TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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a kerr - 2 days ago.
Today is my and Dh one year wedding anniversary! I can't wait to get home tonight and see him. I wish there was more to celebrate (like a bun in the oven), but oh well. Hopefully it will happen again soon and this time last! Hope everyone is doing well tonight & congrats to Danielle. I agree with the waiting to tell people til Jan. Hey, at least you have us to confide in right? Take care and best of luck :)

CanMum2b1day - 2 days ago.
RED: Yah I miss that girl too :( I just have nothing to give at the moment and find it hard to smile. BLESSED: I will test with you ... I will donate a BFP to you and I will take the BFN !! :(

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
SHEE - I am probably going to make the announcement closer to xmas. Christmas only puts me at 8 weeks so I may even wait til mid January to tell them. I never made it past 7 weeks so i am not sure i want to tell anyone.

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
RED, yes i have to go back on Monday for more labs and go from there. I had a consult appt made for december 9th which i am not going to cancel. I have progesteron suppositories left over from last pregnancy. im 1/2 temped to start them. TRUST ME - i am the most annoying patient on the planet!!! i will not let anything get by. Ladies, if you have any suggestions i should be asking, i would appreciate it!

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Shee, right there with you Mama!!! Lots of December and early 2010 BFPS!!!

Chrissys4babies - 2 days ago.
CONGRATULATIONS DANI!!Wow Thats fantastic!!!I

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
There are a few drugs that do this Red, the most common is known as Pregnyl. The increased chance for multiples is mainly for people who are using it to make O happen... I plan on talking to my dr about it. Apparently it works similar to taking progesterone because HCG supports the creation of progesterone. I would imagine that it may work better than progesterone treatment because its also adding HCG. I didnt mean to talk down about it... I hope to use it this time around... that is if I can convince the dr to let me. Also from what I ahve been reading it seems like it would be like the other fertility injections and its often done at home.

sheework - 2 days ago.
WOOT WOOT for the BFP Dani! That is great. How exciting you should tell your family on Thanksgiving! I hope next month I can have an xmas announcement.

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
JENN- pretty sure it's in Greenville. my dad was on his cell phone which doesn't have great reception, so I didn't get details about it. which is maybe why I am so confused. but a shot sounds easy enough to try! heck, I'm in. EM- I don't even know what to look up! apparently he explained 'why' it helps to my dad, but I didn't catch that part. I would think it could only increase multiple pregnancy rates if you release more than one egg... right? and he's not talking about doing it in conjunction with fertility meds. just using the shot. I think he said a week after O, I would get the shot. and then a week after that I would have to get some serum hcgs done to see if it were rising (pg) or not. DANI- are you still going to go to the follow-up? I hope so, because if there *is* anything, this baby could possibly benefit. otherwise, maybe it will help set your heart at ease that this little sweety is just fine on his/her own. :)

jenn.and.pumpkin - 2 days ago.
RED- where in SC? I'm in Lexington (work in Columbia). My Dr had talked about doing a trigger shot, If i failed the Clomid. He figured since being pregnant started the LPD that maybe tricking my body in to thinking I was,might fix things. But that was only b/c we weren't considered candidates for IVF or IUU b/c of the LPD and clotting disorder. We were at the point that we felt like if we had no other way to get preg there was no reason to not try something just b/c it may damage my fertility.

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
So far im finding pros and cons with the HCG shot.... Pro, it does seem to help a lot of people. Con, it can cause multiple pregnancies. The FDA labels it as a category X (not recomended during pregnancy because benefits far outweigh the benefits) It can also cause fetal defects and ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome.

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Red, Danielle is right... you cant worry about being extra careful. If things are meant to happen they will happen! I am intrigued with the HCG shot thing though.... I will have to look into that also.

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
RED i am the same way. I had follow up consult for december and whooops... there is no way i was missing good TTC months. I just have to pray that everything is fine and we will treat as we go. I am soooo glad that you didnt meet the end of your road tho and there are still other possible things to help you!!! it will happen!!!! and yes, i love how sweet and innocent you are!!!! youre not a virgin, just virginal ears!

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
well sheesh DANI, no wonder you were talking about weird things and acting crazy. haha. makes total sense to me now. :) I love that you guys think it's hilarious to pervert my little mind. lol. DH jokingly calls me his sweet little virgin sometimes.... lol. obviously *that* isn't quite true.

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
JRL- where are you????? are you and baby okay????

