TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

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amys89 - 6 days ago.
Sarah - that's so sad :( so very sorry! I was heartbroken when my cat died, they really are part of the family!! I'm feeling awful today! Tomorrow should have been my due date - just can't believe it. Wish I was sitting here all excited about a new baby and not sad about what should have been. I feel like its never going to get any easier :( :(

bjorgebaby - 6 days ago.
sarabeth, i am so very sorry for your loss. they become just as much a part of your family as a human being does. i lost both of my fur babies 5 days apart, 3 years ago almost to ther date. one was 7 and the other 14. reading your comment brought back a lot of memories and i am crying right now just thinking of them. i know exactly how you feel. never an easy thing! still have my days. i wish you the best on getting through this hard time

nikkipearl - 7 days ago.
Good luck mishaan! Have they done any testing to see if there is a reason your not falling pregnant?

nikkipearl - 7 days ago.
Sarabeth sorry to hear about your fur baby....was is a dog or a cat? I have 2 Pommerainians who are 6 1/2 I dred the day they pass away, must have been difficulte, but wow 15 years old is pretty good...hopefully we do all get pregnant so we have something to look forward to...is seems so weird to be anxious to get my period, but in away I wish it would just start already...hubby and I did bd alot this past week, part of me is hoping I get pregnant but I know it's way to soon and that I should wait at least one cycle

mishaan - 7 days ago.
Am so frustrated been trying en its almost a year no any sign of pregnancy going to see my Doc tomorow hope to hear good news

weber3 - 7 days ago.
I am officially in the 2WW even though my temps have been so highin the follicular phase, hoping still for a miracle, my own baby to have and to hold again and to comfort me after my loss. I O'd yesterday on CD 17 without knowing and happened to bd early in the morning YAY!!

weber3 - 7 days ago.
@abby and nikkipearl sorry about your losses. @abby I hope your coworker will be more sensitive to you. It's so hard, seems like everyone everywhere is pregnant but us and everyone wants to talk about it and be there for them but I know not very many understand and want to be there for one who just lost a baby and is hurting. Hope you will soon both be the ones rejoicing in a baby on the way.

weber3 - 7 days ago.
@tencowmommy , sorry to hear about your loss. My miscarriage was at 10 weeks and I bled for about 31/2 weeks, got AF after 5 and I didn't have a d&c. It seems like forever to wait for Af but once it's there you are so happy and it wasn't so long afterall.

weber3 - 7 days ago.
@fizzy, was your first cycle lighter than your usual flow? Both of mine were very light. I'm not sure if that's a bad sign for me.

sarahbeth13 - 7 days ago.
Chelle and Abby - I am so very sorry for your losses. Anyone else that is new and just joining us, I wish you weren't here, I am so sorry for your loss too, but I am so glad to meet all of you! I hope we can all support eachother through this next part of our journey. I posted three or four times when the site was down but none of them made it up here. Sorry it seemed like I was MIA! Glad to see people chatting again. I really love having ladies to talk to, especially since it seems like so many of us are surrounded by loads of pregnant people which is not easy. I am so excited for them but on the other hand it is literally painful to be around them or to even talk to them, I am with you Nikki - Hope it doesn't take us long so that I can actually speak to my BFF again soon. I am thinking AF is on the way any day now, I feel crampy and bloated and I can't stop crying. I do have a good reason to cry the past few days, we had to put our 15 year old furbaby Isaac to sleep on Sunday. He has been sick for a couple years with a heart problem but he hung on as long as he could. I was so blessed he stayed with me through both miscarriages and I got 5 months of time with him while out on my maternity leave. It was such a blessing for him to meet my daughter and for them to spend so much time together. Losing him has been even harder than I expected it would be. I miss him all the time. I am so blessed to have known him. I hope he left now because he knows my struggles are lessening and good luck is coming my way. FINGERS CROSSED WE ALL GET GREAT NEWS VERY SOON!

weber3 - 7 days ago.
@chelle I think the fears and struggles will still be there in a year. We will always feel the loss, our loss was a real baby even some people don't think they are a baby yet. I think the sooner we try again the better. The longer we wait it gives more time for our fears etc. to grow deeper and our mind can so focus on it that we get kindof stuck. but it's a personal decision for all to make.

monkeymamma - 7 days ago.
chelle....He could be right or a new pregnancy could help you over come the fears. It will never fully take away the pain of loosing your other child sadly. Only you will know if/when you're ready. Best wishes to you!

monkeymamma - 7 days ago.
I've got to stop looking on FB! A friend that is due a week before I would have been post about being in her 2nd trimester now. Then a girl keeps posting 'baby bump' pics and she just found out she's pregnant (hasn't even been to the doc yet). My SIL's sister found out she's pregnant, wasn't wanting to be but yet wasn't using anything to stop it, and is due a few weeks after I would have been. And then there's hubby's friends who's gf is pregnant and ex gf as well (not his though). Why is it that everyone else gets pregnant when we've had a tramatic loss??????? (a little down in the dumps lately, can you tell? )

chelle7 - 7 days ago.
Hi ladies i was hoping for some advice !! I lost my dd at 20 weeks in october it has been a roller coaster of emotions! I have recently been thinking of ttc again. my body is ok to ttc i'm having regular period etc. it's the emotional side of it, i'm scared of the emotions being pregnant will bring back. i will also have to have a stitch and bedrest which scares me!! but i still really want another baby. my pertner thinks the fears and anxousness will be there if we try now or in a year. he thinks it's gonna be tough ether way! What do you girls think???

