TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

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happymama (jen) - 15 days ago.
Sarahbeth13 - thank you for the support. I'm so glad we all have each other to help through these tough times. I went back to work today. It was good to be out of the house and to get my mind on other things.

sarahbeth13 - 15 days ago.
BJORGEBABY - Thank you so much for the support! It is so hard having marker babys out there! Those are the ones that every time they hit a milestone you are reminded that you would be there too if not for the loss. I am just waiting to hear the news from my sister in law that they are expecting. I have no doubt it will come soon! I just hope and pray things happen for us soon too!! HAPPY MAMA JEN - My heart is breaking for you! I am so sorry you had to go through that. I hope very much that you are feeling better each day. I wish it was easier. HEIDS - My sweet and lovely friend! Thank you for thinking of me. I am still really struggling and with SO MANY newly pregnant girls on the forum it is just not a good time to post about my pain and fears etc. I am so happy others are blessed and doing well but I am pretty raw and bitter still and it just doesn't seem fair that it can't be happening for me too. I did go out with my best friend last week. We went to dinner before the show and I told her how hard it was and that I was struggling and then I promptly ordered a very strong drink and then another and another! we had a nice time but it was very hard and I truly pray that I am blessed with another pregnancy soon because I don't know that I can make it through her whole pregnancy like this. I love her so much but it is just very hard sometimes. BUT I keep reminding myself that I would not have my gorgeous Maggie if not for my previous loss and there must be something equally as wonderful and amazing waiting for me at the end of this journey. Much love and good luck to all of you out there! This is such a tough thing we have gone through, are going through, and I am so glad I have a place where I can get a little support!! XXXXXX

nikkipearl - 15 days ago.
How long after you stop bleeding can you start bd'ing?

nikkipearl - 15 days ago.
I had a glass of wine, well 2 the day after I misscaried, I needed something.

happymama (jen) - 16 days ago.
BTW - I'm having my first glass of wine since the 2ww. I haven't wanted to have any drinks because that would mean admitting to myself that I'm no longer pregnant. I know that sounds odd, because I know I'm not pregnant.

happymama (jen) - 16 days ago.
Carmen - that also brought tears to my eyes. Very sweet and true. Chelle - I'm also terrified of being pregnant again...yet I can't wait. Since my loss is so recent, I still find myself reading the weeklies where I would have been. I need to cut myself off as it only breaks my heart all over again. Does the heavyness in your heart ever go away? I don't like feeling like I can't breathe.

chelle7 - 16 days ago.
carmen27- thats beautiful, brought tears to my eye's!! Brownie - I too have an ic and will have to have a stitch and bed rest. I'm so nervous to be pregnant again but really want a sibling for my 20 month old. Everything about the process scares me, but not enough to stop ttc. I guess the help of the other ladies and family and friends will get me through the anxous times. Here is hoping we all get bfp when the time comes! :)

Carmen27 - 16 days ago.
What Is An Angel Mom? An Angel Mom Is A Woman With Incredible Strength, Who At Times Does Not See How Strong She Is. An Angel Mom Carries Her Child In Her Heart and Not In Her Arms. An Angel Moms Child Will Never Grow Old. An Angel Mom Will Always Talk About Her Child, Celebrate Birthdays, Christmas, Halloween and Easter, As If Her Child Is Still Here. Just Because She Does This, It Does Not Mean She Is Weak, It Simply Means She Will Never Forget!! Gone But Not Forgotten By So Many♥♥ Please remember just because she does these things it does not mean she loves her other children less in fact it means she holds them even closer than before. Lots of love 2 my fellow angel mommies xxx

heids - 17 days ago.
SB - sorry you're feeling so bad babes, I was wondering if you'd manage to go through with meeting up with your friend. If I was in your place I don't think I could go through with it, explain the truth to her, she's your BF, she'll understand. You need to lick your wounds and not expose yourself to more pain sweets, it's still too raw. Are you going for it on O this month? I hope you do darling, I feel a year of the dragon baby for you soon. Thinking of u hon xxx

Kasaus - 17 days ago.
Hello Ladies. I am poping in here from 20th week. If there are any ladies here, who had an ectopic pregnancy in a past, I would like to let you know I had one as well, lost my left tube and stil managed to get pregnant.I am also over 35. And to make things more interesting, I got pregnant from my LEFT ovary and the RIGHT tube has picked up the egg. So everything is possible ladies :) I just thought I will share it with you in case you need a bit of reassurance. Good luck and baby dust to all the ladies here.

