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12-6-2011 - frustrated

My mood while writing this blog:
frustrated

This is supposed to be such a happy time, so why is it that people just cannot be happy for me. It seems every time I tell someone my news, they get this blank, stunned look and question...are you serious? Congratulations is NEVER the 1st word uttered from their mouths. With the exception of my mom, my family is not excited. When my grandpa passed away several years ago my grandma was afraid that she'd lose me - we were never close. We ended up getting closer, she was included in shopping trips, dinners out, several phone calls a week to chat, we've gone away, her & I to Mexico, and again the past January her, my son & I went to Mexico. When I said I was pregnant, she was so cold, not even making eye contact with me on Mothers Day. I have run into her once since then at the mall, and have spoken to her once on the phone. That's it. I have no desire to see/speak to her. My aunt/uncle, after several minutes and as an afterthought, said, "I guess...congratulations". Thanks. My own family is turning their backs, great. Friends are fairweather, and I have lost faith in them.
If you are still reading, sorry for the rant. I am overly hormonal, scared, worried, and almost alone (thank goodness for my mom - she keeps me sane)

5 Comments on frustrated

kayh - Monday, 13 Jun
I'm sorry that your family has been so sour. The funny thing will be how everybody will want to come around and smile in your face once the baby is born! Just tune them out for now, which I know is easier said than done.

babylove76 - Monday, 13 Jun
I wish I had words to explain their behavior and reaction, but I don't : ( It's good that their feelings came to fruition immediately, rather than when the baby arrives, cause the last thing you need to deal with is their lack of compassion and love towards the baby when it's here. So sad and pitiful that they can't be happy. With the world we live in today, you'd think everyone would pray everyday to hear such great news!

jennybepreggo - Monday, 13 Jun
The important thing is that YOU are happy about this.

mysurprise - Sunday, 12 Jun
Excitedfortwo said it all!!! It's so unfortunate that family acts this way, life isn't as simple as it was 10-20 years ago when we were younger, you see people's true colors. Good thing you know now rather than later. The kicks you'll start feeling in a few months will totally be worth the smiles on your face, and your son still hugs you and loves you. Screw everyone else, it's their loss. Hang in there, like I told you before, you're an awesome Mom and your babies are lucky to have you :o)

Excitedfortwo - Sunday, 12 Jun
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Honestly, people are ignorant and fear the unknown. They don't understand your situation and were taken by surprise. It sucks that people can't just be immediately happy about an impending new life...believe me, it makes my skin crawl. I don't have any connection to my family other than an occasional phone call from my father. My mother, stepfather, brothers and sister, aunts, uncles, etc. are all completely void of my life. So I understand the emptiness and loneliness it can instill in you. These are the ones who are supposed to love you...they're your blood. And yet, they act far from it. They will never know the beautiful children I have and will bring into this world. And I am sad for them. But at the end of the day...you just have to remember how beautiful YOU are. You have this amazing life inside of you. You have this amazing son who lights your day. You are a wonderful, strong woman and you can do anything. XOXO

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