Sex after childbirth

When can my partner and I have sexual intercourse after the birth of our baby?

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futuremommy11 - 240 days ago.
SO & I had sex at 2w2d PP. It was AWESOME lol my dr. said to wait for the 6 week checkup to prevent pregnancy, but I could have sex when I felt ok to. I didnt tear or need an episiotomy during birth so i've been just fine since leaving the hospital......

kerryx0lee - 389 days ago.
Hey ladies! question .. i had my son 3 weeks ago .. he was my third baby .. now, with my 1st two i was told i could resume sex/tampons in 6 weeks .. this time around my doctor said 3 weeks .. at the time i didnt think anything of it .. but afterwards i was a little confused .. anyone else have a doctor tell them 3 weeks??? i think it would be weird calling my doctor, 'hey you said sex in 3 weeks right?' LOL

bchbldgrl - 531 days ago.
Hello ladies :) I have a question....I was not so smart earlier today (LOL) and my horny ass jumped on my DH for a quickie ;) I had my 2nd baby boy on 8.20 (2 wks ago) by C-Sec (my 2nd)...and this time I have FELT GREAT! Up & moving within 2 days of my surgery..straightening & playing with my 2yr old the 1st wk we came home. Now I know you're 'supposed' to wait 6wks to get busy but we were gentle & I got mine (hubby didn't want to finish cuz he's scared to get prego right away LOL)..I was on top so I controlled everything. Now about 8hrs later my tummy/scar area is a lil tender...is this normal after getting busy so soon? Any feedback would be great....I'm normally not such a dumbass ;) I just let go & went with it LOL xoxo

maggiek - 543 days ago.
Hi escribo86, Eventually it should get better, sounds like you had a nasty tear. If things don't improve in the next few weeks I would definitely go back to the doctor and tell him/her about your concerns.. Maggie x

escribo86 - 544 days ago.
I'm 8 weeks pp and I had a grade 2 tear from my vaginal delivery. When DH and I had sex last night, it was awful, the pain where my tear was, was excruciating. I'm still sore today from it and I'm wondering if this is normal. It's been 8 weeks since I delivered, should my tear still hurt? DH said that he felt more there like a nub, perhaps scar tissue. Will the pain go away or will the scar tissue always hurt, I'm so confused and I don't want it to hurt anymore.

PeapodMommy - 697 days ago.
Okay...maybe I'm a wierdo, but when hubby and I do have sex (which isn't that much since our baby has been born) it feels fantastic. It felt good before, but now it is almost like things are more sensitive inside than they were before. Oh, and hubby thinks we should be doing it all the time since I say it feels fantastic, but sleep still feels SO much better!

Maijulie - 739 days ago.
Hi ladies! It's been almost three months since my C-section and I'm also breastfeeding. My sex drive has gone down the drain. I don't feel horny at all and I feel so bad for my husband. Does breastfeeding has anything to do with it?

wishingpink - 888 days ago.
lol okay figured it out

wishingpink - 888 days ago.
how does this site worl???

Beautiful Bre - 897 days ago.
jessipoo- before i got prego with my first one.. we use to be like twice a dayers too. and even during my pregnancy we still did it pretty often up until i delivered. after i had him it has been really hard for me to get back into it all. i mean i am about to have baby number two here. but the sex part has been a huge problem in mine and my husbands life. to me i guess i just use to always get scared of getting prego again or something i dont know!!

jessipoo - 897 days ago.
hi everyone, i feel so miserable, my baby is 12 weeks old, and i have NO sex drive whatso ever, my partner is getting fed up becuz of this, but i just dont want sex! why? i know this is gross, but him n i used to be like rabbits lol, i used to be a 2 times a day girl lol, we havnt had sex since i was 7 months pregnant, i feel so crap about it, n i do love my partner but i find everything he does so annoying! why do i feel like this? i told him i think i may be a little depressed, n his remark was-wat have ugot to be depressed about? hes so insensitive, he thinks because i wanted a baby i shud b jumping from the walls in delight. maybe i shud be? wats wrong with me

1stpregnancy4me - 991 days ago.
I am 6 wks pp and am ready to get my sex life back. Any suggestions on how to ease back into the swing of things?

snipdad - 1004 days ago.
HOW TO GET YOUR HUSBAND TO GET A VASECTOMY???? I am very curios to see who anyone out here has been successful to get their husband snipped! Please share any comments...thanks!

mrsdenney - 1024 days ago.
so i have had the same problems as a lot of you. first of all i do feel a lot more self conscious than i used to. my boobs have stretch marks and i have the not so attractive c section scar. i have actually gained 6 pounds since i gave birth (mind you i only gained 6 pounds during my pregnancy) so im at the heaviest weight in my life, stretch marks and just not attractive in my mind. i do also have the feeling that it kind of hurts to have sex. its not so much that it feels too tight but more like the tunnel isnt as long as it used to be....and trust me ladies my man hasnt grown lol. i asked my doctor about it and she said it may be actually from the lack of sex. since you have to wait for so long after a c section your body isnt really used to doing things like that anymore. also you can feel pulling along the incision from the muscles trying to go back to normal. so i am just going to try to get used to it or something. as for the not feeling attractive anymore the only thing i could come up with is sit down and have the talk with my husband. let him know how i felt. he was uncomfortable because he is quite reserved really, but i forced it on him. but he ended up saying yes your body is different, you had a child. then he said the sweetest thing which was i fell in love with you not just your body. and you could gain 200 pounds and i will still think you are sexy. i think he is right though. if your man loves you he will still find you attractive no matter what.

