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Whats Safe and Unsafe:Sex

Is it safe to continue having sex during pregnancy?

The majority of couples can still have sexual intercourse during their pregnancy. Your baby is surrounded and cushioned by amniotic fluid, and protected by your uterus and a layer of muscles. And the mucus plug inside your cervix helps guard against infection. Sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if your are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, engorgment of the genital area helps some people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for awhile, a return to sex as pleasure as opposed to procreational, and other reasons. On the other hand there are reasons why sex might not be as pleasurable: fear of hurting the baby, nausea, fatigue, awkwardness, etc. While women may feel large and uncomfortable, men generally find the pregnant body very erotic and desirable. It is important that you and your partner discuss the feelings you each have abouut sex. Even if sex is not an option, there are many other way of fullfilling the intimate desieres. More cuddling, romantic dinners, kissing, mutual masturbation and other intimate likings are all possibilities.

Third Trimester Sex:
It is is generally safe to engage in sexual intercourse during the third trimester. It is not safe if you're bleeding or have a placenta that's in front of the baby's head--placenta previa. With placenta previa, if the penis comes in contact with the cervix or you have contractions as a result of orgasm, it can traumatize the placenta and cause significant enough bleeding that you lose the pregnancy. Also you shouldn't have sex if your membranes are ruptured (water breaks) because then the baby is no longer protected against any possible infection. It's also risky to have sex if it's early in your third trimester and you're having premature labor or you have a short cervix, because an orgasm can stimulate contractions. But if you're having a healthy normal pregnancy there's no risk, though as you get larger, it may be uncomfortable, requiring you to be creative about your position.

Anal Sex:
Anal sex during pregnancy is usually safe as well. However, if you have hemorrhoids, remember that they tend to become larger during pregnancy. And if your hemorrhoids are bleeding and you have anal sex, you can lose a considerable amount of blood, which can endanger you and your baby. You should never go from anal to vaginal sex without cleaning up first and changing condoms if you're using one -- otherwise you put yourself at risk for bacterial vaginitis, and there's some concern that this infection can cause preterm labor or make your water break early. Also, unless you're in a monogamous relationship and know that you and your partner are HIV-negative, you should use a condom, because HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are transmitted through broken skin.

Oral Sex:
Licking the vagina is fine, but it's not safe to blow into the genital area. Forcing or blowing air into the vaginal and urethral areas is very dangerous. Theoretically, if your partner blew hard enough, it could cause an embolism (bubble of air) to develop in a blood vessel in that area, and that could be lethal for you or the baby. Giving oral sex is also okay as long as you are comfortable. There's no danger to the baby from swallowing semen. As long as you're in a monogamous relationship and know that your partner is free of STDs, there's no risk. If your partner is HIV-positive, it's not safe because the virus is present in semen, and you and your baby could become infected if you swallow it.

Vibrators And Dildos:
It's generally safe to use a dildo during pregnancy. You do want to be extra careful not to penetrate too forcefully since plastic is more rigid than flesh. If you have placenta previa, using a sex toy (or, for that matter, having intercourse) could traumatize the placenta and cause heavy bleeding that could jeopardize your pregnancy. If you're at risk for premature labor, having an orgasm could cause contractions. And if your water has broken, there's a risk of infection to the baby. In any case, make sure the dildo is clean, and don't share it without cleaning it. If you're having a healthy pregnancy, it's safe to use a vibrator. But if you're at risk for preterm labor, it can be risky to have an orgasm since it can stimulate contractions.

Lubricants:
Although very safe, you may find that you dont need an additional lubricanat during pregnacy. Your cervix is plugged with mucus during pregnancy so there's no danger of the lubricant getting up to the baby. Just make sure it's water-based if you're using condoms since petroleum-based products will put holes in them.

