TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

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AVG2011 - 27 days ago.
thanks for ur kind words ladies. kori23: m sorry for ur loss. i am putting down my personal experience.My gyn hospitalised me and tried using pills and after waiting for 11 hours, my placenta was still stuck so she decided to go for DnC. D&C is an easy process which is done under anaesthsia. and you wont know it. once the effect of GA goes then u will feel pain, bleeding may subside in few days. your doctor might prescribe you antibiotics to keep infection at check. your AF should return within 45 days or so. in case u experience heavy(more than normal) bleeding then contact your doctor. Per my doctor if its early miscarraige then termination with pills is preferred over DnC. for more details you can read at 'http://miscarriage.about.com/od/medicaltreatmentchoices/p/dandc.htm' . hope it would be helpful to you.

krissieh - 27 days ago.
hi girls just checking in. my dh is weird as well! we agreed that we would hold off ttc until march since he wasn't too keen on going through all this crap again of losing another baby so soon. but he woke me last night and ambushed me!! AND i told him to pull out and he didn't sneaky thing! talk about CONFUSING!!! it was his idea really to wait a few months so wth??? i remember thinking how scared i would be if it ended up being a bfp. i thought i would feel elated if he did that. so it seems maybe i am not ready after all. losing two in a row has really shaken me. i had a d&c two weeks ago and was really apprehensive about it but actually it is a breeze! i agree with preggo the worst part is waking up to being not pregnant and walking out of that hospital with empty hands :( i held dh's nephew today for the first time and i did not want to give him back. so maybe i will be ready very soon.........

preggersnhappy - 28 days ago.
Kori, I went through the same thing last year. I found out when I was really early and I was suppose to be 9 weeks almost 10 when they did an U/S and found the baby was at 7 weeks with no heartbeat. I was the most devistating news and I know what you are going through. I really wanted my body to rid the baby on it's own so we waited to schedule the D&C for 10 days later. Which was horrible as all I could think about was the baby inside and it had already passed. Just my luck we hit 10 days and I still had no cramping or bleeding so the we had to do the D&C. It isn't all the bad acutally, they put you to sleep and you wake up and everything is done. I am not going to lie, you will have cramping and bleeding and mine was pretty uncomforable but nothing some advil can't take care of. The real pain is knowing the baby is gone and there is nothing you can do. As for the procedure it is in and out and you have to have someone there to take you home as you can't drive after being put under. I am very sorry to hear of your loss but keep on trying, we had another M/C after that one too and now we are 29 weeks wtih a boy! Good luck hun and if you have any questions please let me know.

fizzy85 - 28 days ago.
@weber - yup. we're in our 2nd yr now. we met in 2010, got married end of dec 2010. woman from venus and man from mars seems true in my case.the beginning we could argue non-stop. lol! luckily, we started live under the same roof since July 2011 due to work commitment. we fall pg two months later. happy happy. but sad ending. i am not giving up but he still couldnt get over that loss. luckily i found this forum. at least now, i have somewhere to share and learn from others' exp. how's ur husband like? mine, i think, quite reserved person,.

kori23 - 28 days ago.
hey ladies i have a question. i found out on friday that i was 5 weeks prego. then lastnight i was having sum bleeding and really bad pains so i went to the er and they did a u/s and they said that i had miscaried. the doc made a appointment for me to have a D&C on the 27TH. im so scared and dont know wat do excpect. they said that i will have to b put to sleep. im so so so sad cuz i just lost my baby and now im really worried bout the D&C. if any of u have had this done can u pleaselet me know wat to expect.thank u

MrsMLCMom - 28 days ago.
@chelle I am sorry for your loss. I lost my last pregnancy at 8 weeks and it hit my husband and I really hard. He never wanted to talk about it, but I was obsessed. I found it was good to find others who have gone through the loss and can relate.

weber3 - 29 days ago.
@chelle Sorry for your loss. I'm with Caniac, it's different for everyone. I lost mine at 10 weeks as well and was ready to start day 1. I bounce back really quickly in the trials of life and well If maybe I was 15 or 20 years younger and had lots of fertile years ahead of me I would have more time to let myself grieve and wait a bit. I too think it would be harder to lose a second trimester babe than a first but we are all different.

weber3 - 29 days ago.
@fizzy have you been married for only a year? I wonder if your man has the same personality type as mine.-/*

CaniacMom - 29 days ago.
Chelle7, sorry for your loss. There is no 'right' answer for when you should try again. I was ready to start trying right away, but it's completely normal not to be ready for a long time. I was only 10 weeks along at the time, I think if I was in the 2nd trimester like you it might be a different story.

fizzy85 - 29 days ago.
@weber, tht really helps, tqvm dear.still trying to u/std my man. wht made me very angry was when he kept on saying tht i wasted 1 yr. to him, we shd get pg from d beginning..argggh. my 1st yr of marriage was very challenging, my hormones haywired d first 3 months.now, things r much better. agreed with u, i prefer him out working, much easier. well, wht to do, i'll just get used to it. me too, my joy is only we get bfp, lol!

candila - 30 days ago.
chelle, i lost mine at 22 weeks back in may. I dont have any kids yet so I feel that i was ready to start again as soon as i had the go ahead. I think about her everyday. I am sad that she is not with us now but I know there was nothign we could do. had she made it to term she would have had numerous problems. It was a random genetic problem but i will always have a fear that it will happen again. Nothing we can do but keep trying and hope for a positive outcome.