browniebite - 18 days ago.
chelle7- me too! Lost Elena at 21 weeks on October 26th. I want to ttc so bad, but I have an Incompent Cervix. So I reallllllyyyyyy have to wait and heal before we do. I dread knowing I have to have the cerclage stitch which was very quick but the pain after is no funny business and the spinal tap is worse. Summer I think we will ttc again. I just want to be prepared and have money and vacation saved because I'll have to be on bedrest and use my short term disablity again(Thank God for that). But For now Iive to see the little babies growing around me :( It's tough, but I know it will happen someday somehow!

chelle7 - 18 days ago.
Happymama....i an so sorry for what you have had to go through and the loss of your little angel. I myself lost my dd at 20 weeks in october. I know exactly what your going through. I have a daughter myself who is 20 months and the same as you she has got me through the bad times. Things will become easier for you.....remember grieving is a process you have to go through. I'm am here if you need a chat or want to talk!! Ladies i will be joining you in the summer ttc i'm leaving myself a little longer emotionally to recover before taking the plunge, good luck on those bfp! xx

happymama (jen) - 19 days ago.
Nikki - I don't know if there is ever a 'better' time to have a loss. I think it hurts all the same when you lose a child. I'm sorry about your loss last week. The specialist believes Allison has trisomy 18, which is a chromosome disorder. This would mean it was plain bad luck. Testing is being done to confirm this, if it isn't linked to a chromosomal disorder, then my DH and I will need to have some genetic testing done before getting pregnant again. Yes, we want to ttc again. I'll be 39 in May, so I'm hoping to get started soon (after my 1st period).

browniebite - 19 days ago.
ok so it's been 13 weeks since m/c of my daughter Elena, and of coarse I bleed a few days after then I bleed one day in november then spotty 2 days in december..I have been patiently waiting for AF to coming show her 'bloody face' <--- lol.... I have been stressed with everything else happening in my life, and well knowing that we shouldn't TRY until I've have had 3 normal periods +/- 6 months doctor said because I had a cerclage done, massive hemmoraging, huge blood clots, D&c of placenta after birth and was on bed rest for 2 months and still lost my baby... anyways.so I just went to make a tinkle and it's late so I don't bother turning on the light..I wipe and something inside of my head told me to look at the baby wipe(fresher bum) lol ... and I see dark blood... T.M.I... but I don't know if I should be happy or scared Sh*%less because we haven't reallllllyyyy been using a birth control plan(Withdrawl Method)... we BD last night which I kept warning him becareful because well.. yeahh.. but we also BD on saturday.. I know implatation bleeding starts 6-12 after conception....I don't have a real period to really count on to tell me if so or not...ahhh!!!! I am losing my mind right now. In my head I wish it were implatation.. I know's that opposite but my heart tells me that it can't handle another loss so quickly, or can't handle alllllllllll the things I'll have to endure with the injections, surgury, bedrest, missing out on more work. I guess I can't really worry until I see how long this bleeding last

luvthecork@yahoo.com - 19 days ago.
My 1st post ever here. (so sorry if I don't know the lingo!) No kids Me 34, wife 32 had a MC Sept. 2nd - in her 7th week. (was our 1st so it was really tough) Trying again! Date of the last missed P is Oct 29th. So we are at week 12. Looks good so far but wow it's scary!

nikkipearl - 19 days ago.
Oh wow happymama I am incredibly sorry for your loss, I could Imagine how stressfull these past couple weeks must have been for you...I lost my baby last Wednsday I was 13 weeks, I took it very hard, but it would have been even harder if I was even further along. Are you guys wanting to eventually try again? I a wanting to have at least two cycles then we will also try again. Was your loss due to genetics? Or was it just one of those flukey things? Once again I am so sorry for your loss and just know that Allison Faith is now watching over you and your family, your little guardian Angle!

WhatCouldBe2 - 19 days ago.
Candila- you do deserve your bfp soon but not cause you're 28 :P

happymama (jen) - 19 days ago.
I'm not ttc yet, but wanted to start to get to know you all. I had an ultrasound at 18 weeks last Monday (1/16). That's when I found out I was having a 2nd daughter...I was over the moon happy b/c I wanted a sister for my DD. When I saw the midwife, she told me the baby had severe defects and would not survive past birth, if that long. After having the diagnosis (holoprosencephaly...most likely caused by trisomy 18) confirmed with a specialist on Tuesday, my husband and I decided to be induced. I had Allison Faith on Friday 1/20 at 6:40. She weighed 6.6 oz. and was 7 in. long. She had severe facial abnormalities, though the rest of her body was perfect. We had some nuns I'm friends with (through my aunt who's a nun) come to the hospital to baptize her. I was surprisingly calm and at peace once she was born. Since coming home, it seems that each day is harder than the one before. I miss the kicks so much. I would have been 20 weeks today. I'm so thankful for my DD...she's been my rock through all this. It's amazing how much healing power a 20 month old has...and she doesn't even know it!