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
RED!!! THANKS SO MUCH, LOVE... and yes, sorry ladies, i was stewing in it all day!!!! i didnt want to tell DH until the RE called back... i hope you understand.. I couldnt wait til you came on to read what we were talking about... lmao!!!! Camilia- thanks

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
so... my doctor-daddy has been doing oodles of research for us because we just can't mentally handle it right now... and so I have a phone consultation set up with a reproductive immunology clinic in California. yeah. it will be a one hour phone consult (he already has all my medical records), then they will order bloodwork, and two weeks later they will give me results, a follow-up phone consult, and a game plan. hmm. we'll see how that goes. the other thing is this place in South Carolina he's talking to - and the specialist there told him this morning that maybe all I need is a 'trigger shot' (hcg shot) a week after ovulation to get things going and trick my body into keeping the baby. he said it works for 80% of their recurrent miscarriers. wow. so yeah. lots going on in my head. totally confused. and a little concerned about the fact that we aren't preventing anything in the meanwhile as we wait for consults and tests and experiments.... yikes. I feel like I am gambling with my life. but I don't know what else to do.

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
SMM- greetings and welcome!! it's kind of a crazy day in here, so it seems. :) so I guess you get thrown right into the bundle of insanity. :) It looks like you have a beautiful baby girl! precious. precious. precious. :) we'd love to hear more about you. And please know that we are here to listen, offer shoulders, mail cards, be silly, weep, and rejoice with you. A year ago this room was hardly active and was just a few of us really -- but we're a fiesty, busy group now! it's hard to keep up. :) but welcome! and let us know how we can encourage you.

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
RO, my next door neighbor who is also my sil's sister, plays bunko... there is a waiting list to get into that... I am going to go to bed early tonight... i feel achy again! ugh! i wish this would leave!

camila.a - 2 days ago.
Danielle- CONGRATULATIONS!!!! my birthday is August 6th!!! lol!! I am so happy for you! Enjoy!!!!

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
DANI- aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!!!!!! that's what I said when I just logged on and saw your news. WOOT WOOT!!!!!!!!!! wow. :) you go girl. big loves and huge jugs to ya. are you telling me that you were on here conversing with everybody about all kinds of strange things, and knew all along that you were pregnant and didn't say anything for *hours*?!!!!!!!! GARCES- good job just having one stick around. we'll look forward to Saturday with you. ((hugs)) I'm okay. emotionally confused today, and kind of overwhelmed by all the medical stuff that's been looked into by my parents for us and the things we are about to have to make decisions about... I'll share about it soon. but yeah, crazy. I'm okay. not great. lonely. but okay. :) thanks for asking. AVERYS- I just officially got your number in my cell with your name attached. so yep, you're always in my pocket now. hehe. okay, so have you guys looked into the immunology clinic in LA? the website is www.rialab.com I set up a phone consult with their doctor for Dec 15th -- we'll see if we end up doing it or cancelling it, but I wanted to have our options open asap. interesting stuff. not sure what I think about it. you?? SHEE- poop!!!!! so sorry, hun. although I must say, I actually cracked up out loud when I read that you said the bitch showed up. lol. but regardless of the humor, I am so sorry. ROCHELLE- you are cracking me up too with your euphoria comments. I gotta get me some of those meds, lol. ;) I could use a little happy juice! hehe. DANI- and by the way, yes I about popped a blood vessel when I read the, uhhhhh, teaspoon comments from earlier. wow! oh the things I never knew...... lol. CAN- darling, remember when you used to have us peeing our pants from laughing so hard??? I miss that. but I hope that Dani is doing it for you today, you deserve a laugh. ((((hugs)))) and some of those hugs I'm good at dishing out. loves to you, girl. I don't know what else to say. sigh. MRSW- so glad you survived, and glad you had the tears too. they are a good and necessary part of this long journey. I hope DH and you got some good moments together yesterday too. (((hugs)))

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
BLESSED, it looks like August 5th. i feel fine other than sick! I was nauseous this morning but not sure if that was me or this bug i have. i never have early symptoms tho, and YES you did tell me, but its time you break your own streak my friend. I will continue to pray every night for my testing buddies this week for July and August babies!!!!! AVERY!!! can you freakin believe it!!! i am still so afraid of the increased chances of having another ectopic but like i said i am going day by day and it will be a long long few weeks. RE said they are going to keep a very close eye on me just in case. All my m/cs happened by 7 weeks so i will be questioning everything!

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Rochelle we wont know if Harley is going to be a daddy for a while... but you guys know that you'll be the first to know!

rochelle - 2 days ago.
DANIELLE - O that just about killed me :) I love it cant wait to go home to the DH and do a bd myslef! BLESSED how are you? EM - did the little doggy consieve? I am so so so ready for the weekend! I have Bunco tonight and can't wait to go so I wont be on but now that I love you all, and to a special few testers dont lose hope!

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
PS: DAN - what is your due date? My friend just told me today she is expecting (she is CD29) and she is due July 28th. I can't wait to hear your date!