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05-11-2009 - heartbroke again

My mood while writing this blog: wallowing

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So the drama continues in the Hardy household. Today my DH and I were in the car and he finally asked me how I was feeling regarding the MC. (Mind you. it was more than 2 months ago, and he hasnt asked once). He then procedded to tell me that he does not and will not have another child. He feels so strongly about it that he will get a vasectomy if I dont go back on BCPs. He also stated that he expected me to leave him and find someone to give me a child since he knows I want one bad enough. I cant believe this is happening. I was supposed to test on the 10th for a possible BFP- I started my period about a half hour after we had this conversation- cuz thats my luck! I thought I was spotting for implant bleeding- apparently not! He says its the best thing for our family if we dont have another child- I dont understand how he can say that, and he cant explain it to me in a way that I can. I feel like Ive had my heart ripped out twice and still- I feel like I'll go this trip alone also- just like my MC. I just want to cry! (and scream and hit something!)

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1 Comments on heartbroke again


Twomarchbebes - Thursday, 5 Nov
Oh gosh I am going to sounds utterly heartless here but if you are going to be unfulfilled without another child maybe a new man isn't the dumbest idea. Sometimes you can love someone so much but they're not the right fit for you. If that is absolutely not an option you're going to end up resenting him as being the reason you didn't have more children, whereas if you let nature take it's course atleast you couldn't blame him if it didn't happen. You are in the most awkward position. My husband told me he only wanted one child once and I laughed and said 'who are you kidding? you won't get a vasectomy or wear a condom so good luck with that' and he totally agreed lol. Once our son arrived though he was smitten. Sorry for the long post I just wanted to say that totally sucks hun.