TTC After Loss

When can we try to conceive after a loss?

Making the decision to conceive after the loss of a pregnancy can be stressful for many couples. Feelings of anxiety, hope, fear and anticipation are all common. Whether a prior pregnancy was lost as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or some other reason, there are others who can relate to the feelings you have.

It is recommended that couples wait atleast three to six months before trying to conceive another child. This time will give your body time to heal from the previous pregnancy, as well as gain emotional control of the feelings that have occured as a result of the loss. Because the uterus needs time to recover and the endometrial lining needs time to gain strength, it is wise to wait atleast three menstrual cycles before trying to conceive.

A couple may want to seek medical help if they have experienced two or more miscarriages, are over the age of 35, have a chronic illness or infection that could affect the outcome of pregnancy or have fertility complications.

Because of the fears that will be associated with becoming pregnant again, it is only natural to be scared, paranoid and cautious during another pregnancy. You might want to consider waiting to make preparations for the baby's arrival. Some couples are not ready to purchase baby items and get the nursery decorated just right until very late in the pregnancy, or even after the baby is born. Doctors are generally very open to the suggestions and requests of their patients, especially those that have suffered a loss in the past. Ask your caregiver to monitor you more closely and if necessary, request additional tests or procedures to help put your mind at ease.

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redheadmama - 20 min. ago.
ROCH- get some rest, sweetie. EM- love the link! that's so awesome. :) is B visible in the photo? can't believe he lives on that thing! crazy! DANI- golly, I know. so happy someone is willing to help us. and two different doctors in the US with two different specialties both think I am a candidate for their treatments -- so we're going to try both. :) woot woot! and yes, little cramps are normal in first trimester. I had them through 13 weeks with DS. looking forward to your Wednesday labs! update us after, okay? I get my hcg done tomorrow too, to see if it's at zero after losing Peace. I guess I hope so. I hate *wanting* a zero hcg. siiigh. CAN- if I could, I would drop a bag of salt and vinegar chips on your doorstep *right now*. no joke. :) BECKY- when DH used one of those phrases for the first time (can I admit that it was just a week ago??? lol. totally not kidding), I was like 'what the heck does that mean?' and yeah, I never would have expected to see that conversation in here! lol. cracks me up. :) MARIE- oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. the heartache is intolerable. I can't even imagine. I'm just so sorry. (((((((hugs))))))) BLESSED- I know this week is sooooo poopy. I was due this week too. and DH has been away for days now (although I haven't mentioned it cuz I just don't trust the internet, but what the heck!). and I wish I could have you over for coffee!!! waaaaaah. I'm so sorry, dearie. so very sorry. KARI- it's your birthday and you didn't tell us?!!! oh no!! :) HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR KARI, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! woot woot!! :)

em2 stewarts wife - 29 min. ago.
Dani, I actually did that (motorboatin the balls) in France when we were squished into a bathtub that was toosmall for just one of us! hahahahahahaha DH was confused and then couldnt stop laughing! hahahahahahaahah I second the motion, December must be balls month too!

danielle*-o-* - 52 min. ago.
but wait NOvember is almost over... cant we continue BALL Month in december too??? we can call it Decemballs! its more fitting in Decemballs cause we hang Balls on the tree!!!! And we watch the BIG BALL drop of New Years Eve!!!

danielle*-o-* - 54 min. ago.
Good Night BLESSED - sending you a big ball of hugs!!! hahaha... CAN!!!! MOTOR BOATING BALLS???? LMFAO... DH is sleeping next to me and you have no idea the temptation i am fighting to see what he would do if i motor boated them!!! LMAO!!!! quietly. I do think i love you, CAN. I mean that in a heterosexual way.... OMG CAN, wanna know what i just realized.... the cheerleading music mix that i made for my team this year... FIRST SONG - 'ballin'' i swear im not makin it up!!!! hahaha.... I think i am going to bed now too... I wanna get up nice and early and get on the ball and clean this house. Balls to the wall! If i get up too late, i will start my day behind the eight ball and that would suck balls. Hey KARI - Happy Birthday!!!! didnt see that til just now on FB!! Good night my friends!!!

em2 stewarts wife - 1 hours ago.
Marie, that sucks about DH but I think Becky is right in that he is hurt and scared and doesnt want to chance it again... we went through that with the second loss... Brian was terrified! And because of that he tried to nonchalantly sabatoge TTC... then we talked about it and we both decided that our desire to be parents was stronger than the pain we were feeling. I am sure you two have talked already... but maybe your DH is just being stubborn. Sorry love

