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8 Comments on Stressed/Worried
maddiesmommy26 - Monday, 10 May
Hi Amanda - I'm SO glad I'm not the only one...I have a 3 year old (she'll be 4 in June) and like your little girl - She is my EVERYTHING! I love her with all my heart but sometimes things get rough and I just want to sit down and cry...:( I really think that part of it is the hormones :) I worry sometimes if I can take care of 2 kids. My husband helps when he is home but he works ALL the time! I hope things are better and the baby girl is getting over her "bug" problems :)
ashes~is~blessed - Saturday, 3 Apr
Hey sweetie! I totally get where you are coming from. I know it feels like the worst thing when you can't seem to figure out how to handle a situation when you love someone so much but they want to make you lock yourself in a closet and never come out! LOL! I haven't been in this particular situation but I'll tell you what I would TRY if I were??? (like I said I am no expert so I don't know if it will have any effect or not) So when I used to babysit my niece, she started having trouble going to sleep because she was afraid of the monsters that would come into her room. She didn't buy the whole "monsters don't exist" thing so I had to try something new. I used to tell her that when she saw a monster to eat 'em up! And then growl and she will scare them away. lol. I would ask her.."So lex what do we do if the monsters come?" and she would say//"I will EAT 'EM UP!!" and then she would chomp at the air. (It was REALLY cute!) She never had a problem from then on and in fact SHE taught MY daughter when she was old enough to do that as well and my girl has NEVER been afraid of monsters. I guess my point is maybe you could try something like that were you make her feel in control over the situation and "they are more scared of her" type of thing? Like I said I went that route when I just couldn't convince her that monsters don't exist, so I empowered her. I wish I could help more and I hope that at least helps a little! :)
YupAnotherGIRLno4 - Saturday, 3 Apr
The best thing to do is laugh about it. These are childhood memories in the making. Use it as the perfect opportunity to cuddle and soothe her and educate her. Get a children's book about bugs so that she won't be afraid of them. My daughter loves bugs, when she sees an ant or any bug, she talks to it, its quite funny! As for the cookie crumbs just be silly with it and say "Nooo, thats not a bug you silly girl!" Not to say I'm not without frustration with my 3 year old, who is still NOT potty trained, I have literally been driling her on it for over a year, taking a break for about a week here and there but almost non-stop. She will go and she knows what it is but she just doesn't want to most the time and I have to beg her and fight with her. She refuses to use a toilet, will only use her chair and only will pee, has yet to #2. My goal is to have her out of pull ups and trained before baby comes, but I'm to the point of realizing that might not happen. =/ One thing you have to remember though is if you freak out or stress out when she is stressed out, then she is more stressed because you are irriated and she'll blame herself. I know its easier said than done but be cool and step back once in awhile when you feel yourself at your breaking point and tell yourself: "they only little once and these things shall pass". Hoping by that logic, my daughter will become potty trained just praying its before she starts school! =/
tannersmommy - Saturday, 3 Apr
Sorry that last post was really long. At first I was afraid to leave the house with both my kids in tow. Finally I decided I needed to start by taking small trips to stores and such just 30 min to an hour and then we'd go back home. I think most of my fear occured because I BF and my DD wouldn't take a bottle. So I kind of just overcame the fear of BF in public, granted I never showed a boob, but I still felt odd. My hubby works retail and so he usually works till after bedtime for the kids and on weekends so I have always have to put the kids to bed on my own and do everything. Honeslty a lot of the time I feel like a single mom who just happens to have a second income. It all has worked out and I believe I just carted my dd around while putting my son to bed. I had a bouncy seat or swing or something in like every room for a while so I could just bring her along and if needed plop her into a safe seat somewhere. Honestly I think the only thing the second child added to my house is messiness. OMG she just gets toys out and drags them into other rooms and then sets them down. It makes it really hard to clean up when everything is strung out everywhere. My DS however is a very neat child and everything always had order and was put away in its spot. Once my DD started walking our house became a mess, LOL. But other than that it really wasn't bad going from one to two. Now two to three I've heard is the hardest, ask me in about a year and I'll let you know. I've also heard that going from 3 to 4 is very easy and half the time you don't even know where that 4th baby is, LOL. It sounds terrible but it's still kind of funny. Okay I'm going to stop now.