When Not To Have Sex:

If you are experiencing preterm labor
If you have placenta previa
When your water breaks
Unexplained vaginal bleeding
Abdominal cramping
Cervical insufficiency
A dilated cervix
Outbreak of genital herpes
STD's

Comments: Whats Safe and Unsafe - Sex

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luckywhite - 5 days ago.
i had sex last night for the first time in ages.. ive just felt really fat and bloated, and disgusting - my partner didnt care and i just feel so happy and close to him again. x

sabina25 - 5 days ago.
Anyone else feeling alot of pain whilst having sex. It was my partners birthday and I wanted to give him a 'special treat' that night, but I knew it would hurt like hell if I did. He was very understanding and apologised for doing this to me.. bless! Think the baby is lying funny or kicking me down there as it hurts just to sit sometimes! Anyone else?????

Mercer - 8 days ago.
Last night we had sex and I just wasn't into it at all. I felt so bad... I just wanted it to be over the whole time. I just can't wait to have normal non-pregnant sex. My body feels so weird when we're trying to do it. It's hard to get comfortable or feel sexy. My husband is so awesome and sweet. I hate not wanting to have sex that much because even though he never gives me crap about it I know it kind of hurts his feelings.

gladek - 8 days ago.
Everyone is sooo right when they say you have to get creative :-) I am lucky, maybe it is because we tried so long to get pregnant,but my husband is completely turned on by my pregnancy figure. And it makes me feel sexy! (But he still usually only gets some once a week, poor thing!)

Stacemingas - 8 days ago.
I am a total horndog these days! My husband had a hard time with adjusting to my pregnant body I think - although he denied it. I think he always thought of me as slender and sexy and when I started taking on the motherly role and body, he freaked out a bit. I had to take care of myself for several weeks. But now I think he has come around and we are having fun trying new things. The big belly makes it more difficult, but you just have to be creative. I find that if I pleasure him orally more often than I used to, it makes him happier to do things for me. :)

gladek - 9 days ago.
Roxie-I would ask your doc about it. You can always find ways to have sex that don't involve penetration (or an orgasm for you, if the doc nixes it), but what I worry more about is that its the only way you can get attention from Hubby. You need to talk to him about that, girl. If sex was the only time I got attention from DH, he wouldn't be getting any at all.

luckywhite - 9 days ago.
aw rosie that is really upsetting - sex can bring on braxton hicks i know that for dure .. and you may have tore a little bit just because of the angle of entry..

Rosieb - 9 days ago.
I got a serious question. Last weekend we had sex and used the spooning position in which my perenium tore a bit and bled for about 4 hours. Not much though. Then last night we had sex again. (most sundays r the only times my hubby is sober.) so we tried another position with him ontop. The moment we finished i started getting contractions. It was 2min apart and really uncomfortable. And it lasted for 30min. I'll b 29 weeks 2morrow. Would it b save for us to have sex again? Sorry if its tmi. But this is the only way i an get any attention from my hubby.

Rosieb - 9 days ago.
I got a serious question. Last weekend we had sex and used the spooning position in which my perenium tore a bit and bled for about 4 hours. Not much though. Then last night we had sex again. (most sundays r the only times my hubby is sober.) so we tried another position with him ontop. The moment we finished i started getting contractions. It was 2min apart and really uncomfortable. And it lasted for 30min. I'll b 29 weeks 2morrow. Would it b save for us to have sex again? Sorry if its tmi. But this is the only way i an get any attention from my hubby.

kellig - 9 days ago.
Have any of you noticed a difference in your libido, corrulating with finding out the sex of your baby? I have 4 boys already and with each pregnancy (even the one I M/C without knowing the gender), I was a complete horndog with all of them. Felt very sexy and turned on all the time. With this pregnancy it is completely different. my poor DH is lucky to get it once a month anymore. I'm just not in the mood. NO sexual appetite at all. It's almost like when I was preggers with all my boys, I could 'feel' the extra testosterone in my blood and body.....I was over the top with the want and need for sex. Not this time. Would be completely happy without it through the whole pregnancy. Even before I noticed the real change in this particular area....I have had a feeling this baby is a girl, for other reasons, but this one is just another hunch, since it's been so different in 'hormonal' feelings. Anyone else noticed this change, and found out they were in deed having a different gender than before??? Or am I just crazy???

