (just hope I am not leaving :). Congratulations! Hope you have a super smooth pregnancy!!! xox JDUBB, oh yes, I am VERY blessed!!

jdubb - 78 days ago.
roosa~ you are so blessed, adoption or not! I would love another child regardless boy or girl, but I know now how much it costs and it is draining me with one, I need to be responsible!

sarahbeth13 - 78 days ago.
Hi Ladies! Ican't believe I am here! So excited and nervous. Just got a BFP yesterday and another one this morning. I am crossing all of my fingers and toes for Butter and Roosa. It is so hard and I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish pregnancy was all happy news and no fears and pain. Thinking of both of you ladies and sending tons of sticky healthy dust your way.

roosa - 78 days ago.
jdubb, I completely understand.. I would love a little girl of my own flesh and blood, to see what she would look like. I was supposed to have one.. That said though I am SO grateful I have been blessed with a beautiful perfect girl through adoption.

jdubb - 78 days ago.
I think I want a little girl in a couple of years, but I don't want to go through this again, and plus I can't guarantee a girl anyway!