*marie* - 1 hours ago.
CAN- if you get a baby to drop on my doorstep I'm all over it! And DANI- yes, come shake him! I love it- you know people!

em2 stewarts wife - 1 hours ago.
Good idea Can.... October is breast cancer month so why cant November just be Balls month? LOVE IT! Blessed, they go on 'stand down' for one month, meaning DH will only have to work once every 3 days (but those days will be 24 hours... yuck!) after that they will go in and out a couple times but then they are going to the ship yard for 4 months supposedly... so if all goes the way it should we will have ample time to get our BFP and DH should be home for any birth we may have. Brian should never see another long one like this... no more 6 monthers anyway... He gets out in 2011 and the boat isnt scheduled to deploy until after

blessedbeyondbelief - 1 hours ago.
CAN -- you totally make me giggle! Something I haven't done all day! You get the award today! I think I am going to bed now. I have been going to bed way too late and getting up way too early! Good night girls!

CanMum2b1day - 1 hours ago.
OK I am tired from all this BALL talking to I am hitting the sack to sleep like a sac o balls. Night lovers. I meant that in a heterosexual way of course :p

CanMum2b1day - 1 hours ago.
BLESSED: Sounds like a crappy week for sure. What about I make you some Christmas chocolate salty BALLS to cheer you up? Huh huh? I know you wantem :)

CanMum2b1day - 1 hours ago.
BLESSED: Oh goodness you dirty little ;) I knew you were hoping for a BFP. Well she isnt here yet but you better send her here. lol. DAN: I think that the rest of November is going to be BALLS month. The word of the week for me. Just thinking about balls all day long and day dreaming about motor boating them. LMAO

beckybear - 1 hours ago.
BONITA - I'm very sorry for your loss. There are really no rules about being more difficult or easier to get PG after a loss. My cycles were fairly regular just after the loss, but they've gotten more whacked as time goes on. But I didn't conceive either way. :( Are you using OPKs or tracking your temperatures? That could be one way to get a handle on your cycles if they are not regular.

blessedbeyondbelief - 1 hours ago.
Okay - so Seth was due in 2 days. This is a sucky week. AF decided to show up, DH has decided he needs to work alot this week, my friend that I was going to hang out with on his due date - her 1 year old has a 103 temp, etc... what else is going to not go good. I tell you - when it rains it pours! At least I quit crying today. man - i need some drugs (like antidepressants - nothing more)!

CanMum2b1day - 1 hours ago.
EM Thanks love. DAN I will crown you with my HUSSY vibrating crown and pass down my whip to you ... but I will claim it back soon ... I promise :p BECKY: LMAO I love your DH ... thats awesome. BALLS DEEP MY FRIEND BALLS DEEP!!! MARIE: I am so sorry love its must be very hard DH not wanting to TTC again. Would he consider adopting? What if I just left a baby on your doorstep? Just an idea. *shrugs shoulders*

danielle*-o-* - 1 hours ago.
awww MARIE, I am so sorry, my dear friend. I can imagine how sad you are. I wish DH would just give in to you. Congrats, however, on being an Aunt. Glad to hear everything is healthy. My heart just breaks for you. Want me to come over and shake some sense into that man... Hey, im from Philly, and Im italian. I 'know' people! ;) Sorry, just trying to make you smile. BECKY - my exDH is a mechanic and DH is a truck driver - I know 'balls' i just say 'Oh balls' when i get mad. lol... but when DH say maaah baaaallllls all deep voiced, its so gross... LOL... i wish i could record him saying it so you can get the idea. LMAO....

blessedbeyondbelief - 1 hours ago.
EM - congrats on DH coming home. Never soon enough! It will be so awesome! Will he be home for a long time or will he be shipped back out sometime? I don't know these things very well.

blessedbeyondbelief - 1 hours ago.
CAN -- sorry, but I was secretely hoping for a BFP for you. I know wrong time, wrong place, but you never know what blessings you will receive. Shoot me now.

blessedbeyondbelief - 1 hours ago.
Marie -- I am so sorry for you. It sounds like your DH (crying and stuff) probably wants one, but is scared enough to say no more pain. My heart hurts for you. It must be hard doing your job and supporting loved ones around you having babies. Thoughts are with you!