tannersmommy - Saturday, 3 Apr
Children (all people) fear things they don't understand. Go to the liabrary and get some books about friendly bugs. I personally own several friendly bug books and ones (I have a five yr old boy) that have real pictures of bugs and such. If you think she can handle those then get them too. Read her cool facts (nothing scary) and happy stories about bugs and how they live and do neat stuff. Also you can not at any point act afraid of bugs, anything you act afraid of, thunderstorms, dogs, bugs, bees, whatever she will pick up on and freak out about. You could try showing her how to mush an ant or something outside and that it doesn't hurt. Sorry the ant has to die for you sanity, but it could help if she realizes she can just mush them and they go away. With bee's i have explained to my kids that they give an "ouch", but I always calmly walk them somewhere else if they are annoying us, I never enter panic mode so that way the kids stay calm. My kids aren't afraid of bugs or really anything (which is an entirely different problem) because I have been VERY careful to not act afraid around anything. I always encourage them to try whatever it is they want and it gives them great self confidence. Although I do try to instill fear of things like moving vehicles and such. Anyways we kept a cousins boy who is very much boy and rough and tough and his mom is not a bug person. We were outside playing in the dirt and my son dug up a worm and picked it up to look at it, the other boy freaked out and I calmly explained it was just a worm and couldn't hurt him. That it helped the plants by going through the dirt and making air holes. Then I had my son put it back in the dirt and we watched it burrow back in the ground. After that he was totally fine. Anyways my dd is two the 22 of this month and she has major trantrums if I try to do something for her, ie. put her sock on, put her in her car seat, zip up her pj's. She has a fit having to hold my hand when crossing the street, so I think they all have their ticks, and I have discovered that just as I feel like I am conquring one issue another one that is usually more annoying comes along. Good luck and I hope your weather is such that you can get outside. Go to the park and talk to other moms, that always restores my sanity. If your weather sucks try the library, ours has a "story hour" one time for toddlers and one time for older kids every week. They have a theme every week, read stories, sing songs and do a craft that applies. There are tons of moms there with little ones running all over the place, so don't feel bad if she doesn't sit still. Best of all its free. Anyways good luck.
Carolinagirls - Saturday, 3 Apr
Uh oh! Unfortunately, I have no idea what to tell you. My daughter just turned 1 so no fits yet. She would probably eat a bug at this point! LOL. I'm sorry you're stressed about it though. I'm sure it's just a phase. If it lasts too long maybe you can take her outside and show her "nice" bugs so then maybe she won't be so scared! I'm sure you'll do fine with 2 kids. She will learn! Hang in there!!!
Cherryb0m - Saturday, 3 Apr
I KNOW HOW U FEEL!!! LOL, my DD's new word is MINE, everything is "mine" and she screams it at me and my husband, she is also obsessed with things being hot and freaks out. no matter what food she gets she starts yelling hot hot hot! i just ignore her now and she stops yelling it. or she tries to blow on her food (which is quite funny to watch). she is pretty good at playing by herself but at times she needs my total attention or it's tantrum time. it's hard at times and i worry about taking care of 2 little ones too, especially at night. my hubby works till 10pm so i will be putting 2 little ones to bed. i know i'll be able to do it because i'll have to LOL. but..... i do worry. it will be hard at first, but once you get a schedule down you'll be ok. :-)
tarals - Saturday, 3 Apr
Hopefully this stage will pass. My nephew went through the same stage around that age, and it really annoyed my sister lol. Maybe try explaining to her that they are not bugs, and that not all bugs are bad, and show her butterflies and dragon flies and how they are bugs but are pretty and harmless.. Just an idea, I don't know if it will work, but it's worth a shot I figured. I think you will be fine with two! My daughter was very needy when she was younger, and at times I just cried because I felt like I couldn't get a second to shower or fix my hair while I was pregnant. But now that I have two, going on three, they are pretty easy, they entertain each other it's great, and they are good kids. Don't worry, just have faith in yourself. Pregnancy emotions and hormones are tough at times, and it's okay to go through times were you get more irritated or upset than others times.
| 03-4-2010 - Stressed/Worried |  My mood while writing this blog:have a headache |
So, i need to vent, but first i want to start of saying that i LOVE my daughter and am amazed by her everyday. I really am head over heels for her.
