TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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redheadmama - 2 days ago.
good morning girls!! I don't have time to write lots of notes to everyone... I totally want to. so quick shout outs to MRSW, BUTTER, CAN, EM, ROCHELLE, DANI, AMBER, CARMINA, HEIDS, GARCES, BLESSED, BECKY, AVERYS, JRL... did I miss anyone? :) it's my grandma's birthday today, so we're meeting up for lunch, shopping at the mall, and a Starbucks date. so, kind of fun I guess. :) glad to hear everyone's updates today. I will try to catch up later today or tomorrow, okay? big loves and big jugs!!!

mamagarces - 2 days ago.
HEIDS - you sound just like me, tired, peeing, heartburn, and nausea! will be looking forward to seeing your results tomorrow morning as well.♥ AUTUMN - where are you? how are you? still sick? still testing tomorrow? hope all is going well for you.♥ BLESSED - i am hoping that was an implantation dip for you.♥

heids - 2 days ago.
Hiya Girlies, counting down to test morning too! Despite temp dip have been having sore boobs, nauseous, heartburn, peeing non-stop, knackered and really really narky today! Maybe there is hope, will see in bout 12hrs! Has anyone heard from Autumn by the way? Thought she was testing today? Hxx

CanMum2b1day - 2 days ago.
BECKY: The 5lbs was water loss love. People fluctuate 5lbs throughout the month and thats why I only weigh my clients once a month. DAN: Your funny. My business is called EnterActive Health and Fitness. Entering into an Active lifestyle :) AMBER: Its good that your passing clots and pieces of tissue because your little cave is cleaning itself out well :) MAMA: Thanks love ... I found a bit of power and I am running with it although I still feel pretty depressed and down. Its the weekend though so I am expecting Robb to call late tonight or Saturday and perhaps I can get some closure. :(

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
Hi CAN -- hope you feel a little better today. I had Bible Study this morning and I did the devotion before I started. I totally cried (as next week is my due date). I am going to put the devotion on my blog and send it out so I hope you all can see it. It is perfect for all of us! RED - Hope you are okay today. Thinking of you!

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
Hi everyone - my temp went back up this am. My cycle is so weird. I am figuring I will start either Sunday or Monday. Not really what I want, but I guess that is what I am getting. Do you guys think that could have been an implantation dip? If so, when should I test? I am thinking of waiting until CD28 which is Tuesday. I have never gotten an early test and I don't want to take one and be disappointed if I really am. I want it to be negative if it is negative and positive if it is positive. Any thoughts. Here is my chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/hollyblessed

blessedbeyondbelief - 2 days ago.
AMBERJ -- I had the same kind of little pieces after stillbirth in June. I also had to have a D&C in July and every once and awhile I will still get a couple of those. I think it is probably normal especially for the 1st AF after mc. Good luck to you!

rochelle - 2 days ago.
Super sperm!!! Lmao I love dh comments. Well I just got baby bathed fed and dressed were going to go find a christmas tree yes I said it we are putting up chrismas today! I am so excited. AMBER yes my cycles were always like that before I mced do u have long cycles? My last period was fairly light.

mamagarces - 2 days ago.
trying to keep myself busy without over-doing it today... counting down the hours till i go to bed, so when i wake up i can test! i did a bunch of housework last night so i could be a little lazy today, something that i almost never get... relaxation..lol. DANIELLE - i can't wait to find out what your numbers are at your next draw. i bet DH is still grinning ear to ear!♥ CAN - now that's more like you, strong, confident, take charge - take no prisoners! you go girl! wish i could join your gym, get my fat a** in shape! ♥ CARMINA - sorry you are feeling so much pain right now, it can be so hard being with family when there is a new baby around, so hard to stay strong.♥ EM - how's the housework coming along? you must be flying thru your chores, thinking how soon DH will be home to mess it all up again.♥ BUTTERFLY - wow you are a busy mommy! hoping you get your O real soon, and then your BFP. ♥ BECKY - you lost 5 pounds in one day from provera??? i want to take one every day for a month!!!!! lol.

Amber J - 2 days ago.
Thank you Em! I have done another test and it's bfn. It's definitely like the tissue I lost when I miscarried though, but little bits. I think it must be a few bits left over from the mc. :-( Thanks for your help! xx

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Amber, my first AF after m/c is always extra heavy. I think its because your body is trying to really start fresh so it slefs off more tissue than usual. Try not to be upset... your not miscarrying again... your just having a really heavy AF. Though if you are concerned that you are passing more pregnancy tissue take an HPT and see if its possitive. Good luck sweety!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
Carmina - I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I was in the same boat a month ago. i was due october 7th and my twin nieces were born at the end of august. Her sister (who is my next door neighbor) is due the day i was supposed to be due with the 2nd m/c i had and i have a cousin that is due next month. The twins live right around the corner and i see them all the time. I am not going to lie and say that you will be fine. If you have a compassionate family, I am sure you can probably express to them how hard it will be to see her but it doesnt mean that you are not happy for them and that you do not love your new niece/nephew. I seriously took the babies in my arms and rocked them and had a nice little cry and honestly i felt better and very attached to them. Sure- envious that they have what i could not. but it is not their fault. and i am sure that you are thankful that they did not have to go thru what you went thru. my sil is so understanding when i have those moments and they are less and less with each visit. I am not sure if i helped you at all but i just wanted to tell you how i handle it. Sometimes i am fine and sometimes i am not. Sometimes i ask God why and sometimes i look up and say 'i get it'. it just depends on what day of the week it is. Good luck!

