TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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blessedbeyondbelief - 16 hours ago.
EM - congrats on DH coming home. Never soon enough! It will be so awesome! Will he be home for a long time or will he be shipped back out sometime? I don't know these things very well.

blessedbeyondbelief - 16 hours ago.
CAN -- sorry, but I was secretely hoping for a BFP for you. I know wrong time, wrong place, but you never know what blessings you will receive. Shoot me now.

blessedbeyondbelief - 16 hours ago.
Marie -- I am so sorry for you. It sounds like your DH (crying and stuff) probably wants one, but is scared enough to say no more pain. My heart hurts for you. It must be hard doing your job and supporting loved ones around you having babies. Thoughts are with you!

*marie* - 17 hours ago.
Okay, I cant do this anymore! I just spent the day at the hospital with SIL who is having her baby boy. 42 weeks, the girl has been through everything incl 2 failed inductions- but whatever- at the hospital with all the pregnant mommies and the babies all over the place. DH and I were leaving- still no nephew- and I just broke down! This was supposed to be in 4 months- this was suppposed to be our life in MArch and it was taken away and now I cant have it again! I cried, and then he cried and I'm still crying- at work and crying like a child! Maybe the BCP are too much hormone for me, maybe I'm really tired and overwhelmed or maybe its all of it, but I am sooooo upset and sad that my DH wont even consider the idea of trying again! Ok, I'm done whining, I have to go give a bowel prep. Oh by the way, 45 minutes after we left, BIL called and said they were doing a C section. 6#6oz. 22 in long

beckybear - 17 hours ago.
RO - Best wishes for an uneventful surgery. EM - How cool that DH will be home in a couple days! You can 'clean' the house when he gets home. We used to say that in place of BD. As in, we finally finished 'cleaning' every room in our new house. CAN - Yay for bloating and AF signs. RED - You are just so sweet and generous. What a lovely gift, and how strong you are to be able to do something like that right now. Sorry for your delay, but like you said, at least you can get it done a little sooner. JRL - Thanks for the wonderful report on your numbers! DAN - Hope your butterball is cooking nicely. I still have 3 more days of Provera, but I thinK AF may get here before I'm done. I'm bloated and way crampy tonight, and I've got a killer sweet tooth. The Christmas Tree cake already won a battle, and now the evil ice cream is trying to tempt me. I am married to a mechanic, so I am not a stranger to 'hot as balls','cold as balls', 'sucks balls','got me by the balls', "bustin my balls", "balls to the wall" and 'lick balls', but I NEVER, EVER would have thought I would see them in a TTC forum with a bunch of women!!

em2 stewarts wife - 17 hours ago.
Dani HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Yea, cant have DH come home to tall grass! And I had to do it today because tomorrow I am picking someone up and having girls night and I still have to finish cleaning and all!

danielle*-o-* - 17 hours ago.
EM!!! I knew it!!!! i knew there was a reason you were still going to cut the grass in the rain!!!! Blowin that party horn real soon!!!!! CAN and RED - I welcome the HUSSY TITLE!!! Who will crown me?? Is CAN passing it down to me???? CAN i am so glad that your day was well, I LOVE douche chips!!! they are my favorite!!!!! RO- how are you tonight???? please send me your address... Had another little problem with my cell so please re-message me so i can have your number again. Im a little crampy tonight. im nervous as balls...

em2 stewarts wife - 17 hours ago.
Can, so happy you had a great day!

CanMum2b1day - 18 hours ago.
**MINI UPDATE** I just got out of the shower and was thinking how this day could have been even better. I dont really think that it could have. I had a SUPER day. Woke up well rested because I slept like balls again last night. LOL. Then had a great breaky. Did some work. Got my cruise documents in and we leave in 27 days. Sent a proposal off to my company and asked to take over Western Canada for fitness assessments and think they might go for it so I will be traveling and having fun and making some good money in the new year. Fingers crossed. Studied for my exam. Had a GREAT workout. Scenery in the gym was NYCE! Came home and made dinner for grams and I. More work done while blasting some music. Then talked to Robb. He was concerned that I am not going to have time for him in the new year and I said well I will be sure to keep at least one 4am spot open a week. lol. He said OUCH. I had to laugh because he started talking about coming with me when I travel and how he will have alot more time once he is done training in 2.5 weeks and wants to spend alot more time together. I take it all with a grain of salt and will believe it when I see it. BABY STEPS I almost told him. LOL. Anyways it was good to hear that he is thinking that there is no way he is letting me get out of his life. We will have to see. No high hopes. IT IS WHAT IT IS. Ok enough blabbering. Going to end off my great day with a movie in bed ... now if I had some salt and vinegar chips this day would be GOLDEN!! LOVE YOU ALL LADIES!!! I AM SO HAPPY TO SHARE A HAPPY DAY WITH YOU ALL. XOXOXOXOXOXOOX