bjorgebaby - 19 days ago.
sarahbeth13, i know exactly how you are feeling with the whole world being pregnant. i have 2 sister in laws that are expecting both were not planned, and then i have like 5 friends who are pregnant. its like a big slap in the face everytime i see anyone. its hardest with my sister in laws expecting cuz i would have been scheduled to have the baby we lost right in between the two of them, and then my one friend has the same due date we would have had ours :-( its super hard and i know how you feel but we have to be strong and keep our head up, here for you whenever

sarahbeth13 - 19 days ago.
Candila - I am so sorry for all that you have been through. I can't even imagine. I am really glad you are feeling better! I hope I feel better soon. Re feeling old, tell me about it! I am 35 and always wanted 3 or 4 kids so I am feeling ancient right about now. I hope we both get good news really soon! I can't wait to be TTC again. I think that will definitely help me feel hopeful, well for part of the month anyways!

candila - 19 days ago.
hi ladies! Just wanted to update. Was thinking how i dont feel sad or so angry anymore. I think the whole trying again is working well. Trying different things every month. Loving the general forum, what a great bunch of ladies on this site!!! I dont feel so angry and upset when i see other people with babies. Although (I DO NOT MEAN TO INSULT ANYONE), it is shocking to me how many young moms are on this site. There are so many girls from about 19-23 with not only one but two or three and more on the way.... for some strange reaosn this makes me feel old??? I;m only 28 but really think i deserve my bfp soon if i want more kids :-s omg im 28 lol

sarahbeth13 - 19 days ago.
Sorry for the novel there ladiesl! I guess I needed to talk. KRISSIEH - Glad to hear you are still feeling good! Hope the exercise and stuff is going well. I wish I had your positive attitude! BABYDUSTED - I really hope you feel better soon! Sorry you have to put it on hold, I know how hard that is. MISHAN - I am crossing my fingers you get that BFP! I would test every morning until AF or I saw a +. But I am not very patient =)

sarahbeth13 - 19 days ago.
Hello Ladies - I posted a couple weeks ago after I lost my third pregnancy (two MC, one beautiful daughter who is now 16 months old) but that post was a while ago and I don't know why I haven't been back. I was struggling today and was trying to think of who I could talk to about things when I realized I had all of you! I had a D&E on January 6 and was about 9 weeks pregnant when we found out the baby had died. I am really having a hard time. We knew there was a chance the baby was not going to make it because the heart rate was really slow at the first two ultrasounds but I was so hoping things would work out. I have been feeling a little better physically the past couple days and the spotting/bleeding seemed to have stopped but then yesterday I had loads of egg whitish discharge but it was tinted brown and now I am having what feel like ovulation pains. It would be great if that is what they are...I hope the bleeding doesn't start again. I just want to get back to TTC and this limbo month or however long this cycle of healing will take is driving me crazy!! Part of my struggle today is that I have plans to see my very best friend tonight, we are going to see a show, the American Idiot Green Day broadway show and I am excited to see her and the play, but I am struggling because she is about 9 weeks pregnant and I am so sad and jealous and it is literally tearing me apart! She had her ultrasound this week and everything looked great. Why does she get that and I had to go to mine and see that the baby died? I hate myself for being so selfish and I can't seem to knock it off. I feel like the whole time I am with her I am just going to be crying inside. It just isn't fair. But of course life is not fair, and of course nobody deserves a loss and everyone should have their wishes come true and I truly am happy for her family but the timing just sucks! does anyone else feel like the whole world is pregnant right now? Is anyone else feeling like they will never get back to normal and see that BFP? I feel so blue and doomsday and that is just not like me at all. It is so hard! Anyway, I know someone out there will understand. I hope someone does. Thanks for listening. Big HUGS and lots of sticky sparkly baby dust to those in the 2WW and I am so sorry for anyone who is just joining. I am here if anyone needs support, goodness knows I can relate! XXXXXXXXXX

sarahbeth13 - 19 days ago.
Think pink - that sounds pretty normal. I usually am between 96 and 97.5 for pre O and then 97.8 and 98.5 for post. Good luck! I wish it was that easy for me! I hope you get that BFP and that it is indeed 'pink' =)

thinkpink2010 - 20 days ago.
Ok, so do any of you ladies chart your BBT? I miscarried in November (not TTC, I was on BC) and since then hubby and I are thinking about having one more. With our other pregnancies we just tried one cycle and we were PG. With this one I want to 'try' for a girl, which means trying to BD a few days before ovulation. So I started charting and my temps have a fairly large range, I started on the 19th (first day of AF) and in a week have ranged from 96.2 to 97.4... is that normal? What kind of jump do you have when ovulating?