TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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LiseyB - 23 min. ago.
Goodness gracious. Yesterday I was in the most horrendous mood ever - could not stop tearing up. The world was a terrible dark place. Hubby took me to the park and for cold rock ice-cream and I just thought everything was the worst! Fortunately today I woke up in a much better mood. Can someone tell me how long it will take the HCG hormone to disappear? I feel so pregnant and emotional. Just don't want to feel pregnant anymore. It has been a week since the MC at 6.5 weeks.

heids - 38 min. ago.
11am UK time 'Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, We will remember them'. My thoughts and love to all people dealing with the loss of serving military personel today,

Amber J - 1 hours ago.
Hi everyone, *TMI alert!* well the other night, Martin was a bit naughty, and we did a lot of bding. He starts off with no condom, but always puts one on to finish! I got pregnant in September by him doing this though! I just think, if he really doesn't want anymore children, then he'd use a condom from the beginning! Anyway, this night I was having bad ovulation pains, especially on the left, and now my nipples are killing me, and they never usually hurt! They've been hurting since yesterday, but I would only be 3 dpo today, so it can't be a sign of pregnancy can it? I would love to be pregnant, but it's all rather scary!

heids - 2 hours ago.
DAN - Excellent, glad it all went well (page 9!) CAN - Grey high booties - V nice, just got some too! Def the way to go this autumn!! (p8) HARDY (or MARIE) So sorry babes, sending you huge hugs & love

heids - 2 hours ago.
Page 10 & I'm crying once again!! RED - I love you honey girl!!

heids - 2 hours ago.
Blimey 14 pages to catch up!! Good job its horrid weather here today!

heids - 3 hours ago.
Hiya Girlies, Happy Rememberence Sunday to you all. Have quite a few pages to catch up on, needed a couple of days away as my head has been a bit of a mess - I took Soy in an increasing dose for 5 days this month and I think that its sent my hormones absolutley mental. Since wednesday I've not been able to stop crying, not been able to possibly imagine my life continuing without being PG, really have been a mess. Really not pleasant, Hubbs had no idea what was going on, I was trying to drag him to bed while howling tears - never the greatest turn on. Then yesterday I started to feel O pains annd cramps and all of a sudden I have my sanity back - HOORAY! Anyway, must find out whats been going on Hxxx

*TTCafter2angels* - 5 hours ago.
All this bding talk I have to say my hormones are doing something crazy. Either they are wacky for o time or I dont know. Its 2:00am here and Hubs and I just finished our 3rd bd since the baby went to bed. Lol. Kudos to my Hubs for making it...2 times never happens much less 3!!!! I just cant keep my hands off him!!! Well I should hit the hay!! Night ladies....sweet dreams!

averysfairytale - 5 hours ago.
Goodnight all. Have beautiful dreams

rochelle - 6 hours ago.
DANIELLE - I am here!!! Ok clear something up for me ur opk is it the same darkness as ur contol line? When u say its getting darker did u save them for us to take a pictures just to give you an idea I had 3 pos opks and at least 7 tests where I had lh in my body...so post ur pics and I will give u my professional oppinuion! RED I went to fishermans warf and by the time we got there it was closed...it closes at 4:30 if you can believe that anyway we went to dinner and walked through lots of fun places even drove across the bridge! MAMAG LMAO I laughed out loud litteraly my dad was like what, what's so funny! I can't wait to tell the dh about your nog...lol!

autumnmarie53109 - 6 hours ago.
♥ DANIELLE - LMAO. Well we ALL BD at one point or another so that's not really TMI because that's the main way were all gonna get our BFPs. And MAJORITY of us talk about our CM and our AFs. Even though we talk about how many 'soldiers' our DH's have released, not everyone discusses how much THEY cum. So I was just forwarning you all that, I was about to discuss it. lol. But in all honesty I think this forum should be renamed to ' TTC After Loss ( TMI ) - Because you know its coming ' LOL....Get it ?...Wow...I need to go to bed. ♥

danielle*-o-* - 6 hours ago.
TTC- funny story!!!! Lol. Cold feet! Lol! ***ROCH!!! GIRLFRIEND!!! How many DPO are you??? I miss u sister! So my OPK is getting darker. Not same darkness but almost and darker than yesterday. Does that mean anything? Are OPK's dead on? This is my first shot with these. I'm just still bding like crazy lke I always have after AF comes but just curious with all the changes in my body I have never taken notice to before. *** CAN- I hope tomorrow brings you more happiness. ***MAMA we may be testing buddies!!! ***BLESSED & BUTTER where are yas!

danielle*-o-* - 7 hours ago.
RED!!! I am sooooooo glad that I made you laugh!!!! SO speaking of TMI alerts.... MAMA!!!! ROFLMAO!! DH and I just got done BDing. He's out... So I stop in here while I'm doing the 'hips up' holding in my baby batter when I read your post!!! OMG I giggled out loud- woke up DH and was crossing my legs soooo hard not to lose anything!!!! I just told DH what ur DH said and he laughed said, 'my man!'. Hahahahaha!

