SurrogacyHow much does a surrogate mother charge?
If you and your partner are unable to conceive on your own, a surrogate mother offers you a chance to parent your own biological child. Surrogate mothers are also known as gestational carriers. Using a surrogate mother is an emotionally intense and legally complex arrangement. It can be set up privately or through an agency. Surrogacy involves having another woman carry and deliver your baby for you. There are still some areas in which surrogacy is illegal. The process can take vast amounts of money, time and patience in order to succeed. Using a gestational carrier may be an option for you if you are unable to conceive because your uterus is irregular or missing or if various fertility treatments have previously failed. This woman will carry the baby for the duration of the pregnancy. When the baby is born, the carrier will turn the baby over to the biological parents and sign away parental rights. Gestational carrier arrangements are usually set up either as independent adoptions, in states where they're legal, or more commonly by contracts arranged through agencies. Some physicians specialize in working with gestational carriers and can help you make an arrangement. Finding a healthy, willing gestational carrier can take months or even years, whether you screen candidates through an agency, canvass friends and relatives, or search for someone through the Internet, all ways in which couples have found carriers in the past.
In previous years, traditional surrogacy was the only way that surrogacy was done. Artificial insemination is done during traditional surrogacy. This means that the surrogate mother's egg is used and another male's sperm is used. The sperm can come from a donor or the biological father. Artificial insemination is usually much cheaper and easier than In Vitro Fertilization. Unlike In Vitro Fertilization, most people do not need medications or special testing when using artificial insemination. Artifical insemination can be performed in the doctor's office or at home. If done in the doctor's office, the doctor will insert the sperm into the cervix or uterus of the surrogate mother. If done at home, the surrogate inserts the sperm herself into her cervix at home with a catheter. Many couples do not like the idea of artificial insemination because the child is not a product of both parents, biologically. There is, however, a genetic link between the child and the surrogate mother.
Many couples need to have someone else carry their baby, but they want the child to be genetically linked to both mother and father. This is done by having your surrogate carry an embryo created from your egg and your partner's sperm. Generally, you and your partner will undergo IVF to produce an embryo that is biologically yours. If your fertility problem will not allow for this, you can also use donated eggs, sperm or embryos. Once an embryo has been created, it will be transfered into the uterus of a gestational carrier. Once you've made an arrangement, you and your carrier will probably try in vitro fertilization for three or four months. Some experts say it's not a good idea to try longer because success rates drop off after that.
Even though another woman is carrying your child, you will more than likely be heavily involved. Frequent contact with one another is important. You will gain an understanding of how your baby is growing and changing. If you set up an open arrangement, you can be intimately involved in the details of your baby's development and have a say in your gestational carrier's nutrition and health care during the pregnancy. You'll also probably pay the carrier's expenses, from doctor visits to housing, along with additional legal, agency, and service fees if a contract is involved.
It is impossible to determine a numerical success rate to using a gestational carrier. There are too many factors are involved. Factors involved, finding a willing carrier, whether she gets pregnant and carries the baby to term depends on variables including sperm count, egg quality, and the success of complicated procedures such as IVF. While many arrangements work out without any problems or conflicts, others do not work so smoothly. Using a gestational carrier is expensive, highly controversial and legally complex. It involves intricate contracts and arrangements. Not only will you experience the normal suspense and anxiety of waiting for the pregnancy to reach full term, you will probably worry that the surrogate may change her mind. You and the surrogate mother may not agree on things such as genetic testing, and how to manage the pregnancy, labor and delivery.
The cost of using a gestational carrier varies from state to state, agency to agency and surrogate to surrogate. An independent adoption can cost at least $15,000, with about $12,000 going to the carrier and the rest for insurance and legal fees, which are set by lawyers and agencies. If you arrange a contract through an agency, it can cost well over $40,000, with $18,000 to $25,000 going to the carrier, $4,000 or more for insurance and legal expenses, and $15,000-plus to the agency. Neither total includes additional fees for the carrier's prenatal care and delivery if those fees aren't covered by her insurance. Comments: Surrogacy
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382 days ago.
HOw do i find a surrogate? and how would i know that the person would take really good care of themselves... i am starting to look into getting a surrogate to carry me and my DH baby. our first was a premie at 20wks and died. and my lo is 9 months now with cerclage delivers at 36. bu ti am unable to do another cerclage and even with a Tac i would be unable to move from wk 10-34. i did 13-31. .. i can tmiss out on my lo life for so long and know that i could still lose the baby and have a c section knowing the child will die:O( sooryy to be so dramatic.. its true. any ideas.. would a surrogate even be interested in me .. since others can't even conceive and i simply can't carry to term? Tummy Mummy 2011
633 days ago.
Hi All, My name is Angelique and here I am back again... I have two gorgeous lil girls Keira who is 3 and Alyssa who is 1; I used this website for both those pregnancies too.
While I say here we are again we aren’t here for ourselves this time round, we have decided to become host surrogates so we are here for a lovely couple whom dearly want to complete their family. For those that don’t know much about surrogacy, host surrogacy is when I carry the intended mother’s egg that has been fertilised with her husband’s sperm or a donor sperm, but in this case it’s her husband’s. I am currently on a natural cycle trial moth and hoping all goes well we are looking at an October transfer, so fingers, toes and everything else that can be crossed is crossed (this helps with abstaining too, LOL).
I am so excited to be able to go on this journey again as I so love being pregnant but don’t want any more children. I have only ever want two and I have two amazing lil girls
I will be tracking my cycles and be updating as and when. leigh brown 87
827 days ago.
I would love to be a surrogate but it all seems so far-out..and you dont hear of it where i live (UK).
925 days ago.
I am a gestational surrogate. I am currently 4 weeks and 6 days prego!! We have another beta tomorrow, the first beta came back at 141 and ultrasound is on the 16th. If anyone is a surro and want to keep int touch one here let me know :) res
980 days ago.
Anyone know the best way to find a gestational surrogate? sapphire1987
993 days ago.
I am currently in the progress of becomin a host surrogate and cant wait to meet my IPs xx madeinindia
1159 days ago.
$25,000 is the cost of surrogacy in India. This includes IVF, antenatal, delivery etc. which is why many go abroad.
The price alone is not the entire reason we went. Surprisingly the cost of surrogacy in UK is exactly the same as in India. A little known fact. Add in the airfares it actually works out dearer in India than in my own country! lissie *team blue*
1186 days ago.
It is definitely a precious gift. BabySaunders
1194 days ago.
I'm considering becoming a surrogate in about a year. I've enjoyed my pregnancy, but don't want my children that close together. I'm hoping to give a family a child that can't have one. lissie *team blue*
1199 days ago.
Has anyone done this before?