TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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CanMum2b1day - 1 days ago.
RED: I am here love. I had a good day today and sorted out my feelings. Everything makes sense to me now. It didnt have anything to do with Robb as expected it had to do with the pressure I put on myself and how I am dealing with things. I just took a HPT ... yah I know probably not too accurate because I am not due until Tuesday and its 8pm LOL but I needed to. I almost pooped my pants when I saw two lines and then realized its a clear blue and its supposed to have two lines. LMAO. You have NEVER seen anyone google Clear Blue so effin fast in your life. LOL.

CanMum2b1day - 1 days ago.
JENN: Sure do have some advice on shaping. Get an exercise ball. They are great for birthing and toning up :) Search the following exercises on the net for form. Swiss Ball Wall Squats, Wall Pushups, Kegels will be very important now as will swimming and walking. Try walking up inclines and stairs to tighten the butt. There are lots of exercises you can still do to keep your stamina up for DH, Pumpkin, and delivery :)

em2 stewarts wife - 1 days ago.
Well ladies, I accomplished many tasks today but I still have plenty to do before DH comes home! Tomorrow I hang with my MIL tomorrow but Sunday I can get back to house work. I think Monday I will cut my grass (its all like 8 inch tall weeds!) So I guess sunday I will really clean everything... gotta get the showers and base boards and walls and light fixtures. I wont be happy until ever surface of this house is clean! And the car, and the garage! lol! Tuesday I am picking a girl up from the airport and having a bunch of girls over for a sleep over... Kinda like one last ladies night I guess. I cant believe Thanksgiving is next week!

talina-fyre - 1 days ago.
I have sad news to tell you all. One of my best friends was on this site and she asked me to go on and tell you all. bluefiregirl miscarried two weeks ago. She is in a depression right now and refuses to go onto this website. Since I am her only pregnant friend I voulenteered to join this site.

jenn.and.pumpkin - 1 days ago.
SHEE- I took us 3 mths on clomid! don't give up love.

blessedbeyondbelief - 1 days ago.
SHEE -- don't get down. I was on clomid 2 times and it was always the 2nd month I conceived. I think your body needs that 1st month to get some stuff regulated (for me it was the lp phase). Keep your chin up!

a kerr - 1 days ago.
@ Lisa- Sounds like we are in sync. I had my mc on Sept 21 and have had an AF in oct and earlier this month. Thats why Dh and I have been BDing this week. Maybe this will be our month? I sure hope so!

a kerr - 1 days ago.
Had a good anniversary night. Dh got me flowers and i got him chocolate and candy. I'm so tired from all the BDing this week and am stuck at work til 11:15 this evening. Yuck. Earlier today, I removed a childrens Christmas party invite off of my facebook events. I was intending to bring my niece, but I'm opting out as my bro is unreliable and I dont want to risk going without my sweetheart niece. My friend who is going had a due date two weeks ahead of mine and is of course pregnant still and I'm not and I just dont need the tears in public thanks. I prefer to do my bawling in the privacy of my own home thanks. lol. Hopefully there will be another pregnancy for Dh and I to celebrate soon though:)

AVERYSFAIRYTALE - 1 days ago.
Happy Friday Red! Thanks! I needed that. Having a really really bad day totally unrelated to ttc. Ugh. Can't wait for 5 o'clock!

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
AVERYS & BUTTER- happy Friday, girls! big hugs to you both.

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
DANI- so glad you're feeling better. and I know what you mean about the house smelling like HOME and like a family really lives there. I love that too. if I don't have something cooking or baking, I light a candle or start a fire in the woodstove to give me some kind of smell like that. :) wheeee! we're still waiting for my mom and grandparents to pick us up. but that's okay, DS is napping anyway. instead of lunch they decided we're doing the mall first and then dinner out. should be fun. and distracting. and gosh, I hope I don't see any babies or pregnant bellies! (no offense, obviously!) :)

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
CAN- are you here, gorgeous? are you all right today?? I'm thinking of you.

