TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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CaniacMom - 1 days ago.
Matsor, you are usually in the clear to start TTC right away after a chemical. In fact, they say you are often extra fertile in the month after a loss. Hope you get your rainbow baby soon.

matsor - 1 days ago.
Hello all I am new to this group. I had what I think was a chemical pregnancy 3.5 weeks ago when I was about 5 weeks along. We are ttc again right away this month but I am nervous about it not knowing if it is safe to try again right away. Anyone have any insight or sucess stories? We have twins all over both sides of our family so wondering if we are more fertal now and our chances of twins goes up?

CaniacMom - 6 days ago.
Bee, sorry for your loss. I am currently on my second round of clomid. I am taking it CD 5-9, but some doctors will prescribe it from CD 3-7. Tara, sorry for your loss as well. If you had a D&C you might want to wait a cycle or two for your lining to build back up again. Otherwise your doctor may give you the green light to start trying right away. A lot of doctors will say to wait one cycle so they can date the pregnancy but they can always send you for a dating ultrasound if it does happen right away. I've seen a few women come and go from this forum with a BFP who never saw AF in between. Feel free to lean on us for support. It is a tough time but you will heal.

Sarahbeth13 - 6 days ago.
Bee and Tara - I am so sorry. Welcome to the forum but I wish you did not have a reason to be here! I hope you are both feeling better soon. I don't know about taking Clomid, but I sure hope it helps and you see that BFP very soon. With both of my losses I had to have a D&C and I waited one full cycle before trying again. Mainly wanted to give my body some time to rebuild and heal. With my first it was a long road to that BFP but last year after my second loss, I was blessed the cycle after the waiting cycle. GOOD LUCK and HUGE HUGS!!

TaraR - 6 days ago.
Hello everyone! I'm new here. My pregnancy ended early Monday morning. I was 11 weeks 4 days. I'm having a really hard time. This is my first time experiencing this. Just needed people to talk to. I'm definitely wanting to try again....not sure what my husband thinks. We haven't discussed that yet. What is the recommended time to wait before we start trying again? Thanks for listening.

alohamom3 - 6 days ago.
@beee sorry for you loss and I do hope you stay is short too. I had a miscarry when I was 10w4d and I have had 3cycles. I'm not sure on the meds since I'm not or have taken that but I'm sure one of these ladies here will know or ask in general-try-to-conceive some of them are taking that. Baby dust to you

Beee - 6 days ago.
Ladies.........I pray my stay here is short.Had a miscarriage at 10wks and evacuation on 15th April... AF just started this morning....please when in the cycle does one start taking clomid.

Sarahbeth13 - 6 days ago.
Congratulations Mishan! Time goes by so quickly! I remember your frustration on here when you were waiting for that BFP. Caniac, I know how hard it is to feel like you are the only one who is still waiting but it will happen for you soon. I am so hopeful and will be crossing my fingers that next month is your turn!! Good luck Tencow!! Keep us posted as things move forward. Sticky strong baby dust to you!!

tencowmommy - 7 days ago.
Thank you so much for all the good wishes. I've got my fingers crossed for each and every one of you!

avg2012 - 9 days ago.
congratulations Tencow. Caniac next is your turn for sure. baby dust for everyone!

mishaan - 9 days ago.
Its a baby Girl, My Gratitude To God the creator of universe

CaniacMom - 9 days ago.
Hi Pinkpuff, welcome and sorry for your loss. I hope that your stay here is short! Tencow, don't be sorry. I am so happy for you and it gives me renewed optimism to see you moving on after trying for so long. Mishaan, looking forward to hearing a birth announcement from you. I hope labour is kind to you.

pinkpuff20 - 10 days ago.
hello all! hoping my time spent on this particular page will be short. had a blighted ovum this feb/march. sac never measured above 5 1/2 weeks and only a yolk sac inside.. had a d&c march 15th because my body was taking longer than i was willing to wait to miscarry naturally. first af came the last week of april & now we're trying to conceive our rainbow! pretty sure i'm just beginning my 2ww now, hoping for a bfp in a couple weeks, but ready to keep trying if this isn't our month.

