TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

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happymama (jen) - 3 days ago.
I'm headed out for a Valentine's dinner with my hubby. I'm getting a rare steak and a big glass of red wine. Maybe two. This is the ONLY positive about not being pregnant anymore. Have a nice weekend everyone!

abbyh - 3 days ago.
Congrats to you and your wife! That is very exciting news. So, you will be having an August baby. Be sure to check out the pregnancy forums so you can chat with others near your due date - it goes week by week and tells you all about Baby's development - pretty neat. Good luck to you both. Parenthood is great!

luvthecork@yahoo.com - 3 days ago.
Still trying for our 1st. Wife had a MC Sept 1 2011 in her 7th week. We are now 15 weeks preggo (today!) she is using Oct 29th as the date (sorry, I don't know the lingo!)

abbyh - 3 days ago.
I forgot to mention that I actually was offered the job last Thursday, which was my due date for my first miscarriage. It definitely helped to be able to put a positive spin on an otherwise sad day.

abbyh - 3 days ago.
Thanks, nikkipearl! I am stoked. I know exactly how you feel about timing. With my daughter, I had been trying for a September/October baby, but ended up with December, which was totally fine and has been great. This time around, I was hoping to nail the September/October time frame and we did - September 27th was my due date. Now I'm looking at probably a 2013 baby, which is totally not what I was going for. As it is, I was hoping my daughter would be closer in age to her younger sibling than this, but I waited another whole year anyway and now I am waiting even longer. So frustrating. To answer your question, my current job is in child care. I take care of infants, which I love, but has never been a career goal of mine. I got a job with an electronics recycling company. They get tons of electronics every day that get sorted and a lot of it gets sold online (on eBay and such). I will be listing items for sale for the company. I'm ready for the change. My first day is Monday, February 27th.

nikkipearl - 3 days ago.
Congratulations on the new job abbyh, thats so exciting....what do you do for work? Tencowmommy, I was still feeling nauseous after my misscariage, I was still having lots of my pregnancy symptoms actually, it sucked...I'm now starting to feel better...iv actually been feeling a little bloated/crampy, like af is coming, but it's only been 3 1/2 weeks since my misscariage so I'm sure it's not...can't wait till it does tho... I'm hating as the days go by the closer I am of having a 2013 baby, I was really hoping for a 2012, both my sons have birthdays around the same time Feb22 and Mar3, so I was really hoping to have a baby before then...I was so happy to be due in the summer, before I had the miscarriage, it seemed like perfect timing, but I deffinitly don't want to wait till sept/oct to try and have a summer baby

abbyh - 3 days ago.
tencowmommy, I am SO with you! I was so glad I didn't bleed for as long this time around. I totally feel your pain - I bled for a month last time (I really hope you don't bleed that long). I hate that you can't use tampons too. I just felt gross all the time. I hope your bleeding stops soon and you can resume TTC. Women who haven't been through this really don't realize what a big ordeal it is and all you go through, even under the 'best' possible miscarriage circumstances. Wishing you all much luck in the very near future!

tencowmommy - 4 days ago.
One of my pregnant friends was telling me how she's so excited to find out what she's having next week. I'm happy for her, I truly am, but I am still grieving for myself and have a really hard time with these conversations! Still bleeding. It's been 2 weeks today since the d&c. My doctor told me we could try right away but also said it would be better after one cycle so they have an idea of when the baby is due. But the machines they have these days are amazing so I really don't care. I just wish that this was over with so we could try again. Also, I just want to bd anyways!! I know 2 weeks is nothing like the 6 weeks after a baby, but I am not in pain or anything like after giving birth which was a major mood killer. I'm ready to feel human again. I hope we all get pregnant quickly with viable pregnancies!

mishaan - 4 days ago.
Doctor says am ok, and can and will concieve anytime, i pray to God my next cycle will be good enough all the best to all who are TTC

abbyh - 4 days ago.
Ok, so I typed up a big response to people's responses to me a few days ago, but then I got locked out of the site and haven't been able to get on until just now. UGH! Apparently, my co-worker sees me as her 'pregnancy buddy' since I've been through this before and this is her first time being pregnant. How wonderful for her! Right? Seriously, I get it, but it's totally obnoxious. Anyway, the good news is that I actually was offered a job somewhere else and will be starting there in two weeks, so my time with this co-worker is limited. :) I had been looking for a change for a while now - it had nothing to do with my co-worker getting pregnant, but the timing is perfect. The next two weeks can't go fast enough! I've been feeling really odd lately - nauseous on and off and some other weird stuff. I'm only about a week past when the bleeding stopped from my miscarriage, so I can't imagine it's pregnancy symptoms, but I guess if I don't get AF in about a week or so, I will take a HPT. We really didn't BD much - the first couple of days after the bleeding and then I just kind of lost my momentum. I haven't been getting to bed too early this past week, so I've just been more exhausted than anything else. I figured if it didn't happen this cycle, that's ok. I plan to get into things a little more hardcore after I get AF, since then I will have a much better idea about when O is coming and all that. It would be crazy if I did happen to get pregnant in those couple of days though! I'm not counting on it at all though. It's good to be back with all of you. I hope I don't have any more log in issues. I was going through withdrawals! The support here is nice and all I had was my stupid co-worker 'pregnancy buddy' - it was awful!