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
SHEE- you go girl! DH and I have discussed waiting until january, but I think we've decided (okay, I *know* it) that we don't want to waste a single month. I mean, I might not conceive until january anyway, but way waste and prevent something that might happen anyway?? :) for us, that was our discussion. even though I just m/c 2 weeks ago we bd every day this week. we'll keep it up for like the next few months. maybe until I get a bfp, for that matter! haha! I have hopes for you this month, even if you're trying not to get your hopes up for yourself. ((((hugs))))

sheework - 1 days ago.
Tomorrow is round two of clomid. I am not as excited this time because i know it didn't do any good to get my hopes up last time. SO wants to hold off on ttc this month because he is still working and going to school and come January he will just be going to school. I can't wait. My days are consumed by the thoughts of being pregnant and having kids that I can't wait to try. He said it's not that he doesn't want kids it's just it will be easier for us to bd all the time with him not working. I get it but still plan on making it work this month. So tomorrow it begins again! Who's testing?

jenn.and.pumpkin - 1 days ago.
Dan- i poas'ed every other day til I got the ultrasound, I just needed the reassurance. What ever hope you get through the stress! AMBER- if you had small retained fragments that didn't produce enough hormone to keep you from starting you may still see the little pieces. MAMAG- good luck in that am. Hopping for you! CAN- need some arm shaping advice now that I can't lift thing. Any ideas?....well off to lay down, my sinus are acting up, giving me a head ache and nausea. And my awesome chicken and dumplings should be done soon!

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
SARAJOY- happy almost-Thanksgiving!!!!! hang in there, beautiful. I've been thinking of you.

SaraJoy - 1 days ago.
DAN - I love your pics, awesome. MAMA & HEIDS - can't wait to hear some good news tomorrow! Got everything crossed for you girls. :)

mamagarces - 1 days ago.
DANIELLE - thank you so much.

danielle*-o-* - 1 days ago.
MAMA, HEIDS, BLESSED - i lit a candle for you and said a prayer to saint rita. I know she is not the patron saint of expectant mothers but she is the patron saint of the impossible and helper in desparate cases. She has been in my life since my divorce and has gotten me thru so much. Sorry to throw my religion on you and i hope you dont mind. I will be at work for 12 hours tomorrow and sunday and i didnt want to forget to include BLESSED in case she tests on Monday or earlier.

mamagarces - 1 days ago.
DANIELLE - the pics are awesome! BFP... hopefully HEIDS and i will be posting the same tomorrow!♥

danielle*-o-* - 1 days ago.
hey RED - i am feeling so much better, i can actually smell and taste!!! yay! i made a BIG pot of beef stew and I LOVE how my house smells. I love cooking a nice dinner that has to 'brew' for a few hours... Smells like a family lives here when you walk in.. ya know? I will be able to go to work tomorrow... that's the only down side... lol... im MIN told me to change my status on my profile, which i did, but i was afraid to. like bad voodoo, ya know what i mean??? i posted a pic of my poas day i had yesterday! lol

Amber J - 1 days ago.
Thanks for the replies Rochelle and Blessed! My cycles are usually 28 days. I'll stop worrying then! xx

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
HEIDS- I am totally in love with those words. going to see if I can work them into conversation with DH tonight without cracking up. lol.

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
thanks DANI. totally love my grandma too. we used to live two miles from each other, and now that we live 2000 miles from each other, it makes the visits longer and more special - but fewer and far between. hope you are feeling well today and enjoying every moment with your baby!!!!!!

redheadmama - 1 days ago.
LISA- I know that everyone's body is different. if you're having normal periods, that is a really good sign. I know for me personally, I can not say that I *have had trouble* getting pregnant after a miscarriage, but it very much *feels* like I am having trouble getting pregnant. the emotional side of it is so much harder than the physical side (for me). so I know what you mean. but don't give up, like I said having normal periods is super good news. and it probably means that your body is back to normal: and even if you got pregnant on your first try before, remember that it is 100% normal to take 6 months of trying (or up to a year). I hate that news myself, and I know personally that it isn't much consolation. but it's what I tell myself. so therefore, it's what I offer now to you. :) but please know that I am so very, very sorry for the loss of your precious baby. and if you need anything, let us know. we're a tightknit group of encouraging, silly, hormonal women. and someone's always here to talk to. (((hugs)))