Amber J - 2 days ago.
Hi ladies, I have a question if I may? Sorry if tmi! I started miscarrying on October the 17th, then I started my period on November the 17th. My period has been heavy, and yesterday and today, I've noticed What looks like bits of placenta again! You know with the frilly edges? Is it common to miscarry, then stop bleeding, then when your period comes, to lose more pregnancy tissue from your miscarriage? I'm all upset again now! Has anyone else had this happen? Please tell me, thank you. xxx

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Morning Girlies! Today I WILL clean this damn house! So sorry, cant read too much right now, just know that I am thinking of ya'll!

CarminaK - 2 days ago.
Hi ladies! I haven't posted in a while, but I'm always here. Congrats to those of you have recieved BFPs and baby dust to all of you in waiting! I'm pposting today because I am so nervous. My brother and his wife had a baby only one week before my Macie was born. I haven't seen them yet and the plan is to see them tomorrow at my sisters birthday party. I'm so upset ,I just don't know how I'll act or what I'll do. Having another baby in our family the same age as Macie makes it probably 100 times harder and I'm not sure how to handle it. I've been fine the last three months with pregnant women and babies, but somehow, this is different and I just don't know how to feel. Sorry for ranting, I'm just kinda lost.

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
right back at ya CAN!!! for your gym your logo should be you in your cape! Hands on hips! Standing like ben stiller on Dodgeball... hahahahahaha. your commercial can be you walking thru your facility 'hi Im (insert real name here).... I am the owner of (insert gym name here). Do you have soggy crotch??? well im here to help that.'

beckybear - 2 days ago.
BUTTERFLY - Hoping O is just taking its sweet time and will be here soon! MAMAG - Crossing my fingers for ya. CAN - We are all here for you. Sounds like you are on your way out of the darkness. So I lost 5 pounds in a day, weird, huh? Over the past month, I had gained 5 pounds and didn't quite know why. The day after taking the first Provera pill, those 5 pounds disappeared and have not been back. Retaining fluid from whacked out hormones? Maybe. Good riddance to them! I've got enough weight to lose already.

CanMum2b1day - 2 days ago.
DAN: I love you ... In a strictly heterosexual way of course :p LOL. Thanks for all the well wishes ladies!!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
So my doc called and wants me to come in sunday morning and get my labs done. I am going to poas every damn day!!! I am never going to be able to relax about it. MAMA- so I gave DH a belated b-day card and wrote 'sorry I missed ur birthday Daddy' with my hpt in it. He looked up, up his arms up in the air and said 'super sperm!'. Lol. We're both so excited but its sooooooo early. I will be happy when the day AF is expected to be here passes and then the 6 week u/s will be a biggie since 2/3 of them this year have been bad news (the other one there was a heartbeat and a week later it was gone). I have been taking the baby aspirin since a week after the surgery. I will meet my new doc sunday as well :). And yes BECK, u guys were right about that dip! :)

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
JENN- lol I this us nurses are the worst patients!!! Lol *** RED - I have to agree with CAN. I believe ur have virginal ears but that maybe it. Maybe ur a 'closet whore' and u swing from your sex swing in ur ceiling fan- dirty girl... Lol. CAN- I swore I heard a little roaring coming from up north last night, was it u??? U go get that gym girl! Cause I tell ya, if I walked in and saw u, I would join, damn girl!!! And I mean that strictly in a heterosexual way!!! Thanks MRS!!!

butterfly-angel - 2 days ago.
Well, I am still waitng for a +opk...wondering if I will actually get one this month...I have wasted soooo many tests!!! Or maybe I O'd super early and completly missed it...I don't know what to think anymore!!! I hate when my body does this to me!!!!

butterfly-angel - 2 days ago.
RED - hi hun!! had a really busy day with the boys yesterday - took them to the bookstore - they love going there, then out to lunch and then to the park for the afternoon, then rushed off to hockey practice and then parent-teacher night...so a very busy day for me - especially since I had just come off a 12 hour night shift - so last night I crashed in front of the TV and fell asleep....How are you hun?? Holding up ok??? You are always in my thoughts - love ya xx

butterfly-angel - 2 days ago.
MAMAG - Can't wait to hear the news tomorrow hun....got everything crossed for you!!!!

butterfly-angel - 2 days ago.
CAN - you go girl, you go girl, you go girl!!!! Love ya babe xxx

butterfly-angel - 2 days ago.
MO- I also had leftovers after my d+e...I bled for 11 weeks straight after my d+e before going back to see my doc...(Iknow, I know, I should have gone way before that!!) - and I had leftovers so he gave me some medication to take which made my uterus contract and pass the leftovers..I bled for a few days after that and then it was over...so it was a very long process...I too wanted to have my last 2 kids close together...definitly less than 2 years apart...but it took me a year to get pregnant and then I lost my baby...so now my son is going to be 3 in February...and I'm still not pregnant...Hang in there hun..we are all here for you - you have really found an amazing bunch of girls ~Hugs~