TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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3boysmommy - 1 days ago.
Lisa-I'm having the same problem as you are. The pregnancies for my 3 little boys came with such ease. I had a m/c in July and since then have not been able to conceive. I should be ovulating this weekend so maybe we'll both have great news in December with a BFP!!! Baby dust to all you ladies!!!

lisaj1001 - 2 days ago.
Hello everyone. I hope you are doing well. I had a MC in the middle of Sept. I had a period in October and one on November. I am hoping I am ovulating NOW! The 1st 2 times I got pregnant, it had no problem getting pregnant. The 2nd one resulted in a MC though. I feel like it is harder to get preg now after the MC. Maybe I am just overly anxious. Hasa anyone else had probs getting preg after MC?

smm18 - 2 days ago.
My stomach is feeling different today, so either AF should be on her way, or hopefully it's something good :)

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Red, I must admit that I am a little jealous.... I wish that I could be a guinnie pig! I havent heard from him yet but I know my drs responce will be no. I hate that he doesnt seem to want to do anything new or different. We are just thrown into the wind to hope for the best... But I am so glad that hopefully they will figure something out for you!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
thank you HEIDS! I may have to start using those words instead of 'p!ssed off' and 'tired as sh!t' hahahah

heids - 2 days ago.
DAN - Narky = very grumpy, knackered = exausted!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
RED - have so much fun with your grandmom. I lost my Gran almost 5 years ago and she was my best friend. I miss her so much. I would love to get those days back where i could visit with her. She was so much fun. My first angel was taken on the 4 yr anniversary of her passing and i love the thought that she is taking care of my sweetheart. Have a great time! Hope that wasnt too much of a downer, i really didnt mean it to sound that way.

smm18 - 2 days ago.
Carmina K - I kind of understand your situation, I lost my baby at 16 weeks pregnant, and my sister in law delivered a healthy baby the very next day. Not only that, but I have 2 cousins due at the same time I was due. We understand that it's kind of hard for you.

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
aw BLESSED just saw your post! I am praying for you!!!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
BLESSED - It could have been a dip, sister!! or just an off temp. if you go on FF and read about it, there isnt cause for alarm for one off temp persay. if my dip was actually a 'dip' then i got my bfp 3 days later. I did hpt the day before that and it was a bfn so one day makes a HUGE difference. :) but Blessed, i am neurotic about poas and usually expect the neg anyway knowing its early so it doesnt upset me. I know its only a bonus if + comes up early. the only time i get upset is if the bfn comes when its time for the bfp to come up if that makes any sense. But if it will upset you, dont do it!!! HEIDS and MAMA good luck!!! i will be up bright and early tomorrow for work so i will be checkin in on ya!! i cant wait!!!! HEIDS - describe 'narky and knackered' for me, please! :) and i havent heard from autumn in a couple days! i wonder if she is ok! Yay RED 2010 babies!!! is all of our year!!!!!

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
SARAJOY -- sounds great. I want to test on Wednesday. My due date was Wednesday with Seth so I am either going to get AF or BFP for his date. That is weird how this is ending to be timing for his due date. Not sure I like it so much. Crossing my fingers for us!

SaraJoy - 2 days ago.
BLESSED - looks like we are cycle buddies. :) Tues is CD28 for me too, but only 13dpo, so IF af hasn't shown up by then I am planning to test on Thanksgiving. I think I can handle her better without all the poas-ing first, so I am waiting until she is officially LATE. To be honest I don't have any kind of good feeling about this month. If you can't wait that long I completely understand - here's hoping we both have a big super something extra to be thankful for next week! :D

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
my dad got a phone call from another doctor today who sounded hopeful for me... so I'm getting excited. the two doctors he has talked to personally so far are both on cutting-edge studies (like the hcg shot I was talking about yesterday -- the other study is immunotherapy that is 'new' too), and brand new things. so! cheers to being a lab rat and hoping to be successful next time. woot woot for 2010, right?! :)

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Blessed, give it a few more days... if you dont have AF by Tuesday then you should definately get a bfp! You seem to have pretty consistant LP's so I would assume either Af should start tomorrow or the next day (at the latest) and if not then you should test. I never get possitives early and really never until a week after I am due! I am usually a 30-33 day kinda girl and never get a possitive before CD37! SO I dont even bother with early testing anymore!

