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Whats Safe and Unsafe Sex

Whats Safe and Unsafe:Sex



Is it safe to continue having sex during pregnancy?

The majority of couples can still have sexual intercourse during their pregnancy. Your baby is surrounded and cushioned by amniotic fluid, and protected by your uterus and a layer of muscles. And the mucus plug inside your cervix helps guard against infection. Sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if your are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, engorgment of the genital area helps some people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for awhile, a return to sex as pleasure as opposed to procreational, and other reasons. On the other hand there are reasons why sex might not be as pleasurable: fear of hurting the baby, nausea, fatigue, awkwardness, etc. While women may feel large and uncomfortable, men generally find the pregnant body very erotic and desirable. It is important that you and your partner discuss the feelings you each have abouut sex. Even if sex is not an option, there are many other way of fullfilling the intimate desieres. More cuddling, romantic dinners, kissing, mutual masturbation and other intimate likings are all possibilities.

Third Trimester Sex:
It is is generally safe to engage in sexual intercourse during the third trimester. It is not safe if you're bleeding or have a placenta that's in front of the baby's head--placenta previa. With placenta previa, if the penis comes in contact with the cervix or you have contractions as a result of orgasm, it can traumatize the placenta and cause significant enough bleeding that you lose the pregnancy. Also you shouldn't have sex if your membranes are ruptured (water breaks) because then the baby is no longer protected against any possible infection. It's also risky to have sex if it's early in your third trimester and you're having premature labor or you have a short cervix, because an orgasm can stimulate contractions. But if you're having a healthy normal pregnancy there's no risk, though as you get larger, it may be uncomfortable, requiring you to be creative about your position.

Anal Sex:
Anal sex during pregnancy is usually safe as well. However, if you have hemorrhoids, remember that they tend to become larger during pregnancy. And if your hemorrhoids are bleeding and you have anal sex, you can lose a considerable amount of blood, which can endanger you and your baby. You should never go from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning up first and changing condoms if you're using one -- otherwise you put yourself at risk for bacterial vaginitis, and there's some concern that this infection can cause preterm labor or make your water break early. Also, unless you're in a monogamous relationship and know that you and your partner are HIV-negative, you should use a condom, because HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are transmitted through broken skin.

Oral Sex:
Licking the vagina is fine, but it's not safe to blow into the genital area. Forcing or blowing air into the vaginal and urethral areas is very dangerous. Theoretically, if your partner blew hard enough, it could cause an embolism (bubble of air) to develop in a blood vessel in that area, and that could be lethal for you or the baby. Giving oral sex is also okay as long as you are comfortable. There's no danger to the baby from swallowing semen. As long as you're in a monogamous relationship and know that your partner is free of STDs, there's no risk. If your partner is HIV-positive, it's not safe because the virus is present in semen, and you and your baby could become infected if you swallow it.



Vibrators And Dildos:
It's generally safe to use a dildo during pregnancy. You do want to be extra careful not to penetrate too forcefully since plastic is more rigid than flesh. If you have placenta previa, using a sex toy (or, for that matter, having intercourse) could traumatize the placenta and cause heavy bleeding that could jeopardize your pregnancy. If you're at risk for premature labor, having an orgasm could cause contractions. And if your water has broken, there's a risk of infection to the baby. In any case, make sure the dildo is clean, and don't share it without cleaning it. If you're having a healthy pregnancy, it's safe to use a vibrator. But if you're at risk for preterm labor, it can be risky to have an orgasm since it can stimulate contractions.

Lubricants:
Although very safe, you may find that you dont need an additional lubricanat during pregnacy. Your cervix is plugged with mucus during pregnancy so there's no danger of the lubricant getting up to the baby. Just make sure it's water-based if you're using condoms since petroleum-based products will put holes in them.

When Not To Have Sex:
  • If you are experiencing preterm labor
  • If you have placenta previa
  • When your water breaks
  • Unexplained vaginal bleeding
  • Abdominal cramping
  • Cervical insufficiency
  • A dilated cervix
  • Outbreak of genital herpes
  • STD's




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Tipsycherry - 724 days ago.
I lost interest in sex since when i found out am preggy. Am always on edge when my hubby wants it

jjrhodes - 725 days ago.
My doc said it was clompletely fine as long as you are having no complications in pregnancy. I tend to be really tired lately but when we do have sex it is awesome! I just have been gravitating more towards anal lately and it is awesome for me

ambermiracle - 730 days ago.
Lol I know what your saying but I've always been to afaidd to try while pregnant.

jjrhodes - 730 days ago.
This maybe to much TMI...but does anyone else find anal much more awesome while pregnant or is it just me?

youngmum20 - 979 days ago.
I don't ever feel like sex at all but when i do have it it with my fiance i love it even if it lasts two seconds i am tired but it is great!!!

mammak - 1102 days ago.
So my sex drive is way down with this pregnancy and I am 33 weeks. Having sex feels different weird as if he inserts I feel like he is hitting something kinda uncomfortable. Sorry for the TMI. Has anyone experienced this?

Lottie Love - 1255 days ago.
During my first pregnancy I had a BIG sex drive; I wanted to have sex all the time. This time is exactly the same. I get these cravings for sex during the day and my partner and I are having sex every night. It is amazing. I feel great and have orgasm each time. But I also feel like a freak. :) All the other mom-to-be that I know don't want to have sex at all. They think I'm crazy! Is there anyone else like me?

