TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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jenn.and.pumpkin - 7 hours ago.
well ladies came in to check up one everything...but the night sickness has kicked in big time since tryign to read. I'll be back in the am. Love you ladies! Mama- sorry about the bfn

a kerr - 8 hours ago.
I hope all you ladies are having a good weekend! Im pretty pumped to be going out with dh tonight to the Taboo Sex Tradeshow and then out for dinner. Maybe we will find something new to spice up our BDing? lol, I know TMI haha. Talk to you ladies later:)

em2 stewarts wife - 8 hours ago.
lol Chrissy! I know the LO's are tiring, but they are oh so entertaining! They keep us young anyway! I am sure they keep you busy and all but I am more sure that they make you laugh and smile at least once everyday! And really, you arent old! :D

Chrissys4babies - 8 hours ago.
and ty EM!!You did make me smile, I seriously am run down l;ately..but thats cause my 2 yr old is fast and having a 2mo old baby..BUT I would not change it for the world.Aidan and Sophia keep us(Me,my hubby and the 2 older kids)LAUGHING and HAPPY!

Chrissys4babies - 8 hours ago.
lately,sometimes I feel it!!!

em2 stewarts wife - 8 hours ago.
lol Chrissy! Your not old! hahahahaha

Chrissys4babies - 8 hours ago.
For all my friends here..I changed my username from Owensbaby2 to this...Its easier for me to spot my first name..(Cause Im old)lol

danielle*-o-* - 9 hours ago.
awww blessed, im sooooo freakin sorry.... I really thought because i DIDNT test with you that it would help you :) I feel so bad. Its hard to be happy when all my friends are so sad. I feel so bad! I love you guys

danielle*-o-* - 9 hours ago.
Hello ladies! I dont know how you havent tested again! i would be going insane if i thought i saw a line... RED , JENNY - i concieved after 1st cycle but not before. as for the FIRE and FYRE biatches... CAN put an end to that real quick and she never replied back or anything so WHYYYY would she ask a friend to join to tell the people who told her to go stick it, that she was depressed??? really???? IF i was that girl and i really had all that happen (although scientifically it cant) but for sh!ts and giggles... and one of you wrote to me calling me a liar, i would completely defend myself and tell each of you off. lol but she didnt do a single thing.... its so weird.... MAMA, HEIDS, BLESSED, thinking of you!!! big hugs!!! Hello RO-RO! how's my sister, doin??? CAN- oh dear!!! could you MAYBE be having signs of AF? Reading too much into stuff... IM trying to help you out here, girlfriend!!!

blessedbeyondbelief - 9 hours ago.
Thanks EM -- the signs were all there sickey feeling, tingley bbs, sleepiness, etc..., But I think that all comes with taking progesterone & clomid both. You can never tell what is a true symptom or a fake one from the meds. Better luck next time - hey - who wants to be my testing buddy? Seriously - ask all my testing buddies ECHO & DAN what happens when you test with me! I guess I bring good luck onto others.

em2 stewarts wife - 10 hours ago.
Blessed, that is so poopy... sorry Honey! I thought this was yours and Mamag's month for sure! Maybe we will be BFP buddies next cycle!

Amber J - 10 hours ago.
*TTCafter2angels*- mmm, it's odd! Maybe you should do a preg test!

Amber J - 10 hours ago.
Blessed- I'm so sorry hun! Big hugs! xxxxx

Chrissys4babies - 11 hours ago.
CAN..I did not see that..She must of overcame her grief very SUDDENLY..She will come back as someone else..Thats her game... Just keep your instincts up!You rock

blessedbeyondbelief - 11 hours ago.
having spotting & cramps - knew it would be coming - what's new! Bad day - hope everyone else has a great weekend.

redheadmama - 12 hours ago.
oh can...... wow, huh? life's funny......

em2 stewarts wife - 12 hours ago.
Oh Dear Can!

