TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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jenn.and.pumpkin - 2 days ago.
EM- I only know 2 people who have used hcg injections, the one that used a trigger shot after O like red is talking about had to go in to get it. (it's higher dose than you can be given for home use per her dr., but a one time thing), My friend that used it for IVF took little doses everyday after transfer and she did it at home. Not sure exactly what name meds each used. DAN- I am a nurse and I am 'SOOOO *that* pt'...lol CAN - Big hugs- you can come cuddle with me anytime you want, DH is home now but he won't mind. ;) MOK- sorry for your loss and the set back. Hope they get you headed in the right direction soon.... ok Pumkin and I are off to work, even though Daddy has the day off and is staying in bed.

camila.a - 2 days ago.
Hi girls! Thank you for your warm welcome ! According to me I will be ovulating over the weekend! LOL, so, the race starts tomorrow!!!! I am super excited... and so scared at the same time. With Leon it all happened so quickly so my hopes are high, but at the same time I don´t want to be disappointed if it doesn´t happen...so, I am 50-50 % now. Well good luck to you all !!! I am so happy that I joined this site...thanks again

rochelle - 2 days ago.
DANIELLE I will text u too see how u are doing...so guess what, I get to go lot shopping tomorrow for a new house :) dh said it was time haha were going to build a house! Fitting as were builders but I am going to pee myself a new house!!! it won't be huge but it will be mine all mine! We even looked up house plans online he's serious well I am breaking out like a school girl zits everywhere I don't even want to go out in public ek! Clomid bad side effect number 1 but besides that super happy and hopeful :) so so hopeful! Here's to the future! EM you say such sweet things! I heart u. RED I think ur naughtyness had just the right touch of class ;) and made me smile for CAN! CAN you are an amazing woman full of tallent and beauty! You can do it!!! HEIDS I am sorry bout the temp drop that bites but think pos there's always tomorrow!!! I will never get to sleep tonight ah...bunco was so fun!

heids - 2 days ago.
CAN - Knew you'd do it, well done darling. Now just hit the bank manager and squeeze him for cash to make that dream real. We're all proud of u darling. Just had a big old temp drop - BUGGER! Hxx

heids - 2 days ago.
CAN - Knew you'd do it, well done darling. Now just hit the bamk manager and squeeze him for cash to make that dream real. We're all proud of u darling. Just had a big old temp drop - BUGGER! Hxx

CanMum2b1day - 2 days ago.
Oh and RED I dont believe for a second your innocent. You REDheads are typically CRAZY funky girls who are wild creatures in bed ... so I have heard. LMAO

CanMum2b1day - 2 days ago.
RED: Thanks love I know you would do what ever you can to make me smile. The comment about opening the legs helped a bit :) I got so low today I was in bed and turned out all the lights and felt such comfort ... started thinking and dreaming about the future and moving out into a beautiful loft and walking across the street to my own fitness facility ... I got so excited I jumped out of bed ... threw on some headphones ... started blasting music ... printed out a female figure and stuck it to a huge piece of cardboard and started writing all the strong points about me and how I will NEVER LET ANYONE CONTROL MY EMOTIONS EVER AGAIN ... that I am the only one in control of these situations and I have the power to crawl out ... then I started typing up my business plan and brochure for the fitness facility ... I am pretty exhausted now but smiled a few times and feel better ... I think I need more release so I am going to shed some tears tonight and regain strength and hope that tomorrow my head will feel better ... I got through this day ... didnt get out of my pjs but I am alive ... Sorry for blabbering ... but thanks for listening ... love all you girls so much ... you comfort me in the darkest moments xoxoxooxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxox

smm18 - 2 days ago.
Thanks everyone. I miscarried on August 27th, not that long ago, but since then I swear I've wasted 8 or 9 pregnancy tests. I could seriously take a test every single day if it didn't cost so much. Reading everyone's posts has given me hope though. Especially Danielle's. You guys are a great support system.

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
goodnight, all. sweet dreams. fingers crossed. open legs. lol. (can you believe sweet Red just said that?!!)