Now, with that said, she is driving me crazy literaly, i am sitting here with a terrible headache. She is going through this phase right now about bugs, i guess she gets it because about a week or two ago we got a pretty annoying case of fruit knats. Just from having some bananas. So yea, now EVERYTHING she sees she thinks is a bug and FLIPS out. I mean this morning it was because of her toast, she was eating toast and had some crumbs on her belly and her fingers and was totally freaking out crying and screaming that it was bugs. Do you realize how many black specks there are in this world?! If theres anything in her bath like dirt from her day (afterall she is two) she freaks out to the point that this afternoon i had to force her into the bathtub to bathe her. I feel terrible and i have tried to be patient with her but im just at the end of my rope. It is making me crazy, i mean it makes me realllly crazy. Im trying to deal with the mood swings and everything from being pregnant. Then theres this, i am terrified that i wont be able to do it with two kids. My daughter can be such a good girl and most of the time i can handle her fits but these little fits/episodes from "bugs" is just too much. I want to scold her and everything but even if i do that theres no budging from her end. I sometimes think that she really is doing it for the attention which we cuddle/read and play together plenty during the day and if this is happening now whats going to happen when i have the baby?! If anyone has some advice i will look into it, im just here in tears because i dont know what to do and i have a terrible headache from the fits and fighting all day.
8 Comments on Stressed/Worried
maddiesmommy26 - Monday, 10 May
Hi Amanda - I'm SO glad I'm not the only one...I have a 3 year old (she'll be 4 in June) and like your little girl - She is my EVERYTHING! I love her with all my heart but sometimes things get rough and I just want to sit down and cry...:( I really think that part of it is the hormones :) I worry sometimes if I can take care of 2 kids. My husband helps when he is home but he works ALL the time! I hope things are better and the baby girl is getting over her "bug" problems :)
ashes~is~blessed - Saturday, 3 Apr
Hey sweetie! I totally get where you are coming from. I know it feels like the worst thing when you can't seem to figure out how to handle a situation when you love someone so much but they want to make you lock yourself in a closet and never come out! LOL! I haven't been in this particular situation but I'll tell you what I would TRY if I were??? (like I said I am no expert so I don't know if it will have any effect or not) So when I used to babysit my niece, she started having trouble going to sleep because she was afraid of the monsters that would come into her room. She didn't buy the whole "monsters don't exist" thing so I had to try something new. I used to tell her that when she saw a monster to eat 'em up! And then growl and she will scare them away. lol. I would ask her.."So lex what do we do if the monsters come?" and she would say//"I will EAT 'EM UP!!" and then she would chomp at the air. (It was REALLY cute!) She never had a problem from then on and in fact SHE taught MY daughter when she was old enough to do that as well and my girl has NEVER been afraid of monsters. I guess my point is maybe you could try something like that were you make her feel in control over the situation and "they are more scared of her" type of thing? Like I said I went that route when I just couldn't convince her that monsters don't exist, so I empowered her. I wish I could help more and I hope that at least helps a little! :)
YupAnotherGIRLno4 - Saturday, 3 Apr
The best thing to do is laugh about it. These are childhood memories in the making. Use it as the perfect opportunity to cuddle and soothe her and educate her. Get a children's book about bugs so that she won't be afraid of them. My daughter loves bugs, when she sees an ant or any bug, she talks to it, its quite funny! As for the cookie crumbs just be silly with it and say "Nooo, thats not a bug you silly girl!" Not to say I'm not without frustration with my 3 year old, who is still NOT potty trained, I have literally been driling her on it for over a year, taking a break for about a week here and there but almost non-stop. She will go and she knows what it is but she just doesn't want to most the time and I have to beg her and fight with her. She refuses to use a toilet, will only use her chair and only will pee, has yet to #2. My goal is to have her out of pull ups and trained before baby comes, but I'm to the point of realizing that might not happen. =/ One thing you have to remember though is if you freak out or stress out when she is stressed out, then she is more stressed because you are irriated and she'll blame herself. I know its easier said than done but be cool and step back once in awhile when you feel yourself at your breaking point and tell yourself: "they only little once and these things shall pass". Hoping by that logic, my daughter will become potty trained just praying its before she starts school! =/
tannersmommy - Saturday, 3 Apr
Sorry that last post was really long. At first I was afraid to leave the house with both my kids in tow. Finally I decided I needed to start by taking small trips to stores and such just 30 min to an hour and then we'd go back home. I think most of my fear occured because I BF and my DD wouldn't take a bottle. So I kind of just overcame the fear of BF in public, granted I never showed a boob, but I still felt odd. My hubby works retail and so he usually works till after bedtime for the kids and on weekends so I have always have to put the kids to bed on my own and do everything. Honeslty a lot of the time I feel like a single mom who just happens to have a second income. It all has worked out and I believe I just carted my dd around while putting my son to bed. I had a bouncy seat or swing or something in like every room for a while so I could just bring her along and if needed plop her into a safe seat somewhere. Honestly I think the only thing the second child added to my house is messiness. OMG she just gets toys out and drags them into other rooms and then sets them down. It makes it really hard to clean up when everything is strung out everywhere. My DS however is a very neat child and everything always had order and was put away in its spot. Once my DD started walking our house became a mess, LOL. But other than that it really wasn't bad going from one to two. Now two to three I've heard is the hardest, ask me in about a year and I'll let you know. I've also heard that going from 3 to 4 is very easy and half the time you don't even know where that 4th baby is, LOL. It sounds terrible but it's still kind of funny. Okay I'm going to stop now.