danielle*-o-* - 7 hours ago.
AUTUMN- !!! U REALIZE THAT U WROTE 'TMI ALERT' JUST TO TELL US HOW THE FLOOD GATES OPEN BUT NOT FOR THE WHOLE STORY BEFORE THAT??? LOLOL!!! Great story!!!!!

autumnmarie53109 - 8 hours ago.
♥ Oh, as for BDing....It doesn't stop in my house. We have prepaid phones. DH bought me like 200minutes one day so we could chit chat while I was at work and he was at home. We spent almost all my minutes within 8hrs just telling each other what we were gonna do to one another when I got home. That's a regular thing now. Talk dirty while we're separate and then come home and follow through with what we said. Thursday my legs were absolutely killing me! lol. We BD'd all night long and then when I got to work, I found out that we were going to the GYM to walk the track with our kids....I needed a wheelchair after my day that day. But while walking the track I got the message ' Even though my legs are killing me from last night, I still want to go at it all night again tonight '. AND WE DID! lol. We need to buy lube because this poor little girl has become dehydrated! And that's sad because ( TMI ALERT ) when BDing, it's like opening the flood gates with me. And lately. Theres been a serious drought. LOL. ♥

autumnmarie53109 - 8 hours ago.
♥ I've been here in the shadows. Reading and trying to catch up. I've just been so busy and then when I get home and I sleep as much as I can because I'm overly exhausted. And then when DH comes home, all he wants to do is BD! BD! BD! My legs are killing me! lol. And theres been so many different things going on here in the forum. I've been at a loss of words. So I just read. As far as turning every symptom into a pregnancy one...I havent been that bad...the only reason Im wondering now is because I NEVER throw up. Even when I go out drinking, theres like a 1 in 200 chance Ill get sick from drinking. I haven't drank in weeks. Just not interested. And the only other time I've ever thrown up, I've been pregnant. I'm worried though that DH is getting excited for nothing. When I walked out of the house this morning with the trash can, he had a huge smile on his face and was cracking jokes. I mean...for all I know I might just have the flu. So I wish he'd calm down until I get a BFP before he gets all excited. ♥

CanMum2b1day - 8 hours ago.
MAMA: Nope not feeling better so I am thinking that I am going to get some sleep and start over tomorrow. Thanks for the love. xx

mamagarces - 8 hours ago.
by the way, AUTUMN, we've missed you around here. it's been a while. and that dr does sound like a b@#*h. ♥

mamagarces - 8 hours ago.
AUTUMN - i want to be pregnant so bad as well, and i turn every little symptom into hope... i think it begins the moment i ovulate! by the time AF is due i am a mental case.☺

mamagarces - 8 hours ago.
oh, i have to share this with you ladies... remember the other day when some were refering to sperm by other names, like pudding, man-spackle, and baby batter??? well, i was telling my husband about those creative names... and being the sick puppy that he is, told me in december to call it 'man-nog'!!!! hahahaha... he is soooo warped..♥♥♥

autumnmarie53109 - 8 hours ago.
♥ Its funny because I really want to be pregnant. Whenever that may happen. And considering this nausea and vomitting...I'm trying to really ask myself now...Am I ready to go through this again. With Autumn I threw up for 3months straight. 3-4x a day. And then slowly turned into getting sick 1x every other day or so. But none the less, the whole pregnancy I was ill. I'm ready to get all cute and fat and have a baby in me again, but not to keen on the all day sickness. lol. The only plus is that we're back in our home town and my regular doctor will be more helpful than the one I had the first part of my last pregnancy. She pretty much was like ' Eh, you're fine ' and didn't give me anything. Said it was OKAY that I lost 30lbs the first 3months because I was ' heavy to begin with '. B*tch. lol. ♥

mamagarces - 8 hours ago.
AUTUMN - i know that most won't believe me on this, but with my first two children, about 12 hours after BDing, i was throwing up horribly... i know that it is impossible for implantation that early, but nonetheless, it's true...i knew i was pregnant with them two weeks before i even tested... i am sure that some hormonal changes are going on as the baby develops even before implantation.♥

mamagarces - 8 hours ago.
RED - was having such a HOT time with DH this afternoon, when our littlest one woke up from her nap and came into our room... things went COLD rather quickly.....☺ however, hoping to heat things up again tonight.♥

mamagarces - 8 hours ago.
CAN - hun, i hope you are feeling better..♥♥♥love♥♥♥ & ((hugs)) your way.

*TTCafter2angels* - 10 hours ago.
AUTUMN- With my last pregnancy I woke up the day after o and my bbs hurt. They continued hurting all the way to 9 weeks when I mcd. This doesnt happen to everyone and a lot of people dont believe me that it happened. But it did. Good luck!