tencowmommy - 10 days ago.
Caniac, I feel so sorry to leave you here :( I really hope that you get a bfp soon! It's so torturous to try and try and wait and wait. I'm so sorry. Mishaan, I hope everything goes well with the delivery of your baby!

mishaan - 10 days ago.
Congrats Tenco am so happy 4 u its about time, caniacmom u will get ur Bfp real so have faith and all other ladies here wish U baby dust and have a short stay here as 4 me my Edd according to u/s is on 10th but doc's cal its on 13th mon excited to hold my baby Ur prayers pliz.

tnalakes - 10 days ago.
I swear im so nauseas I hope this is my month but so far bfn :(

tnalakes - 10 days ago.
hi ladies I had chemical last month and still waiting to see if the spotting I had this month was ib or af!!!! good luck and babydust to you all :)

CaniacMom - 12 days ago.
Congrats Tencow!!!!!! So so so happy for you. Now I'm the ONLY one left of the group of us that were stuck here for ages. Can only hope that means my turn is soon.

agummybear - 12 days ago.
Congrats tencow!

Sarahbeth13 - 12 days ago.
WOOO HOOOO TENCOW!! So happy for you!! It is sooo darn hard not to worry but remember whether you worry your face off or enjoy every second it won't really change what the outcome will be, so I say enjoy every second and savor every moment! GOOD LUCK!!

alohamom3 - 12 days ago.
@tencow I'm so Happy For you. I'm sure all of us that are in this forum would be scared and worried too if we got our bfp. But take a deep breath and enjoy your little gift. HUGS

tencowmommy - 13 days ago.
BFP!!!!! I'm so nervous and scared. It's been a year and half since my last bfp. I'm so scared of having another mc. All I can say is, it's about freaking time!

CaniacMom - 13 days ago.
Hi Sarahbeth, I think I remember you from this forum. Yup, I have been stuck in here for THAT long now. Hope that AF returns for you soon, but I think that if you are exclusively breastfeeding it is pretty unlikely. In the meantime, enjoy your little miracle :)

alohamom3 - 14 days ago.
Welcome back sarabeth.and thank you. my honey says it looks good for hime to come home on the 16th and if I have my LH surge like the last two months then that should happen on the 15th so we have a chance ;)Yuppie. Also I have a Dr appt to have her draw blood and annything else she can do. I'm hoping she will do an u/s and see if my overies are about to release an egg or two.

Sarahbeth13 - 14 days ago.
Just want to say hello and introduce myself to this group because it has been a while! I have been on IAP since 2009 when I had my first pregnancy that ended in a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks. It took 9 months for me to get pregnant again and we had decided to do some fertility testing, booked it for late January 2010, but then found out I was pregnant on Jan 2. It was the most amazing blessing and we met our beautiful rainbow baby Maggie who is now 2.5. We started trying again as soon as my cycle returned and amazingly got a BFP on Nov. 30 (happend to be the due date of my first pregnancy) I thought it was meant to be! But not so. After a few weeks of ultrasounds showing a super slow heartbeat and the diagnosis of 'impending abortion' (gotta love the brutal terminology) we found out we had lost the baby at about 10 weeks in Jan 2012. I decided Maggie must need some more time as an only child and that we would wait until Summer to TTC, only to find out in March that we were 7 weeks pregnant. I had a ton of implantation bleeding that month that I thought was a period and it was a complete surprise when I started puking at the smell of pizza and took an old test that came up positive. I tried so hard not get my hopes up and am still in awe that my gorgeous daughter Libby (Elizabeth) was born November 13. She is now almost 6 months and exclusively breastfed so who knows when I will get AF but I am almost 37 now and would love to have a couple more babies (god/cosmos willing!) So here I am! I am not sure if I can be considered actively TTC yet since I don't think I am ovulating but if there is any sign of an egg coming, I am going to be all over that!!! I have been through a lot of ups and downs on this journey but I have found so much love and support in these forums over the past ~4 years. I hope I can provide some love and support here during my next steps. I am bringing lots of hugs and good luck and tons and tons of baby dust. I hope to see loads of spring BFPs around here!! Cheers! - SB