chelle7 - 30 days ago.
I was hoping to get some advice from you ladies. I lost my dd at 20 weeks middle of october and even though i'm pysically ready for trying again emotionally is a different story!! I was wandering for those who have had losses when did you feel ready to start again? I want to give myself time to grieve but i also want to give my oldest dd a sibling!!

weber3 - 30 days ago.
@fizzy it sounds like he must be having a hard time coming to terms with your loss. Men have such a different way of dealing with things as we do. My dh wouldn't talk about it much and told me to stop too. I needed to talk about it constantly for weeks so I had to call a sympathetic friend. Just be sweet and seduce your man. Most of them want to bd a lot more often than we do and are easily willing, but if they know it's for a baby, then it becomes a job, like work and they get turned off. Make it fun, do what you know he likes. I don't worry if I get pleasure or not, just make it nice for him, my pleasure will come when I get the BFP!! I don't know about you, but as much as we like my dh at home, I would be very stressed out if he was at home all the time. It just totally changes how the household runs. I wish you much grace. We just have to love our man, even though we don't understand them, they don't understand us, and sometimes would rather give them a kick than a kiss LOL.

bjorgebaby - 30 days ago.
So just found out my other sister in law is 13 weeks pregnant. That is two of my sisters that are pregnant. This just sucks I am so happy for both of them but it's so hard when I should be expecting as well. I have just been a wreck all day. When will it be my turn?

fizzy85 - 31 days ago.
@weber, thx dear, i really need some advice. trying my best to tempt him. we argued yesterday, he still blamed me for d m/c. i dont u/std him. i was d one who physically n more emotionally suffered fr d loss. to make it worse, he wont follow any of tricks such as we shd bd 5 days b4 d fertile days so tht we get all d fresh little swimmers. i dunno our chance this month. well, i'll just take it ez now. my dh is at home b/c he quit his job. last time he worked most of d time, incl nite shift. now he works at home as a freelance.

weber3 - 31 days ago.
@AVG Sorry to hear about you loss(es) I hope your stay here is short and have a healthy, full term pregnancy soon! (One of my friends lost 3 in a row first time tcc and went on finally to have 5(one at a time).

weber3 - 31 days ago.
@fizzy start the bd, don't need no talking. My dh wasn't into bd this month on my fertile day but after saying no, absolutely no I was able to win. Do whatever works. If you take bbt and use opk you can know more certain when your fertile days are so you won't need to bug him so much.

mrsmlcmom - 31 days ago.
SO....as I wait for my first AF after my MC i happened to have purchased pregnancy tests with a fertility test inside. The fert test you take on the cd3. I am thanking God right now that I have this. I am not sure I will be fertile next month and if I am not this will relieve me from a month of waiting to get a BFP. Has anyone else ever used these?

fizzy85 - 32 days ago.
i want to ttc but dont know how to talk abt it with my dh. i want fresh batch of little swimmers, my fertile windows are approaching....wht shud i do?

fizzy85 - 32 days ago.
hi AVG, sorry for ur loss. words are not enough to say how i feel for you. hope u'll get ur bfp & successful pg soon.

AVG2011 - 32 days ago.
Hello gals, i am ready to join this forum again. for all who dont know me. I suffered 3 losses with 0 sucessful pregnancies. 1st at the end of 3rd month, 2nd m/c at 6.5 weeks and the 3rd and most recent one in september end at 8.5 weeks. have almost gone thru all the investigations under this sky and thr is nothing to worry much. but dont know why do i miscarry. anyways my doctor has given me a green from next cycle. She has asked me to visit her once i get my AF she will prescribe me few medications like aspirin etc. I just hope my journey to a BFP is short and sweet. lookign forward to interact and share my journey with you all.. wishing luck and baby dust to everyone.

fizzy85 - 32 days ago.
thanks Weber. much better 2day. i always feel at my weakest towards the end of my menstrual. usually i make sure i ate enough fruits n veges but i not recently, i stuck myself with takeaways, lol! best of luck krissieh, timing is everything. regular bd wont do the trick for me n dh, take things easy works last time, so I would try not to talk abt ttc with him, me too plan to seriously ttc in march, had booked a week holiday in tht month. but we would be very happy if we got bfp sooner.

krissieh - 32 days ago.
bjorge best of luck this cycle!! fizzy i never knew that, interesting :) i am thinking we might try in Feb the night of the wedding that we are attending or if not defo March. we were aiming for march anyway but ifwe do in feb that would be cool cos all of the events we have coming up will actually be over by then

krissieh - 32 days ago.
weber best of luck!!!! everything crossed for you :) xxx mrsMLCmom i am in so much pain from the gym last night. a friend sent a pic of her newborn and i am delighted for her but it hurt so bad. i went to town in the gym and boy am i paying for it now!! but glad to be focusing the energy somewhere good. now for that bottle of bubbly as a reward for being so good this past week!! mmmmm.......

weber3 - 33 days ago.
@krissieh exercise is so healing for me, it feels so good, takes some of my stress and it feels good to do something for me, even though it hasn't helped with my weight, (put on another 2 pounds this week) hoping that's a sign that a bfp is around the corner (4dpo) Happy exercising and hoping you get your cycle back soon, and a bfp!!