Our friend 23yrs just told us she is Pregnant with her first but she is now upset and mad caz her mother just told her she is pregnant as well. they are 3 weeks apart. how would you feel about this? i`m trying my best to help her out.
This is all about timing. Have you asked her exactly why she’s upset? It could possibly because she wanted to have the spotlight being this is her first pregnancy, which there is nothing wrong with. My cousin who is a year younger than me told me she is pregnant too and we’re 4 weeks apart. Naturally, I was a bit disappointed because I wanted to be in the spotlight, but then I realized it could be a way for me and her to get closer and learn from each other. I thought of it as well, I have a preggo partner now and we could both share the spotlight. Just tell her to stay positive, remind her that it’s out of her hands, and to think of it as not being alone. One way or another, she will come around. Again, it’s a timing thing.
I don’t understand what stealing the spotlight is all about, pregnancy isn’t a pageant or job interview, to me it’s just something that happens when you like to have sex with your partner. So her mom has a healthy sex life- and now she’ll have a little brother or sister. My aunt is younger than my sister by a few months. It’s actually quite funny, really. My grandmother had 7 kids, plus a few miscarriages, My sister and I were pregnant with our 2nd kids at the same time, she told me about it when I was in the hospital after having my first, lol. My girls are 10 1/2 months apart. We thought it was cool, and our two kids are 2 1/2 months apart. They are very close. My older daughter is 8 months older than my nephew. Pretty cool. What would really be entertaining is if she made her new sibling godparent over her little one, lol. Tell her I said good luck!! And try to be happy about the sibling. ;D
It sounds like a wonderful opportunity for both of them to learn some things about each other and themselves.
I totally get it…I had told my sister that I was going to start trying and the week I was going to she told me she was pregnant. It was her 3rd and my 1st. I cried so hard, not because I wasn’t happy for her but because I really wanted my mom’s attention and help. It was my 1st she had her turn. I can see how with her first she would want her mom’s help when the baby came and now her mom won’t be there because she will be having her own. It is a little selfish but with your first I think you are allowed that a little bit.
My and my sister in law were pregnant at the same time too, and she had already had one. Even though I was extremely excited for both of us, there was some times where I wanted the “spotlight” and she did take a step back knowing how important your first is. I’m sure her mom (hopeful at least) that your friends mom will be the same way and let her daughter get the attention she deserves!!
i would be upset at first cause its like sorta dtealin your thunder but i dont think the mom did it to her on purpose. but what a lovely way to bond with your mom i think. and she will have someone in her direct family to go to for advice. but when the babies came i would be pissed again cause of the thunder stealing but again she didnt do it on purpose and would make the most of it. but man that baby will have a uncle/aunt the same age as that baby.. weird.. lol
i would die! but my mom (though very sure she will never be pregnant again)told me that if by some horrible twist of fate my dad’s vasectomy reversed i would have to raise the child cuz she is done! haha i agreed simply because it wont happen.
How old is her mom? If her mom is still in the age of having babies like early 40’s and under I see nothing wrong. Yes it is sad to not have center spotlight but the mother didnt need her permission to have another child. Was the moms planned or unexpected, thats plays a factor too. Babies are a gift and she needs to get over it My two sister in laws and me were all pregnant the same time. Me and one delivered same day, the other 4 weeks before. No big deal, we loved having another person to share with and the kids are very close No one knows exactly when you will get pregnant so she cant get mad becuase it was so close. 2 months perhaps annoyed but 3 weeks is to close for the mom to have been out to get her mad and steal her spotlight. Tell her to let it go and be happy for her mom
I agree with BabyloveGP that maybe she just wanted to have the spotlight on her! In yet I think she should look upon it as at least she will have a pregnancy buddy as well I so wish I had someone to walk this wonderful journey with as well. Maybe she just needs time to adjust to the idea and she may find out it may all work out in the end.
since i don’t know anything about the family it’s hard to say. but if the mother is an attention seeking person who knew her daughter was trying to get pregnant and did it to stay the center of attention then i would be mad. but if it was an accident, then i would tell her to be glad she has a pregnancy buddy and there is always going to be someone who is happier that she is pregnant such as the fathers side of the family. there will be plenty of ppl to shower her with love and excitement over her growing belly that don’t care as much if her mother is expecting. it’s her mom and she can’t stay mad at her forever so might as well get over it sooner than later and save herself some stress.