MeganAshley - 9 days ago.
BOB- thats just hilarious!

M.M.Masi - 9 days ago.
I just read what Dasha wrote out load to my husband and was LOL. We've been banned from sex by our dr. But he just blurted out 'that's just gross'. I said what, i'm gross and he said no not you, knowing that both babies are growing in their i trying to get off, I just can't do it. No wonder he hasn't tried anything for 6 months now. lol

vbbaby08 - 9 days ago.
Thanks so much for everybody that responded to my post. I am smiling and laughing so hard! BOB has been my best friend for awhile but just wanted that intimacy...ya know! ps- i havent pleasured him either...you must give to get..hehehehe only 7 wks left of pregnancy and we'll see what happens :) Thanks again!! I may have to come chat at week 35! This is the most responses ive ever got!

rvblessed - 10 days ago.
i'm def gonna try something!! He want's to, i want it to be pleasurable for the both of us instead of wanting it over with quickly. i guess i have somethings to try now! lol

lizzie287 - 10 days ago.
rvblessed - I've found that my legs over the edge of the bed with him standing works and doggy style. I can't spoon either lol.

gladek - 10 days ago.
rv-have you tried laying on the bed with your legs over the edge, and your husband standing up, or doggy style, or you on top (facing towards or away)... only you know what will work for you, and be comfortable and fun for both of you. I am down to only once a week or so (we both work long shifts, and I get tired really easy) But I think its kind of fun to be creative and try new positions. It usually ends up in one of us breaking into a laughing fit, but it always ends up good!

rvblessed - 10 days ago.
Is there a comforable way to be imtimate without baby bump getting in the way? If hubby is on top i feel like i can't breathe, in the spooning position my leg cramps up!! lol... Im trying to get our sex lives back. Now that im not as sick, i feel like i can have sex again. We used to enjoy each other at least 4 times a week. now it's once every two or three weeks. Any suggestions?

bethk - 10 days ago.
Yup i agree! when he's all I WANT SEX an bla bla bla his words are gona bight him in his backside!! hehe... But u gota stand ur grownd and not give into his needs AT ALL!! Make him suffer for making u suffer an feel upset!! Respect ur body now and pleasure it urself!!! hehe xxx

bellsipoo - 10 days ago.
vbbaby08> Just like he said take care of yourself you do what you gotta do there are diferent ways to pleasure urself without him oh and it's funny how back in March it was OK to have sex and now it isn't come on now,Girl if I were you I'll say OK and not ask him again meaning don't show him it bothers you just keep going on ur merry way you are almost there and u know that when u have the baby he's gonna want sum and that's when u will make him suffer and say I'm sorry I can't I'm trying to respect and take care of myself LOL !!!

dasha - 10 days ago.
VB Baby: us ladies in week 35 have lovely relationships with our BOBs (battery-operated-boyfriend). Just be gentle with yourself, and tell the RLB (real life boyfriend) to go to hell, who needs him, if you've got Bob?

Amanda26 - 16 days ago.
tiffjoy-LOL YOU GO GIRL!!!!!

YYBB - 16 days ago.
thank you very much for answering my question regarding the orgasm and the baby. now i feel much relief. =)

tiffjoy - 16 days ago.
So far my husband and I have had an active sex life throughout my pregnancy. Well last night we must have both feeling frisky and young, hehe! because we went to pick up pizza for our family and ended having sex in our truck in the back parking lot of the business plaza, wowzers!!!! It was fun and exciting but I am 34wks preggo so I am sure paying for it today. I am so sore and I feel like I have been riding a horse,lol. Hope everyone has a great week and keeping the passion and flame alive!!!

bethk - 16 days ago.
Orgasms are not harmful towards baby otherwise Doctors/Midwifes would not encourage ppl to have sex to bring on baby. Its supposedly massaging them doing the baby dance!! Plus all the good happy toxins that get released in ur body can only do good in ur body and feed through to ur baby :-D

izziebo - 17 days ago.
i heard orgasms are good for the baby sumit to do with extra blood flow down there n more oxygen to baby lol