♥ Ä§hlЄy ▫ ßєär ®♥ - 1024 days ago.
♥ Hey everyone..jus wondering if anyone else is feeling uncomfortable with their partner after giving birth? i don't like the way my tummy looks:( at all! my breasts don't look or feel the same...i'm just feeling much older than I really am. Also..i'm not sure if the sex is still as enjoyable to him or if he's lying. i know its not 'loose' down there..but (sorry TMI!!) especially when it is verrry wet it jus doesn't feel the same..im so self conscious because i know it isn't as tight as before i had my 2 kids. i had an episiotomy with both..don't know if that makes a difference? well anyways...please comment and tell me if you're going thru this..♥

DulcianasMom - 1033 days ago.
iamjustmeforme - No, this is my second. So, i know things will be a little 'stretched' down there but i honestly feel too loose. And i have been trying to work on my kegel exersicses. I just hate doing those things! Pain in my butt:P I have my PP checkup on Thursday so i am anticipating how things will check out down there! Thanks for your comments:)

boady - 1033 days ago.
abbyquiet, what do you mean it's to tight? You said you had a c-section right? sorry i just don't understand what you mean. I've had both a c-section and natural and sex was ok, I had my sex drive back. Now I wasn't pregnant so soon after having a child so I can't speak about that. But I do recall I could care less for sex for the first 3 months of being pregnant which is normal but after that omg hormones all i wanted was sex. for you it could be a mix of taking care of a 16 month old and being pregnant that takes alot of energy taking care of a baby let alone being pregnant. But i would speak to your doctor if it's painful to have sex but if you don't have the sex drive I would say it's just your hormones like I said the first three months it's not uncommon to not have the sex drive.

abbyquiet - 1034 days ago.
hi everyone! my son is now 16 months old, and im nearly 9 weeks pregnant right now. i was wondering if anyone has had a c-section and are having problems with their sex drive. it's like the sex hurts becuase it's toooo tight, and just plain uncomfortable. none of it feels good to me. maybe someone could give me some advice, other than to just do it until it gets better. thank you. <3

Bri - 1034 days ago.
jamjustforme - Ok, so my son is almost 18 months. I didn't get my drive back until I started having sex. It hurt for several months. Recently, I decided that I wanted another child and therefore needed to fix things. We did a bunch of reading and what we found out is interesting. The less a women has sex the less she wants or needs it. We stop producing testerone and such that would feed our drive. My drive problem started in college. We were like bunnies, six times a day. He moved to Denver and I still hadn't graduated. We spent a year and a half as a long distance relationship so I was having sex only a couple times a year. From then on I started to lose the drive. So about two months ago I made it an effort just to have sex, whether I wanted to or not. Now our sex life is getting better. Last month we were haviing sex every other day. This last week we cooled off for a bit cause we were busy but I found myself wanting it. I guess we just need to force ourselves. Now, if I am pregnant then instead of just sleeping and such I want to continue to have sex throughout and then have hope of having it soon after birth.

anniemarie - 1034 days ago.
my son was born in nov so he's 5 months old. i had an episiotomy and hadn't had sex in over a year...and i had sex for the first time this past weekend. had it again the following morning and it hurt a little bit more. i was very worried about being 'loose' but i'm pretty sure that even if you don't get stitched up that your vaginal walls shrink back similar to how they were before you had your baby. it was def. not "loose" and i'm still a little sore now...

iamjustmeforme - 1035 days ago.
And I am so with those of you have that NO DRIVE!!! I know they say it is normal, but it feels weird to be young and just not interested at all! I look at my DH like 'are you kidding me?!?!' Wonder if it will ever come back??

iamjustmeforme - 1035 days ago.
DulcianasMom ~ Was this your first baby? 4 weeks PP with my first, my husband and I had sex. It was a bit painful...and I was so worried about how it would feel for him and if he would be honest about it. Things were quite tight!! I was totally shocked! I am now 6 weeks PP, we had sex a few nights ago and things seem to be tight...I am so glad!! But am wondering if its just swelling??? I am seeing the dr tuesday, hope she tells me I am not at all swollen, so I know this is how things will be! What was LO's weight? Do you do the kegal exercises??

DulcianasMom - 1035 days ago.
When did any of you start feeling 'tighter' again? My hubby and i have done it a few times and i am only 5 weeks post partum (yes i know, i should have waited a little longer) and it feels OK when we start, but towards the end, it just doesnt feel right....like its loose:( It makes me so freakin self concious! I asked my hubby if it felt weird or not good and he said that it was great....i think he just didnt want to hurt my feelings.

wannabmommy - 1050 days ago.
little blessing, i had an episiotmy and tore... my son is now 5 months and weve had sex... two times.. and last time we forgot the damn condom.. so now i wait and see if we made a new creation...

aprilraine - 1055 days ago.
I tore with my first (5 stitches) we waited 4 weeks, I felt ready and wasn't bleeding, so we went ahead, it was kind of tender upon entering, but no real pain.