*marie* - 1 hours ago.
Okay, I cant do this anymore! I just spent the day at the hospital with SIL who is having her baby boy. 42 weeks, the girl has been through everything incl 2 failed inductions- but whatever- at the hospital with all the pregnant mommies and the babies all over the place. DH and I were leaving- still no nephew- and I just broke down! This was supposed to be in 4 months- this was suppposed to be our life in MArch and it was taken away and now I cant have it again! I cried, and then he cried and I'm still crying- at work and crying like a child! Maybe the BCP are too much hormone for me, maybe I'm really tired and overwhelmed or maybe its all of it, but I am sooooo upset and sad that my DH wont even consider the idea of trying again! Ok, I'm done whining, I have to go give a bowel prep. Oh by the way, 45 minutes after we left, BIL called and said they were doing a C section. 6#6oz. 22 in long

beckybear - 1 hours ago.
RO - Best wishes for an uneventful surgery. EM - How cool that DH will be home in a couple days! You can 'clean' the house when he gets home. We used to say that in place of BD. As in, we finally finished 'cleaning' every room in our new house. CAN - Yay for bloating and AF signs. RED - You are just so sweet and generous. What a lovely gift, and how strong you are to be able to do something like that right now. Sorry for your delay, but like you said, at least you can get it done a little sooner. JRL - Thanks for the wonderful report on your numbers! DAN - Hope your butterball is cooking nicely. I still have 3 more days of Provera, but I thinK AF may get here before I'm done. I'm bloated and way crampy tonight, and I've got a killer sweet tooth. The Christmas Tree cake already won a battle, and now the evil ice cream is trying to tempt me. I am married to a mechanic, so I am not a stranger to 'hot as balls','cold as balls', 'sucks balls','got me by the balls', "bustin my balls", "balls to the wall" and 'lick balls', but I NEVER, EVER would have thought I would see them in a TTC forum with a bunch of women!!

em2 stewarts wife - 2 hours ago.
Dani HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Yea, cant have DH come home to tall grass! And I had to do it today because tomorrow I am picking someone up and having girls night and I still have to finish cleaning and all!

danielle*-o-* - 2 hours ago.
EM!!! I knew it!!!! i knew there was a reason you were still going to cut the grass in the rain!!!! Blowin that party horn real soon!!!!! CAN and RED - I welcome the HUSSY TITLE!!! Who will crown me?? Is CAN passing it down to me???? CAN i am so glad that your day was well, I LOVE douche chips!!! they are my favorite!!!!! RO- how are you tonight???? please send me your address... Had another little problem with my cell so please re-message me so i can have your number again. Im a little crampy tonight. im nervous as balls...

em2 stewarts wife - 2 hours ago.
Can, so happy you had a great day!

CanMum2b1day - 3 hours ago.
**MINI UPDATE** I just got out of the shower and was thinking how this day could have been even better. I dont really think that it could have. I had a SUPER day. Woke up well rested because I slept like balls again last night. LOL. Then had a great breaky. Did some work. Got my cruise documents in and we leave in 27 days. Sent a proposal off to my company and asked to take over Western Canada for fitness assessments and think they might go for it so I will be traveling and having fun and making some good money in the new year. Fingers crossed. Studied for my exam. Had a GREAT workout. Scenery in the gym was NYCE! Came home and made dinner for grams and I. More work done while blasting some music. Then talked to Robb. He was concerned that I am not going to have time for him in the new year and I said well I will be sure to keep at least one 4am spot open a week. lol. He said OUCH. I had to laugh because he started talking about coming with me when I travel and how he will have alot more time once he is done training in 2.5 weeks and wants to spend alot more time together. I take it all with a grain of salt and will believe it when I see it. BABY STEPS I almost told him. LOL. Anyways it was good to hear that he is thinking that there is no way he is letting me get out of his life. We will have to see. No high hopes. IT IS WHAT IT IS. Ok enough blabbering. Going to end off my great day with a movie in bed ... now if I had some salt and vinegar chips this day would be GOLDEN!! LOVE YOU ALL LADIES!!! I AM SO HAPPY TO SHARE A HAPPY DAY WITH YOU ALL. XOXOXOXOXOXOOX

CanMum2b1day - 3 hours ago.
RED: I am so happy that DAN is now the hussy. LMAO. DAN: There will be no such thing. I need to know who my baby daddy is. lmao. I have a feeling good things are coming in 2010 and I wont have to worry about turkey bastin :) I can just feel it! ROCH: No testing in the AM I am pretty sure AF will be here tonight. I am blown up like a water buffalo!! EM: Yah well I have issues even calling you by your first name on Facebook and call you EM so its just odd to me. When we meet I will call you EM too. haha. You can call me CAN. :p