amys89 - 4 days ago.
Nikkipearl - my mum has had 4 miscarriages and within 1 or 2 cycle after each loss she fell pregnant and carried four babies to term. My sister also miscarried then only 5 weeks later got her BFP!! I really do think it's just a case of 'whats for us won't go by us'. Just wish I could follow in their footsteps and get a BFP quickly! 7 months since my m/c and i haven't even had a positive OPK yet :(

nikkipearl - 5 days ago.
My plan was to start TTC in march/April, but in the mean time Im not going to stop it from happening, I'm not going to try but if it happens it happens :)

happymama (jen) - 5 days ago.
AVG - That's why I'm wanting to wait at least 6 weeks before really starting to ttc. I had my UID removed this summer while on AF. I spotted for several weeks after AF and ovulated shortly after the spotting ended. I believe I had a chemical pregnancy that cycle (I had 3 days of very, very faint positive hpt's), which I think may have been due to my uterus not being completely ready. I got my true BFP the following cycle.

AVG2012 - 5 days ago.
i had to create another login my earlier my login was AVG2011 earlier..may be its time for me to do a fresh start....praying for a quick BFP:). In my opinion, we should give atleast one cycle to our uterus to heal and recorver from the weakness, if any.

nikkipearl - 5 days ago.
Ya I don't think I'm going to wait the 2 months like I wanted, I'm not going to force it to happen but if it happens before then great :), the only thing is I've heard some people say if you get pregnant shortly after a misscariage that your chance of having another miscarriage increases, but who knows what's true... When things are ment to be for us they usually happen, so just prayi g that it happens and it's healthy!

monkeymamma - 5 days ago.
Like Weber said, my Dr didn't tell me to wait any amount of time to start ttc again. He said as soon as I was emotionally ready, there's no need to wait anymore.

weber3 - 5 days ago.
@tencowmommy It's probably a natural part of coping with our loss. I went through the same thing, feeling like I was neglecting our children over a baby that never was and one that may never yet come. Life will return to a more normal kind of normal soon. Your little ones will be ok, God makes them pretty tough and resilient.

weber3 - 5 days ago.
@happymama don't worry too much about getting pregnant before first AF, the only reason they say to wait one cycle is so they can date more accurately. And with today's ultrasound dating, they can get your date pretty closely without your last AF date. M/c screws up our body and changes everything so hey, maybe your cycles will become more regular and shorter, wouldn't that be nice?

happymama (jen) - 6 days ago.
I'm so afraid that it will take a long time for AF to return. My cycles average 40 days, so it might be a while. If I find that I ovulate before AF and it's been at least 6 weeks since the loss, then I'm going to BD. @Nikki - if you go to the TTC forum, there's a drop-down menu at the top right of TTC abbreviations/lingo...it helped me tons when I was ttc!!

mishaan - 6 days ago.
I was given depo shot a year ago when i lost my child was told the effect of depo provera, am will see doctor after she comes out of theather i hope and pray to go home with a good news

AVG2011 - 6 days ago.
aww Sarah..m sorry for ur pet.. Nikkipearl: 2WW means '2 weeks wait' after ovulation:). Weber: FX for you. for the ladies who are waiting for their first AF after m/c , per my docor she mentioned it should be within 45 days of m/c but in some cases it may get delayed to 60 days as well. monkeymama: i exctky know what you must be going thru, i experice it my self, and it feels like everyone except only me is pregnant around:)..and it hurts......anyways I do hope we all would join weekly forums soon. Good luck to everyone here!

tencowmommy - 6 days ago.
I know I'm probably overthinking all of this. I'm still bleeding from my mc and AF hasn't even come yet. It'll be 2 weeks tomorrow since I found out that we had lost the baby. Every day DH mentions how much he wants another baby. It's killing me. I'm ready to ttc, but I'm really nervous that it will take a long time to get pregnant. I'm also scared that I'm spending more time worrying about conceiving a baby that might never exist than I am spending time with my ds. What if I only ever have one child and only get to do this once? I never saw myself with child. Ever. Well, on the bright side, I can fit into my pants again.

nikkipearl - 6 days ago.
What does 2WW mean? I'm horrible with all this TTC lingo...I actually don't even know where to begin when ttc, I always just guess when I'm ovulating by cm and I usually want to bd very badly around that time

happymama (jen) - 6 days ago.
Weber - FX for a BFP!! How exciting to be in the 2ww. I'm still bleeding just a lttle (19 days post loss). I'm hoping it will stop soon and AF will show shortly after that (I think this is the only time I've ever hoped for AF!!). I'm ready to start using OPK's...I got my package from Amazon last week with 50 OPK's and 20 HPT's. Praying for a 2012 baby.

fizzy85 - 6 days ago.
@weber, my af was normal, 4-5 days of heavy flow and 2 day of spotting. i sometimes got first 3 days of really heavy flow (a pad evry 1-2 hour). i'm glad that my current af flow moderately (3-4 pads a day) n i guess it will well spread over the 5 days plus 2 spotting days. well, all women in my family got heavy af. honestly i dont know, probably ur body is in its way to get back to normal. give it some time dear.