CanMum2b1day - 18 hours ago.
RED: I am so happy that DAN is now the hussy. LMAO. DAN: There will be no such thing. I need to know who my baby daddy is. lmao. I have a feeling good things are coming in 2010 and I wont have to worry about turkey bastin :) I can just feel it! ROCH: No testing in the AM I am pretty sure AF will be here tonight. I am blown up like a water buffalo!! EM: Yah well I have issues even calling you by your first name on Facebook and call you EM so its just odd to me. When we meet I will call you EM too. haha. You can call me CAN. :p

em2 stewarts wife - 18 hours ago.
Can, actually in real life I am typically called 'Stewarts Wife' really, no one actually calls me by my first name! lol

danielle*-o-* - 18 hours ago.
hey RED - YES the tiredness is kicking in these past couple days. Very little waves of nausea here and there... Tomorrow would mark the day that I bled when i had the ectopic so i am a bit on end. I had slight craps for a few minutes earlier, that is normal, right? I havent had a successful pregnancy in 13 years so i cant remember the 'normal' stuff. So if anyone wants to throw any 'normal' early memories at me, that would be great!!! Thanks so much for thinking of me RED.... I really appreciate your kindness. And from everyone else. I have to go Wednesday for another hCG and will know the results by 4pm. My new doc called me last night from home to introduce herself and she made me feel a little better (i wrote a blog about it).

em2 stewarts wife - 18 hours ago.
Well its in the news so I dont see why I cant tell you.... Check out the link and find out why I have been freaking out this week! http://www.wvec.com/news/military/USS-Montpelier-will-be-home-for-Thanksgiving-71622377.html OMG!!!!!!!

rochelle - 18 hours ago.
I wish I could catch up but my body is exhausted I am going to hit the hay, but before I do...read my blog you will understand why I am having the surgury...I too have a purse full of stones 20 or so from what the tech said. I will read up on whats going on tomorrow ((((Big Hugs))) CAN are you testing in the am? ya for bloating! JENN - that sucks about the doppler dont worry I bet with every week it will get easier to find :) DANIELLE - how are you dear I didnt send your package as I have been so out of it all day! BECKY - has flow showed up yet?

danielle*-o-* - 18 hours ago.
well RED looks like youre on your way!!! at least you have someone willing to get some answers for you. CAN - 'sucks balls' LMFAO!!! i forgot about that one. I thought 'Stewarts Wife' was cute too. Yo EM! i just got yelled at for backing up your Seamen idea.. I can see it now... You, me and few other IAP ladies front row at the Maury show. CAN in the middle of the screen with 8 guys photos around her picture.... The results are IN!!! You are NOT the father! lmao!!!!

redheadmama - 18 hours ago.
BUTTER and AVERYS- are you here, my lovelies????

redheadmama - 18 hours ago.
EM- oh wow your Thanksgiving menu sounds fabulous. I wish I could come have dinner with you guys. :) mmmm. man, I'm hungry right now!! SHEE- thanks for the tips on hpts. I will have to search for coupons for the coming months. there is a Walgreens just a mile from my house. :) and as for a holiday announcement, I'm aiming for Christmas too!!! by some stretch of luck. :) lots of love to you. and hoping this is *it*! SMM- tell us when you decide to test. we need more good news in here before some of us drown in misery!! if you missed your period on Nov 6th, I would definitely be asking for bloodwork by now. that's seems odd. NAIN- yeah, I would give your body another week or two and wait for AF, and if nothing happens call your doc. I m/c on Nov 5 and my hcg was a little over 2200 that day and I was 7 weeks. I am pretty sure I ovulated on Saturday (just because of physical signs I've gotten familiar with), so am expecting AF for myself around Dec 6th. we'll see! 3BOYS- hurray for the 2ww!! hope you're a busy mom right now so you don't have time to twiddle your thumbs. :) love to you! DANI- oh my gosh, you crack me up. who's the hussy now, hmmm? lol. BONITA- so sorry for your loss. it is so painful, and the monthly disappointments are way more discouraging once you have lost a baby/babies. ((((hugs)))) I'm sorry it has been hard to conceive. everyone's body is different. I would say that it might be reasonable to call your doctor/midwife and discuss your concerns and situation. have you tried that yet?? Em's advice was solid, too. KARI- hah! if I don't sign on for even six hours, I feel like I get way behind. it used to be so stinkin easy to stay in on the conversations, but not anymore! lol. I like the busy forum though. what would I do without you girls anyway?! :) JENN- we never heard DS consistently until 9 weeks, and I was told that was really early. but it depends on placenta placement, and how much tissue (muscle, fat, you know....) lies between the doppler and baby's heart. that's what they told me. so try again in a week (or every day, right?!). good luck, love. when do you have another ultrasound? DANI- how are you feeling today?? getting extra tired yet? gosh, I hope so. been thinking of you a lot. I think you're positively swell. :) and I love it: Butterball. that's the greatest! I am seriously going to call him that. Butterball. :) JRL- so glad about your hormones! that's excellent news. good job, mommy! how about you- do you have a scan scheduled?