tannersmommy - Saturday, 3 Apr
Children (all people) fear things they don't understand. Go to the liabrary and get some books about friendly bugs. I personally own several friendly bug books and ones (I have a five yr old boy) that have real pictures of bugs and such. If you think she can handle those then get them too. Read her cool facts (nothing scary) and happy stories about bugs and how they live and do neat stuff. Also you can not at any point act afraid of bugs, anything you act afraid of, thunderstorms, dogs, bugs, bees, whatever she will pick up on and freak out about. You could try showing her how to mush an ant or something outside and that it doesn't hurt. Sorry the ant has to die for you sanity, but it could help if she realizes she can just mush them and they go away. With bee's i have explained to my kids that they give an "ouch", but I always calmly walk them somewhere else if they are annoying us, I never enter panic mode so that way the kids stay calm. My kids aren't afraid of bugs or really anything (which is an entirely different problem) because I have been VERY careful to not act afraid around anything. I always encourage them to try whatever it is they want and it gives them great self confidence. Although I do try to instill fear of things like moving vehicles and such. Anyways we kept a cousins boy who is very much boy and rough and tough and his mom is not a bug person. We were outside playing in the dirt and my son dug up a worm and picked it up to look at it, the other boy freaked out and I calmly explained it was just a worm and couldn't hurt him. That it helped the plants by going through the dirt and making air holes. Then I had my son put it back in the dirt and we watched it burrow back in the ground. After that he was totally fine. Anyways my dd is two the 22 of this month and she has major trantrums if I try to do something for her, ie. put her sock on, put her in her car seat, zip up her pj's. She has a fit having to hold my hand when crossing the street, so I think they all have their ticks, and I have discovered that just as I feel like I am conquring one issue another one that is usually more annoying comes along. Good luck and I hope your weather is such that you can get outside. Go to the park and talk to other moms, that always restores my sanity. If your weather sucks try the library, ours has a "story hour" one time for toddlers and one time for older kids every week. They have a theme every week, read stories, sing songs and do a craft that applies. There are tons of moms there with little ones running all over the place, so don't feel bad if she doesn't sit still. Best of all its free. Anyways good luck.
Carolinagirls - Saturday, 3 Apr
Uh oh! Unfortunately, I have no idea what to tell you. My daughter just turned 1 so no fits yet. She would probably eat a bug at this point! LOL. I'm sorry you're stressed about it though. I'm sure it's just a phase. If it lasts too long maybe you can take her outside and show her "nice" bugs so then maybe she won't be so scared! I'm sure you'll do fine with 2 kids. She will learn! Hang in there!!!
Cherryb0m - Saturday, 3 Apr
I KNOW HOW U FEEL!!! LOL, my DD's new word is MINE, everything is "mine" and she screams it at me and my husband, she is also obsessed with things being hot and freaks out. no matter what food she gets she starts yelling hot hot hot! i just ignore her now and she stops yelling it. or she tries to blow on her food (which is quite funny to watch). she is pretty good at playing by herself but at times she needs my total attention or it's tantrum time. it's hard at times and i worry about taking care of 2 little ones too, especially at night. my hubby works till 10pm so i will be putting 2 little ones to bed. i know i'll be able to do it because i'll have to LOL. but..... i do worry. it will be hard at first, but once you get a schedule down you'll be ok. :-)
tarals - Saturday, 3 Apr
Hopefully this stage will pass. My nephew went through the same stage around that age, and it really annoyed my sister lol. Maybe try explaining to her that they are not bugs, and that not all bugs are bad, and show her butterflies and dragon flies and how they are bugs but are pretty and harmless.. Just an idea, I don't know if it will work, but it's worth a shot I figured. I think you will be fine with two! My daughter was very needy when she was younger, and at times I just cried because I felt like I couldn't get a second to shower or fix my hair while I was pregnant. But now that I have two, going on three, they are pretty easy, they entertain each other it's great, and they are good kids. Don't worry, just have faith in yourself. Pregnancy emotions and hormones are tough at times, and it's okay to go through times were you get more irritated or upset than others times.
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