redheadmama - 2 days ago.
EM- oh I totally didn't think you were talking down about the trigger shot. and I don't have enough info about it yet to have established my own opinion yet. but on first glance I'm tempted to jump at it. :) we'll see. let me know what your doc emails back. I'm 100% interested. I have four clinics to hopefully discuss things with -- and maybe I can get four different specialists then to give me different options! nothing like having a battery of options at hand. :) wheeee!! I want babies. seriously. could you guess? lol. DANI- take care of yourself and that sweet babe, okay? CAN- awwww, I don't even know what to say. I just want to make you smile. what about the dirty talk on here earlier... and my total ignorance... didn't that combo make you smile at all?! love you girl. if I can do anything, call me. k? AKERR- happy anniversary!!!!!!!! celebrate!!!! I know it's hard to get through 'happy times' like that when it feels like our world keeps getting crushed. but try to focus on you & DH and the wonderful things you have together - like love. :) woot woot for love! hope you had a lovely evening. MO- I am so sorry!!! it's so incredibly earth-shattering and devastating. ((((hugs)))) come hang out with us, and let us know how we can best befriend and encourage you. BUTTER- missed you today, beautiful. hope you got some rest and are doing well. I don't know how much I'll have internet the next few days... but hopefully a lot. :) so we can chat. k? *mwah*! EM- awwwww, I would not have made it through this crappy year without you girls either! yay for us. :)

beckybear - 2 days ago.
MO - I'm very sorry for your loss. You've found a wonderful, caring group of women. My sister had to have 2 D&C's after her first M/C, but she went on to carry my beautiful and healthy neice. I know it's frustrating, but hopefully they'll get everything this time and you can move on to TTC again.

beckybear - 2 days ago.
OMG, Danielle, congrats!!! I just knew that was an implantation temp dip. Yay!

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
I am sorry Mo... that is so frustrating... its not fair to have these things extended for any longer than they need to. I hope that your next one goes smoothly!

moknows1 - 2 days ago.
Rochelle...My OB didnt' do follow up tests because I was going to start with the fertility specialist again. The specialist wanted to see if I bled it out naturally, but now it's taking too long. I just can't catch a break. Thanks to everyone for welcoming me!

mamagarces - 2 days ago.
MO - i am sorry for what you are going thru. i hope that they get everything this time, and you get your christmas BFP.

mamagarces - 2 days ago.
DANIELLE - hope you get a good night's sleep, and get over being sick soon, of course - on the heels of this sickness comes morning sickness! yay. you'll have to tell us how you told DH, and of course, his reaction. (did you put it in the belated birthday card?) sweet dreams girl.

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Dani, nighty night mama! Sweet dreams!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
LMAO - EM - i just saw what you wrote to MO! That was a funny conversation today. Speaking of which JENN - i hope you know i was kidding!!! RO - good night my friend!!! message me when you get up... hey MO - we're neighbors, my friend, I am from PA too! Ok--- posting whore--- im out!!! for now... :)

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
well ladies, i am putting my sick arse to bed! MAMA - less than 2 days away!!! i cant wait!!!!! MRSW, i hope you are doing well. Good night ladies and thanks so much for making this night wonderful!!!!

danielle*-o-* - 2 days ago.
aKERR - happy anniversary!!!!! I am sure you will have more reasons to celebrate soon but in the meantime, enjoy one another!!! Thanks BUTTER - we gotta keep doing that cheer!!! keep it going!!!! MO - I am sorry you are going thru all this, i am sorry i cant help you more. I had 2 d&e's but they were successful each time. 3BOYS - keep testing!!!!! and keep BDing, you could miss your surge in between tests. CAN - i am sure that fun girl is right around the corner!!!!!! I loves ya!

rochelle - 2 days ago.
MO - I had 'left overs' from my Sept D&E I had a long cycle of bleeding about 3 weeks long of full on bleeding cycle. I had to have us after us and blood tests to make sure that everything was out...so question did the drs not do a follow up? I am sad to hear this is happening to you. Were in the same boat tho lots of us are. I have a 17 month old myself and really wanted to have another 2 years apart but I guess things dont always go the way you want! we are ttc this month 2 cycle after mc. good luck my dear and glad you are joining us!

em2 stewarts wife - 2 days ago.
Mo, I found this forum over a year ago about 3 weeks after my first loss. I wouldnt have made it through this past year with out these girls. They are my sisters, they are my best friends and I love them all. I hope that we can be here for you during these next few months, I know they will be difficult and I know it is especially hard with out someone to talk to about it. But you can see here we have no secrets lol... today in fact we decided to talk about seminal fluid volume! LMAO

moknows1 - 2 days ago.
Thanks em2...I wish I knew this was here earlier. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this since we haven't really told many people about our troubles and hopes of conceiving. We're workign with out fertility specialist again so hopefully once enerything gets straightened out with my cycles, we'll get that BFP quickly. I'm not getting any younger...

3boysmommy - 2 days ago.
Still no Positive OPK but I'm still hopeful that this is the month. I just hope to get some sleep tonight my baby is cutting 4 molars.

3boysmommy - 2 days ago.
Congrats Danielle on the BFP!!!!!!!!!!