CanMum2b1day - 12 hours ago.
**MINI UPDATE** Well more good signs for me. Went to bed at midnight last night and slept in until 11am. Had some breakfast and layed down for a nap because I was tired just woke up now at 2pm. Yah ummm that with the sore boobies, hot flashes....Just stress I am sure. LOL

CanMum2b1day - 12 hours ago.
OWENS: Funny how 'she could not bare to logon' but right after the post her profile said 'online now'. Funny isnt it how they are both gone now too. We sniffed them a mile away. Stinky basterds :p

rochelle - 14 hours ago.
HEIDS its really late where you are but when you read this again know that I am praying for a bfp come Tuesday! I am sorry that it didnt show up today...but until Tuesday we all wait in suspence!

redheadmama - 14 hours ago.
JENNY- so very sorry about the loss of your precious baby! One of my miscarriages was 5w2d (back in March) too. We don't usually wait either, but I never have conceived until after at least one AF. But yeah, most people say to wait for dating purposes or for emotional reasons -- neither of which has been something we have agreed with. So you go girl!! And you never know what might happen. There are a couple of us girls who have conceived that soon -- I don't know if they are still in our forum or if they moved to the pg-after-loss forum. Somebody shout out if you remember who they were!! Cuz I've forgotten. :) Actually, maybe JRL did this time... I can't remember. Anyway, I *have* known girls who have conceived right away and done just fine. And for girls like me, we try anyway and get emotional strength that way and feel like we're moving towards a future goal, even if we end up having to waiting for a few cycles. So either way, it sounds like you're in a good place. Take good care of yourself. Two weeks is still really recent -- I can say that because I miscarried on Nov 5th too. It is still raw and painful and ugly. But we're BDing too. So I'm with ya, girl!! Best of luck. ((((hugs))))

rochelle - 14 hours ago.
MAMAG - awe hun I hate that bfn they can be the pits I am so glad you had some good luv making and cuddle session I think that always helps after the mc it was all i wanted to have dh make luv to me. (((hugs))) and i hope you have a great day!

rochelle - 14 hours ago.
Jenny I had a natural I was 6 weeks mc in May got pg the cycle after that pg ended in a 15week mc not sure why but it did so yes you can get pg and it can turn out to be a healthy one. GOOD LUCK!

Chrissys4babies - 14 hours ago.
RED..I actually believed 'HER' until the story started changing,and now 'she is so DISTRAUGHT,she cannot bear to log on '..CMON,insult our intelligence,Puhlease..and again THANKS to CAN! She can weed out the people who need some attention!take care

redheadmama - 14 hours ago.
CAN- good morning, fearless leader. we loves you! :) OWENS- yeah.... I remember that. felt like it was playing with my emotions incredibly and toying with me in my terror. sigh. won't let that happen again. Can is taking charge. :) woot woot! ROCH- thanks for checking, sweets. the tears are okay. they come when I need them, and they stay away when I can make them. :) so it's a better balance now I think. not constant. which is good. my face doesn't need a 24/7 salt scrub, lol. :) HEIDS & GARCES- hang in there, pretty mamas!!! test again later. pleeeeeease!!!! you just never know. and until it's over, it ain't over. :) ((((hugs)))) so sorry for the disappointments though. grrr. LISEY- glad to know things are clearing up a bit. and yeah, I would expect AF no later than a month from now. but double check that theory with your doctor, who knows your insides better than I do, lol. Averys first name is Lisa. :) BUTTER- thanks love. we survived our day, evening, and night -- now DS is cuddling on my lap while I'm on the computer. hope you have an excellent night tonight!! can't wait to hear about the fun things you do, the laughs you have, and the conversations you get with DH. you rock, sister. (((hugs))) and don't you dare say it was a waste of a month!! you never know when the white globby stuff means you've got extra hormones from an extra person in there. don't give up. I will muster up hope *for* you, okay? :) JRL- so glad to see you! I keep asking where you are and when you don't reply, I get worried. so glad to know all is well. :) I am hoping for good hormones for you Monday, and then an excellent ultrasound in two more weeks! Man, I loved my ultrasounds this last time. they were terrifying. and of course they didn't end up being comforting in the end... but seeing our precious baby and his beautiful heartbeat -- I wouldn't trade those moments away. and hey, make sure you get pictures!!! :) that is going to be awesome. remember that feeling some cramps is normal, and it means things are growing. I had them the entire first trimester with DS. (((hugs))) 3BOYS- hey girl, just go for it! keep it up as long as you can! lol. :) I'd say at least three times over the weekend, and maybe top it off on Monday-Tuesday. Woot woot!!! get off the computer and jump your man. :)