Secondtimer26 - 1271 days ago.
I had sex all the time with my first child and planned to have sex when she was due...it worked!! But this time around is very different...since I am having subchorionic bleeding the Doc said it should be okay but orgasm may cause more abdominal pain and bleeding. I really hope this child is a boy (well because I have a girl )...because I believe he is causing issues for me already...lol! Sex seems like it will become obsolete this pregnancy and I am not happy about it!!! Like many others have said...sex and intimacy is so much better while preggo and I'm missing out! This will be my last child so...farewell to the preggo sex for me..lol.

RobinS - 1276 days ago.
My bf and I are still having sex on a very regular basis, I am 29 weeks today. Haven't lost much desire to have it, infact somedays thta's all I can think of and can't wait to get home from work.

MomToBeFromNC - 1284 days ago.
Hay ladies to me haveing sex is a work out and it's the reason we are pregnant now if your partner is not wonting to have sex with you at the time of you being pregnant It's not cuz they don't wont to have sex they no what we have to go through' 9 months and some pain and our body changes and they are just there for it all 'after haveing the baby and and healing up u will see he will wont it every day lol

StorrsLeslie - 1307 days ago.
I miss sex. I back hurts so bad, that I don't even want to try to have sex. I can't wait until the last month. I'm gonna go crazy!!!

ourvava - 1327 days ago.
i have still strong feelings..but as doctor advised us better to have sex after 3 months..me and my hubby avoiding sex for baby...even tho we do fore play...i feel my husband also feeling more love or attachment than before...donno hw he is able to control his feelings...

annie and wayne - 1380 days ago.
hmmm i forgot what making sweet love feels like im 27 weeks pregnant tomorrow and have not had sex for 22 weeks now , 13 weeks left then 6 weeks healing time ....

nolabarbie - 1415 days ago.
I'm 10 weeks and this is my 2nd child I crave sex like crazy but my fiance says he wants to wait till I'm 13 weeks that's not long but its long when we haven't had sex since may 1st

logansmom419 - 1459 days ago.
I have been on pelvic rest since 20 weeks because sex was causing contractions... I would check it out with your doc to be on the safe side

mochas4me - 1459 days ago.
I'm 13 weeks and sex causes me to have contractions. Is that ok?

Tanya18 - 1469 days ago.
when me and my bf have sex i have really bad pains in my abdomonal area, weve only had sex once because of that, he is afraid that it was the sex that was hurting me. could the pains be from sex or something else? if it is sex is there a way we can without me having those pains?

QueenCynthiaB - 1473 days ago.
Sex? What Is That? LoL Well I Already Forgot What That Feels Like Since Ive Havent Had Any Since Like A Month! I Was Having Brown Dischrage Went To E.R(Per My Ob) And Well The Dr Said No SEX For 4 Weeks So Next Week It WIll Be 4 Weeks But Im Still Scared On Having Sex & Bleeding. I Guess Im Just Paranoid Cuz IVe Had A MC Before.

QueenCynthiaB - 1473 days ago.
Sex? What Is That? LoL Well I Already Forgot What That Feels Like Since Ive Havent Had Any Since Like A Month! I Was Having Brown Dischrage Went To E.R(Per My Ob) And Well The Dr Said No SEX For 4 Weeks So Next Week It WIll Be 4 Weeks But Im Still Scared On Having Sex & Bleeding. I Guess Im Just Paranoid Cuz IVe Had A MC Before.

mochas4me - 1473 days ago.
11 weeks. it hurts and i do not like it. is the cramping really dangerous? I have cramping afterwards but the doctor never mentioned that. right now I just give in every once in awhile because I think overall it helps hubby have a little more control over his temper (stress release).

manda-may - 1485 days ago.
BatLiZ unfortunately we had to give up sex at 27 weeks because I had an incompetent/shortened cervix. It sounds like the cramping could possibly be a contraction, but I am really not sure... there is bound to be someone on here who does know though... but in the mean time I say check with your midwife or doctor. My twins were my first babies, and when I finally did go into labour at 34 weeks it felt like I was having mild to medium period pain or cramps that came and went every 10-15 minutes, so to me it sounds like what you are experiencing could be a contraction... but I think everyone is different though, so I wish you luck... and that you don't have to give up sex just yet! Check with the experts I say! All the best!

BatLiZ - 1486 days ago.
Im 27 weeks preggo, my boyfriend and i have been having sex up till now with no problems. But all of a sudden i have been experiencing serious abdominal pain/ cramping when i start to realy feel the pleasure or he puts too much pressure on my tummy. is this normal? do we need to be trying new positions? i guess im scared that this is what contractions feel like (its my first baby) and i should stop...

kelley82879 - 1511 days ago.
sex??? what is that?

sharonh - 1512 days ago.
I'm 16 weeks along. Until I was diagnosed with previa, we were having sex ALL of the time. Now we have to improvise, but regardless, nobody told me how great intimacy was during pregnancy. I'm fortunate that my husband still wants to, though he finds it hilarious that I'm attacking him all of the time now. I don't feel the changes in my body have made me less attractive, so that helps. But I agree with DJ's Girl, sex is AWESOME and CRAZY while preggers!

dottie26 - 1684 days ago.
im 38 weeks and i haven't had sex since my 5th month. well me and my sweety had sex last week and i couldn't breath lol that was most difficult thing to try to do but it did send me into dialation. he was so nervous to have sex he kept asking is the baby ok and he was worried he was hurting him. that was cute...i want to try again but i don't know if it would be worth it, maybe it will send me into labor tho...hmmmm?


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