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01-3-2010 - Just feels like im not winning...how am i gonna cope with 2 babies?!

My mood while writing this blog:
sad

So, Im just feeling a bit under today... Marco has been so difficult the past week, he is 10 months old but it seems like he might be switching out his 2nd afternoon nap. He use to sleep from 10am-12pm and then again from 3pm-5pm...but now he is so difficult, when i lie him down for his morning sleep he cries all the time, im not a big fan of letting him cry it out, but i will let him cry for maybe 3-5 min, if he doesnt settle i pick him up. I mean he is such a good baby that for him to cry when he goes to sleep usually means something is wrong...either teething or tummy ache (has reflux). But this past week he has just been all over the place, sometimes he goes for his 10am sleep, sleeps for 3 hours, but then doesnt want to sleep at all for his afternoon sleep...

I just dont know what to do with him right now. I mean surely he still needs his 2 sleeps?? He's only 10 months old! I dont know if he is just testing me or being naughty...my mom would say i must just leave him to cry. but then he goes really crazy and even struggles to breathe...THATS how much he will cry, and like i said, im just not use to letting him cry it out bcos it was never neccesary before.

How am i going to cope with 2 babies if i feel like im not coping with one??? I honestly just feel like crying, infact i am crying, it just feels like im failing at raising him. Ugh, i dont know what to do. Im so use to having a fixed routine with him...NOW WHAT???

I can hardly get any work done with him not going to sleep as much, whats going to happen in the future? The business has just been relaunched with a new partner and i cant get work done...great!

Im so scared i get pp depression again with gabriella on the way and me feeling like im not coping. I wish there was someone who could just tell me:' ok, this is what you have to do"

Maybe its just the stupid pregnancy hormones making me feel like this, im just exhausted...emotionally and physically.

Sorry guys, i just need to vent a bit, it would be great to get some different views on how your LO's are sleeping.

ugh, wheres the freaking chocolate when you need it!!!!!!!

4 Comments on Just feels like im not winning...how am i gonna cope with 2 babies?!

8thmaydueday - Wednesday, 3 Mar
Poor poor you, you must be soooo exhausted! I could't even consider doing it all over again right now, coz i'm shattered juggling just one baby with work. So i take my hat off to you;-) Harris sleeps for 1 hour 15 mins every morning and 1 hour in the afternoon. Sounds like Marco getting to the stage where he doesn't need quite so much sleep. Unfortunately i've not got any advice for you other than what you prob did at the beginning (sleep when he sleeps) if you can. It may only be a little cat nap after you've got some work done, but every little helps, as you must consider your own health or you'll be no good to either baby. Take Care. x

~mama j~ - Monday, 1 Mar
oh Brady is ten months too and he just hit that tantrum stage. i think a lot of it has to do with teething. he gets frustrated and mad cuz he is uncomfortable. it will pass....I PROMISE! I remember this stage with my first. keep you head held hi mama. there are no manuals that come with these babies and no two are alike. it gets frustrating but you have faith in yourself and patience. hopefully soon Marco will get past this phase and settle back into a new routine.

boobaby - Monday, 1 Mar
Firstly i want to just give you a big hug! Sweetie you are not failing at anything- you are a completely normal mum to a young baby, pregnant, working hard, and probably trying too hard to have everything just perfect. Although Marco is still young maybe he is growing out of so much sleep during the day. When Alejandro started the same i was so tired i used to try really hard to make him sleep so i could have a nap but it was like fighting a losing battle which only made me tireder. I started to put him in his playpen rather than putting him to bed so he could play or sleep (or watch tv) if he wanted and i could lie down on the sofa knowing that he was safe.. even if awake! If Marco is changing his routine then let him, it wont take him too long to settle down again and then you will be able to aswell. It wont last forever i promise! Take care.xx

bella124 - Monday, 1 Mar
Babies tend to try to "move outta the way" for new ones to come. He might just been trying to "grow up". Try to let him stay up a bit longer in the morning. Maybe he just does not need the extra nap. Judge it by his actions. Give him a bit longer in the morning, then maybe put him to bed at night a bit earlier. Or it could be him getting older and needing to spend more energy. Its hard to tell. Good luck either way!

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