TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

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amys89 - 59 days ago.
fizzy85 - sorry to hear your feeling sad :( its so difficult to think about the positives sometimes. i hate being told 'everything happens for a reason', i know it does but im feeling like crap and that doesnt help! sorry for the rant. my sister is pregnant just now and was due 2 days after me - shes now 32 weeks and has had the most perfect pregnancy - i am so so happy for her that everything has gone well but cant help the thoughts of why did this happen to me - y'know? we were hanging out our christmas stockings the other day and i was so emotional that there should be another little stocking there! i hope AF shows soon for you, and i hope your journey here is short! my cycles returned ater 16 days so i hope things move a bit quicker for you and that you and your dh are blessed with a beautiful healthy baby very soon xxx

fizzy85 - 59 days ago.
@sara, i lost my baby at w11, we wanted this baby so much, it's our first, we're already in late 30s, so i cant afford any m/c, took many2 days off work just to get sufficient rest, but i guess it beyond our control. felt so down & helpless tht time. my dh was so not understanding n kept on blaming me. never felt so alone in my life n this forum really helps for moral support. and getting myself busy with work also helps.

~DiAnA~ - 59 days ago.
Sry for your loss Sara .. I to lost my baby at 15 weeks on nov 13. It sure isn't a easy thing to go through. :(

sarahinez1 - 59 days ago.
Hi ladies, this is the first I've seen this forum and I'm really happy to find it! I've been feeling so depressed too! I lost my baby at 13 wk 4 days. I had bleeding throughout the pregnancy but they kept reassuring me that the baby was fine. We even saw the baby kicking and going crazy on the ultrasound. When I went in for a routine checkup on Nov. 15, and there was no heartbeat. I had a D and C 2 days later. At the time, I was so strong and positive but now I feel like I need to go on meds! I still haven't gotten af and I'm so ready to start again. At the same time I'm terrified. I feel just like you browniebite and thinkpink. I just don't understand why I was strong in the beginning and now four weeks later I'm absolutely crushed. And I totally feel like my dh doesn't understand as well. I feel lost too.

browniebite - 59 days ago.
I had another long night, yesterday wasnt to bad.. I just felt sad. Had a long talk with dh. I hate that most men just move on so quickly from hurt.. He expects me to be better already. Some people at work treat me different.. Like I did something wrong.. Or like I am Leper.. Like geez I lost my child. Some are still refusing to acknowlegde me, or just act rude like I want attention. Def. Not!! I do have some great friends, and find talking.to my ttc & hail girls make me better. Just wish everyone wasnt pushing me to feel something different. My birthday is in one week and I dont have not one happy memory.of any of my birthdays. I am always going through something. I just wish things would get better. I want something to look forward to. Visited my friend letty in the hospital, and she barely got to see her baby after 5 days ( having gallbladder removed). So I got to see him.. We both went in to the hospital the same day in october. I was looking at his hand mitts and all of a sudden he graps my finger tight. I nearly broke down. Besides having to revisit the hospital I was at and seeing all the new babies rolling out with their mommies, my h.a.i.l girls were going through alot yesterday. My heart broke for kristine.. And well we all were quiet overwhelmed with emotions. Its been 8 weeks and im still waiting for af to show. I have spotted twice with dry blood a month ago . But still nada. Just wish this process wouldnt be such a process..

CaniacMom - 59 days ago.
Krissieh, so sorry for your loss :'(

candila - 59 days ago.
I know what you mean by things not being the same after a mc. My cycle used to be on time to the hour and now it ranges from 28-35 days. I was waiting for an ovulation kit to come in the mail but its WAY too late now, should have ovulated sometime between the 13th and 18th. guess we will be testing buddies! On the plus side In the kit there are HPT too so I am refusing to go out and spend money on expensive tests this time. It will force me to wait to test rather than testing early and being disapointed twice. FX for you

bjorgebaby - 59 days ago.
Candila. I am going with that myself. I normally feel when I ovulate, everything is just so different since the mc. And I never cramp that bad during it. Hate to say it but if it is ovulation I think I am out of the running for this month. Me and the hubby have Been so busy we didn't have time or energy to bed the last three nights plus we thought we already went past that! We shall see and if not better luck next month right!!

candila - 59 days ago.
bjorge, i am not expert but i would go with ovulation.

candila - 59 days ago.
so sorry to hear that kriseeh. my thoughts are with you

~DiAnA~ - 59 days ago.
Krisseh~ so sry girl.

fizzy85 - 59 days ago.
@krissieh, omg, very sorry to hear tht. (: take care dear.