fizzy85 - 7 days ago.
CD3 and 2nd cycle after the loss, i feel good and my af flow is looking good too (no cramps and super heavy flow). getting myself ready to bd. in a way i was a bit anxious of getting bfp now because i want to enjoy my 1-week break next month (won't be able too if i am having those m/s..hehe). congrats to all bfp. hope to join you all soon :)

nikkipearl - 7 days ago.
I also have 3 other friends that are due around when I was supossed to be due, I havnt seen any of them since I miscarried, I just can't pull myself to see them yet. I'm hoping I fall pregnant farley fast...I was wanting to try and wait awhile but I think we are just going to try right away, I conceived my first son after one cycle after my first miscarriage.

happymama (jen) - 7 days ago.
Abby - First, I'm sorry about your losses. Second, I think your co-worker is being insensitive. That would be really upsetting to me. Especially since she's due only a week after your due date. It's like a constant reminder of what you should have. My DH's cousin is due just a few days before my due date. She lives a couple hours away, but I'll see her later this month (at another cousin's baby shower...ugh) and I dread it. At Christmas we were so excited about the pregnancies...now I'm just going to be sad and depressed (but with a smile pasted on my face). Maybe you can let her know that you need some time to heal emotionally? Good luck!

tencowmommy - 7 days ago.
abbyh, I know what you mean! My 2 best friends are pregnant right now. We were all due within a month of each other and I can't stand being around them. I hate when they text me about being pregnant and complaining about their symptoms and blah blah blah, but it's hurtful. I know they don't mean to. They don't know what I'm going through because they've never had a mc, but it's just torture to listen to it because it makes me think of what I should be experiencing. It's just awful. I totally get it. I've gotten to the point where I don't answer their calls and ignore the pregnancy texts. I hope they catch on soon or else this is going to be a very long and friendless 6-7 months.

abbyh - 7 days ago.
Ok, I'll officially introduce myself to you all now. I was kind of avoiding this part of the site, because I didn't want it to make me all depressed, but I think it's nice to finally have a group to talk to who 'gets it'. I first stumbled upon this site when I was pregnant with my daughter (now two years old). Since then, I've had two miscarriages - one this past July at about eight and a half to nine weeks and the second one will be two weeks ago tomorrow at just about five weeks. You really don't know what it's like to have a miscarriage until it happens to you and I really don't have anyone close to me who understands, which makes it kind of hard. To make matters more complicated, my co-worker (whom I work very closely with every day) announced to me that she is pregnant - due a week after my due date, which was September 27th. This is her first pregnancy and she's not the most socially aware person, so even though I told her about my situation, she still talks about her pregnancy all the time and seems to like reminding me whenever possible that she is pregnant. I am excited for her (as much as I can be) and I get that she hasn't told anyone else really and wants to talk about it, but I'm really sick of hearing about it and thinking about it all the time. It makes me feel like such a b*tch that I feel that way, but honestly, she is a pretty annoying person to begin with, so I often feel like I wish she would shut up. ;) I'm sure that makes me look like a delightful person, haha. I promise I am really nice! :) Anyway, sorry for the rant, but I knew you ladies would understand. Wishing you all the best with future conceptions and I look forward to getting to know you all - hoping to do more of that in the pregnancy forums. ;) Baby dust and sticky dust to you all!

nikkipearl - 7 days ago.
tencowmommy, I had my miscarriage 3 weeks ago, I was 12 1/2 weeks pregnant, I bled for about 2 weeks, and kinda spotted for a few days after that, I'm pretty sure I just ovulated this weekend, so I'm thinking I'll get my period in about 2 weeks. Sorry for your loss, I had super bad head aches after my miscarriage too, I hope your starting to feel better

monkeymamma - 7 days ago.
I just finished my first AF since my mc at the end of Dec. It was only 3 days, with cramping the first 2. Hoping that means something!!

ballerinagirl - 7 days ago.
Red (and whoever reached out to her) - thank you SO much! I sent you a PM in return. I am truly grateful to you and the other women on this site. Thank you for taking the time to help :)

abbyh - 8 days ago.
tencowmommy, I am so sorry for your loss! I think it varies. I just miscarried at almost five weeks and I only bled for about a week and a half. I had one miscarriage before that at about eight and a half weeks, or almost nine weeks and I bled for about a month. I did not have a d&c with either of those, so I don't know how that factors in. Best of luck to you! This baby making business can get pretty tricky at times. Wishing you much good luck!

redheadmama - 8 days ago.
BALLERINA, I will PM you right now. Someone contacted me to tell me about your friend, so here I am. :) I'm always glad to help anyone in any way I can. Thanks for seeking to help your friend through this awful journey! (((hugs)))

candila - 8 days ago.
tenco. the site was down since last thursday (many of us were going though withdrawl lol). Everyone is different when the bleeding will stop. sorry about your loss though! ballerina - i have no idea who red is, sorry