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
good morning girls!! I don't have time to write lots of notes to everyone... I totally want to. so quick shout outs to MRSW, BUTTER, CAN, EM, ROCHELLE, DANI, AMBER, CARMINA, HEIDS, GARCES, BLESSED, BECKY, AVERYS, JRL... did I miss anyone? :) it's my grandma's birthday today, so we're meeting up for lunch, shopping at the mall, and a Starbucks date. so, kind of fun I guess. :) glad to hear everyone's updates today. I will try to catch up later today or tomorrow, okay? big loves and big jugs!!!

mamagarces - 2 days ago.
HEIDS - you sound just like me, tired, peeing, heartburn, and nausea! will be looking forward to seeing your results tomorrow morning as well.♥ AUTUMN - where are you? how are you? still sick? still testing tomorrow? hope all is going well for you.♥ BLESSED - i am hoping that was an implantation dip for you.♥

heids - 2 days ago.
Hiya Girlies, counting down to test morning too! Despite temp dip have been having sore boobs, nauseous, heartburn, peeing non-stop, knackered and really really narky today! Maybe there is hope, will see in bout 12hrs! Has anyone heard from Autumn by the way? Thought she was testing today? Hxx

CanMum2b1day - 2 days ago.
BECKY: The 5lbs was water loss love. People fluctuate 5lbs throughout the month and thats why I only weigh my clients once a month. DAN: Your funny. My business is called EnterActive Health and Fitness. Entering into an Active lifestyle :) AMBER: Its good that your passing clots and pieces of tissue because your little cave is cleaning itself out well :) MAMA: Thanks love ... I found a bit of power and I am running with it although I still feel pretty depressed and down. Its the weekend though so I am expecting Robb to call late tonight or Saturday and perhaps I can get some closure. :(

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
Hi CAN -- hope you feel a little better today. I had Bible Study this morning and I did the devotion before I started. I totally cried (as next week is my due date). I am going to put the devotion on my blog and send it out so I hope you all can see it. It is perfect for all of us! RED - Hope you are okay today. Thinking of you!

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
Hi everyone - my temp went back up this am. My cycle is so weird. I am figuring I will start either Sunday or Monday. Not really what I want, but I guess that is what I am getting. Do you guys think that could have been an implantation dip? If so, when should I test? I am thinking of waiting until CD28 which is Tuesday. I have never gotten an early test and I don't want to take one and be disappointed if I really am. I want it to be negative if it is negative and positive if it is positive. Any thoughts. Here is my chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/hollyblessed

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
AMBERJ -- I had the same kind of little pieces after stillbirth in June. I also had to have a D&C in July and every once and awhile I will still get a couple of those. I think it is probably normal especially for the 1st AF after mc. Good luck to you!

rochelle - 2 days ago.
Super sperm!!! Lmao I love dh comments. Well I just got baby bathed fed and dressed were going to go find a christmas tree yes I said it we are putting up chrismas today! I am so excited. AMBER yes my cycles were always like that before I mced do u have long cycles? My last period was fairly light.

mamagarces - 2 days ago.
trying to keep myself busy without over-doing it today... counting down the hours till i go to bed, so when i wake up i can test! i did a bunch of housework last night so i could be a little lazy today, something that i almost never get... relaxation..lol. DANIELLE - i can't wait to find out what your numbers are at your next draw. i bet DH is still grinning ear to ear!♥ CAN - now that's more like you, strong, confident, take charge - take no prisoners! you go girl! wish i could join your gym, get my fat a** in shape! ♥ CARMINA - sorry you are feeling so much pain right now, it can be so hard being with family when there is a new baby around, so hard to stay strong.♥ EM - how's the housework coming along? you must be flying thru your chores, thinking how soon DH will be home to mess it all up again.♥ BUTTERFLY - wow you are a busy mommy! hoping you get your O real soon, and then your BFP. ♥ BECKY - you lost 5 pounds in one day from provera??? i want to take one every day for a month!!!!! lol.

Amber J - 2 days ago.
Thank you Em! I have done another test and it's bfn. It's definitely like the tissue I lost when I miscarried though, but little bits. I think it must be a few bits left over from the mc. :-( Thanks for your help! xx

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Amber, my first AF after m/c is always extra heavy. I think its because your body is trying to really start fresh so it slefs off more tissue than usual. Try not to be upset... your not miscarrying again... your just having a really heavy AF. Though if you are concerned that you are passing more pregnancy tissue take an HPT and see if its possitive. Good luck sweety!