WhatCouldBe2 - 59 days ago.
So very sorry Krissieh :'(

bjorgebaby - 60 days ago.
So ladies quick question. I am on cd18 and for the last 20 minutes or so I have this horrible cramp on my right side. Do you think this is ovulation or possibly implantation? I can run anywhere from a 28-35 day cycle. Please let me know what you think

bjorgebaby - 60 days ago.
Krissieh, so sorry dear. I wish I could be there for you more but you are definitely in my prayers.

krissieh - 60 days ago.
another m/c for me :( i'll write a proper update tomorrow, only in the door and its really late.... thanks for all the prayers and well wishes <3

thinkpink2010 - 60 days ago.
browniebites-- I feel you. I am all over the place right now. I miscarried on 11/7 and right now I am feeling so angry about everything. We were not TTC when we became pregnant, but I have had a lot of mixed emotions since then. Lately though I just feel angry and I am not usually like that. I don't know what to do. Plus, I have been bleeding since my MC.... not constantly but the majority of days I am slightly heavier than spotting. I don't sleep well (Benedryl and I are becoming good friends) and I just don't know what to do anymore. I have been thinking about asking about an anti-depressant... but since MC hubby and I go back and forth about wanting #4.... I feel like a MESS!!!!

babydusted - 60 days ago.
Caniac--thanks what a GREAT idea...if Aunt Flo doesn't come to visit this week, I will do just that. I posted an update for this week. After my miscarriage in August, I couldn't even think about baby things without devastating loss. I still cried, all the way through November, so ladies, don't feel guilty about your sorrow or your anger. You need to grieve. I'm finding that having something positive to focus on (my upcoming wedding to my long time partner) has given me a lot of peace and happiness this season. I'm actually able to laugh at myself and how I 'get' when I'm focused on making babies....So, hang in there, ladies. Make some Christmas wishes and try to find some bit of joy this season. Feel free to drop by my blog and share your 'babymaking crazy' stories with me. I'm getting so much out of laughing at how insane we get.

WhatCouldBe2 - 61 days ago.
Ladies of TTCAL, I need your help for reassurance. My most recent blog I have pics in, I tested to look for an increase in HCG, can I get opinions? I would appreciate it soooooo much. Browniebite- similar situation I was in 4 months ago with my best friend and her son being in the NICU, and her all messed up from a terrible birth experience thanks to a really stupid midwife. I had just miscarried.Those are real friends who still try to care for us even when they are needing taken care of. I am so sorry you are feeling so crappy. Major hugs missy.

fizzy85 - 61 days ago.
@amys89 - i understd.i tried to think positively b4 e.g. thinking tht little one is better off up there but last thu, when i went for rescan,felt very2 sad to see my empty womb.i cant wait to ttc again.the midwife said my af will come after 4-5 wks.hope it is sooner, cant wait to be preg again. happy holiday & babydust to everyone :)

browniebite - 62 days ago.
Bjorgebaby- thankkk you. I am glad its not just me:(

bjorgebaby - 62 days ago.
Brownie, I know exactly how you feel. I have been on edge about everything too. It took me seven weeks to get my period again and I think that was the worst thing ever. I think people in general have been getting on my nerves. No one can fully understand unless they have been through it. I get flustered when everyone is like you will be pregnant again soon, and in my head I am thinking you can't guarantee that so why would you even say that. I just feel like things are so up in the air and the future is so unpredictable. The holiday season is not helping and I can't wait for it to be over! I hope af arrives soon for you and then you get a happy healthy little miracle. Baby dust and best wishes I am here for you :-)

browniebite - 62 days ago.
Oh on top of that its been qlmost 8 weeks and I haven't had a period yet.. Im soooo frustrated. I know I have to wait to try anyways but Ifeel like its never going to happen. I feel like I will never have the family I dream of. I know its still early and im still young but I feel so .. I cant even put it into words...

browniebite - 62 days ago.
Is any one else feeling on edge aggitated?? Gosh; I feel like a ticking time bomb. Me & d been bickering about the stupidest things.. Well I have at least. I have been feeling unimportant, alone in my grief and pain. I have been ignoring people at work because they annoy me with questions. I self medicate to get mysleep to sleep each night. I know I am stressed and depressed and it's temporary, but I just can't stand it. He has been so good at dealing with me but I still feel angry. My poor friend is in the hospital, we delieverd at the same time but she was full term, and has a healthy babyboy but still had bad complications like me.know she is facing surgeries for gallstones,gallbladder removal, pancreatis, and blood infection from her blood transfusion. I feel terriblw for her and went to company her. She laid there crying.. Not just for herself, but was crying.because of what I went through. She kept saying how sorry she was that I didnt get my baby. And I was just in awe of that. Like my friend is the one that is feeling my pain, she is crying for my loss when she is in the hospital?.. Yet, I dont get that from dh when he saw mw go through it??.. Then i read on fb of my younger cousin who is 19 with a 2 year and all she talks about is drinking and partying.. Okay that is normal for a teen.. But you have responsibilities!! I told her to calm down and cherish these precious years with her baby but she just doesnt care. And there are a few other'friends' who do.the same. Their social life is so much more important to them. I just wish I could strangle them into reality! I dont know what I am doing anymore I feel so low and the thig is I have support and love around me but I just wanna be angry.

~DiAnA~ - 62 days ago.
Your welcome whatcouldbe. ( :