redheadmama - 19 hours ago.
okay girls... so I have spent the entire afternoon sewing on my mom's machine. I made a baby gift for a good friend of mine who lives in Germany. she's due when I was due in February. I made her a nursing cover with two matching burp cloths; and then a reversible bib and a set of cloth booties that match! I'm pretty thrilled with the set of homemade gifts. although I am pretty discouraged they are not for my own sweet babies. siiiigh. oh well. at least I did it. so there! :) and my s-i-l brought her 8 month old twins over, and I did well with that too. good for me, right? :) and then I found out that the doc in Los Angeles faxed the lab orders to my dad's office so I could get my bloodwork started tomorrow -- just to find out that they have to have DH's blood with mine, and since he isn't home tomorrow, and they're closed for Thanksgiving, we can't get it done until next Monday. siiiiigh. oh well. at least it's still two weeks earlier than they originally planned for us. I guess that's still good news. I get my hcg drawn tomorrow and Friday, to see what it's doing. yay. (sarcasm inserted there!)

CanMum2b1day - 19 hours ago.
OMG I AM BLOATED AND HAVE THE TOOTS!!! AF IS COMING AF IS COMING!!! TOOT TOOT!!

CanMum2b1day - 19 hours ago.
EM: Your plan SUCKS BALLS. LMAO. But I may resort to that in a few years when my dating life gets tiring. lol. Maury? Seriously! HAHA. MOMMYBONITA: that was so cute that you called EM Stewarts Wife ... it sounded so offical : p . haha. i dont know why it sounds cute to me that you called EM that but it did. DAN: Stop provoking EM seriously. I am NOT playing slutty sailor chick who wants to capture some SEMEN. JRL: NICE WORK MOMMA!! You and bubs make us angel mommas proud!

JRL09 - 20 hours ago.
Hello Ladies!!! I miss u all so much, but I have not really had any time to be on here.. I got HCG done today, and I needed an 1800, and got a 2553!!! way more than doubled...I am more confident this time, yet far from being secure and totally confident. I guess I cant change what will happen so worrying is not going to help.. This is such a scary adventure... I know you will all soon be taking it too... I owe so much to you all...You listened when nobody else would, and kept me sane the last few months.....Ok, sorry so mushy...just wanted to thank everyone in here for all of the support...Im not going anywheres yet though... I will stick around for a bit...(Super, sticky baby dust to you all....)((HUGS))

danielle*-o-* - 21 hours ago.
SOOOO KARI, JENN was right!!!! 1 tsp. and thanks for the congrats. DH and i are very happy. CAN - LMFAO!!! THAT'S EXACTLY WHY I POSTED IT... i was rollin!!! and 'STEWARTS WIFE' - Im with ya... baby roulette for CAN. You'd have two different colored babies! Explain that!!! and i think ive seen it on maury more than once. JENN congrats on the doppler, yeah probably a little too early. Probably hear something in a couple weeks im sure. how much was it??? if you dont mind me asking. SoOOOO i was thinking if JENN got a Pumpkin for Halloween, what did i get??? A BUTTERBALL????? LMAO

mommybonita - 21 hours ago.
stewarts wife: Oh really? I should be starting AF pretty soon (or so i hope!) So im starting my first dose when i get home! Im starting to think that maybe the vitex did help me in getting pregnant the first time around, even if i only took for a month.

em2 stewarts wife - 21 hours ago.
And mommy you can start it at any time in your cycle.

em2 stewarts wife - 21 hours ago.
Though vitex should not be taken with Clomid because it will cancel them out